I don't like when people have their baby girls dressed in tutus's with no tops and like pearl necklaces for pictures. I'm totally fine with nekked baby pics but for some reason I don't think this is cute.
I do not like bikinis with the triangle tops for anyone under 18. Too sexual for me. I cringe when my 12 ur old niece puts them on. I want to throw a t-shirt on her ASAP!
Obviously, I support all of your rants @carriet2018. Hey, guess what? I'm a human and have tits to feed my baby with! YOU ARE NOT SPECIAL. We all have them....usually. Some tits work, some don't. And I'm not impressed that celebrities breastfeed....um, why wouldn't they? I mean, who fuck cares?
Breastfeeding has always been a thing, and will always be a thing. That's what our tits are for! Quit acting like it's not a thing, and that people don't do it, because THEY DO!
Also, I think it is pretty fucking awesome that we are cycling together even though we live thousands of miles apart. @carriet2018
Bf can feel very isolating, and people get weird and offended if you dare leave your home and feed your kid (just read the comments on any bf link on fb). Especially if you live in an area where bf is not the norm, you get looks and criticism often. It sucks.
I guess this is my uo, bf is fucking hard and I am proud that I made it because I didn't think I would. My entire day revolves around my kid being attached to me and dh can't help me feed dd. I like that it gets some recognition for how hard it can be, but it is in no way ever made to make anyone feel bad, ever. Like you said, it's physically impossible for some and others just choose not to, and that's ok too. Bf moms getting some praise/recognition is never meant to put down ff moms at all. I'm sorry if it makes anyone feel that way.
100% I agree with this. I was in actual hell the first two weeks with DS's tongue tie and I needed SO much support to get through it that I love seeing all the BF love this week! I think it's so important to get people used to it and normalize it. As pp said, you just need to read comments on any post to see how much that's needed. That said I realllly hate that it makes some people feel bad, and I wish there was a solution for both sides.
Also, it really grinds my gears when I see the whole "BF is the most natural thing EVER" because fuck that, it's hard and a learning process, and don't make people feel like a failure because it doesn't come without difficulty.
support here for my BF mamas. BF is hard, and it's nearly impossible to do without help, support, and acceptance from those around you. bf week reminds other people, not just moms, that bf is normal, natural. obviously moms know that, but part of bf week is to educate others about it.
Bf can feel very isolating, and people get weird and offended if you dare leave your home and feed your kid (just read the comments on any bf link on fb). Especially if you live in an area where bf is not the norm, you get looks and criticism often. It sucks.
I guess this is my uo, bf is fucking hard and I am proud that I made it because I didn't think I would. My entire day revolves around my kid being attached to me and dh can't help me feed dd. I like that it gets some recognition for how hard it can be, but it is in no way ever made to make anyone feel bad, ever. Like you said, it's physically impossible for some and others just choose not to, and that's ok too. Bf moms getting some praise/recognition is never meant to put down ff moms at all. I'm sorry if it makes anyone feel that way.
Just to play devils advocate...I find it super demanding to have a full time job, go to school for my doctorate (no one can help me with this), to find time to exercise, to feed myself and my family, clean my house, etc...but I'm not constantly tooting my horn about all the things I do with constant FB updates.
So, I get that it's tough, but just like me, it's something you chose to do and therefore should be proud of it. I don't need a daily update about how hard your (not you specifically) lyyyyyyffffffeeeeee is.
Yeah, bf week was ill timed for me. Because I'm trying so hard to get dd off my boobs for good and it made me feel all bad about it. I can't imagine how bad moms who wanted to fb but couldn't must feel seeing the tidal wave of posts all week/month/eternity.
I think too many women use their period as an excuse to be mean, eat things, and get out of responsibilities.
BTW I wanna kick things right now.
This made me LOL so hard. A few weeks ago we were with a couple friend of ours and had this conversation. Her fiance said that he knew a girl a long time ago that said the same thing and told him that it is bunch of crap that women make up. Her response was,"well she was probably a lesbian." Umm...lesbians do get their periods. It was just so funny at the time and we have a ball making fun of her for it.
Amjoy25 said:
jgslr said:
Bf can feel very isolating, and people get weird and offended if you dare leave your home and feed your kid (just read the comments on any bf link on fb). Especially if you live in an area where bf is not the norm, you get looks and criticism often. It sucks.
I guess this is my uo, bf is fucking hard and I am proud that I made it because I didn't think I would. My entire day revolves around my kid being attached to me and dh can't help me feed dd. I like that it gets some recognition for how hard it can be, but it is in no way ever made to make anyone feel bad, ever. Like you said, it's physically impossible for some and others just choose not to, and that's ok too. Bf moms getting some praise/recognition is never meant to put down ff moms at all. I'm sorry if it makes anyone feel that way.
Just to play devils advocate...I find it super demanding to have a full time job, go to school for my doctorate (no one can help me with this), to find time to exercise, to feed myself and my family, clean my house, etc...but I'm not constantly tooting my horn about all the things I do with constant FB updates. So, I get that it's tough, but just like me, it's something you chose to do and therefore should be proud of it. I don't need a daily update about how hard your (not you specifically) lyyyyyyffffffeeeeee is. #whereareMYsupermommemes
There are some people that WOULD put it on their newsfeed if they were doing all that.:-OThey are called super moms and they NEED to tell everyone about it!
Bf can feel very isolating, and people get weird and offended if you dare leave your home and feed your kid (just read the comments on any bf link on fb). Especially if you live in an area where bf is not the norm, you get looks and criticism often. It sucks.
I guess this is my uo, bf is fucking hard and I am proud that I made it because I didn't think I would. My entire day revolves around my kid being attached to me and dh can't help me feed dd. I like that it gets some recognition for how hard it can be, but it is in no way ever made to make anyone feel bad, ever. Like you said, it's physically impossible for some and others just choose not to, and that's ok too. Bf moms getting some praise/recognition is never meant to put down ff moms at all. I'm sorry if it makes anyone feel that way.
Just to play devils advocate...I find it super demanding to have a full time job, go to school for my doctorate (no one can help me with this), to find time to exercise, to feed myself and my family, clean my house, etc...but I'm not constantly tooting my horn about all the things I do with constant FB updates.
So, I get that it's tough, but just like me, it's something you chose to do and therefore should be proud of it. I don't need a daily update about how hard your (not you specifically) lyyyyyyffffffeeeeee is.
#whereareMYsupermommemes
There are some people that WOULD put it on their newsfeed if they were doing all that.
Truth, but I'm not an asshole like they are. Heh heh.
Yeah, bf week was ill timed for me. Because I'm trying so hard to get dd off my boobs for good and it made me feel all bad about it. I can't imagine how bad moms who wanted to fb but couldn't must feel seeing the tidal wave of posts all week/month/eternity.
I posted a status about this earlier in the week. I was only able to bf for 10 weeks and even then I had to supplement. I was devastated and I pumped as much as I could trying to get my boobs to work. They just wouldnt and I dried up. It still stings (my heart).
I think the "you can breastfeed, just don't talk about it" argument is just another form of breastfeeding shaming.
It's also ok to do and not need to proclaim it to the world every 10 seconds.
Case in point: I have 2..count them one, two...SIL's that successfully BF'd for over 1 year. I never heard a peep out of either of them on their FB feed or even IRL that they were still BFing and were all "rabbit with a star on their chest" for doing so. It's pretty common to BF, and they realize that. Not sure why no one else can figure that out.
I guess another BF related UO for me is when people always say 'oh but BFing is so good for bonding.'
Umm so when I'm holding my child in my arms and feeding them with a bottle it's not bonding???
Many props to the BFing mom's out there but with all the pressure and push for it now it really can make FF moms feel bad-about themselves and their decision/circumstances. I for one have never looked back since day 10 when I stopped.
I don't have a problem with seeing images of real moms feeding their babies in their homes, out and about, wherever...cudos to them! what I do have a problem with is these sexualized images of models all done up, posing while breastfeeding...I'm not sure why that's necessary and how that's helping breastfeeding be seen as something natural and not sexual at all (which I think is why so many people have a problem with seeing a boob in public and what this week is trying to combat)
anyways that's the only part of this breastfeeding week that grinds my gears
UO: I like breastfeeding photos and, flashback to pregnancy, bare belly photos. Granted there are some that aren't as nice to look at as others, but there are many more that I find beautiful.
Pretty much any photo that I can feel something from -positive or negative is amazing, including darker subjects.
It's actually kind of funny how, not just here, but people in general complain about over-posts but I've found just about everyone has something they post often, perhaps too often, on their IG, FB, whatever. This one chick posts random quotes without using quotes and takes credit for them. That other girl is obviously into fitness. Him over there sticks mainly to song lyrics. Me? Oh, I'm not exempt. I have a disclaimer that clearly states my IG will bombard you with photos of my son ;-)
I think it's weird I hadn't heard anything about breastfeeding week or whatever until TB. I guess none of my facebook friends BF or just don't give a rat's tiny ass. I'm cool with that. I understand the point behind this week, but it turns into people tooting their own horn pretty fast. I just don't care about anyone's boobz, especially a celebrity's.
My UO is that I think champagne is gross. It's fine with some oj or whatever, but it's not good by itself. I prefer any other alcohol over champagne. That being said, if it was all I had, ya know.. I'd probably suffer through it
The bolded #friendsreference? Please say yes.
The italicized...you are WRONG! May I suggest Martini and Rossi Asti. It's soooooooo good.
I personally don't care about who puts what where. I scroll past it. People always have something to say, whether it is good, bad, right or wrong. No one is ever pleased.
I do have an issue with the following: car dealerships give loans to people with work authorization visas. These are 5-6 year loans given to people who have visas that are good for 2 years. that does not guarantee you are going to be approved to become citizen or a permanent resident in the US. Why?
I think its an awesome idea to "normalize breast feeding" but at times I think things like national breast feeding awareness week/month is just glorifying it when it doesn't need to be. Feed your kid. End of story.
The bolded. How is it not normal? I think BFing groups saying it's not normal, is making it not normal.
Andplusalso, I may live in the armpit of 'Merica, but I saw a new mother BFing in a booth at Buffalo Wild Wings and NO ONE batted an eye. The waiter was like whatever, me sitting in full view was like whatever, the table next to me was like whatever.
So, STOP trying to make fetch happen BFing groups!
I am another failed BFer here. I quit pumping around 10 weeks after my stash was getting worse and worse. I don't really mind seeing things about BFing. I had a lot of guilt for awhile, but I realize I did my best at the time. What does annoy me is a few things I came across online recently telling women they SHOULD breastfeed. It's obvious from this forum that there are many women who really wanted to and couldn't and so many of these articles completely disregard that. BFing is hard, but there are so many aspects of being a parent that are difficult and time consuming.
Oh, and I also think it's fine if you don't want to try to breastfeed at all. Sometimes that is what is best for yourself, baby, and family.
I personally don't care about who puts what where. I scroll past it. People always have something to say, whether it is good, bad, right or wrong. No one is ever pleased.
I do have an issue with the following: car dealerships give loans to people with work authorization visas. These are 5-6 year loans given to people who have visas that are good for 2 years. that does not guarantee you are going to be approved to become citizen or a permanent resident in the US. Why?
Because maybe they need a car too? And the visas can (and are usually) renewed while you go through the green card and/or citizenship process.
Re: UUUUUUUUOOOOOOO?!11?
I think too many women use their period as an excuse to be mean, eat things, and get out of responsibilities.
BTW I wanna kick things right now.
R&K married 4.15.11. TTC #1 since 7.11.12
BFP #1 9.9.12 EDD 5.21.13 c/p 9.12.12 at 4 weeks 1 day
BFP #2 10.15.12 EDD 6.28.13 c/p 10.19.12 at 4 weeks.
BFP #3 1.19.13 EDD 10.1.13 Eleanor born 10.7.13 at 40 weeks 6 days
13dpo hcg@32, progesterone@13.7, 15dpo hcg@110, 16dpo progesterone@25.9
My blog:Urban Times in Michigan ~ My Bfp Chart
R&K married 4.15.11. TTC #1 since 7.11.12
BFP #1 9.9.12 EDD 5.21.13 c/p 9.12.12 at 4 weeks 1 day
BFP #2 10.15.12 EDD 6.28.13 c/p 10.19.12 at 4 weeks.
BFP #3 1.19.13 EDD 10.1.13 Eleanor born 10.7.13 at 40 weeks 6 days
13dpo hcg@32, progesterone@13.7, 15dpo hcg@110, 16dpo progesterone@25.9
My blog:Urban Times in Michigan ~ My Bfp Chart
Obviously, I support all of your rants @carriet2018. Hey, guess what? I'm a human and have tits to feed my baby with! YOU ARE NOT SPECIAL. We all have them....usually. Some tits work, some don't. And I'm not impressed that celebrities breastfeed....um, why wouldn't they? I mean, who fuck cares?
Breastfeeding has always been a thing, and will always be a thing. That's what our tits are for! Quit acting like it's not a thing, and that people don't do it, because THEY DO!
Also, I think it is pretty fucking awesome that we are cycling together even though we live thousands of miles apart. @carriet2018
Also, I will be love titting everything because it's my ribbon....but, you'll never know if I REALLY agree with you! Muhahahahahaha.
LO then (2 days) and now (1 year)
Just to play devils advocate...I find it super demanding to have a full time job, go to school for my doctorate (no one can help me with this), to find time to exercise, to feed myself and my family, clean my house, etc...but I'm not constantly tooting my horn about all the things I do with constant FB updates.
So, I get that it's tough, but just like me, it's something you chose to do and therefore should be proud of it. I don't need a daily update about how hard your (not you specifically) lyyyyyyffffffeeeeee is.
#whereareMYsupermommemes
#periodbuddies #lyfepartners
Just to play devils advocate...I find it super demanding to have a full time job, go to school for my doctorate (no one can help me with this), to find time to exercise, to feed myself and my family, clean my house, etc...but I'm not constantly tooting my horn about all the things I do with constant FB updates. So, I get that it's tough, but just like me, it's something you chose to do and therefore should be proud of it. I don't need a daily update about how hard your (not you specifically) lyyyyyyffffffeeeeee is. #whereareMYsupermommemes
There are some people that WOULD put it on their newsfeed if they were doing all that.:-OThey are called super moms and they NEED to tell everyone about it!
Truth, but I'm not an asshole like they are. Heh heh.
It's also ok to do and not need to proclaim it to the world every 10 seconds.
Case in point: I have 2..count them one, two...SIL's that successfully BF'd for over 1 year. I never heard a peep out of either of them on their FB feed or even IRL that they were still BFing and were all "rabbit with a star on their chest" for doing so. It's pretty common to BF, and they realize that. Not sure why no one else can figure that out.
#imightneedchocolate #andwine #andcheese #andanap
I LIT-rally would not be reading anything on my feed then. LOL.
I could just be love titing for solidarity or cute babies
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Are u talking about something specifically on TB? My original comment was regarding FB.
The bolded #friendsreference? Please say yes.
The italicized...you are WRONG! May I suggest Martini and Rossi Asti. It's soooooooo good.
Right? #itsmakingmeextrarageytoday MY UO. MY RULES crunchy! LOLLLZZZ
I do have an issue with the following: car dealerships give loans to people with work authorization visas. These are 5-6 year loans given to people who have visas that are good for 2 years. that does not guarantee you are going to be approved to become citizen or a permanent resident in the US. Why?
The bolded. How is it not normal? I think BFing groups saying it's not normal, is making it not normal.
Andplusalso, I may live in the armpit of 'Merica, but I saw a new mother BFing in a booth at Buffalo Wild Wings and NO ONE batted an eye. The waiter was like whatever, me sitting in full view was like whatever, the table next to me was like whatever.
So, STOP trying to make fetch happen BFing groups!
Also, nice use of a gif.
BFP: 1.19.2013 - EDD: 10.2.2013 - It's a girl! 9.25.13: Welcome Addison!