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tinyhumantoe · August 2014

@thegoodpotato Oh, I see. I don't think that the doctor was wrong, so we're on the same page there. I would think they'd have her back 2 weeks later to try again, not 4, but that's subjective.

I think it's insulting to say, "stress over something so minor" because medical schmedical - just because it's common and *can be* normal, doesn't mean it's not upsetting. It's heartbreaking - short term at minimum, whether the pregnancy turns out to be viable or not.

No pregnancy olympics intended.... but the experience was just as devastating for me the first time it happened as the third, so you really shouldn't have more compassion for someone that's had a previous miscarriage over someone that has not. Both cases are upsetting.

My care was mishandled on my second miscarriage and I learned that I need to ask for what I need. I'm not asking for anything for free, and I'm not demanding things that are impractical, but I will pay for an elective u/s over waiting 4 weeks every time - there's no need to feel quilty or high maintenance for requesting what you need. FWIW, I only had one u/s with DD1 at 23w, and I had one with each of my miscarriages. I'm not u/s crazy. After they didn't get a heartbeat this time, they whipped out the handheld u/s device - I cried from relief because I didn't want to play the limbo game again. That little gadget is amazing and ends so much worry.

AF9211 · August 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

Do people think you go upstairs to the changing table even if you're hanging out downstairs?

Team pad on dresser here. My parts were so torn up after having DD, I couldn't have bent down to the floor if I wanted to. I use it every morning and night with DD and she will be two next month...put her up there, change diaper, grab clothes out of the drawer...awesome.

Apparently my in-laws do and insisted on buying us a changing table for our living room/den after DD was born. I was initially opposed to it, but felt rude telling them no multiple times. They thought they were doing something nice for us and I am grateful they're so generous. I'm even more grateful that they bought it now, because it's a convertible furniture piece that's now used as our TV cabinet! We never used it as a changing table, though.

schnitz9 · August 2014

@thegoodpotatoe I'm a FTM and I actually agree with you . I asked the dr all the questions about when to hear the HB with a doplar and he told me prob around 16 weeks. He told me not to get one as it would make me crazy since they can be tricky to use. When I went in for my last appt which was at 12 weeks he said he wouldn't see me next til 16 weeks to hear the HB. I can understand the freak out but it is knowledge that the HB is hard to find at that time. Maybe the doc should have said something.

schnitz9 · August 2014

Oh and M15 UO for today was awesome. Totally made my day. I'm so scared Im gonna get breast cancer now if I don't BF.

MommyOfAMiracle · August 2014

schnitz9 said:

Oh and M15 UO for today was awesome. Totally made my day. I'm so scared Im gonna get breast cancer now if I don't BF.

YES! I've been reading it all morning. Definitely a good day for UO over there.

thegoodpotato · August 2014

@tinyhumantoe - I can completely understand your point of view, and I know you're not trying out for the pregnancy olympics, you're trying to clarify why you feel the way you feel. >:D<

I think we're both on the same page that the doctor was using a pretty standard duty of care.

I know that it's normal to have some anxiety, especially in a first pregnancy, and I just don't think the panic level of some of the responses was helpful or appropriate. I understand this isn't a universal opinion (hence it's in the UO thread).

My feelings are also tempered with the fact that ultrasound machines are not universally available here, so it's not even a thought that crosses anyone's mind if they can't find a HB - you just wait to see if you can catch it next time. Also, I've never had a loss, so I haven't had to face the fact that sometimes not finding a HB can come with a very harsh and sad reality.

thegoodpotato · August 2014

schnitz9 said:

Oh and M15 UO for today was awesome. Totally made my day. I'm so scared Im gonna get breast cancer now if I don't BF.

Oh, boy.... I may have to go check this out....

*lurk, lurk, lurk*

schnitz9 · August 2014

@thegoodpotatoe its a doozy

jennjilljo · August 2014

I'm not sure it'll be unpopular but I noticed my OB is starting to delegates to nurses more. I get less of her time and the treatment is incredibly awkward since they're uncomfortable using the doppler on patients but I was happy to see it. Getting seen can go quicker and the nurses get to do one of the fun parts of the job instead of just collecting urine and weighing people.

I love seeing the nurses get more responsibility and trust around the OB office.

schnitz9 · August 2014

@chickenonsuday did you see when she told everybody she's more educated than anyone else? Wait til you get to the anti-vac ladies.

MommyOfAMiracle · August 2014

ChickenOnSunday said:

How is she backing her claim the breastfeeding will lower your risk of getting cancer? Is it a study or some research project she is a part of?

Apparently her field of work and expertise is educating mothers on the importance of breast feeding. At least that's what I got from it. Then she proceeded to say that her and her co-workers all had a sigh of relief that non of them were supporting the Susan G. Komen walk/ foundation because it does not support PREVENTION only a cure.

MaddScientist · August 2014

ChickenOnSunday said:

How is she backing her claim the breastfeeding will lower your risk of getting cancer? Is it a study or some research project she is a part of?

she doesn't actually back up her claim with anything. However, there have been studies done on this - heres the most recent I can find:

Breastfeeding reduces breast cancer risk: a case-control study in north India.

Babita, Kumar N, Singh M, Malik JS, Kalhan M.

Int J Prev Med. 2014 Jun;5(6):791-5.

Ducktale · August 2014

Vaccines and breast feeding in one UO thread? Gold.

I like how our UO was so uninteresting it turns into comments from lurking on other boards UO thread.

MaddScientist · August 2014

ChickenOnSunday said:

MaddScientist said:

ChickenOnSunday said:

How is she backing her claim the breastfeeding will lower your risk of getting cancer? Is it a study or some research project she is a part of?

she doesn't actually back up her claim with anything. However, there have been studies done on this - heres the most recent I can find:

Breastfeeding reduces breast cancer risk: a case-control study in north India.
Babita, Kumar N, Singh M, Malik JS, Kalhan M.
Int J Prev Med. 2014 Jun;5(6):791-5.

I was going to put out the bat signal for you if this turned all educated and stuff.

of course, like most things in science, there are

1. studies claiming decreased risk

2. studies claiming NO decreased risk

3. studies claiming a decreased risk under specific circumstances (ie. specific types of tumors, duration of breast feeding, etc.)

while there may be more claims to a decreased risk (suggesting a consensus in that direction) , there is also a decreased risk just for having a kid - so BF or FF.

animalcrckr · August 2014

mommy510 said:

I hate baby bedding that is only sold in huge 9 piece sets for so much $$$. I found the perfect bedding, but I have to buy the matching curtains, the decorative pillow, the quilt, all of it. I just want the sheets, the changing pad, the dust ruffle, and the bumper. I totally understand why they do it and it just makes me mad! ETA- I realize that this is probably not an UO, but it seemed like the best place to rant.

Babies really only need a fitted sheet. That's it.

jmcgra06 · August 2014

I actually just bought a changing table and DD is 14 months old. We cloth diaper and most of DD's diapers are in her dresser now, on the top floor. We mostly spend time on the 1st and second, so I got a table for behind the couch so we don't have to look at it much. Bonus if I need another c-section not to have to cart the kids upstairs. We could use the couch, but it has nice storage underneath which is good for holding diapers and wipes.

My UO is I like the way non-organic produce looks better. I still buy organic for the dirty dozen, but I like chemical-strawberries better - they're so big!

mandamoochie · August 2014

Yeah.. the only things ive used are a fitted sheet and the dust ruffle. The lamp (sold separately) that matched the set is the most useful thing lol

I actually have real blackout curtains up in Henry's room and took the curtains that matched the set down (he naps AMAZINGLY well now... imagine that)

Bedding sets = biggest rip off of all time. But everyone will buy one anyways because you HAVE to buy bedding for a baby.. otherwise you'll be voted the worst parent of all time apparently.

logahn4281 · August 2014

musicgirl524 said:

Here's another UO...I hate root beer. Despise it. I can't even stand someone drinking it around me. Literally the smell of it makes me want to vomit.

I thought I was the only one.. I don't even understand the concept of it.. UGHHHHHH!!! Yuck.. My mom loves it and root beer floats... UGH No thanks I'll pass.

jaztastic · August 2014

mandamoochie said:

Yeah.. the only things ive used are a fitted sheet and the dust ruffle. The lamp (sold separately) that matched the set is the most useful thing lol I actually have real blackout curtains up in Henry's room and took the curtains that matched the set down (he naps AMAZINGLY well now... imagine that) Bedding sets = biggest rip off of all time. But everyone will buy one anyways because you HAVE to buy bedding for a baby.. otherwise you'll be voted the worst parent of all time apparently.

This is how I feel. lol

jennjilljo · August 2014

My kid loves his comforter. He prefers to sleep with it even though we didn't give him the option until he was 18 months.

thegoodpotato · August 2014

musicgirl524 said:

Here's another UO...I hate root beer. Despise it. I can't even stand someone drinking it around me. Literally the smell of it makes me want to vomit.

NOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!

(excessive use of quotation marks!)

thegoodpotato · August 2014

jennwilhoite said:

My kid loves his comforter. He prefers to sleep with it even though we didn't give him the option until he was 18 months.

We used the comforter that came with the bedding set until Marnie was in her twin bed (at 20mo). We'll probably crack it out for Amanda until we switch her over to a big-girl bed shortly before Christmas. It gets cold up here.

MommyOfAMiracle · August 2014

ChickenOnSunday said:

musicgirl524 said:

Here's another UO...I hate root beer. Despise it. I can't even stand someone drinking it around me. Literally the smell of it makes me want to vomit.

Get out. Go join Baby Center or something.

I'll second this. Weirdy's 8-}

logahn4281 · August 2014

ChickenOnSunday said:

musicgirl524 said:

Here's another UO...I hate root beer. Despise it. I can't even stand someone drinking it around me. Literally the smell of it makes me want to vomit.

Get out. Go join Baby Center or something.

OMG NOOOOO!!! Eww... This looks exactly how my mom makes hers.. Ugh.. Yuck!

=;

logahn4281 · August 2014

musicgirl524 said:

MommyOfAMiracle said:

ChickenOnSunday said:

musicgirl524 said:

Here's another UO...I hate root beer. Despise it. I can't even stand someone drinking it around me. Literally the smell of it makes me want to vomit.

Get out. Go join Baby Center or something.

I'll second this. Weirdy's 8-}

But ladies, just think of all the root beer you will never have to share with me. You can have it all! (Just not next to me )

LOL Exactly. .That's lots extra root beers and float for you ladies.

Ducktale · August 2014

New rule: no suggesting a food or beverage unless you're prepared to share with everyone.

thegoodpotato · August 2014

Ducktale said:

New rule: no suggesting a food or beverage unless you're prepared to share with everyone.

Seconded. I NEEED a root beer float now. From A&W.

blondemarmot · August 2014

thegoodpotato said:

Ducktale said:

New rule: no suggesting a food or beverage unless you're prepared to share with everyone.

Seconded. I NEEED a root beer float now. From A&W.

No, no soft serve ice-cream in a float. It melts too quickly and I don't get nearly enough ice cream. Hand-dipped, at least 3 scoops and leave some extra root beer on the side so I can fill it back up.

Also, has anyone ever tried a ruby-red squirt float? It's surprisingly delicious.

logahn4281 · August 2014

Am I crazy because I don't like any type of float??? Coke, Root Bear, Orange etc.. I just can't do ice cream with soda... Now a milkshake from "Cookout" I could so do.

thegoodpotato · August 2014

I feel like my feelings on the previously mentioned thread have been a little bit validated....

I really feel like a big, gigantic bitch today. This is not my normal MO.

boxerrrmama85 · August 2014

@thegoodpotato‌ I was one of the FTMs up in arms about the "couldn't find the HB thread." Pregnancy is by far the most scary thing I have done to date. If I were to go to my OB and she sent me away for a month and was not able to hear a heartbeat, I probably would have ended up in the psych ward. IMO the doctor should have been more reassuring and should have tried to at a minimum get her in the next day or the same week. OP should have asked more questions-- but I'm sticking to my guns that it was irresponsible of the doctor to send her away without a sooner follow up. If it were me, I would have gone to the ER and racked up unnecessary ultrasounds/tests just for the reassurance.

MrsTucker2011 · August 2014

My UO - I don't like chic-fil-a food at all. Everything is overpriced, and the food is mediocre. Even their brownies are so bland!

chickyclg · August 2014

MrsTucker2011 said:
My UO - I don't like chic-fil-a food at all. Everything is overpriced, and the food is mediocre. Even their brownies are so bland!

Shut your mouth!!! I am in serious love with those hormone injected nuggets

MrsTucker2011 · August 2014

chickyclg said:

MrsTucker2011 said:
My UO - I don't like chic-fil-a food at all. Everything is overpriced, and the food is mediocre. Even their brownies are so bland!
Shut your mouth!!! I am in serious love with those hormone injected nuggets

I'd take greasy In 'n Out over CFA any day!

chickyclg · August 2014

MrsTucker2011 said:

chickyclg said:

MrsTucker2011 said:
My UO - I don't like chic-fil-a food at all. Everything is overpriced, and the food is mediocre. Even their brownies are so bland!
Shut your mouth!!! I am in serious love with those hormone injected nuggets
I'd take greasy In 'n Out over CFA any day!

I've never had In 'n Out but I heard that was some good stuff too

smg2302 · August 2014

Sorry for coming so late to the party- work was swamped yesterday!

Re: M15's breastfeeding preventing cancer--what about childless women? Give them all the cancer? I haven't read M15 yet so maybe I'm missing something.

Re: changing tables. I love mine. It's attached to our crib and super convenient for getting DD ready in the mornings. We live in a small one-story house, so it's always convenient to go use it. I've found when I have changed her in other locations, (bed in a hotel, etc.) that my back ended up hurting afterwards.

Re: Ice bucket challenge. I'm a little annoyed by it as well. I am fully aware of the severity of ALS and would never discount that. However, I hate the peer pressure aspect of all of this. I'm a dick if I don't participate. I have causes that I am just as passionate about, and I don't think that being tagged on social media should shame me into participating in something, even if it is a good cause. It's a slippery slope event that I am not a fan of.

tooteroid · August 2014

I love changing tables! It annoys me to go to someone's house that had a changing table but yet diapers get changed on the floor, couch, etc. but that's just me. I have bad back pains, so changing tables are a lifesaver for me. Plus it's much more sanitary.

psychobutthead · August 2014

Why are people bending down on the floor to only change a diaper?

I never had a changing table or a changing pad with DD. She was changed in her crib or my bed or a the couch, or even a big fluffy lazy boy. The only time she ever was changed on the floor was when I was already on the floor with her for her to have tummy time.

Why does no changing table = have to change on the floor?

Angeldcf · August 2014

smg2302 said:

ALS challenge: I hate the peer pressure aspect of all of this. I'm a dick if I don't participate. I have causes that I am just as passionate about, and I don't think that being tagged on social media should shame me into participating in something, even if it is a good cause.

That's how I feel as well. Part of our monthly budget includes charitable giving. We increase this around the holidays for organizations we've researched and agree with their structure/methods. I feel like this started out well, but has turned into "dump water on yourself to avoid giving $, but look at me on FB being trendy!"

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