Wednesday Throat Punch

blackbird818 · July 2014

Daily vents, frustrations, shitty shit, etc. go here.

rubysi · July 2014

I guess this would be a crazy train item if it were TTC related. I have to interview for my new assistant today. I am nervous because the candidates are people I have worked with for years. I know their strengths and weaknesses. I also know my store manager is also not interested in them. Leaving me to fight if I want one. TP him! Grrr...

blackbird818 · July 2014

(((HUGS))) @ktlovess. I hate incompetent/lazy co-workers

michiganbeauty · July 2014

I'm wondering why this is a support group and were expected to give support as well as receive it but I see some very hurtful and condescending replies to some if these ladies posts? I was very hurt for these ladies coming here and including all of us in on a very traumatic time in their lives and to see people pouring their hearts out due to grief and possibly excitement reaching out for similar stories and to have them shot down makes me rethink what this group is really about. I saw ladies posting about how they needed to drink now and pour vodka ect because they were disgusted by someone's post, really? Drinking while on a TTC board? I don't understand how it's okay for people here to treat others differently based in how long they've been posting here. That's my TP Wednesday rant; women who don't treat other women they way that want to be treated.

michiganbeauty · July 2014

Never once said anyone was horrible here. Guilty much?

What I'm seeing is that it's very necessary to be more encouraging and less belittling and harsh when your dealing with women whom have great losses, such as yourself.

What I'm implying is that everyone old and new can be more encouraging. It goes a long way.

I was turned off from even joining this group at first because if it, then realized I am and will be an encourager here on this board to other women dispute if it all.

P.S If your clearly NOT TTC as you stated, that's not a part of TTC. Perhaps it's you that should leave. Your under a GETTING PREGNANT & LOSSES TTC BOARD. It's hurtful to women here that are TTC when you post in their threads you need to go drink because of their posts.

rslh10 · July 2014

It's not about someone who's been here longer treating people differently, it's about those new people taking the time to read the giant threads that say "READ THIS BEFORE POSTING HERE"....before posting. They have so much information in them, and it also links you to a blog with EVEN MORE information. It's not about us being bitches, or being rude.

Don't you remember taking the test in high school where your teacher would tell you to read all the directions before starting and then it turns out if you didn't, there was like something in them that said "Don't answer any questions and leave this test blank" and you actually didn't read the directions, so you answered all the questions and looked like an idiot cus you didn't read the directions....

There are a lot of people on this board, and personalities are going to clash. It's life. I don't know how long you've been here, or what threads you've read so far, but to me 99% of everything posted on this board is positive, and helpful. Just because someone may say it in a matter of fact way, instead of spewing it out with rainbows and glitter doesn't make it any less positive. Sorry if you were offended by whatever post you're referring to. I personally think the drinking gifs are hilarious, and lighthearted, unless of course the person has a drinking problem.

ETA- I am literally the nicest person you will come across.I swear it. I'm not trying to be a dick. When someone comes in here TP'ing the women who I know to be loving, caring, supportive and have held my hand through my super dark hours...I get a little angry. So, please don't come in here after a total of 5 comments to your name and not expect a little anger from us if that's what you're going to post.

blackbird818 · July 2014

@michiganbeauty you've been here a whole freaking day and already telling us how horrible we are

and

Oh and yea I drink. I've been here for over a year and TTC for nearly 2 years. So I fucking drink bc ya know what? Trying to conceive after a loss SUCKS. Not ovulating on my own SUCKS. Knowing I may never have children SUCKS.

So how about you don't judge me for wanting a glass of wine (or 4 for that matter)
X(

michiganbeauty · July 2014

Negativity is apart of it ehh? Then why so bent out of shape when someone points out something you don't like?

It's okay for you, but not others? This is my point.

Okay ladies calming my tits now. Lol. Have a good one!

michiganbeauty · July 2014

Who's judging? I simply said belittling someone for their choices and in the same comment mention how you need to chug vodka is NOT ENCOURAGING NOR SUPPORTIVE In ANYWAY SHAPE OR FORM!

michiganbeauty · July 2014

I'm in several supportive boards and have never ever ever come across one like this. It's sad.

rslh10 · July 2014

@ktlovess :x

LaRomana09 · July 2014

@michiganbeauty I would really suggest getting to know the board and the ladies on it a bit better before you start judging how we do things here. The ladies that you are insulting are some of the most supportive you will find, and when they call someone out on a post, there is a reason for it. Also, please be aware that there are ladies here in various stages, including many who are TTA for a variety of reasons, and telling them that they don't belong here is not okay.

rslh10 · July 2014

Right, @amybunny30?! Kt is the best. We love you!

michiganbeauty · July 2014

Likewise.

I wasn't commenting to be mean or rude. My original comment suggested being more encouraging to EVERYONE. I'm sorry if there is no way to have that come off nicely. Fact is it don't matter however it was said because people don't like it anyway.

Possibly one day I might come across YOUR THREAD and give you some hope and encouragement you've been needing. That's why I'm here. I'm not here to be the "new girl in town".

I'm blessed by nature to be a very reasonable, honest and loving woman and I accept it for what it is despite my circumstances.

You ladies got me all wrong.

michiganbeauty · July 2014

It's really hard given what I've been reading in other ladies post. It brought me to tears last night knowing these women are hurting and possibly have no where else to go and ultimately were rejected by this group.

Yes, I cried for them. All of them.

blackbird818 · July 2014

ktlovess said:

michiganbeauty said:

I'm in several supportive boards and have never ever ever come across one like this. It's sad.

@michiganbeauty - I don't see how ANYTHING you have posted thus far is supportive.

This exactly!!!!

OMG I'm sick on wasting my time and energy on someone who has done nothing for this board!!! Hey michigan(notbeautifulinside)beauty, step off it seriously. Don't come for ktlovess bc it will not go over well, not on the main board but especially here.

I suggest you go back into lurking and get a better feel for how this board operates. Or you can just leave. Because seriously at this point I'm over you attacking an established board member who does so much for others here and who I personally call a friend.
:-w

michiganbeauty · July 2014

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CreechMommy · July 2014

TP to this month - it's been a really tough one

And TP to my OB for oh so many reasons

rslh10 · July 2014

CreechMommy said:
TP to this month - it's been a really tough one
And TP to my OB for oh so many reasons

Sorry about the shitty month and crappy OB!! Big hugs, lady!

michiganbeauty · July 2014

Oh goodness sakes! This is a vent tread right???? Why are you so angry and upset at my "vent"??

michiganbeauty · July 2014

Have a great one ladies, I'm done on this thread.

blackbird818 · July 2014

michiganbeauty said:

Have a great one ladies, I'm done on this thread.

GOOD
:-h

mpiemont · July 2014

ktlovess said:

michiganbeauty said:

Have a great one ladies, I'm done on this thread.

Just kidding....

I just read this whole thread and wanted to cry, yell, slap, scream, punch, etc etc etc

Then I saw this gem by @ktlovess and I laughed my ass off. THIS is why you're so loved. Well this and a million other reasons.

QuigleyCat1 · July 2014

michiganbeauty said:

Who's judging? I simply said belittling someone for their choices and in the same comment mention how you need to chug vodka is NOT ENCOURAGING NOR SUPPORTIVE In ANYWAY SHAPE OR FORM!

First of all, I am very sorry for your loss and wish you didn't have to be here due to such a painful situation, truly. That's nice Quigley.....

Now....WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE TELLING ANYONE, NEWBIE, OLDIE OR OTHERWISE, TO LEAVE????????????????????????? So incredibly rude! I've been here for almost 3 years. I am currently TTA but TTCAL is my HOME. Most likely my husband and I are done trying, but this place has helped me more than you could ever fathom and therefore I'm still a part of this community. These incredible women did a Sunshine Mission for me and my husband when our sweet Liam went to Heaven. You have no idea the love, compassion, sisterhood and treasures that came in that box in the mail. It saved us. And you trounce in here and tell my friends to leave? Shame on you. By the way... the whole idea of talking about drinking with certain threads....it's supposed to be in humor. Stick around, and you'll see why. I mean you just intro'd today and are questioning our "ways" when so many of us have been here for so long. It's a community. It's a group of friends. It's a means of support. GET WITH IT! Apologies go a very long way here and it would do you well to say you're sorry. I've done it myself way back when. But telling us how to behave in a place that no one wants to be in the first place....not cool.

P.S. Maybe if you don't leave you could read the TTCAL blog and play nice. We are the group of women you want to have by your side. Trust me.

michiganbeauty · July 2014

Well here I am again:

1. When I first posted my original vent I was not singling anyone out.

2. When I included the drinking example I didn't mean to offend anyone who has a drinking problem or who likes to drink. What I was referring to were the little comments that were meant to be funny by some posters that were suggesting the original posters thread was not worthy of their comments of encouragement but were rather purposely MOCKING in a childish manner, using those insulting pictures and making comments among other things. my apologies if I didn't make that crystal clear in my first post above. @ktlovess‌, my apologies if you felt attacked. It wasn't my intention to hurt you referring to my drinking comment. Like I stated above it wasn't meant to be hurtful to those who do have an issue with alcohol. It took me a bit to understand that it could be possible you've got a problem with alcohol and I never meant to minimize that. My problem was not with you, it was the ladies on a thread that were mocking another lady because they thought her question was stupid. It never occurred to me until now that it could have been taken as a low blow to women in here who have trouble with alcohol and that's not how I meant it.

3. I don't know any of you and rightfully so, you don't know me either.

4. I was the first one who was asked to leave first, because of my vent. And later on was told to shoo like a fly. Lol.

5. Never once heard "drink until it's pink". I don't get that one bit. Women TTC should not be drinking from what I've heard.

michiganbeauty · July 2014

Then I'm really confused to why you care so damn much!

QuigleyCat1 · July 2014

michiganbeauty said:

Well here I am again: 1. When I first posted my original vent I was not singling anyone out. 2. When I included the drinking example I didn't mean to offend anyone who has a drinking problem or who likes to drink. What I was referring to were the little comments that were meant to be funny by some posters that were suggesting the original posters thread was not worthy of their comments of encouragement but were rather purposely MOCKING in a childish manner, using those insulting pictures and making comments among other things. my apologies if I didn't make that crystal clear in my first post above. @ktlovess‌, my apologies if you felt attacked. It wasn't my intention to hurt you referring to my drinking comment. Like I stated above it wasn't meant to be hurtful to those who do have an issue with alcohol. It took me a bit to understand that it could be possible you've got a problem with alcohol and I never meant to minimize that. My problem was not with you, it was the ladies on a thread that were mocking another lady because they thought her question was stupid. It never occurred to me until now that it could have been taken as a low blow to women in here who have trouble with alcohol and that's not how I meant it. 3. I don't know any of you and rightfully so, you don't know me either. 4. I was the first one who was asked to leave first, because of my vent. And later on was told to shoo like a fly. Lol. 5. Never once heard "drink until it's pink". I don't get that one bit. Women TTC should not be drinking from what I've heard.

To the bolded...... :-O And to #5 on your LIST...some women choose to not drink while TTC but now you're sort of shaming those that do. Many of us choose to continue life as normal until that test turns positive. Good Lord!

Km380 · July 2014

Damn I leave for an hour and look what I missed. I just read this whole damn thing. Hey @ktlovess‌ I love you lady! You are amazing and I know a whole pile of newbs that's would agree with me. And also big (((hugs))) @EurydiceNymph‌ @blackbird818‌ @QuigleyCat1‌ and all the other supportive women here. There are so many it would take me forever to tag all of you.

TVLily · July 2014

ktlovess said:

@michiganbeauty - WTF! I do not have an issue with alcohol.

Please just STOP digging a hole.

This exactly. Please stop, take a break and step back for a few days. I'm sorry for your loss. But this community of amazing, supportive, beautiful and strong women have been around for a long time. Rules and etiquette has been long established to help and protect us all as we try to navigate our new place in this incredibly torturous journey. We have women who are fresh from a loss, tta, ttcal, ttcal with if/or facing high risk pregnancies if they are lucky enough to one day become pregnant, have suffered multiple losses, are AMA and are coming to terms with bring child free not by choice or ending their ttc journies. My point is were all in different places. We love all of our members here and everyone brings great things to this board to make it the amazing community it is.

It is not your right to ever tell someone they don't belong here, @ktlovess‌ is an amazing incredible member and it makes me sad you won't get to know that. But I don't blame her either because in this journey you have to protect your heart and your behaviour to her has been appalling ( (((hugs))) KT).

So my suggestion is to take some more time to lurk. Get a feel for the board and decide if this is the right place for you before you continue to say things you will probably regret later. If you find yourself wanting to say I strongly suggest sincerely apologizing to KT and the other
women you have hurt here.

Eta: sp

michiganbeauty · July 2014

I apologize to all of you women whom I've hurt and offended. I'll just keep lurking. Wishing you all well.

MrsKush1014 · July 2014

Holy shit, what just happened. I've been so busy with work I haven't seen any of this until now.

So many {{hugs}} @ktlovess

blackbird818 · July 2014

Well first off

((hint hint: that's called sarcasm....look it up))

Second, anyone for Bingo?

Now in all seriously, why are you still here?? I mean we're mean, horrible, alcoholic bitches (according to you)

So FFS just find somewhere else to be "encouraging" bc this is NOT the place for you.

jjbmstinco · July 2014

I am late to this this but I want to add. While you have bashed @ktlovess, I am here to tell you about all the wonderful things she has done for me personally. I am fairly new, so I am sure she has done much more for this board than you ever will.

1. She welcomed me when I came.

2. She took the time to answer my questions about what is normal after my loss.

3. When I was having a bad week with 6 announcements, she was there to support me. She didn't tell me to suck it up. Their fertility doesn't effect yours blah blah blah. I know all those things, I just needed someone to tell me its going to be ok.

4. Her and this whole board has been nothing but supporting and encouraging. People IRL don't get it. No one knows what to say to me. No one is uplifting when they just are clueless. Again, @ktlovess and this board is the whole reason that I have hope again.

How dare you tell women to leave because they are benched! This board is all some women have to talk about their loss. You might not be bashing "anyone specific" but you are attacking my beloved community. I will not stand here and allow you bully these women.

LEAVE before you cause anymore problems in this wonderful group of loves.

jjbmstinco · July 2014

@eurydicenymph- I am sorry. ((hugs)).

rslh10 · July 2014

EurydiceNymph said:
I want to TP everyone I have come in contact with today, except you wonderful ladies.

First, for the fourth time the phlebs at the lab I have to go to have used a surface vein instead of the actually good vein that I have that is deep and not visible but could be found if they would spend more than 2 seconds feeling around.

Second, to my Grandmother-in-law whom I love but she is the type of person who always has to be upset at someone. Today it is me. I called and left her a message regarding my procedure tomorrow, but she didn't listen to it and found out through the grapevine. At which point she called a family friend who took it upon herself to call and yell at me because GiL was "in tears" that she didn't know, and then also piled on ever single grievance that she has with Hubs and I. Fun.

Third to the damn pharmacy. The doctor called in the script for miso yesterday. I went to pick it up today and the pharmacist was a bitch. She said that she had been waiting for me because they don't have miso in stock. She then asked if I can come get it tomorrow. I said that no, I need it tonight at which point she very condescendingly told me that I should have come yesterday and not waited until the last minute. I asked why she didn't call me, to which she said "well, I don't have a phone number for you now do I?" Okay, why didn't you call the doctor? And if you can get the pills in 24 hours why didn't you order them yesterday when it was called in instead of waiting until you saw me to order them?? So now she is calling other pharmacies to see if anyone has it.

Big hugs beautiful! Also, I'm sorry about your alcoholism (I mean, you did poat a drinking gif...)

Km380 · July 2014

@EurydiceNymph‌ tp that pharmacist! I hope she finds it for you

Tp to my dr office for not returning my call with my test results! Damnit! Now they're closed

MSU_Girl1202 · July 2014

@EurydiceNymph‌ , @ktlovess‌ , huge TP to all the inconsiderate people who are making your days harder. You don't deserve that. Big ((hugs))

michiganbeauty · July 2014

It was sad seeing some women mocked and laughed at and of course they were new ladies to the board, just like myself. Thats what hurt. Coming here for support and seeing other women mocked. That's all. I hurt for a lot of people all the time. Never said anyone was an angry drunk. Look at all my posts. Never once said that. But anyhow, thanks for your concern. I've for a counselor and a wonderful one at that. He's everything a grieving women could want in one. I never singled any one of you ladies out at all. But I understand I'm the new woman here and all you "oldies" stuck together. It wouldn't matter what I said or who or what someone here would be upset about it. I could say the sky was blue and get berated for it just because I'm new here.

rslh10 · July 2014

EurydiceNymph said:
@rslh10 and @ktlovess We can start a support group. That isn't supportive. And if you're not actively not trying to drink you have to leave.

KT I do have a problem

( you caught me. Raging alcoholic.

Gladly be joining this group...and with that....I'm getting Mexican tonight which shall include a margarita.

michiganbeauty · July 2014

Queen B of the group are you?

michiganbeauty · July 2014

If someone addresses me do I not have a right to respond?
Maybe people should stop tagging me, and likewise.

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