First World Problems - Pregnancy Edition

basimon · August 2014

I won't pee in the office public bathroom for fear or tooting in front of someone. So I have to wait until it's empty, which is difficult when you're peeing 15 times a day.

luckylady18 · August 2014

I'm so glad our bathrooms at work are individual!

rainbows · August 2014

FWP: Having to use the main bathroom because the conference room is being used and that has individual bathrooms. (Just in case I have bad gas...or worse)

bustysinclare · August 2014

I have two settings these days. Starving or overfull

sparksfly22 · August 2014

@ExcitedMama2‌ so I get the jabs at me for the wishing well style, book, cash, etc. preference. I still think it's a amazing idea

....

But where was the 'bikini bow' idea derived?

marvan5 · August 2014

I can't start anything in the nursery until we get it painted and new flooring installed. FWP :-/

rainbows · August 2014

marvan5 said:

I can't start anything in the nursery until we get it painted and new flooring installed. FWP :-/

I cant get new carpet put in until we get the walls painted, and my family wont paint when I am around. November is when they plan to do it. I had planned to have pretty much everything set back up by then!

MrsFaFa2 · August 2014

Potty training my 16 month old niece.....diapers...no problem at all...poop in the potty I gag and throw up each and every time. She thinks it is halarious. Me...not so much!

AHemm1986 · August 2014

I'm waffling between spending $100 for an elective ultrasound to determine the sex of baby or just sucking it up, being patient, and waiting until the week of Sept 8th for my anatomy scan. Patience is NOT one of my virtues and 2.5 weeks feels like forever.

misslizzy82 · August 2014

I can only sleep on my left side, but I wake up in the middle of the night to turn over and need to quickly turn back.

Disneygeek77 · August 2014

@sparksfly22

It was a joke saying why stop at books instead of a card. Why not ask for blankets instead of wrapping paper and pacifiers instead of bows.

Please don't do it.

sparksfly22 · August 2014

@Disneygeek77‌ why is it wrong to ask for books instead of cards? They can be used or new books and way more beneficial to the baby than a greeting card that most people don't even sign.

Disneygeek77 · August 2014

Well the same can be said for blankets instead of wrapping paper and pacifiers instead of bows. At a certain point you have to take your hands out of other people's wallets. But if you would like to know more.

1. Good quality books cost more than a card.

2. Cheap books aren't always found at the baby stores where many people are registered

3. Some people actually like buying greeting cards

4. Some people aren't comfortable writing in books

5. What do you do if you get multiple copies of the same book and can't return them because they are written in.

6. The most important reason, it is never polite to tell people how to spend their own money when they are giving you a gift out of the kindess of their heart.

sparksfly22 · August 2014

@Disneygeek77‌ then every person to ever create a registry is just as rude. Book parties are fun and if you don't feel comfortable writing in books, you probably don't want to write in a card either... So you're not affected at all. Cheap books can be found around your home and at goodwill, even dollar stores.

By the same token, if I can't suggest that people bring books, parties shouldn't have dress codes or themes or anything where there's not 100% freedom

sparksfly22 · August 2014

@Disneygeek77‌ themed, dress code parties force people to buy costumes but if you make one at home, then that's not costing you money. So it's not a money issue. I honestly believe if people don't agree with me, then that's fine. I won't be convinced so why keep prodding? @ExcitedMama2‌ already pointed out it's just a discussion. I discussed my preference and everyone discussed their opinion, so what's left? Seems you all just want me to agree with you but I won't. And that doesn't make me a bad person whatsoever

Disneygeek77 · August 2014

No, just no.

A registry is a list of suggestions, not a list of demands.

And please, no one is uncomfortable writing in cards but yes some people do not like writing in books.

Many people shop on the day of the shower and they might not have children's books at their home and wouldn't appreciate having to go to a second location just to buy a book when they can get a perfectly good card at the baby store.

And yes when it comes to people taking time out of their day to celebrate with you and buy, wrap and give you a gift, then you should show courtesy by not putting extra demands on them.

Disneygeek77 · August 2014

Bad, no.

Obtuse, probably.

sparksfly22 · August 2014

@Disneygeek77‌ a registry directs people on how to spend their money. So anyone with a registry is the same as me. It's not like I'm saying 'bring a damn book' I'm saying 'I would prefer a book instead of a card' just like ' blah blah is registered at target' is saying 'she would prefer these items from target'

Again. We have different opinions. And that's all. Thank you for your thoughts

sparksfly22 · August 2014

@ExcitedMama2‌ didn't I make it clear that your comments are superfluous to me? If I'm trying to listen to @Disneygeek77‌ and her thoughts, then that's my choice also. It seems like you're the one that needs to take a breather--and your own advice: this is a PUBLIC forum. Let us be.

Disneygeek77 · August 2014

Sure it directs them to a list of suggestions, but for the most part a guest wouldn't feel awkward and uncomfortable not buying on the registry as it isn't obvious if they did or not, however, they would feel uncomfortable possibly using a card instead of a book as it would be obvious they didn't " follow instructions." In short, it could possibly put your guests in an awkward and uncomfortable position which as a considerate hostess or guest of honor, you never want to do.

sparksfly22 · August 2014

Thank you @Disneygeek77‌ I can see that it may seem as a rule if it's on the invitation. I think it's more rude when people throw diaper showers. Those are way more expensive. Perhaps entering people into a raffle if they bring a book may seem less insensitive?

Disneygeek77 · August 2014

Well to be honest, I think diaper parties are rude too. It also tells people how to spend their own money and some people might not feel comfortable spending their money on something that is literally going into the trash.

I wouldn't do a diaper raffle either. Again, at a certain point you have to stop asking for stuff in addition to a gift. As a guest, and one that is having financial difficulties right now, I would not appreciate getting a shower invitation that said " Please get me this and this and this and this." What if all I can afford right now are a few outfits or a few blankets ? What if I simply have a budget and idea in mind and I don't appreciate when someone tells me my gift, again out of the kindness of my heart, isn't right or isn't enough. I would feel bad and I'm sorry but a person should never feel bad when they are giving a gift to someone else.

The way I see it, baby showers are not much different than Christmas or birthdays. Just like I can't tell my ILs " Hey, I know you buy me kitchen towels every year, but that isn't what I need, instead can you buy me this instead ?" I really can't say that with a shower either. NOW IF THEY ASK, yes I will tell them what I would like in the same price range as kitchen towels, but since they don't I won't say anything.

IF people ask what you want or need, then yes it is perfectly accpetable to say you would like books instead of cards, but again by putting it on the invitation you could possibly put people in an uncomfortable position by having them spend more than they wanted or budgeted.

MY point is that this request is more complicated than simply asking for books instead of cards. Again, some stores don't have cheap books, some people don't have children at home and therefore no children's books, some people don't have time to go all over town looking for cheap books, and yes some people feel that if you write in a book, you are degrading it and again some people would rather spend that money on something else. That is why the decision should be their own, the gift giver. If they love giving books instead of cards, than they are free to do so, but not everyone does and those guests desires should be respected as well.

sparksfly22 · August 2014

Okay. I think to each his own. The people I know don't think writing in books is degrading. And Christmas has become a retail holiday which is degrading to me but I don't yell at people that give me gifts but don't believe in God

motherboy · August 2014

Is anyone else soooo bored talking about sparky ' s shower? Everyone thinks it's rude but her, she will not listen to the other viewpoint. I don't see that changing.

My FWP is that my damn toaster has two settings in reality, rather than the 6 listed: not enough and burnt. It keeps messing up my bagels, damnit!

sparksfly22 · August 2014

I think it's okay to write a suggestion on the card, just like saying where you are registered is a suggestion. And people can choose to follow it or not and it won't matter since I'm not doing a gift opening

danakatiepfoltzer · August 2014

motherboy said:
Is anyone else soooo bored talking about sparky ' s shower? Everyone thinks it's rude but her, she will not listen to the other viewpoint. I don't see that changing.

My FWP is that my damn toaster has two settings in reality, rather than the 6 listed: not enough and burnt. It keeps messing up my bagels, damnit!

Will two "not enough" cycles work?

Disneygeek77 · August 2014

Listen, I understand what you are saying about books instead of cards. Yes it does make sense. My point is that a guest is free to give that to you if they please. No one is stopping them. However, not everyone wants to do that. Heck, you might not even get a card from me. I might just write on the little tag on the gift bag who the gift is from. Everyone is different and sometimes it is best to leave this kind of stuff off of the invitation so as not to put anyone on the spot.

bigbobdole · August 2014

@ExcitedMama2‌ and @Disneygeek77‌ you are both wasting precious keystrokes. Sparky is going to have the rude shower of her dreams no matter how many times she is told why it is rude. Hopefully the next person who comes by asking such questions will accept your proper etiquette and be grateful. It's useless with this one. Sparky should creep over at the bsb and see how brutal they are.

My FWP today is that I slept too late to catch McDonald's breakfast so now I have to make my own hashbrown and oj

Stargirlb · August 2014

Oh yum McDonald's breakfast time! Taking my kids there

musicgal05 · August 2014

FWP: I'm utterly annoyed by the inane conversations about showers on this thread. FWPs are supposed to be funny, dangit!

bigbobdole · August 2014

@Stargirlb‌ send me some hashbrowns!

GromMom · August 2014

ExcitedMama2 said:

@grommom what did your announcements look like?

They were DH's idea, we sat in a dinghy on the lawn to take the photo, dh, lo, the dog and I and then we photoshopped us into the ocean with the caption "We're going to need a bigger boat, coming January 2015" and a picture of Jaws jumping out of the water next to us. My concern was that Jaws is such an old movie that no one would get it, but the people who did assured me that the quote is pretty famous. My guess is that half of the people just saw a small photo attachment and didn't even look at the picture closely/read it. I know sometimes people send me photos and I just look at the mini thumbnail if I'm busy. I also just put the subject as "summer photo" I didn't write "Baby Announcement" or anything. My idea was to have a photo of DH dressed as Charlie Brown saying "Good Grief, I'm going to be a big brother" but DH liked the Jaws idea better

sparksfly22 · August 2014

@megan81112‌ my point is I never asked for any of your opinions... So if you're gonna chime in at least know your facts... I simply agreed with another poster. If a million people yell you to breast feed or formula feed, does that mean you have to agree? No. Please educate yourself on what the term 'opinion' means

And if you're tired of the thread, where I'm free to say what I want, then don't read it. Really, it's that simple.

Cbeanz · August 2014

My H and I can't decide where to go for my second Babymoon. Waah!

sparksfly22 · August 2014

@ExcitedMama2‌ I agree on the diapers thing. Have you heard or learned anything about the Honest Company products? I might try those

sparksfly22 · August 2014

My FWP is I can't find comfortable underwear and I can't print pics off my phone at walmart

musicgal05 · August 2014

sparksfly22 said:

@megan81112‌ my point is I never asked for any of your opinions... So if you're gonna chime in at least know your facts... I simply agreed with another poster. If a million people yell you to breast feed or formula feed, does that mean you have to agree? No. Please educate yourself on what the term 'opinion' means And if you're tired of the thread, where I'm free to say what I want, then don't read it. Really, it's that simple.

Ah, but your posts are all intertwined with the thread, so it's hard to skip over them. But yeah, you can post whatever you want, but I can still complain about it if I wanna!

sparksfly22 · August 2014

@musicgal05‌ yes complain if you wanna. That's all most people do here.

musicgal05 · August 2014

It's therapeutic.

bigbobdole · August 2014

musicgal05 said:

sparksfly22 said:

@megan81112‌ my point is I never asked for any of your opinions... So if you're gonna chime in at least know your facts... I simply agreed with another poster. If a million people yell you to breast feed or formula feed, does that mean you have to agree? No. Please educate yourself on what the term 'opinion' means

And if you're tired of the thread, where I'm free to say what I want, then don't read it. Really, it's that simple.

Ah, but your posts are all intertwined with the thread, so it's hard to skip over them. But yeah, you can post whatever you want, but I can still complain about it if I wanna!

If you don't want anyone's opinions, stay off of PUBLIC forums.

Nobody can stop you from hosting a tacky party. However, we can give reasons on why it's tacky.

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