Pregnancy Pet Peeves

Lanatir · August 2014

motherboy said:

I hate everything that comes out of my SIL's mouth regarding my pregnancy or parenting. :-@
Me too! My SIL (BIL's wife) has been a mom for 5 and a half months and thinks she's a damn expert on everything pregnancy and children! I can't stand it! Every time I see her all she talks about is her "36 hour labor that ended in a c-section" and how she "could only eat mcdonalds for about two months because everything healthy made her feel crappy" and how "my salad and carrot eating days are numbered... blah blah f*cking blah!" She also constantly bitches about my BIL not taking over the "baby duties" right when he comes home from his 10 to 11 hour shift so she can have "me time" WTF?! You literally sit at home and do NOTHING in regards to the house. My BIL cooks dinner and cleans! I understand that sometimes your daughter can get fussy but it pisses me off that she doesn't give my BIL any "him time!" To top it off she's 6 years younger than me and thinks that just because she's now a mom she has more authority over me when it comes to disciplining our niece! I'm sorry but I spend a hell of a lot more time with her then you so back the f*ck off!!! Just because I didn't rush into being a mom doesn't mean I'm f*cking stupid! Our niece is 5 and she needs to listen to me regardless of what you think about my "lack if experience" X( ...may have gotten a little carried away with that... My bad.
Have you ever cared for a child for 10-11 (probably more like 12 with commute, right?) hours? I have, and damn right I need a break when my husband gets home. I'm just going to stop here but what you said was really rude insinuating she "sits" all day because she's caring for her kid. No I won't stop. You know what? some days I don't get around to clean up much around the house because guess what? I'm busy caring for my child. That takes precedence.

You know what happens at my house when I'm home with DD and try cleaning up? Either I MIGHT get her to help (she's 2, so we're sort of getting to the age where she can be helpful), or I start cleaning up something and she goes off and opens the fridge and plasters raw egg all over the floor (happened this week), or I start cleaning that up and she goes somewhere, gets her diaper or panties off, and poops on the floor (also this week).

So, sorry if being a SAHM doesn't make my house pristine and filled with bonbons and soap operas... *flashes middle finger at women who assume SAH is easy* Being a parent, period, if you are around your child and care at all is difficult.

This is why I need a break when DH gets home. I might kill everything that moves or makes a sound after days like I stated above...

readyforround2 · August 2014

kmfreema said:
@NatureLovers‌ no I don't think that about all moms with 5 month olds. I know that about her because her mother lives in the same apartment building and she has told me that her mom takes her daughter every day for about 5 to 6 hours. Sometimes even longer, which is why I don't agree with her having "me time" when my BIL comes home from work.

@Lanatir‌ and @motherboy‌ I did not write my post to mean every SAHM does that. I know it's not an easy job and there is hardly ever any real appreciation for it, which isn't fair. My issue comes from my above explanation to naturelover.

Lanatir · August 2014

kmfreema said:

@NatureLovers‌ no I don't think that about all moms with 5 month olds. I know that about her because her mother lives in the same apartment building and she has told me that her mom takes her daughter every day for about 5 to 6 hours. Sometimes even longer, which is why I don't agree with her having "me time" when my BIL comes home from work.
@Lanatir‌ and @motherboy‌ I did not write my post to mean every SAHM does that. I know it's not an easy job and there is hardly ever any real appreciation for it, which isn't fair. My issue comes from my above explanation to naturelover.

@kmfreema-- I understand. But idk. Some days I have a few hours away from DD and I still can't deal with her when I get her back. Everyday for 5-6 hours, though, definitely seems extreme. I'd kill for that. haha.

I must have missed that post to Naturelovers.

kbl13 · August 2014

I hate the OWT guesses, like "you're craving salt, must be a boy" or "I see pimples, you know that means it's a girl".

readyforround2 · August 2014

Lanatir said:

kmfreema said:

kmfreema said:
@NatureLovers‌ no I don't think that about all moms with 5 month olds. I know that about her because her mother lives in the same apartment building and she has told me that her mom takes her daughter every day for about 5 to 6 hours. Sometimes even longer, which is why I don't agree with her having "me time" when my BIL comes home from work.
@Lanatir‌ and @motherboy‌ I did not write my post to mean every SAHM does that. I know it's not an easy job and there is hardly ever any real appreciation for it, which isn't fair. My issue comes from my above explanation to naturelover.

@kmfreema-- I understand. But idk. Some days I have a few hours away from DD and I still can't deal with her when I get her back. Everyday for 5-6 hours, though, definitely seems extreme. I'd kill for that. haha.

I must have missed that post to Naturelovers.

I think it's extreme too, but like I said I keep my mouth shut about it because he loves her. My husband doesn't always hold his tongue, but it's his little brother so he gets away with a lot more than me and my MIL.

RuppAFWife · August 2014

Wow some of you took what kmfreema said personally. She was obviously taking about a specific person.

I think if you have one kid yea you got it easy. And yes I would know, I took 3 online classes after my daughter was born because I was so damn bored at home. I still felt like I had "me time" all day. Or maybe I just had an easy kid. Maybe my second child will be a complete terror, that will change my mind but I doubt it. It's also why daycare people are allowed several kids. One kid is not a full time job.

Stargirlb · August 2014

Haha yeah I find babies pretty easy before they are mobile! Toddlers are legitimately exhausting

LaBellaVida · August 2014

Being a SAHM is more difficult then actually going to work.
(Just my option, I've done both, I'd rather go to a 9 to 5 job, then be home all day doing the same shit over and over! )
You better believe that when my DH gets home, he eats dinner and I had the baby over. I'd like a meal too without having to share or havea baby crawl all over me.
Seriously he can deal with 30 to 45 min of baby duty while I catch a break!

Pet peeve: hate when people say being at home all day is a piece of cake and sahm don't need a break!

readyforround2 · August 2014

@RuppAFWife‌ I understand why some ladies were offended. The SAHM topic is always a hot button. I didn't think about sharing my reasoning for why I didn't think she needed "me time" because I thought I made it clear that I was only referring to her. Lesson learned.

It upsets me that she has the opportunity to stay home but chooses to pass her daughter off to her mom every day. They only have 1 car so she's not running errands during that time. I would like to be a SAHM after my daughter is born but it's just not going to be an option for awhile, so I do have some jealousy towards her about it.

Stargirlb · August 2014

Having one car and being trapped would be hard, mentally. It's not because a baby is labor intensive that I take breaks, but because it can be mentally isolating. Especially if you don't have a ton of local socializing opportunities. Everyone needs breaks no matter how "easy" their job is.

Tauristar · August 2014

My pet peeve, when people realize my kids will be 15 months apart and they launch into stories of how hard it will be....ummm, thanks, Jerk! Other pet peeve, when people feel comfortable telling me biracial babies are soo cute. It always makes me think, oh regular black or white babies aren't? WTF? Shut up, what year is it? And no some look akward some don't. Every baby is different!

chelcmariedelvalle · August 2014

We just announced to out family today that we are having a girl and my side of the family had nothing but good things to say but my husbands sister and parents said "girls are more work so be prepared" like it's going to make me change my mind about having this baby... I just get irritated that they can't just say something nice about the news. This will be the 4th granddaughter on his family's side. Maybe they were just hoping for a boy.

Stargirlb · August 2014

girls are more work?! Are they also the type of people who say 'boys will be boys?'

RuppAFWife · August 2014

Funny my daughter was/is very easy and I keep getting told boys are a handful.

jaxx723 · August 2014

I had an older male coworker tell me the other day that I'm "lucky" because I'm a woman and I'm pregnant, so I have all these special privileges...like going to lunch first, getting doors held open for me, and a special bathroom...Huh?

jaxx723 · August 2014

jaxx723 said:

I had an older male coworker tell me the other day that I'm "lucky" because I'm a woman and I'm pregnant, so I have all these special privileges...like going to lunch first, getting doors held open for me, and a special bathroom...Huh?

None of these have I ever asked for, nor would I expect. I'm also the one that carries his heavy boxes for him, because he has back problems....some people!

Stargirlb · August 2014

pregos get lunch first? where do I get this. lol

Roxycc55 · August 2014

Everything.

rodiesmum · August 2014

People insisting ill be having twons because my bump is too big

AlfiesMOM · August 2014

Mine is I hate being touched. There are two people on this planet who I don't care if they touch me that is my husband and my daughter. I have no idea why you feel it necessary to put your hand on my stomach! UGHH

cassied7 · August 2014

@kmfreema‌ I'm not insulted because I read you OP fully the first time lol. No one should have been because you fully explained that someoNe else watches her baby everyday 5 to 6 hours so yea, why the heck would she need a break? Thats a bigger break than anyone gets. I got what you mean. And I could go on for DAYS about my SIL.

motherboy · August 2014

cassied7 said:
@kmfreema‌ I'm not insulted because I read you OP fully the first time lol. No one should have been because you fully explained that someoNe else watches her baby everyday 5 to 6 hours so yea, why the heck would she need a break? Thats a bigger break than anyone gets. I got what you mean. And I could go on for DAYS about my SIL.

Yeah I read it fully the first time too, hun. She edited it to add that extra info AFTER people were annoyed at what she wrote. That why she put in "edited to add, so I don't get flamed FURTHER". So maybe you need to read a little closer.

danakatiepfoltzer · August 2014

Stargirlb said:
girls are more work?! Are they also the type of people who say 'boys will be boys?'

In my experience, these are the same people who say that.

cassied7 · August 2014

@motherboy‌ thanks, Hun. But I'm not really worried about reading it "closer". I'm not one to get offended by everything like most, because everyone has a right to their own opinion. I am also a SAHM and her statement in no way would have ticked my nerves.

peggels24 · August 2014

EVERYONE having an opinion and telling me how it is going to be. Dudes - relax - I'm 39 years old - I'm pretty sure I'll figure it out my way. And if I don't, I'll ask.

One of my girlfriends got mad at me when I told her that I was going to buy more than 2 pairs of maternity pants. According to her, I can just wear the same pair of pants to work everyday - no one will notice. Um....I will! Then she proceeded to tell me that I was just throwing money away and that I was going to need every single penny when the baby came. As if I had no idea how to manage my money. Ugh - just thinking about it - aggravates me!

Pips09 · August 2014

ExcitedMama2 said:

Pips09 said:

People commenting on what I eat. Oh really? Chips have a lot of salt? THIS IS BRAND NEW INFORMATION!

Haha...from now on, I'm going to picture you as Phoebe on Friends and read all of your posts in her voice.

@ExcitedMama2

That's exactly who I was channeling:

SheHulk723 · August 2014

HappyMonkey817 said:

People assuming that just because I'm upset about something, that "it must be the pregnancy hormones". Does being pregnant take away our right to be legitimately upset?

Haha, I actually have the opposite problem. I'll start crying and my husband will just pester me again and again about what's wrong. And as many times as I tell him that it's just the hormones and nothing is actually wrong, he just keeps bugging me. It drives me crazy!

amiej1227 · August 2014

@peggels24‌ I'm in a similar boat with my hubby but it's like you spent how much? Was it really necessary? And I'm like well I need it for work my regular clothes don't fit comfortably. But then he changes his tune to well as long as I don't have to hear you birch about your clothes I guess it's okay, damn straight it is. I can't help it if the clothes aren't super cheap. I'm trying to wait for sales etc, but I can only wait do long before I am going to need to wear something.

And I have 3 pairs of dress pants, black, grey, navy. I don't think I could last 6 months on the same pants everyday.

peggels24 · August 2014

amiej1227 said:

@peggels24‌ I'm in a similar boat with my hubby but it's like you spent how much? Was it really necessary? And I'm like well I need it for work my regular clothes don't fit comfortably. But then he changes his tune to well as long as I don't have to hear you birch about your clothes I guess it's okay, damn straight it is. I can't help it if the clothes aren't super cheap. I'm trying to wait for sales etc, but I can only wait do long before I am going to need to wear something. And I have 3 pairs of dress pants, black, grey, navy. I don't think I could last 6 months on the same pants everyday.

DH knows better than to question how much I spend on clothes

Because then I question how much he spends on tools!

SheHulk723 · August 2014

Maebb said:

I dislike any comments about my body, roundness, or size. "Oh, you're getting rounder!" "Your bump is so big!" Or "Your bump is so small!" (I got both of these within the same day. Neither comment was solicited or welcomed.) I pretty much think that if someone has a comment about a pregnant woman's appearance, unless it is, "You look fabulous," they should probably keep it to themselves.

My hubby thinks he's being nice by telling me "That's just the baby fat" or "I can tell that's a baby belly now" buuuut it hurts my feelings =(

LovelyLips · August 2014

So firstly. DHs famy keep on calling this baby a HE. I don't know the sex yet as haven't had my scan but it's like everyone has got it in their heads that this will be a boy as I already have a boy. Like Fek right off.
We gave baby a nn of Pippo just so we don't have this problem and ppl start saying IT. Drives me nuts. Just cos MIL had 2 boys doesn't mean I will.
If I do I'll be pleased. If I have a girl I'll also be pleased. A healthy baby is all I want.
Secondly. Ppl who have never had a kid (ie in this case a 50 something probably never touched the opposite sex someone who happens to be DHs uncle. A strange little man with nothing going for him. I just think he's weird.) Actual convo last night.

Him: Aren't you scared Gemma, you know about the labour.
Me: Scared? About what? (Totally baffled)
Him: Well you know. That it's going to hurt and stuff.
Me: No! I've been there done that. I've had a baby before. (As I eyeball DS as he is running around squawking)

Yes I have to go into labour.
Yes it's going to hurt but this baby has to come out somehow and that's just the way it is.
In no way am I scared or was ever scared about giving birth. Even with DS. It's a fact of life.
Stupid man. If I had been scared that wouldn't have helped with my stress levels.
I had a crap labour with DS and a rough time afterwards but in no way is that going to impair my experience this time round. Stupid man. No bloody clue some people. Ppl love the scaremongering.

GromMom · August 2014

I hate it when people grill me about morning sickness. It's called that so people don't have to describe their vomiting, diarrea, nausea etc...why do you want to know exactly how I've been sick? Really if I skipped going to an event it's because I was too sick to go, do I really have to describe the blow by blow? Am I not worthy of an oh I hope you feel better because I didn't share every detail of how I was sick?

sparksfly22 · August 2014

ExcitedMama2 said:

Pips09 said:

People commenting on what I eat. Oh really? Chips have a lot of salt? THIS IS BRAND NEW INFORMATION!

Haha...from now on, I'm going to picture you as Phoebe on Friends and read all of your posts in her voice.

YES I was thinking of Phoebe too here!! Haha glad to have another Friends fan here! I'm obsessed!
Ross: Rachel is pregnant.
Phoebe: OMG. That is brand new information (after having heard it already from Rachel earlier that day).

LOL

My pet peeve is my mother telling me I'm going to be a terrible mom and don't care about my kid just because I won't let her stuff random food in my mouth (like her gross soups and raisin bread). She literally brings stuff right up to my mouth and acts surprised when I reject it.

I also don't like people touching my stomach. If it's a best friend, then as Long as it's not for too long I don't mind but if it's someone I don't know well, I feel like grabbing their ass and being like 'oh, you didn't like that unwelcome touch? I know how that feels!!'

Ahh

GromMom · August 2014

My other peeve is for someone else. She just got through describing how her morning sickness is worse than with her first, after someone asked and then they proceded to talk about their baby having a blow out. Now they did not know I was pregnant, but how could they think that was a good conversation for the one lady they did know was pregnant?!

EricaVC · August 2014

I thought I was the only pregnant person in the world b/c everyone seems so fasicnated with me being pregnant!!

This is my 1st baby and everyone's comment is "what took you so long?" "I hope it's twins!" and "it looks like a boy/girl?" Really??!!?!

You don't know what it took for us to get pregnant or if we even wanted to be pregnant!
Then when I eat, everyone is watching and looking. I AM NOT THE 1st NOR WILL I BE THE LAST PRENANT WOMAN IN LIFE, NOR WILL I BE THE ONLY WOMAN WHO WANTS SALTY CRUNCHY FOODS! Leave me ALONE!! GEEE!

I feel to go in hiding until this child arrives!!!

EJA88 · August 2014

My husband works, so in the mean time I plan to be a SAHM but sure
as hell won't be taking advantage of my husband or neither of our moms. Some people are really fortunate to even have the help; I know a lot of mommies who had to raise their kid(s) all on their own.

cassied7 · August 2014

@EricaVC‌ DH's family was exactly how you described with my first pregnancy!!!

Mgallegos94 · September 2014

All of what you mentioned is what I've been dealing with and my goodness, if someone else says "oh she's just pregnant" I will kick them in the groin!!

TMast21 · September 2014

marymuffins79 said:

We all know people do and say silly/stupid things to pregnant women. What have been some of your pet peeves? I'm finding that I'm getting really annoyed by people recommending their names as a possible name for my daughter. I don't know what her name will be, yet.

THIS!
I was recently in a wedding and the Bride's mom kept saying "I WANT TO BE THE ONE WHO NAMES YOUR BABY!" and yelling all kinds of crazy names at me for the 3 days we were there. Also, the Bride's family kept insisting we tell them the names we were considering, it was super awkward. My husband and I are having a super hard time coming up with names we both like, and I don't really need to expand our debate to a large group.

Oh I know you're not a girly girl, so I am going to get this BABY everything pink and princess-y. I'm going to let her discover her own likes - thanks

Also, people keep talking to my bump and completely ignoring me. I am more than my baby's current housing, and I will cut you.

"Are you SURE you're not having twins" - yes, thanks - I am just huge, I hadn't noticed though, so thanks for pointing it out!!

ZoeTinks · September 2014

My pet peeve at the moment is people talking to my bump and not me! Randomers too, just walking up to me hands out, aiming for the bump and directing questions at it!! Hi I'm up here, get your hands off my stomach and ask me a question cause I'm pretty sure the bump isn't going to answer you!!!
Also everyone seems to be so disappointed that I have found out the sex? I'm sorry is it your child?? Are you pregnant?? No!! I am and I wanted to find out, I like to prepare and considering this pregnacy was a surprise I didn't really think I could cope with another surprise!

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