Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
I really can't believe how well-liked she is here.
Re: seriously?
::stands up for my bfpb::
It's called a SENSE OF HUMOR.
GET ONE!
Are you serious? McCauley is the snark ringleader?
BWAHAHAHAHAHA. Breathe. BWAHAHAHAHAAHA.
wondering the same thing?
ABC you'd better show her who really is boss around here. LOL
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she obviously doesn't know you....anti-Christ. hehe
"When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible"--Harry, When Harry Met Sally
Yeah really, we all know ABC is the queen around here.
::bows down::
ummm....HI...great first post, ever.
I'm not sure what you were trying to accomplish by posting this - but if you wanted to turn us against MissMcCauley - you have not succeeded.
LOL ?i love miss mc and all.....but she's nothing. ? why dont you try some of the girls who've been on gp a really long time.
and i usually ignore things i don't like. ?how adult of me. ?and you my dear need some help. ?you could try a pm next time. and i dont think her age/job/number of heads should mean anything to you. ??
No really, this should be good. Please continue.
I'm pretty sure we all agree that you warrant flaming
me too!
and if you don't like us (or her) you can go away now
No, being 21, trying less than 6 months and married less than a year is NOT flame worthy.
Everyone here has their own story. Lest we forget, our ancestors had children as teenagers (some of them, anyway). Judge elsewhere.
People decide they want to have children at different times in their lives. If she and her DH are happy and want to have a baby who are we to judge her. I wouldn't care if she were dating and wanting to have a baby. I would try to persuade her to wait if she were in her teens but she is an adult and fully capable to make decisions in her life.
Hey doucheface- I am 25, been married for only 7 months, and haven't even started trying. AAAHHHH !!!! FLAMMMMEEE ME!!!!
Hmm, don't let these girls getcha down. ?I would applaud your guts, but my guess is that you are an AE of someone who was snarked on this board. ?I suggest you visit Babies on the Brain. ?You might fit in better there:
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/4110108/ShowForum.aspx ?
And honestly, I'm not going to waste my time with this, but it may be my 4th cycle TTC, but we've been trying since May so that's more than six months. So if you want to play detective, at least get your facts straight! And there's a lot of women on here that have been married less than one year.
Then I take back my first reply. ?I thought you were complaining about snark in general. ?My bad.
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then why all the effort?? why create a name to talk to a bunch of lame girls?
seriously? ?im not so sure we were getting her down....she started this rubbish...
WTF?
She is no where near the snark ring leader. And who cares if she's only 21 and married less than a year. There are a lot of ladies that young and married less than a year trying to start a family.
I barely know her but what does her age, how long she's been married or how long she has been ttc matter to you?
Lemme guess, she pissed you off on the knot and ou figured you'd try to show her up here by being big and tough? Very mature.
good snark?
A. no newbie would use that term-AE
B. if that is your version of snark-FAIL.?
I was being facetious.?
I'd also like to know:
1) Where exactly McCauley is "freaking out over not being pregnant"
2) Why it's a big deal that she has baby clothes already? Are you blind to all the others in that post who said they also have started buying baby stuff?
3) What your point is? Did you think we were gonna say, "Yeah, ya know what? She IS a biitch! Get out McCauley, you are banned!"
Dumbasss.
agree!
awesome!