Let's talk about alcohol

Latham12 · August 2014

MusicFanatic said:
Personal decision

At this point, I would likely not be opposed to a little wine here and there. Moot point, as I dislike it (I'm more of a hard alcohol lover, which I won't do when pregnant) but I would have a bit. My previous midwife actually encourages wine in labor, FYI She says it can help relax your muscles and self and move things quicker.

That's weird bc a friend of mine's mid wife told her to have a few sips of red wine to help stop contractions.

MusicFanatic · August 2014

I have sushi EVERY week. I'm from Hawaii

they do not stop eating sushi there when pregnant. I don't live there now, but I still go by that. As long as it's not from a corner dirty joint, it's fine.

luckylady18 · August 2014

@musicfanatic - I agree re: the sushi. I dont eat fish but my friends all do and they all ate sushi through their multiple pregnancies and everything was fine. If I ate fish, I'd be all over the sushi!

luckylady18 · August 2014

jconno said:

I don't see any problem with having some wine while pregnant. But for me, one half glass isn't really worth my time. It's just a tease!

Haha I tend to agree, but from what some people here have said, your tolerance could be lower so you may be satisfied with less. I'm going to give it a shot at some point soon and see how I feel. I usually would drink about 2 glasses of wine when I was drinking - I bet you now I'd be pretty satisfied with a small glass.

Also, a funny story - I was on gchat with my mom earlier this week. She's a teacher and is on summer vaca. She told me that someone she knows is in rehab for alcoholism. I said "oh, that's sad. I've been sober now for 16 weeks." She replied "I've been sober for 22 hours." It made me LOL so hard...my mom was never a huge drinker and in the last few years discovered she likes wine, so now she's fun to drink with

musicgal05 · August 2014

I've been craving beer and wine since finding out. My DH is super protective and listens to all the no-nos, so I can't have it when he's around. I guess my early FFFC is that I had red wine when he wasn't around, and I'm pretty sure he doesn't know about it. I talked about it around him to my SIL just briefly, but lots of times he's on his phone not paying attention while I'm talking.

Anyway, I'm hoping he'll loosen up and let me take sips of his beer later on, but right now, he lets me smell it. Totally weird, I know, but then I can at least pretend, right?? Ugh... I so want a pumpkin ale right now... or a nice red wine, any variety would do at this point.

caraleeb · August 2014

I drank wine on my holidays / birthday. it was amazing! just a tiny amount here and there maybe 1/3 glass

lars1226 · August 2014

I had a few sips of champagne at a wedding this summer. Beer and wine are really unappealing to me right now otherwise I probably would have had a small glass here and there.

@musicgal05 I hear ya on the variety, I am so sick of water and ginger ale. And I can never think of a fun N/A drink when we go out. I made this awesome bloody mary mix a few weeks ago. Didn't add vodka but it was still a nice change.

MahriM23 · August 2014

That's IT I'm going to get me some sushi!

shannjohnston · August 2014

I've had a lot of sushi. None of the high mercury fish, but sometime you just need a spicy salmon roll topped with avocado...Mmm.
And I eat deli meat, and soft cheeses and beansprouts and runny egg yolks...

KnitPixy · August 2014

I want sushi and beer now! (

Also I'm the genuis that said "let's go to Portland over labour day"... now DH has lined up three brewery tours while we are there, one of which is one of my favourite breweries. At least the tour will be fun. I may have to buy a bottle of beer and save it for after LO is born.

morrones8 · August 2014

I too have a glass of wine here and there and have since the beginning. Note that I have a very high tolerance for alcohol (pre-pregnancy it would take at least 3 glasses of red wine before I would ever feel any buzz) and I ONLY have a glass of red wine with a very large meal and I drink it to enjoy as part of my meal.

My doctor told me a glass of red (he was specific but not sure why) was fine with meals 1-2 times a week and actually helps with my circulatory system which is great later in pregnancy.

I say as long as you have a decent tolerance for alcohol, indulge during a nice dinner!

jennyhatt · August 2014

I'm going to Italy next month. I am a red wine lover. It will be happening.

jennyhatt · August 2014

becks2012 said:
Hmm...

I eat pizza. Therefore, the honey and I split a beer. I've also been known to have a small glass of wine with dinner now and then.

Kiddos 1 and 2 didn't turn out to be cantaloupes. I doubt this one will either.

Also, I home brew. Gotta taste the in process stuff! What it has a wonky wild yeast strain that got in somehow! I need to know if I need to dump it.

) "didn't turn out to be cantaloupes"

NatureLovers · August 2014

I was 10 weeks at our wedding, and had a couple sips of champagne. I really, really wanted to drink the whole glass, but my IL's were watching. Since I have HG alcohol doesn't hold any appeal for me right now, but maybe we'll crack open a bottle after she's born. Alcohol in moderation is fine during pregnancy IMO. Hell, considering the amounts of morphine and dilaudid I've been on alcohol is the least of my worries!

cclfc · August 2014

So far, I've abstained. I'm not a huge drinker to begin with, so it's not a big deal. Sometimes, I'll sniff husband's beer because it smells good, but I haven't had any. I do like good wine, but I haven't really missed it.

cclfc · August 2014

yvonnesophie said:
I do recommend asking the bartender to make you something nonalcoholic when you go out - I've had some great "mock tails," and it helps me feel more festive with the group.

I've done the mocktail route too and I agree! I've had some really good fun drinks.

Eyefrog · August 2014

I won't be reading the replies. My opinion is that since there isn't a level that has been studied to be safe or unsafe its best to leave it, its only 9 months. I also have ingrained in my brain the screams of the newborn in the icu in the isolette next to my 1st baby, that baby had FAS. that sip just isn't worth it to me.

ekbrick83 · August 2014

I was a pretty seasoned drinker before becoming pregnant as well. My first pregnancy I started off paranoid about EVERYTHING food, alcohol, products I was using...but then I read more statistics, became acquainted with more pregnant women and realized stress was worse for me than any lunch meat, lotion or glass of wine. I would enjoy a glass of wine here or there, or a beer when fall rolled around and all the delicious seasonal brews came out. I found that I wouldn't even be able to finish one that I started. That being said, with this second pregnancy, I do enjoy a glass of wine weekly. Red wine, half a glass and white wine I usually fill with ice and top with seltzer just for peace of mind. Like others have said, I sip and eat at the same time and usually the drink isn't even finished. I think it's definitely about your comfort level. It takes time to figure out what you are actually comfortable with. I think it also helps once you meet your first child and see how perfect they appear after all is said and done.

LaStella25 · August 2014

Speaking of mock-tails, I had a huge weekend of drinking planned, but then found out I was preggo. I still wanted in on all the fun, so I told a hand full of close friends, and left the others in the dark.

I would order ginger ales from the bar and have the bartender put a lime in it.

It was great, until I started walking towards the pool and a stranger asked me what I was drinking. I told him a "light and stormy" as that is what it is suppose to look like. Then he started asking me about it. So I told him, then I crossed my fingers the bartender knew what a light and stormy was! I felt so bad, I should have just told the poor guy it was ginger ale.

edit: for clarification

KerBear8 · August 2014

I don't judge anyone who drinks a bit during pregnancy but I personally can't. It would be my own personal hell. It's like playing a game of just the tip. What a tease!

luckylady18 · August 2014

I've done the mocktail thing a few times as well. On my bday I had a virgin mojito which was good. I've also had virgin bloody marys a couple of times but sometimes they are so rich that they make my stomach hurt (but they are so good, and I LOVE when they come with a pickle!)

Lately, now that I finally dont feel like hurling all the time, I really do want wine. Last night at book club (aka wine club where we sometimes talk about the book), I was actually so tired that I didn't have any, despite the fact that I was the one who started this thread. Haha! Just wasn't feeling it. I think in general I'm giong to stick to mocktails but I'll indulge in a little wine here and there when I'm at home with DH. I also have a thing about drinking in public while visibly preggo b/c if someone gives me a look or actually says anything, I'd clock them.

ECATX · August 2014

I have a beer or glass of wine with or after a meal periodically...no more than once or twice a week, but rarely that often. And it has to be a really, really good glass of wine or beer. I think it just comes down to your own comfort level...I feel ok about an occasional alcoholic beverage but don't eat lunch meat - everyone is different!

brittanymeyers84 · August 2014

Well...I have to share...with my first pregnancy I did not find out I was pregnant until 31 weeks...(gasp) so with that being said I was enjoying alcohol on the regular because I was in my mid twenties and life was a little different then. When I found out I was pregnant I was so worried that all of my alcohol consumption hurt my baby but he came out perfectly healthy...ten fingers ten toes and with no birth defects what so ever. I know that god was protecting my sweet baby boy in there but you really just never know...so moderation is always a safe route.

Stargirlb · August 2014

brittanymeyers84 said:
Well...I have to share...with my first pregnancy I did not find out I was pregnant until 31 weeks...(gasp) so with that being said I was enjoying alcohol on the regular because I was in my mid twenties and life was a little different then. When I found out I was pregnant I was so worried that all of my alcohol consumption hurt my baby but he came out perfectly healthy...ten fingers ten toes and with no birth defects what so ever. I know that god was protecting my sweet baby boy in there but you really just never know...so moderation is always a safe route.

I don't like the insinuation that god protects babies. There are a lot of babies that have absolutely horrific things happen to them-- where was god then? Why is your son good enough to protect, but not others? Etc. It's just an offensive insinuation-- that people who are pious get god's protection in form of a healthy baby, and those who don't get healthy babies, well..... Must be to blame. I have no problems with your private beliefs, but projecting them onto baby health is problematic.

MarxieVonTrapp · August 2014

Stargirlb said:

Well...I have to share...with my first pregnancy I did not find out I was pregnant until 31 weeks...(gasp) so with that being said I was enjoying alcohol on the regular because I was in my mid twenties and life was a little different then. When I found out I was pregnant I was so worried that all of my alcohol consumption hurt my baby but he came out perfectly healthy...ten fingers ten toes and with no birth defects what so ever. I know that god was protecting my sweet baby boy in there but you really just never know...so moderation is always a safe route.
I don't like the insinuation that god protects babies. There are a lot of babies that have absolutely horrific things happen to them-- where was god then? Why is your son good enough to protect, but not others? Etc. It's just an offensive insinuation-- that people who are pious get god's protection in form of a healthy baby, and those who don't get healthy babies, well..... Must be to blame. I have no problems with your private beliefs, but projecting them onto baby health is problematic.

Not only that, but could you please tell us how you got to 31 weeks without knowing you were pregnant?

brittanymeyers84 · August 2014

Stargirlb sorry to offend you but there was no insinuation it was a fact...god protects his children rather they are healthy or not. I'm not going to start a religious conversation with you however because it's not my style.
In response to not finding out until 31 weeks I was working 10 hour days and I was also taking birth control and had breakthrough bleeding almost the whole time so thought I was having periods. Honestly I am 20 weeks now and completely understand how I didn't know...haven't been sick just very sleepy.

Stargirlb · August 2014

That your child was born healthy has nothing to do with god's protection. You were lucky, and/or you did not consume enough alcohol on a regular basis to cause a problem. Statistics show that even babies born to 'moderate' drinkers and occasional bingers often don't have FAS. If your child being spared from FAS was god's doing, that would be a pretty shit god, letting those 'other' babies have problems and yours is fine because you've done something to win god's favor. Do you really believe that? That your child was spared because you are a good/moral person who did not have intentions of harm?

motherboy · August 2014

brittanymeyers84 said:
Stargirlb sorry to offend you but there was no insinuation it was a fact...god protects his children rather they are healthy or not. I'm not going to start a religious conversation with you however because it's not my style.
In response to not finding out until 31 weeks I was working 10 hour days and I was also taking birth control and had breakthrough bleeding almost the whole time so thought I was having periods. Honestly I am 20 weeks now and completely understand how I didn't know...haven't been sick just very sleepy.

I don't think you know what the word "fact" really means.

brittanymeyers84 · August 2014

Listen ladies @stargirlb and @motherboy I'm not going to defend myself here we all have our beliefs and it's clear that ours are different. God bless.

TXUltraRunner · August 2014

I guess anyone who has a miscarriage, a still birth, infertility or a child that dies at an early age just don't have "God's blessing"

kolaczka · August 2014

Ummm wine or a lemon drop martini or a good CO microbrew. But I am abstaining. The coffee won over the alcohol. I am willing to give up almost everything.

kolaczka · August 2014

Faith = fact
No? We could look it up in wiki.

bigbobdole · August 2014

kolaczka said:
Faith = fact
No? We could look it up in wiki.

I'm going to check ehow.

brittanymeyers84 · August 2014

@TXUltraRunner‌ not at all...gods plan is out of our control. I have several Christian friends who have had miscarriages and that's not at all the way we view it. But thanks to all of you ladies for misconstruing my innocent comment about a God who has blessed me and protected me through my life. I had childhood cancer...do I look at that as a bad thing? No! God healed me and he brought me through because my life had a purpose and a plan and now I am living it daily. So if you want to sit here and belittle me and bully me for what I believe go ahead if it makes you feel better.

TXUltraRunner · August 2014

brittanymeyers84 said:

@TXUltraRunner‌ not at all...gods plan is out of our control. I have several Christian friends who have had miscarriages and that's not at all the way we view it. But thanks to all of you ladies for misconstruing my innocent comment about a God who has blessed me and protected me through my life. I had childhood cancer...do I look at that as a bad thing? No! God healed me and he brought me through because my life had a purpose and a plan and now I am living it daily. So if you want to sit here and belittle me and bully me for what I believe go ahead if it makes you feel better.

Your life had plan and purpose but those that God does not choose to heal do not? I just don't think that you're thinking about your statements before you make them. I'm not belittling you, I'm pointing out how your statements come across to others who haven't been "blessed by God." I do not have a problem with you being a Christian, I do have a problem with you making statements that seem like you think that God has chosen you and your children over anyone else and their families. I'm sorry but I can't agree with that. WHile I do believe in God, I do not believe that he interferes with our every day lives. I think He gave us free will and I think he created biological processes by which all life is ruled. Some of these processes are imperfect and just simply do not work as they were created to or work too well (cancer, autoimmune diseases, etc.). But to act like you're on a pedestal because you're a Christian simply goes against every CHristian teaching out there and that's how you are coming across.

brittanymeyers84 · August 2014

@CrazyMonkeyBear‌ I have said my peace. It is what it is...people will go out of their way to get offended by someone else's beliefs. It's sad but we all have one thing in common we are all bringing children into the world and I pray for the best for everyone here. Even those who don't believe...

mandikins27 · August 2014

Alcohol must be very much on my mind today. I meant to ask my daughter to check the mail while she was outside today but instead i said "hey is there any wine out there?!" She said umm no maman why would there be

brittanymeyers84 · August 2014

@ladyamanuet‌ there is only one god. So Yes I guess that's what I am saying. I'm done here.

mandikins27 · August 2014

Errr i missed stuff in this thread too? Im going to have to go read back... But after my nap.. Will i be requiring popcorn and refreshments with this thread!?

TXUltraRunner · August 2014

brittanymeyers84 said:

@ladyamanuet‌ there is only one god. So Yes I guess that's what I am saying. I'm done here.

I dont think anyone was challenging your belief in God. I think we were all trying to make you see how holier than thou your statements are to someone who has been through difficult times in life in which God did not bless us. To say that there is a completely divine plan in life when things are going wrong (saying "its God's will") makes it sound like God loves some people more than others. That's simply not true and to believe that is not a very Christian attitude. I do not believe that God uses life/death/fertility/etc. as a reward system for faith or lack thereof (as your statements indicate). If I did, I could never be a Christian because according to that type of criteria, God never felt I was good enough to bless.

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