Got prego first try! Beware bitches attack!

trueger · August 2014

I can't believe it! We decided to start trying in July and one time was enough! My husband thinks he has super sperm lol we are due April 16th

this is my second baby but my daughter is 10! So basically starting all over! His first biological child but has raised mine like his own since she's 2

we are super excited!

Sweetlill1 · August 2014

Same story as me but I will be a FTM.

OliveMom3 · August 2014

This was us for our first born.

trueger · August 2014

Congrats!

crossfit704 · August 2014

Same here but like @sweetlill1 Ill be a FTM. Had no expectation for it to happen that quick.

trueger · August 2014

Yea I think I'm still in shock (just found out Monday) we are waiting to spill the beans till 12 weeks. Feels like an eternity away! Lol

Duffgurl · August 2014

Congratulations and welcome

trueger · August 2014

Well I am truly sorry for anyone I have offended, honestly didn't even think about that- it's not only pregnant women on this? I'm just shocked that it happened so fast and excited...

RJGmommy · August 2014

Congrats!

trueger · August 2014

I guess this is funny? Idk

trueger · August 2014

Well I am truly sorry for anyone I have offended, honestly didn't even think about that- it's not only pregnant women on this? I'm just shocked that it happened so fast and excited...

trueger · August 2014

Well that was not my intention. Everyone has there story and it's a journey. And I'm excited and I am entitled to that, if your taking it as bragging then scroll on past

trueger · August 2014

No one made you come on this thread. People need to calm down. I thought this was a site for pregnant women and sharing our stories. Sorry if you don't like mine. Like I said before than keep scrolling along, no one makes you click on titles you don't "approve"

trueger · August 2014

I would delete this but I don't know how. Way to ruin my excitement people. Sorry some people go through different experiences than me but that doesn't mean they shouldn't be happy for other people. Me getting pregnant the first time I tried is not something we did to make people feel bad or even expected for ourselves. This is what happened to us. And we are happy and excited and not feeling bad for the way things worked out for us...

onetwofive · August 2014

kris10michelle said:

I'm not typically one for snark or confrontation, but I think I can speak for most of us and say you won't fit in here. Please try somewhere else. Maybe baby center?

Wow. Really? That's completely unnecessary.

Congrats on your pregnancy OP. We all got here in different ways, sorry you're being shamed for yours.

rosemama116 · August 2014

OP, congrats and welcome. You are absolutely entitled to be excited. But if your sister had been trying for years, would you call her up and say, "guess what? We nailed it first try!"? It's sorta the same. Or kind of like when I was sitting in the doctor's waiting room in May, having a miscarriage and there was a woman bitching and moaning that she was having another boy instead of a girl. I wanted to punch her. You don't know what the people around you are going through. Losses and TTC for very long periods of time are very common on this site and are very sensitive topics. Just keep that in mind is all.

BluEyedGirl26 · August 2014

I have to admit that I side eyed this title and was glad that saltbox pointed out to you that your title is borderline offensive. I got pregnant on my 3rd month trying and ya know how that ended, in a loss. So now I'm here 20 months later still hoping for my first take home baby. So yes, your title is very in your face bragging IMO.

Prpljade · August 2014

Not to mention this isn't "a site for pregnant women" it's inclusive of all women trying to conceive or with any other reason for being here. Maybe browse around on the other boards and your realize there are hundreds if not thousands of women who come to The Bump for advice, support and to vent in a healthy manner. Some have kids already, some don't, some have been trying for a long time as PP's have said. Yes everyone on THIS board might currently be expecting, but a lot of them may have spent months or years on the TTGP or 3T board. You make more friends with some compassion and respect than you do with excuses and finger pointing. As someone already said, a simple sorry would have sufficed.

trueger · August 2014

Get a life and stop trying to piss on my parade.

rosemama116 · August 2014

Yeah, if that's your reaction, I'm thinking this isn't the place for you.

allbrittle · August 2014

Wow I am shocked with what is in this feed. Aren't we supposed to be women here? I am sorry for voicing my opinion and I hope it doesn't get me kicked to the curb... But really ladies. This girl is obviously excited. As are we all! No matter how we got here we got here. This was also obviously a not intended title. Mistakes happen people are people! No one is perfect. I heard a quote that I liked and it made me think of this club, women empower each other, girls compare each other. I am a little sad with how we are treating one person for making a mistake. As far as I am concerned you are very welcome here and don't let that one mistake make you feel any less. It took my husband and I one try to conceive, I didn't want to share that because I understand the trials that come with not being able to conceive so quickly. I have a close friend who is still trying after a year and my heart aches for her. So just remember that in the future. We all have different stories and some may get offended by things that are said, so try to watch your words. But let's not all forget that we are here, together. Let's empower each other. Not kick someone out as soon as words are spoken that harm our feelings.

Please don't hate me for voicing my opinion! (I really like it here!!)

jedimindtrick · August 2014

trueger said:

Get a life and stop trying to piss on my parade.

Yup. I smell the GBCB coming @KateRN08‌

af2004rn · August 2014

congrats!

allbrittle · August 2014

I am just not about all of this negativity towards a human being. Everyone reacts differently , thinks differenty and feels differently. Why do people need to knock her down? She just found out she is pregnant! This is an exciting time and she was majorly shot down for a mistake. Yes she should have owned up to her mistakes and apologized and left it at that but wouldn't you all be defensive in a similar situation? Not to mention the hormones that are pumping through all of our veins right now. I just think the negativity needs to stop. Let her be you have all gotten your point across.

jlworden710 · August 2014

at first when I saw this, I went like this

but I am having a happy day, so I opted to walk away and stay happy... but then I came back from painting my kitchen cabinets and I read a bit and I was all,

I dont have very much to add to what has already been said, but a little bit of humble pie goes a long way lady... so does a sorry, a genuine one that isn't followed by telling us to get a life, and get this, we do "do-overs" here... there are plenty of women that have gotten flamed for one reason or another, to take a breather, get them selves together and come back to be vital parts of the bump community...

BUT.... we have no lives and we like to pee on peoples parades...

jlworden710 · August 2014

allbrittle said:

I am just not about all of this negativity towards a human being. Everyone reacts differently , thinks differenty and feels differently. Why do people need to knock her down? She just found out she is pregnant! This is an exciting time and she was majorly shot down for a mistake. Yes she should have owned up to her mistakes and apologized and left it at that but wouldn't you all be defensive in a similar situation? Not to mention the hormones that are pumping through all of our veins right now. I just think the negativity needs to stop. Let her be you have all gotten your point across.

that is all that was asked of her... to see and understand how her comment was insensitive to the vast majority of this board.

and no... I wouldn't be defensive... because I wouldn't ever get myself in that position, and if for some reason I did, I would quickly apologize.... before I got internet jumped by internet strangers (kidding)

anplusalso... my hormones are fine... today was a happy day

lyankowi · August 2014

Congrats!

lindsayanne14 · August 2014

Even though I'm tardy to the party and OP is probably long gone, I'll add my two cents, cause I want to!

While the bump boards are a place many women happen upon after finding out they are expecting, it's also a place other women spend YEARS on. Many women on this BMB have been around a very long time, they've fostered true friendships and bonded with other women over TTC, losses, infertility, adoptions, and parenting. These particular women (myself included) get very prickly when ladies new to the bump wander in and (often unintentionally) say something that will hit a nerve for many of the long timers on the board. These types of threads happen often and go one of two ways. The OP apologizes and everyone moves on, or the OP, and often other recent additions to the board, start calling people meanies and complaining about how this is a place for support.

If you are a Newbie and feel this thread was harsh...stick around for a few years, get to know people for real, observe time after time how these things go down and then come back and say we are too harsh.

*Stepping off my soapbox now*

lindsayanne14 · August 2014

snegde said:
Maybe it's the free medical advice lady? ER doctor is that you?

That chick was awesome! If I ever had an ER Dr who used the type of grammar she did, I would take my chances at the county health clinic!

allbrittle · August 2014

Good bye ladies! I did not sign up for this. No way am I sharing my exciting happy time with you all. I was trying to be positive and encouraging to this girl. We are all pregnant and excited but this is a horrible feed and this club is not being supportive. I was excited to have this to be a part of but now I am just sitting here on the day I had my first ultra sound, heard my baby's heart beat and I am crying. Because ladies who were supposed to support me have hurt me. Congratulations to you all and I hope these are the happiest months of your life.

lindsayanne14 · August 2014

allbrittle said:
Good bye ladies! I did not sign up for this. No way am I sharing my exciting happy time with you all. I was trying to be positive and encouraging to this girl. We are all pregnant and excited but this is a horrible feed and this club is not being supportive. I was excited to have this to be a part of but now I am just sitting here on the day I had my first ultra sound, heard my baby's heart beat and I am crying. Because ladies who were supposed to support me have hurt me. Congratulations to you all and I hope these are the happiest months of your life.

lindsayanne14 · August 2014

lindsayanne14 said:

allbrittle said:
Good bye ladies! I did not sign up for this. No way am I sharing my exciting happy time with you all. I was trying to be positive and encouraging to this girl. We are all pregnant and excited but this is a horrible feed and this club is not being supportive. I was excited to have this to be a part of but now I am just sitting here on the day I had my first ultra sound, heard my baby's heart beat and I am crying. Because ladies who were supposed to support me have hurt me. Congratulations to you all and I hope these are the happiest months of your life.

People on this post ARE being supportive, you just don't happen to agree with who they are in support of!

allbrittle · August 2014

I am just hurt and embarrassed. This is not how a woman should be made to feel. And I am obviously not good with my words. And I haven't gotten to know the people who have been here long term but was hoping to build some friendships but I am a new here so I just don't understand.

jlworden710 · August 2014

allbrittle said:

I am just hurt and embarrassed. This is not how a woman should be made to feel. And I am obviously not good with my words. And I haven't gotten to know the people who have been here long term but was hoping to build some friendships but I am a new here so I just don't understand.

you dont understand what... that we stick up for each other, or that we are a community.... or was it the humor you didnt understand?... We make good jokes

Like @snedge said, maybe clicking the x, catching some z's and coming back another time, might be the best.

allbrittle · August 2014

I am sorry I said anything.

jlworden710 · August 2014

snegde said:

Maybe it's the free medical advice lady? ER doctor is that you?
I am so sad that I missed whatever this is.
Someday when I am not mobile I'll dig it up. I was only lurking but she was such a winner. She said she found out she was pregnant at 3 or 4 weeks when a friend at the hospital ran an u/s for her while her twin toddler daughter was having emergency heart surgery that she had to rush home from her honeymoon to get to. The pics were stolen from a website and she had no explanation.

what the what?

megs12914 · August 2014

allbrittle said:
Good bye ladies! I did not sign up for this. No way am I sharing my exciting happy time with you all. I was trying to be positive and encouraging to this girl. We are all pregnant and excited but this is a horrible feed and this club is not being supportive. I was excited to have this to be a part of but now I am just sitting here on the day I had my first ultra sound, heard my baby's heart beat and I am crying. Because ladies who were supposed to support me have hurt me. Congratulations to you all and I hope these are the happiest months of your life.

As someone who said something stupid in UO's today, I think you are overreacting a little bit. I made a mistake, apologized, and had one person graciously accept my apology.

That really is all it takes most of the time. I was on the January 14 bmb and they were some of the most supportive women I have ever encountered and I really want to experience that again with this group. If you leave than you are truly missing out on what can be a great experience. You just have to be able to admit when you are wrong.

lindsayanne14 · August 2014

allbrittle said:
I am just hurt and embarrassed. This is not how a woman should be made to feel. And I am obviously not good with my words. And I haven't gotten to know the people who have been here long term but was hoping to build some friendships but I am a new here so I just don't understand.

The thing is, nobody can be "made" to feel anything. OP chose to respond to the comments directed at her pretty flippantly and in return a sh!t show ensued. No matter how long you've been on the board you were new once and it takes awhile to learn the ropes. You are more than welcome to hang out, make friends, etc...you're also entitled to feel this isn't the place for you and get the heck outta here. Again, that's your choice to make, not ours!

Edit:spelling

jlworden710 · August 2014

AnnaTTCat32 said:

allbrittle said:

I am just hurt and embarrassed. This is not how a woman should be made to feel. And I am obviously not good with my words. And I haven't gotten to know the people who have been here long term but was hoping to build some friendships but I am a new here so I just don't understand.

I am sorry I said anything.

First, can we dial back the melodramatics a little? Take a breath.

What you witnessed is how fiercely supportive this community is. Notice that when people were correcting the OP, they were also congratulating her. And I (and others) corrected you when you went down the hormone road. No one is kicking you out or being "mean" to you or giving you reason for embarrassment. Just apologize for attributing behavior/commentary to hormones and move on. Everyone would be over it in a few days.

I hope you'll think about it and decide to come back, but this place isn't unicorns and rainbows and glitter and fairy dust. If that's what you want, there are places for that.

I had to...

allbrittle · August 2014

I am really sorry I said anything. I didn't mean the hormone remark. I am terrible with words. I wanted to be supportive but it totally backfired. And I am sorry. I guess I am just hormonal and had to get it out and it came out in this ugly twisted way. Please forgive me. I don't know what is going on here. I still need to learn. I don't know you ladies yet. I was out of place.

Prpljade · August 2014

OP, Did you maybe consider that your initial post and commentary pissed on someone else's parade? WE are a GROUP here, if you can't be group minded and insist on a me me me attitude you're going to get flack for it. Simple as that.

Congrats, you're SERIOUSLY lucky that it only took one month to get KTFU. I hope that however many children you decide to have, it's this easy for you every time and you don't have to bear the challenge and heartbreak that so many others have.

Whether you stay here at A15 or go elsewhere, best of luck to you. I'd advise however not being so defensive next time.

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