Monday Bitchfest

mamajack86 · July 2014

@jengalbraith818‌ I see what you mean. There are definitely board trolls on here, but it's to be expected of a public forum. I just ignore (scroll past) any nasty comments. I'm sure within the next few months moms with similar qualities will find each other. I personally am not the type to make snarky or rude comments to people in my "real life" therefore couldn't justify doing it on here either. But hey we all have different personalities then to add raging pregnancy hormones to it. It is pretty annoying though to see the repeat discussion posts (within reason, I wouldn't expect someone to go 5pages back) so I get how it can trigger people to get annoyed or rude.

kcbizme · July 2014

I can't get my avatar to change on the forums, but it's changed on mybump. WTH?

FrecklesInside · July 2014

jengalbraith818 said:

Am I allowed more than one? LOL I am shocked at how NASTY some people can be on these chat boards! I saw a young girl/first time mom ask a question that, yes seemed silly and something they should know, but why make her feel even worse about it? And then all these posts about you have to do this and you have to do that? Why do I HAVE to do anything? So that I can fit into the click? sorry not my thing. I came on here for support, information and to talk with people who were going through the same thing I am and it just seems like there are know it alls on here that have nothing better to do than make another mama feel like garbage. I am 37 years old and having my 5th child. If a 16 year old comes on here and asks how to read a pregnancy test, tell her and support her like you would have wanted support if God forbid, you were in that situation. If someone is having problems with a SO, instead of making her feel like the father of her baby is garbage, support her and lift her up!
ok end of rant!

Again? I should really copy my response to these types of posts so that I can respond more easily. We've had more than our fair share of people trying to change this board already.

I don't see nasty responses on this board. I actually see a TON of support and a lot of awesome women. I'll say it for the umpteenth time: TB is known for a certain culture - you need to show intelligence, be somewhat witty, have a good sense of humor, be open, and yes, there is some snark. This is the tone of the board. If it doesn't work for you, there are a ton of pregnancy boards, but you will be missing out because once you get used to the tone of this board, you can see what an awesome resource it is and how many incredible and smart women are here.

When people genuinely NEED support, I see it given. Also, one must give support to get support - when newbs come on and post a question without searching, introing, or becoming active on the board, it is rude on their part. They are using the board as their personal Google and their support bra. Not what we're here for. We are a community. Become a part of the community and you will definitely get support. Now, if you say something stupid, it is pretty likely that you'll get some snark, but nothing to get your panties in a twist over. It's the internet. Take a chill pill.

JNCPro3130 · July 2014

We were busy and then lazy this weekend. DH had to leave to go out of town this morning so we had to frantically pack everything. He was was snippy with me, which caused me to be snippy back. It was a rough start to the day.

THEN, I went to the doctor to get a physical done for insurance. The doctor pricked my finger to get blood for my cholesterol. Apparently, my triglyceride level was so low that my LDL level couldn't be calculated. She had to prick another finger and had the same results. It was annoying. She had no idea what to do and called 4 or 5 people to figure out how to fill in my paperwork, then close out my chart, and then freaked me out by saying I needed to call my OB because my low levels might be bad for the baby. I got to the place at 8:30, waited to be seen for an hour, and left at 10:30. P.S. OB isn't worried at all, so that's good news!

kcbizme · July 2014

kcbizme said:

I can't get my avatar to change on the forums, but it's changed on mybump. WTH?

Yay it finally changed!

kschref · July 2014

DS knows how to roll in both directions (not crawling yet) but only likes to roll in one direction. When he gets stuck against a wall/piece of furniture, he starts crying instead of rolling back the other way. And I'm the sucker that "resets" him in the middle of the room because I'm so tired/nauseated I don't have the patience to let him figure it out today.

janda426 · July 2014

Board trolls? Seriously? Giving all the newbs advice on how to be recognized amongst the masses is being rude? Grow a fucking pair. God damn.

Or better yet- leave if you don't like it. I like the fact that this isn't like baby center or what to expect and we aren't all just nameless people wandering around aimlessly asking the same questions over and over.

Also, bitching about all the women on this board isn't what Monday bitchfest is for. It's about real problems. Get over yourself people.

DarkSerendipity · July 2014

Monday can fuuuuuuuuuck oooooooooff.

Horrible day today. Morning sickness hit like 2 tons of bricks this morning as SOON as I woke up. And it's still going strong.

Monday: Fffffffffuuuuuuuuuu!

cafecreme · July 2014

transplantedhawkeye said:

cafecreme

Thanks, I'm thankful I'm mostly okay too, especially considering what I now know.

Hope your MIL is just having minor spasms from the shock of the accident and that it is nothing serious.

I've never been in a serious accident, so I don't know what's "normal". Did you have spasms for a few days after your crash?

nina&bill · July 2014

Silly boy dog rolled in something nasty and I had to clean him! DH is on a ship in Angola! Had to clean him at home and now my back hurts.

wendyld · July 2014

cafecreme said:

transplantedhawkeye said:

cafecreme

Thanks, I'm thankful I'm mostly okay too, especially considering what I now know.

Hope your MIL is just having minor spasms from the shock of the accident and that it is nothing serious.

I've never been in a serious accident, so I don't know what's "normal". Did you have spasms for a few days after your crash?

You can, for sure. Muscle spasms never let the muscle relax, so they just keep spasm-ing for a while.

transplantedhawkeye · July 2014

cafecreme

I had very mild aches and pains in the rest of my body, but my ER doc said they are very common and gave me a prescription for diazepam/valium for that very reason, and scripts for motrin and vicodin for my sprains and fracture. Again we both didn't know I was pregnant at the time.

But those spasms are common, and often you don't notice them for at least a day after the accident, or at least that's what my ER crew said, and it sounded familiar from other stories I heard.

honkytonk_kid · July 2014

I am so tired of being a nurse and it makes me sad.

I WANT to love being a nurse, like saving lives and holding hands and relating to blog posts about the heart of nursing and laughing at #whatshouldwecallnursing like I'm part of some secret society of badass nurses, but man... I feel like a trained monkey. I pass meds, clean up crap, and never have enough time to really get to know my patients. And people are mean.

I need to find another area of nursing. This was a rough day.

transplantedhawkeye · July 2014

honkytonk_kid said:

I am so tired of being a nurse and it makes me sad.

I WANT to love being a nurse, like saving lives and holding hands and relating to blog posts about the heart of nursing and laughing at #whatshouldwecallnursing like I'm part of some secret society of badass nurses, but man... I feel like a trained monkey. I pass meds, clean up crap, and never have enough time to really get to know my patients. And people are mean.

I need to find another area of nursing. This was a rough day.

Been there! I did way too many years in LTC.

I switched to postpartum and have felt much better about my career and feel like it is going somewhere. I'd even planned to get my masters and was going to start applying for Nurse Education programs until I got the surprise BFP.

If you're in a hospital, can you ask to be floated to another unit, at least just for a day?

honkytonk_kid · July 2014

transplantedhawkeye said:

honkytonk_kid said:

I am so tired of being a nurse and it makes me sad.

I WANT to love being a nurse, like saving lives and holding hands and relating to blog posts about the heart of nursing and laughing at #whatshouldwecallnursing like I'm part of some secret society of badass nurses, but man... I feel like a trained monkey. I pass meds, clean up crap, and never have enough time to really get to know my patients. And people are mean.

I need to find another area of nursing. This was a rough day.

Been there! I did way too many years in LTC.

I switched to postpartum and have felt much better about my career and feel like it is going somewhere. I'd even planned to get my masters and was going to start applying for Nurse Education programs until I got the surprise BFP.

If you're in a hospital, can you ask to be floated to another unit, at least just for a day?

I do med/tele. I float sometimes but it's to transplant, pcu, ed obs, etc. Same crap, different floor, lol.

I really want to do lactation consulting. I've done the classes, and just need the clinical hours. I should try to transfer to postpartum. Basically I stay because they let me work once a week, whenever I want. Pretty sweet deal but not sure how much longer I can take it

Juniperroach · July 2014

I don't think anyone will be on my side but I'm pissed I have to give up myself for my relationship. I fear if DH is my only friend I'll go crazy. He works all the time and I'm free during the week. I work weekends. I took off Friday and we were suppose to go visit a mutual friend. He's like F her I'm working. I said ok ill visit her Thursday & Friday& you and I can do something on the weekend. I took off work. I ditched my gay friend earlier this summer for DH because he can never fn be alone. I invited said gay friend along for Thursday & now DH is freaking out. I thought I'd kill two birds with one stone and see two friends. Now I gotta either ditch him again (he's going to plan my baby shower so he's a really good friend) or ditch DH who of course I'm suppose to choose. Of course DH wants to get back at me and go hang out with his friends that I apparently keep him from. I guess I'm angry he's so vindictive and acts like I'm trying to sabatoge him. I'm so sick of his drama I seriously would only get upset if he went away with friends because he never has time for me but I wish he did have more friends he's driving me crazy! I just feel disempowered and I see my future alone with a kid and him as my only friend and I had a panic attack and now I'm worried my baby will he messed up :-S

Juniperroach · July 2014

Also I wish there was a hug option because some posts I don't want to say love it when it's awful news. Maybe there is I'm using my phone idk

kcbizme · July 2014

krystaloowho said:

Hope I am not too late to the bitchfest. Today SO got stuck in the middle of downtown because her vehicle wouldn't start. Worst part is we just threw a bunch of money into it 2 weeks ago because it was driving rough and needed all new spark plugs and a coil and some other things. I want to put this thing out to pasture but SO is attached to her jeep jeep and loves that it's paid off and we don't have a car payment right now. But I don't need the stress. I swear it makes the m/s worse.

This was me 8 months ago. I loved my Jeep but it had to GO! It was leaking fluid from every possible place it could leak fluid and it was about to die! I sold it cheap and used the money for a down payment on a new car, which was probably one of the best investments I could have made. Just food for thought! I hope it works out for you!

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jhefley · July 2014

I am joining in a bit late...my bitchfest is about my MIL.

I just am trying to involve her by telling her how big the baby is each week. So when I first told her, it was a blueberry, so she decided to call it blueberry for the rest of its life. I told her the baby will grow and change each time.

So the past two weeks I have sent the update of last week a walnut size and this week an olive. She responded back that my FIL doesn't like olives. It's like okay? I am just trying to tell you the size, not that it is an olive. Then she said, that baby is just going to be a fruit basket at the end. Maybe I shouldn't be upset about it, but I am.

I think calling your grandchild a fruitbasket is kinda mean when I am just trying to be nice and involve you in something. gurrrrr.

ngolimento · July 2014

jhefley said:
I am joining in a bit late...my bitchfest is about my MIL.
I just am trying to involve her by telling her how big the baby is each week. So when I first told her, it was a blueberry, so she decided to call it blueberry for the rest of its life. I told her the baby will grow and change each time.
So the past two weeks I have sent the update of last week a walnut size and this week an olive. She responded back that my FIL doesn't like olives. It's like okay? I am just trying to tell you the size, not that it is an olive. Then she said, that baby is just going to be a fruit basket at the end. Maybe I shouldn't be upset about it, but I am.
I think calling your grandchild a fruitbasket is kinda mean when I am just trying to be nice and involve you in something. gurrrrr.

Lol, you are a better person than me, I'm only giving the in-laws information if they pry it out of me with a crowbar. They are nosy manipulative jerks for the most part. I only like my MIL and my BIL.

kcbizme · July 2014

jhefley said:

I am joining in a bit late...my bitchfest is about my MIL.
I just am trying to involve her by telling her how big the baby is each week. So when I first told her, it was a blueberry, so she decided to call it blueberry for the rest of its life. I told her the baby will grow and change each time.
So the past two weeks I have sent the update of last week a walnut size and this week an olive. She responded back that my FIL doesn't like olives. It's like okay? I am just trying to tell you the size, not that it is an olive. Then she said, that baby is just going to be a fruit basket at the end. Maybe I shouldn't be upset about it, but I am.
I think calling your grandchild a fruitbasket is kinda mean when I am just trying to be nice and involve you in something. gurrrrr.

LOL I'm sorry but I couldn't help laughing at this. I am doing the same thing, but I get NO response from the in-laws. When we told them, their response was "What are your plans for the future? How do you plan to provide for this child? What are you doing to prepare yourselves?" blah blah blah! Not once did my MIL even say congratulations or I'm happy for you. Then she went so far as to ask me to keep her involved. BE HAPPY FOR ME! Whether you like it or not, this is happening! Sorry to burst your bubble!

Don't you just love in-laws?

Oh - and it looks like you and I have the same due date! Congrats!

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