Monday bitchfest!!!

ShelleyElla22 · August 2014

I have a couple.

1. DH left at 4:30 this morning to go fishing. When I texted him to double check that he would be home around 10, he told me he was going golfing and would be home around 3. I had already told him yesterday that I wanted to get my GD test done this morning and our boys were being extra naughty this morning too!

2. We had people build a house in the empty lot across the street from us and it was finished in March. They just now landscaped (it has been a huge hill of dirt) and the landscapers told us that it is just going to be wild because they don't want to deal with having to mow grass. WTF. We have to look at it! Not to mention the landscapers must have hit the pole our mailbox is on because now it's slightly crooked and wobbly AND Everytime they come to do something (dig, landscape, pour concrete, blacktop the driveway) it is ALWAYS right when I'm trying to get my kids down for nap. So annoying!!

MmmPopcorn · August 2014

JamieK1882 said:

THIS. This weekend I was at the outlets in a store wanting to try on shoes. EVERY SINGLE chair was taken by some fat ass just sitting there reading on their phone or waiting while their SO shopped. Here's me pregnant having a hard time bending over trying to try on shoes standing up. I don't want special treatment, but I think ANYONE who was there actually shopping should have the right to use the chairs/stools for what they are there for!

Um...harsh?

thedjinn88 · August 2014

My ex husband just got out of the military two months ago, he sees our daughter once a year and plans to move closer to us to see her more often. That's all fine and dandy but he has decided to stop paying child support and says he doesn't have the means to help with school supplies our anything, well he had been in our town for a week, never cared to visit her, he has left and called today to ask why I'm upset with him, hormones have been at an all time high so I told him exactly how I felt, no crying, cursing, or name calling... tHen he told me I was a botch and said f you and hung up. I warned him when he called I would not be a very nice person and he would not want to hear what I have to say.don't ask a woman for her opinion and get upset when you get it. Also I have like hives on my books that are killing me, then goodness for doc apt next week.

lizgrace03 · August 2014

I hate it when airlines change flight times on you and just call and leave that automated message. Like it doesn't affect you at all and you are just supposed to passively accept the new time.

Delta just called with news that they changed our flight for Christmas Day from leaving at 4pm to leaving at 12:45pm. Not a huge change, but now we can't have Christmas morning at the inlaws without paying a change fee. Grr.

SugarSnap83 · August 2014

KatheTravis said:

My bitch for the day is I just found out I have PUPPS off to get a steroid shot to hopefully help the itching. I do not wish this on anyone!

Had to google that. Sounds horrible! Hope you get relief soon!

lizgrace03 · August 2014

Econosaurus said:

lizgrace03 said:
Delta just called with news that they changed our flight for Christmas Day from leaving at 4pm to leaving at 12:45pm. Not a huge change, but now we can't have Christmas morning at the inlaws without paying a change fee. Grr.

I don't remember the airline but I got one of those calls once and told them the new flight was unacceptable and they let me pick a different flight without using a change fee. It might be worth a call especially since December is still so far out, they likely have a lot of cheap seats available they can rebook you on and not charge you for.

I just called them and they wanted to charge a $200 change fee-- I don't like dealing with Delta. This is going to sound totally bratty, but I'm going to have my dad call them since he's a Diamond member. They tend to work better with him than with me and he gets a special number to call for customer service.

:P

JamieK1882 · August 2014

MmmPopcorn said:

JamieK1882 said:

THIS. This weekend I was at the outlets in a store wanting to try on shoes. EVERY SINGLE chair was taken by some fat ass just sitting there reading on their phone or waiting while their SO shopped. Here's me pregnant having a hard time bending over trying to try on shoes standing up. I don't want special treatment, but I think ANYONE who was there actually shopping should have the right to use the chairs/stools for what they are there for!

Um...harsh?

Yeah, was harsh. Sorry... (<--edit: that wasn't sarcasm either. Sorry hard to convey tone sometimes over the internet!)

highbornhunter · August 2014

My Monday bitch is that our HOA is resealing the driveways and parking spaces so I can't park in my driveway from tonight til at least Thursday. Everyone has to park along the street. This involves approx 140 housing units in a 3 block area - most of which have 2 cars. I am going to end up parked a 2 miles from my house. I might as well walk to work. (I won't, it's 3 miles along a major road that isn't safe for pedestrians, but you get the idea)

What a PITA!

Lilwatz · August 2014

I have one! We moved/changed jobs/changed insurance in November and this month we got a bill from our old dentist saying two things were denied.

1) We were covered then, coverage didn't stop until after we moved out of state.

2) We've had issues with them messing up billing before.

So I had to call the dentist (I hate phone calls) to find out what happened. They of course made me call the insurance company because they "rejected the claims". Yeah, as suspected, the insurance company has no record of them ever making those claims. I am so glad we don't go there anymore.

BUT, my complaint is that someone else's incompetence inconveniences me! And if I ignore it they could send me to collections--for their mistake! I hate people.

absolutelymaybe · August 2014

Ugh. I finally have one (sorry it's about food).

I'm trying to eat somewhat healthier at lunch, so today it was an organic/vegan/black bean/veggie/blahblahblah burrito. And I now I am seriously so miserable. It feels like my stomach is going to explode.

I'm trying, but I think the babies want their McDonalds cheeseburgers.

tigerpawie · August 2014

I try my best not to bitch about things too much and try to be positive but today is tough. Truly tough. My Monday bitchfest is when I went in my office to fix the printer, I noticed that the iMac and the laptop my FI uses is missing. I tried to give him the benefit of doubt. Maybe he hid them while we went on a biz trip to prevent construction contractor theft? (He just got back last Friday and I got back yesterday). I text him about it while he's out working. He texts me that he has started to gamble again. We had a problem with him gambling over a year ago... He was pawning stuff, gambling, etc cuz he got so stressed out. Too much $ pressure... He feels the need to gamble. We broke up but got back together few weeks later. He went to gA for few months credit counseling etc. I helped him out but we decided to see how it goes and keep the same system (he maintains his own money and I maintain my own). It was a emotional time for us.

So... I can tell when he's stressed. He has a tic on his face. I occasionally check in with him to ensure he's not back on gambling etc. I do that twice a month or so but my gut just felt wrong the past few months. Today when I saw the computers missing. It turns out he was so stressed he started gambling, losing money, and pawning stuff. He pawned off a bunch of his stuff then started to pawn off the computers.

I'm angry, sad, upset that I've been lied to. If I had known he struggled in May, we could've nipped this in the bud and fixed things, get him back in GA and get him in counseling. But because I wasn't pushy enough, didn't push for financial records, etc... I let it go on long to the point... He's about 6kplus in debt on top of few things he's working on from last gambling binge.

I am trying to keep myself calm. We talked about it... He's ready to move out... But I said no, we need to try to fix this. But I can say this.. The trust is gone, we will not be getting married for a long time, and I'm getting control of his finances. I made him turn over every card he has, a list of bills, payday loans, etc. We won't combine anything but basically... I'll have control over his finances.

It hurts me so bad. He is a great guy. He cleans the house for me, he is so good w the kids, he's a great step dad and would be a great father. I love him so much. He is SO good to me. He takes care of me and the kids. So much I could go on and on. But wow.

I just wanted to vent a bit. Take it day by day. I don't have anyone to talk to cuz I'm just so embarrassed and I don't trust my friends will keep a secret. I am going to look into counseling and make a plan with FI but I just want to drink. I could go for a pomtini or a sangria so freaking bad.

Hugs and thanks for listening to my incredibly long bitchfest for this Monday.

minibean16 · August 2014

@tigerpawie‌ I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. Addiction of any kind is scary and serious. I'm glad you're supporting him to get the help he needs. Make sure to take care of yourself, your children and your LO though.

absolutelymaybe · August 2014

@tigerpawie - I'm sorry you're going through this. Addictions are scary things. I think it's good you are at least able to talk about it with him and have a plan in place to get things back in line. I know it won't be easy (financially or trust wise). I think you being in control of the finances is a great idea, I just hope he is planning on getting some other help (like going back in to GA). Thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time. I hope things get better.

sweetyq1984 · August 2014

My bitch today is about my mother. We live 10 hours from my parents and the rest of my family. My mother wants to throw me a baby shower (their first grandchild) for me but wants to do it in October. My 30th birthday is at the end of October and she wanted to do a combined birthday/shower. Thats really sweet of her, but as I explained to her, I will be 36 weeks pregnant at the time. She gave birth to all three of her children at least a month early, why would she want me to drive 10 hours for a shower at 36 weeks? Anyways, they are flying me home in a few weeks and my dad suggested that we do the shower while I am home. My mother doesnt know if she wants to do it then, only wants it to be family, and really doesnt know if she will have time to plan a shower. Not that a shower is required but I feel like mother is having a fit because she cant do what she wants to do.

Also, my in laws are moving next month and dont really care how Im doing or the baby or if/when a shower will as they wont have to time to go anyways, and if DH wont be there there is no point in them going.

Am I wrong or should our parents be a little more excited about this baby?

Maelara · August 2014

I think that we all need to remember that while yes, there are unseen disabilities that prevent people from getting up and offering their seat, the WHOLE bus/seating area isn't disabled. Also, with my situation, the middle aged lady may very well have been disabled but her purse wasn't. In those types of situations you have to asses them and make the decision on who was the most in need as there were only three seats. I was 7 months pregnant, feeling terrible, worked a long day and seriously felt like passing out BUT I gave up my seat because that elderly couple clearly need it more than I did. They could barely stand and were shaking like crazy.

I've never though that women deserved to sit over men and have always, always given up my seat to others that need it more - men and women alike.

KatheTravis · August 2014

SugarSnap83 said:

KatheTravis said:

My bitch for the day is I just found out I have PUPPS off to get a steroid shot to hopefully help the itching. I do not wish this on anyone!

Had to google that. Sounds horrible! Hope you get relief soon!

Yes it's terrible! I think I caught it early and I have been trying to not scratch it but it's so hard!!

Singingmama10 · August 2014

My bitch is I HATE public restrooms even more now that I am pregnant! It's bad enough that I have to use them every single time I go out.... but even worse now that I have a protruding baby belly, when I have to swing the stall door open, I have to get super cozy next to the toilet....ewwww

uncharted01 · August 2014

@tigerpawie - I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. Addiction is such a difficult thing to break. I hope your FI gets the help he needs and can finally be free from it.

shan24 · August 2014

I don't usually have much to bitch about, cause I'm trying REALLY hard to find the positive in things, but this weekend threw me over the edge.

SO and I have been together for 6 years, but we've known each other for over 15. I've known SO's best friend for just as long because we used to all work together. He's a really great guy and he is more than welcome in our home whenever he wants. SO's best friend has a girlfriend who I try really hard to like, but I just can't.

Anyway, SO's best friend and his girlfriend came to visit for the weekend. Our plan was to go into the city on Saturday (it's about an hour away). My only request was that it not turn into a pub hopping day. SO is really into craft beers and best friend and girlfriend are just drinkers, so typically pub-hopping happens. SO mentioned it to best friend and everyone seemed on board. They even mentioned on the drive there that it was going to be a touristy kind of day. So, we get there and, because it's a civic holiday here, there is a street festival going on with street perfomers, free concerts in parks, they had zip-lining and rock walls set up; just a lot of things to do, most of them free. What happens? Girlfriend texts some of her friends that live in the city and they show up. Before I know it, we're on our way, not just to a pub, but to a brewery. Why? Because girlfriend's friends hadn't had a drink yet that day and girlfriend was thirsty. WTF?!?!?! It was 1:30 in the afternoon. That's LATE to be having a FIRST drink???? So, I mention to SO, within earshot of best friend that I felt really uncomfortable being visibly pregnant going into a brewery. I then overhear best friend tell girlfriend that I was uncomfortable. Girlfriends response? "Ok, but can we not enjoy 10 minutes???"

I'm not a bitch. It's their vacation. Had I known that was what they wanted to do, I would have either stayed home or brought my own car and gone to do other things while they drank. But nope. I go with the promise of a pub free day only to get dragged to a fucking brewery. I guess technically the promise was kept???

Then, the next morning, I'm the last one up. I go downstairs and girlfriend is already drinking beer. I ask if anyone wanted anything for breakfast. Girlfriend mentions that the rest of them had had leftover pizza. Cool. I don't have to make them anything. Then she says there is some still left if I want it. Ok, I say. She then goes on to say that there are also eggs. Then, bread and cheese if I want to make myself a grilled cheese. Then she tells me to help myself to whatever I want. Really?!?!?!? Why thank you, girlfriend, for giving me permission to eat food that *I* bought and placed in *my* refrigerator that I would be preparing in *my* kitchen. How gracious of you.

The next day, the plan was to go for a hike. I've done the hike before and it isn't a hard one, but it had rained that morning and I was a little nervous about the rocks being slippery (the hike is a seaside one), so I decided to stay home and meet them the next town over for dinner at this really great, small local restaurant. All she did was bitch. They didn't have the beer she wanted. She thought the prices were too high (although everyone else at the table mentioned how much cheaper the menu items were at this restaurant than similar items in her town). She ordered fish and chips and asked for extra lemon. They brought her four wedges. She bitched that that wasn't enough. I finally snapped and said that if she wanted more damned lemon, ask for it when the server comes back.

Seriously, the best parts of the weekend was when she was sleeping off her hangovers.

tigerpawie · August 2014

@absolutelymaybe‌ @minibean16‌ @SarahMaureenF‌ @uncharted01‌

Hugs! Thank you. It feels better that someone understands. Addictions is such a scary thing and I thought we got beyond it. FI's gambling addiction is like 'occasional' type of binges. He had a problem with that before we met. Then again over a year ago then now. He cracks under pressure. We have so many things going on financially wise and I think this baby threw him off the edge. He was doing so well financially.. And the last binge was bad.. But not as bad as this one. I totaled up everything - to get items out of pawn, payday loans, new and old credit cards etc.. It's about 20k not including student loans and vein surgery total that went to collections. I think maybe 30k in debt. I am seriously so overwhelmed. 20k in less than 3 months?!?! Holy shit. I asked him over and over again why he lied and didn't ask me for HELP. We communicate so well otherwise. He just couldn't explain why... He said he was trying to fix it before I found out.

FI earns VERY well in his line of job and I think we can make do.. Get his stuff paid off in a year or two. I just have to downsize/postpone what I was planning on - baby items, basement finish, and our Europe trip summer of 2015. FI is going to have to explain to his brother who lives in Germany why he can't go and be his best man at his wedding. I just don't have enough $ on my end to save up for everything that I was planing for. I was depending on him for all of these... I think that's why he cracked under pressure. He's on the phone with his health insurance he didn't pay for one month and they won't reinstate it till sept 1st and it's not guaranteed. I'm frustrated because we need his insurance to set up counseling for him.

We will get through it.. Somehow. Right now I am seriously considering putting our relationship on hold. Take a breather but I am terrified to be pregnant and alone. I thought everything was perfect and we were on our path to financial freedom. Now my hopes for debt-freedom and traveling etc are postponed for another few years.

I am definitely not going to give up. We'll get him in counseling one way or another. He'll go to GA. He has picked up more hours next few weeks and will ask for overtime so he'll be working his ass off to fix everything. (This pisses me off because he was working so much to fix his past binge and start paying me half of household expenses and I was picking on him to reduce his hours and spend more time with me since things seemed more calm-financially wise. NOW I'm never going to see him.)

Thank you ladies for your support!!! I am getting myself in counseling so I have someone to talk to and keep myself calm. I'm just so overwhelmed.

Snuffy007 · August 2014

I know its late but I gotta get this out! I'm training two of the assistants at my office to take over when I'm on mat leave (I'm front desk at a dental office). One is getting it, but the other? I want to rip my hair out. How can you be an assistant and not know the difference between chart notes and a treatment report that is sent to the referring doctor??? THEY ARE COMPLETELY DIFFERENT.
Also, I'm acting therapist to my boss while she tries to decide whether she wants to marry her boyfriend or not. It changes every half hour. Jesus Christ woman, I really like you but I can't make this decision for you. Nobody is perfect. If you are waiting around for the perfect guy you are going to be very lonely. Dump this dude and look elsewhere or accept him the way he is. He's not going to change, just like you're not.

Yesterday she took up 45 min of my 1hr lunch break to discuss this. Seriously!? Not even in the breakroom where I could eat, but trapped me at my desk. Luckily I can eat while she's seeing patients so I still got a break, but dammit I was hungry!

minibean16 · August 2014

@tigerpawie‌

Without knowing the finer details of your relationship, I can only encourage you to do what is best for you right now. If that means taking a break from him, there are plenty of 'single ladies' around here - including me - for support. I don't think it's any more terrifying than having a baby!

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