Not sure if it's been on anyone else's FB newsfeed, but it's come up on mine twice now... pictures of a family dealing with a stillbirth. I didn't read the whole thing, but I definitely burst into tears after finding out just the gist of the story.
I'm just posting here since I'm sure most of you understand the emotion of seeing something like that, especially at this point in our pregnancies; I don't want to bitch on FB or anything, but I'm not sure why this has to be shared.
ETA: I'm referring specifically to the pictures that are being broadcast across FB by Internet strangers... not to the parents desire to have the pictures or share their story in some way.
Re: Ugh - social media (trigger warning)
Baby Boy due October 2017
I've actually seen two different stories of still birth in the past week and they both have given me high anxiety and made me super worried. I didn't even read through the details of the stories.
They absolutely have a right to share, and I don't see it as taboo at all. However, it is a trigger and stirs up a lot of emotions and thoughts I do not want to be thinking right now.
I think the bigger problem is more how Facebook has things appear in out newsfeed now. I liked just being able to see things friends posted, status updates or photos. I don't care what they "like", such as target or sprint.
My heart breaks for this family. Ultimately it was the photographer sharing to her fb page as she would any other birth she may have photographed.
first son stillborn 7/20/13 at 39 weeks due to Acute Fatty Liver of Pregnancy
It's a girl! Baby Anna was born August 3, 2014!
Well said. I debated whether or not to comment, since I'm pretty certain my opinion will be unpopular.. But here goes:
My heart breaks for families that experience loss; both of a baby and of an older child. And I think that grief is a very personal experience that differs for everyone. I don't think that a mother or father sharing a loss story is taboo.
However, I really don't understand taking a picture and sharing it with others. You wouldn't take a picture of your relative or friend at a funeral home and share that all over social media. Why is this different? To me, it's unnecessary, the same way I don't want to see getting hurt or beat up, or pictures of abused animals on social media. We live in a culture that no longer understands boundaries or what's appropriate. And to share a picture of a complete stranger's baby? Hell no.
first son stillborn 7/20/13 at 39 weeks due to Acute Fatty Liver of Pregnancy
It's a girl! Baby Anna was born August 3, 2014!
I guess the hope is that someone will see that story and actually feel comforted by it. I personally seek out stillbirth stories because I need to remind myself that it happens to others too with no rhyme or reason and that people can actually get through it somehow.
first son stillborn 7/20/13 at 39 weeks due to Acute Fatty Liver of Pregnancy
It's a girl! Baby Anna was born August 3, 2014!