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tsmith312 · August 2014

Let's hear em

jcoffeebeans · August 2014

I'm waiting to see if we have another PB Glider situation on our hands...

tsmith312 · August 2014

jcoffeebeans said:

I'm waiting to see if we have another PB Glider situation on our hands...

do tell.....

jcoffeebeans · August 2014

@tsmith312‌ YGPM

Kewii · August 2014

I'm guessing she's talking about the t-shirts

angelsnight · August 2014

LakeCountryGal said:

I'm sure I'll get flamed hardcore for this but..... I'm mildly upset with my cousin who lost her newborn in July. I sent her a nice card and gift and thanks to tracking know she received it. However, she hasn't even acknowledged that she's gotten it. She's posting stuff on Facebook all the time and has gone out with my sister multiple times. I understand she's hurting but I would have even been happy with a "I got your package" so that I know it for sure went to the right house. I attached a gift of what I sent. She received it by July 25th. I just want to make sure my gift got in the right hands.

Um yeah, I'm sure she has a lot more on her mind than writing out a thank you card. You know she got it because of the tracking, so really it's more of an ego thing, you want to be acknowledged for your good deed. In any other scenario that is understandable but are you kidding me? She just lost her child! I think this deserves way more than just flames.

jcoffeebeans · August 2014

WisconsinCheese12 said:

Kewii said:
I'm guessing she's talking about the t-shirts

I am, indeed. And @WisconsinCheese12‌ I love that gif!!

angelsnight · August 2014

Yesterday I was on my way to returning my loaner to the dealership to pick up my car after it was worked on. I had to gas it up, so I'm at the pump, put in my credit card, turn to open the gas door and....there is no lip on it to open it. Ummmm, I look around to see if someone looks knowledgeable on how to open this stupid thing. I tried calling the dealership but got the voicemail.

So yay for youtube. Years ago my dad had cars that had a gas door release inside the glove box so I assumed it was something similar....nope, you just push on the door and it pops open. Duh
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cdnmomma · August 2014

I think missfunball might be having a fun ball with all the t shirt money @-)

tsmith312 · August 2014

Kalpa521 said:
I think missfunball might be having a fun ball with all the t shirt money @-)

babylimas · August 2014

I received a lot of gifts for Will and his issues. There are a lot of people I probably didn't acknowledge. It sounds weird but thanking someone is very heavy. There is so much appreciation that I don't know how to express it and I feel insanely awkward about it. I also don't post negative things on FB so no one would know how I feel. I don't think that is a situation where a thank you is at all necessary.

cdnmomma · August 2014

Oops I didn't read the whole thread before posting. Has anyone heard from her? I didn't order a t shirt. I'm mostly just curious....well nosy...

tsmith312 · August 2014

Kalpa521 said:

Oops I didn't read the whole thread before posting. Has anyone heard from her? I didn't order a t shirt. I'm mostly just curious....well nosy...

I didn't order a shirt either but apparently the " truck crashed " that had the shipment of them.

angelsnight · August 2014

LakeCountryGal said:

@lincbeesmom‌ you're probably right she can't stand the thought of me holding my 5 month old. Never would have thought of that since she's going out with people who have LOs that would be the exact same age as hers. I'll get off my high horse now and realize that I'm probably just an inconsiderate b**ch who should get over herself.

Was her baby a boy? I had a hard time being around little girls after we lost our daughter, but being around people with baby boys wasn't as difficult. But even if not, there really is no rhyme or reason why it's hard to be around some people and not others. Maybe she doesn't want to look "weak" so her FB posts are how they always are. You never know what is going on inside a person's heart, and unless she is a horrible person who never cared to begin with, I cannot imagine someone not being broken after their newborn dies. She could also be going through some major denial, shutting out the pain until her heart can deal with it.

This is why I hate when people judge how a person must feel based on how they look. As a loss mom, I constantly feel pressure to behave in ways that people think I should. After I returned to work after my loss, I was worried if I didn't look sad every moment people would think I was just fine when I wasn't. Some days I smiled, and even laughed but that didn't mean I wasn't crying inside. Hell there was even laughter and smiles in the hospital room the day our daughter was born sleeping. You just can't be sad and somber all the time or it will swallow you whole. I know there are people that see me with my rainbow, happy and kissing her all over that think I am completely over my loss, but that simply isn't true.

On the outside it doesn't seem like a difficult thing to sit down and send a quick thank you text or email...but on the inside it is just one of a million things she may be thinking right now. Even outside of tragedy, there are tons of simple things I need to do but some of them I constantly keep putting on the backburner because there are other things to do, or I only think of them at a time when I am not able to do it. Surely you don't have to go through something as horrific as losing your baby to have some idea of how utterly life changing and devastating it would be.

PerkyErky · August 2014

LakeCountryGal said:
I'm sure I'll get flamed hardcore for this but.....

I'm mildly upset with my cousin who lost her newborn in July. I sent her a nice card and gift and thanks to tracking know she received it. However, she hasn't even acknowledged that she's gotten it. She's posting stuff on Facebook all the time and has gone out with my sister multiple times. I understand she's hurting but I would have even been happy with a "I got your package" so that I know it for sure went to the right house.

I attached a gift of what I sent. She received it by July 25th. I just want to make sure my gift got in the right hands.

She lost her baby in July. You shouldn't expect a thank you. Grief is brutal and overwhelming and you have a good day and think you're doing better then you are slammed back to the reality that you don't have your baby to hold. I don't think I sent any thank yous after we lost our daughter, not even a text thank you. There were people I couldn't stand to be around and others who I had no problem with. There was no rhyme or reason. I was simply trying to make it to the next day, hour, minute. My best friend had her daughter the week after we lost our daughter and I had no problem being around her or her baby or holding the baby. There are other people with children of varying ages who I still, 1.5 years later, have trouble being around.

If you're truly worried about if she got your gift (tracking info told you she received it) and not looking for an ego stroke thank you, send a message.

AriaAmante143 · August 2014

I think the "your shirts drowned in a crazy post office truck accident" excuse is 100% made up.

ETA I didn't even order a shirt. But the babywearing community on FB is going through a very similar issue with someone else. Who is full of crap.

bumpuser9058414 · August 2014

AriaAmante143 said:

I think the "your shirts drowned in a crazy post office truck accident" excuse is 100% made up. ETA I didn't even order a shirt. But the babywearing community on FB is going through a very similar issue with someone else. Who is full of crap.

tsmith312 · August 2014

AriaAmante143 said:
I think the "your shirts drowned in a crazy post office truck accident" excuse is 100% made up.

ETA I didn't even order a shirt. But the babywearing community on FB is going through a very similar issue with someone else. Who is full of crap.

kstar83 · August 2014

FFFC: I went to a dirty public school

tsmith312 · August 2014

kstar83 said:

FFFC: I went to a dirty public school

ME TOO !

DiMama · August 2014

I still swaddle and dd can roll over to her belly but doesn't seem to do it at night. I love my sleep!

Edit belly not back

lazyreader · August 2014

lol - I don't like porn.

AriaAmante143 · August 2014

The only private school here is a Catholic school. The majority of kids here go to "dirty public school", but it's some of the best schools in the state.

I'm proud to be a product of public schooling.

bumpuser9058414 · August 2014

I want to give her the benefit of the doubt because she's a reg and has been around a while but it's so fishy.

LittlePigeon · August 2014

FFFC... Glad I didn't order a shirt. I couldn't have worn it to my public school teaching job anyway.

Also, just FYI if you suspect your child has a disability and formally request testing the school legally has to provide testing. No school is just going to be like...."Yeahhhhh, noooo. Just go ahead and sue us instead. That'll be cheaper than providing services."

LittlePigeon · August 2014

@LakeCountryGal‌ my point exactly... I don't think a school would.

bumpuser9058414 · August 2014

addisonsmom22 said:

I'm glad I didn't order a shirt. Just sayin'

Me too, however, I did donate to some M14 ladies and if this really was a scam, I won't be donating anymore and that makes me sad.

nlane0723 · August 2014

Berry30 said:

addisonsmom22 said:

I'm glad I didn't order a shirt. Just sayin'

Me too, however, I did donate to some M14 ladies and if this really was a scam, I won't be donating anymore and that makes me sad.

The shirts had nothing to do with the fund...

tsmith312 · August 2014

lincbeesmom said:

@WisconsinCheese12‌ https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12320471/a-very-special-thursday-night-confession/p1

THIS STILL MAKES ME SOOOOO STABBY !!!

bumpuser9058414 · August 2014

nlane0723 said:

addisonsmom22 said:

I'm glad I didn't order a shirt. Just sayin'

Me too, however, I did donate to some M14 ladies and if this really was a scam, I won't be donating anymore and that makes me sad.
The shirts had nothing to do with the fund...

I know they didn't, my point is she was a reg and seemed legit, so that casts doubt on all money collecting for me.

ETA: @kirotea this has nothing to do with me not trusting you, or the fund, you are fantastic and I feel like I can trust you. Just in general it makes me scared to donate because you just never know.

AriaAmante143 · August 2014

Berry30 said:

nlane0723 said:

addisonsmom22 said:

I'm glad I didn't order a shirt. Just sayin'

Me too, however, I did donate to some M14 ladies and if this really was a scam, I won't be donating anymore and that makes me sad.
The shirts had nothing to do with the fund...

I know they didn't, my point is she was a reg and seemed legit, so that casts doubt on all money collecting for me.

ETA: @kirotea this has nothing to do with me not trusting you, or the fund, you are fantastic and I feel like I can trust you. Just in general it makes me scared to donate because you just never know.

I'm part of the care fund and I can 100% guarantee you everything is over the table and legitimate. If you ever have any questions about it, feel free to get in touch with me

bumpuser9058414 · August 2014

SuheyF1983 said:

I believe it's the parents responsibility to pay or to find a way to pay for their children to go to college or trade school. You should find a way through scholarships or financial aid. ( should they choose to attend) IMO

UO? I completely disagree. As someone who paid my own way through college because my parents couldn't afford it, I will be paying my loans for years and years. I'll probably finish paying them right as DD is about to go to college. I am just not able to save enough. I will do whatever I can to help but I will not be able to fully fund my children's college. Plus I can't even imagine what it will cost in 12 years.

bumpuser9058414 · August 2014

@ariamante143, I know that. I happily gave to the fund before. My point is, I'm sure no one thought the T-shirts weren't legit either.

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babylimas · August 2014

twaffle5 said:

I went to private school, but growing up I saw all those American movies and all I wanted was to go to an American public school. I actually wanted to have the "American experience" so badly that I paid about 6000 dollars to go work at cedar point for a summer, making minimum wage and living in a dump. I made about 4000 dollars that summer, so I ended up paying them for their shitty job.

I understand completely. I was absolutely obsessed with stateside public schools. Think of all the boys! And cafeterias! And lockers! It was so foreign and fancy to me.

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bumpuser9058414 · August 2014

FFwifey said:

My Fffc: today I'm super unamerican. Because I'm an American I had to leave my 5 month old screaming for me because I had to go to work. I feel like any other country I would have been ok. I seriously would give up all my freedom to not be in this country so I can just be a mom. I'm wicked bitter about it even though it's irrational.
Whenever you ladies are venting about work and daycare, I honestly just feel SO sad for you all. I just cannot fathom having to work with an infant at home. Let alone, trying to pump/breast feed, plus manage other kids. I just can't imagine. It really sucks!!

My house is a disaster, because I have no time to clean. It's awful.

jazzyexpo · August 2014

My fffc is Monday- Thursday I didn't want to be a mom. I wanted to have me time and do what I wanted to do. Not listen to all the whining from my oldest. Not try to figure out why she's 4 and still won't poop in the toilet. I'm with them 24/7 and I need a break. I woke up today not feeling that way, but I know I still need a break.

Another is DH has been sleeping on the couch for a few weeks now. His snoring keeps me awake and if I have him lay on his side, he wakes with awful back pain. We have a queen bed and I like all the extra room I have.

jrw526 · August 2014

LittlePigeon said:

FFFC... Glad I didn't order a shirt. I couldn't have worn it to my public school teaching job anyway. Also, just FYI if you suspect your child has a disability and formally request testing the school legally has to provide testing. No school is just going to be like...."Yeahhhhh, noooo. Just go ahead and sue us instead. That'll be cheaper than providing services."

Schools are not required to test for a disability just because a parent requests it. We are required to hold a screening meeting if a parent wants a child tested. At the meeting data is presented from both the teachers and the parents and then it's decided if the school will go forward with testing. The parents always have the right to mediation or due process, but if the school or parents do not have data to support a suspected disability then the school is not forced to test a child.

That being said, I've tested more kids than I care to admit that turned out not to have a disability because the parents threatened lawyers if we didn't test and it's just easier to have a good working relationship with the parents.

ETA: typing is hard

talee1989 · August 2014

- I happily drive whenever we go anywhere as a family or with someone else so I don't have to take care of the kids if they are having issues in the car

- I really advocated to go camping this weekend so my husband couldn't take a conceal and carry class.. We bought a brand new camper 3 yrs ago and have hardly used it so misewell

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