I thought this was a "safe place"

gingermama4 · August 2014

I have not really been that active on the board yet and there is one main reason. All this board is, is drama. I don't know if it the hormones or what but just about every post I want to post on I read the prior comments and it's almost always people fighting over one thing or another. Mothers attacking one another. So then I'm afraid to say my comment after that is fear or being attacked. The is a huge mob mentality on this board. I wish people could be more kind and tolerable of each other.

gingermama4 · August 2014

I just said hormones because I don't know what else would make people act the way they do on this board.

amdecker1016 · August 2014

3boysmommies said:
I have not really been that active on the board yet and there is one main reason. All this board is, is drama. I don't know if it the hormones or what but just about every post I want to post on I read the prior comments and it's almost always people fighting over one thing or another. Mothers attacking one another. So then I'm afraid to say my comment after that is fear or being attacked. The is a huge mob mentality on this board. I wish people could be more kind and tolerable of each other.

QFP people!

amdecker1016 · August 2014

Oh && the bump is not p&r.
Sorry. If you don't like it go somewhere else

redneckmomma25 · August 2014

Good Lord. Another one.

jedimindtrick · August 2014

Do yourself a favor and just go...

bumble&ump · August 2014

I agree with you wholeheartedly. It's worrisome for me to have to carefully plot my posts and try not to say anything that may end in bullying.

gingermama4 · August 2014

Way to prove me right.. You all are just bitches that like attacking each other !! Did I say it better this time??!! I remember now why I deleted this app in my previous pregnancies bc it doesn't matter what birth month or year it is it's the same shit. And I'm not just saying it to one person it's to everyone who has said it.. See it all the time on this board. " low tolerates to idiots and dumb question and asking question in the wrong place" okay I get the people that have been here for a couple weeks longer want shit to be the way they set it up.. I do understand that but one thing that people always say it "luck around first, read the prior comments.. Maybe your answer it there or that question has already been asked." And then those "lurk around" comments gets said 10-20 times over on one post that is what I'm talking about.. Fuck this board and all you fucking bitches!! Have a nice life.. Deleting this app and never using again!!!

jedimindtrick · August 2014

RHoPA1109 said:

Bumble&Bump said:

I agree with you wholeheartedly. It's worrisome for me to have to carefully plot my posts and try not to say anything that may end in bullying.

No one on this board has been bullied...learn the definition.

Ughhhh. I hate this shit. Someone not agreeing with you online and maybe being snarky is not bullying. No wonder kids don't take "bullying" seriously. Watch the movie "Bully" and you'll see what bullying is. It's not just being mean.

somewheresublime86 · August 2014

According to Merriam Webster:

noun, plural bullies.
1.
a blustering, quarrelsome, overbearing person who habitually badgers and intimidates smaller or weaker people.

bumble&ump · August 2014

Please enlighten me. I think a bunch of women attacking someone for an opinion counts as bullying. If you prefer the word intimidate, I would be happy to say that is what you all are doing.

amdecker1016 · August 2014

3boysmommies said:
Way to prove me right.. You all are just bitches that like attacking each other !! Did I say it better this time??!! I remember now why I deleted this app in my previous pregnancies bc it doesn't matter what birth month or year it is it's the same shit. And I'm not just saying it to one person it's to everyone who has said it.. See it all the time on this board. " low tolerates to idiots and dumb question and asking question in the wrong place" okay I get the people that have been here for a couple weeks longer want shit to be the way they set it up.. I do understand that but one thing that people always say it "luck around first, read the prior comments.. Maybe your answer it there or that question has already been asked." And then those "lurk around" comments gets said 10-20 times over on one post that is what I'm talking about.. Fuck this board and all you fucking bitches!! Have a nice life.. Deleting this app and never using again!!!

mayfateleadyou · August 2014

birdiecat · August 2014

I completely agree with the op- compared to my feb 13 board this board is a bunch of bishes. It seems like every post some snarky asshole wants to say " you can't post that here, refer to such and such thread so it doesn't clutter our space." Ummmmm, who gives a frack whether it's being posted in a separate thread or not?!?!?! Just don't comment!!! The amount of women acting like immature teenagers on here is appalling. Just cause you are anonymous on an internet board does not give you the right to not act like a decent human being. And I'm referring to a lot of you assholes who commented on this thread. Grow up and behave. Try to be nice for god's sake.

bumble&ump · August 2014

What doesn't fit the definition? Please read the definition of the verb...

jedimindtrick · August 2014

My state defines bullying as harassment, intimidation, or bullying based on one of the following characteristics:
Race
Color
Religion
Ancestry
National origin
Gender
Sexual orientation
Gender identity and expression
Mental, physical, or sensory disability
Any other distinguishing characteristic

Not having a different opinion or thinking someone is asking a dumb question.

birdiecat · August 2014

And yes, I'm aware this is "how the bump is." According to some of you. As I said before my Facebook group and feb 13 board are not this bad. This is an extraaaaaa special group of not so nice women.

bumble&ump · August 2014

You are the one remaining on this post with only the intention of attacking anyone who disagrees with you.

jedimindtrick · August 2014

Bumble&Bump said:
You are the one remaining on this post with only the intention of attacking anyone who disagrees with you.

Who?

jedimindtrick · August 2014

MissMusic said:
Just popping in, but seriously...people use the word "bully" as soon as someone disagrees with them or calls them out, even in a minor way. I don't think people even know what it means anymore.

This reply would probably be considered bullying, am I right?
:-?

Yup you bully! How dare you disagree! :P

jedimindtrick · August 2014

birdiecat said:
And yes, I'm aware this is "how the bump is." According to some of you. As I said before my Facebook group and feb 13 board are not this bad. This is an extraaaaaa special group of not so nice women.

Guiseeeee, we're extra special!

birdiecat · August 2014

I was active in the Feb 13 board at first, but moved onto the facebook group and I am very active there. It's a very supportive group of women. I apologize for calling people assholes. It is frustrating to have come on this board hoping to have the same experience as I did the first time around, only to find that the dynamic on this board is very different. I hope that changes as people come to know and respect one another, but sadly I don't think that will be the case. Things just don't seem to be starting off on the right foot. Best of luck to you all but I think I will keep getting the support I need from my facebook group and just move along.

jedimindtrick · August 2014

birdiecat said:
I was active in the Feb 13 board at first, but moved onto the facebook group and I am very active there. It's a very supportive group of women. I apologize for calling people assholes. It is frustrating to have come on this board hoping to have the same experience as I did the first time around, only to find that the dynamic on this board is very different. I hope that changes as people come to know and respect one another, but sadly I don't think that will be the case. Things just don't seem to be starting off on the right foot. Best of luck to you all but I think I will keep getting the support I need from my facebook group and just move along.

Just stick around. Boards change a lot over time. And this one will prob die down once some of the crazies and "OMG I just got a BFP let me go ask allthequestions that I should ask my doc posters" die down. My May 13 board has changed dramatically like 5 times. Give it time and time for the core group to get to know each other.

birdiecat · August 2014

RHoPA1109 said:

Yeahhh after your outburst and name calling that's probably a better idea.

I did namecall, sorry about that. But it really wasn't an outburst, I was just stating my opinion as some of you did. I had the same opinion as the op and felt the need to defend her, but I was calm. I cuss a lot and I don't need your permission to do so.

jessc0616 · August 2014

See ya! I happen to love the sarcasm, I'm a sarcastic bitch a lot so this is my kind of place

devanela · August 2014

I am not a bump expert so excuse if this is a dumb question. Is it possible to split into 2 groups? Keep the "snarky bitches/bullies/gif lovers" here and the "nice people" start a separate blog?
Or how about another solution instead of another definition of bullying cause that is getting old.

birdiecat · August 2014

Alright y'all, I'm out. Obviously not going to win here, and lucky for all of you I won't be on again. I know you are soooo upset about that.

Have a pleasant and happy 8sh months. I sincerely hope you have wonderful pregnancies and sweet snuggly newborns come April. Going back to my safe haven where I have things figured out, this is just a little out of my league.

Smash1215 · August 2014

Good God. I prefer to think that it's kind to enlighten stupid people. There ARE stupid questions, regardless of what you heard in school. And this hypersensitive drama has no place on the internet or IRL. Crying every time someone disagrees with you?! Barf. That's not how the world works.

jedimindtrick · August 2014

devanela said:
I am not a bump expert so excuse if this is a dumb question. Is it possible to split into 2 groups? Keep the "snarky bitches/bullies/gif lovers" here and the "nice people" start a separate blog?
Or how about another solution instead of another definition of bullying cause that is getting old.

Yup! It's called Baby Center. Or even Baby Gaga

picklesx · August 2014

I haven't seen anyone "attack" anyone else.

70point3 · August 2014

FWIW... I admit to originally thinking along the lines of the OP when I first got here. But have since realized (after seeing common trends and repetitive questions) that the gif loving snarky "b*tch*s" would probably be my besties in real life.

It's not ALL snark. Had a rough week last week and got some legit and appreciated input/support.

But most days I just need a break from reality. Now I just wish I had more time/talent/access to more than a mobile app to participate in being more "gif"ted. That shit makes my day some days.......

redheaded14 · August 2014

ughhhh. I wish everyone had to post of the TTGP board first. But I feel like these would be the ones giving us drive bys.

kristinkc555 · August 2014

-_-

knitfastdiewarm · August 2014

"I thought this was a safe place"

And I thought we were all rational adults. I guess we both get to be disappointed.

redheaded14 · August 2014

AnnaTTCat32 said:

redheaded14 said:

ughhhh. I wish everyone had to post of the TTGP board first. But I feel like these would be the ones giving us drive bys.

@redheaded14 that's what I've been thinking. These posters who keep bemoaning how mean we all are have no idea what snark really looks like.

exactly @AnnaTTCat32 plus it gives you a feel for how the bump works, daily threads, give support to get support, don't ask if you're pregnant (aka don't ask a stupid question we can't answer for you) and on and on...

shoeflypie · August 2014

Late to the party. I love when these things happen... Drama llama!

70point3 · August 2014

RHoPA1109 said:

Gif'in can be done on mobile! Just find your gif, copy the gif URL, and use this code:

< img src= " paste address here with no spaces before or after the first set of quotations or before the next set ">

ETA no space between < and img either

voila! gif.

REALLY?!? New mission..... Figure this out one of these mornings when I'm wide ass awake at 4am.

devanela · August 2014

I'm confused...cause the argument is being used this is an internet board so it's special and you can say what you want. But also people are asking how do you respond to disagreement in real life? So real life or internet?
Pretty sure if my boss disagreed with me and I sent her a gif with a unicorn I would be fired. Also pretty sure if my MIL disagreed with me and I sent her a gif that said "see ya never bye" I would be divorced so...

jedimindtrick · August 2014

AnnaTTCat32 said:

redheaded14 said:

ughhhh. I wish everyone had to post of the TTGP board first. But I feel like these would be the ones giving us drive bys.

@redheaded14 that's what I've been thinking. These posters who keep bemoaning how mean we all are have no idea what snark really looks like.

Or even do what you should do IRL and get a feel for things. I was never really on TTGP but like a rational person I felt out my previous BMB before jumping right on and posting my "OMG I'm here!!!" Like some people.

greneyedmom19 · August 2014

devanela said:
I'm confused...cause the argument is being used this is an internet board so it's special and you can say what you want. But also people are asking how do you respond to disagreement in real life? So real life or internet?
Pretty sure if my boss disagreed with me and I sent her a gif with a unicorn I would be fired. Also pretty sure if my MIL disagreed with me and I sent her a gif that said "see ya never bye" I would be divorced so...

Right? And as a trainer, I hear all kinds of stupid questions from my trainees. But I wouldn't be very effective if I answered their questions the way some do here. IRL you have to be patient and kind to people who don't catch on as fast and cuss them out in your head.

greneyedmom19 · August 2014

@PetraStonegirl‌ that is true that I am getting paid to do that but that is also how I am with everyone I meet in my life so I just get mind blown when I see people laughing at others for being new and not knowing better. Yes if they have been around and keep doing the same thing over and over it is annoying and they do need to be called out on it but posting negative comments on their very first post ever just kinda scares them and puts them in fight mode right away. Just my opinion but I think if we try to explain to them in a more effective way like "hey please check previous posts before you ask questions in case it has already been answered and if you don't know if you should call your Dr or not, call them before posting, thanks and good luck!" Then most of these outbursts could be avoided. Maybe a thread that explains this plus more rules others agree on can be placed on the first page saying like "newbies look here first"

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