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FFFC: can we keep the fires burning?

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Re: FFFC: can we keep the fires burning?

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  • edited July 2014

    I have no regrets about past drug use, my friends and I had a crazy few summers back in the day and tried some seriously hard stuff. I'm honestly surprised sometimes how we all turned out ok. I have no interest in doing any of that again, but would seriously move to Washington or Colorado if it was feasible. I'm the opposite of most people, I like to visit the garage and reorganize our closets, instead of vegging out, though I don't get to do it as often as I would like.

    Garage time + cleaning is literally HEAVEN. IFL it. 

    Especially if there is warm water and soap involved. 



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  • I have no regrets about past drug use, my friends and I had a crazy few summers back in the day and tried some seriously hard stuff. I'm honestly surprised sometimes how we all turned out ok. I have no interest in doing any of that again, but would seriously move to Washington or Colorado if it was feasible. I'm the opposite of most people, I like to visit the garage and reorganize our closets, instead of vegging out, though I don't get to do it as often as I would like.

    Garage time + cleaning is literally HEAVEN. IFL it. 

    Especially if there is warm water and soap involved. 
    Yes! It's pretty much the only time the bathtubs get cleaned.
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  • edited July 2014
    I'll probably delete this, but just to satisfy curiosity, it was *****. 
    I don't even know what that is.

    (Starred it out in case you delete sleepyjesus.)
    If you missed this, PM me lol



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  • Debbie Downer Warning:


    H had a physical for work yesterday and his urine sample came back questionable.  Because of family history (his mom died of cancer at a very early age) they want to do a blood draw and have him come back in in two weeks.

    I'm FREAKING out.  I'm not even sure what to look up to get more information.  

    Confession part:  I'm thiiiis close to cutting H's father out of the picture.  He has made zero effort to come see us since the baby has been born, and yesterday when H called him to talk to him about the doctor's appointment FIL's reaction was basically "oh, that's interesting.  Hey, let me tell you a story about my horseshoes tourny last weekend.".  It's like he doesn't give two shits about his family, and I can tell it's really starting to affect H.  With this new issue the last thing I want him worrying about is his low-life father.  
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  • MrsBadKat said:
    Okay, but I'm going to be okay, right?? Someone tell me I am going to be okay.
    You are fine!

    @triple598, nitrous is nitrous oxide.  Laughing gas.  Or what they give you at the dentists office.  You buy a tank and pass out balloons of it.  

    They always sell that shit after fests on the street, under this bridge by my place.  It causes a major walking people traffic jam and it's annoying. 
  • MrsBadKat said:
    Okay, but I'm going to be okay, right?? Someone tell me I am going to be okay.
    I think it would have been a more immediate thing.  You are probably going to be okay.


  • I don't know if this was mentioned in another post and I missed it, but I heard this morning the radio that Brigham & Woman's hspt in Boston is going to start using Nitrous Oxide in the delivery room.

  • CTGirl30 said:



    This is stupid, but I have felt bad about it since it happened...almost two years ago.

    My gallbladder went wonky and my c/s with DS was done at 37 weeks because I was so sick. He was in the NICU for five days with premature lungs, and it was obviously emotional and scary. I had a 15 month old at home, was dealing with c/s recovery and the gallbladder stuff, and was a wreck with guilt.

    I was visiting him in the NICU and was starting to hurt from sitting (and was due for pain meds and a meal). So as I was putting him back in his bed, he pooped. And instead of, you know, asking for diapers and stuff to change him, I just said to the nurse "I think he just pooped, by the way" and headed out the door.

    I...have no explanation for WTF I was thinking. I sincerely think I was just so overwhelmed and confused and not really present...I have no idea. It didn't even OCCUR to me to change him. They must have hated me right then, because dude. Anytime a NICU nurse posts about parents being assholes, I want to scream "I WAS ONE OF THEM, I DIDN'T  MEAN TO BE!!!!!"

    No joke, I want to call them up two years later and apologize, except I'm entirely sure that's absurd.

    What do you mean about NICU nurses posting about parents being assholes? Can we just discuss how fucked up of a thing THAT is to say about parents who are obviously emotionally drained, frightened, and not in their normal state of rational mindset? 

    Because I don't see anything flameworthy about your confession there. You have to take care of you, too - you were also in recovery from birth and major surgery. The nurse could change a diaper.


    NICU Nurse here. Please don't feel bad! We always tell the parents they have to take care of themselves too.

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  • Hugs @ClaireFraser‌. I'm so sorry.

    Also hugs to @slednecksmomma‌. I hope all turns out ok with your husband's test results, and I'm sorry that your FIL seems detached from his family. That must be frustrating.
                                  

      
                                   
  • I did a shitload of nitrous the other night. 
    See, this shit scares me. Ex had a friend who got addicted and ended up with a ton of nerve damage and started having seizures. He ended up in the hospital and couldn't even walk for a bit. When he did start walking he had to use a cane.
    There are different ways to do nitrous.  I'm sure @mrsbadkat was inhaling some from the balloon and then breathing.

    Some people (my sister) would basically inhale and exhale repeatedly until there was little to no oxygen left in her system and many times would pass out because of this and wake up in a haze.  
    Obviously, nitrous is used in hospitals, so it's not going to kill you to inhale some, but yes, it can probably do some damage if done like my sister did.

    Luckily, she is still somewhat normal ;-)
  • I'm ok with the amount of drugs I did in the past (garage drug a handful of times and lots of drinking), but I do wish I'd had more sex. Much more sex.
                                  

      
                                   
  • @slednecksmomma‌ I won't give out medical ADVICE, but I never mind doing "interpretation," like explaining what terminology means and whatnot. So feel free to ask/PM/whatevs.
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  • I wish I'd tried E. Now I worry I'm too old and too patental.
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    -My son was born in April 2012. He pretty much rules.
  • My fffc is that I sometimes wish MH had more "normal sex urges" more often and initiated more with me.

    Dont get me wrong, one of the big things that drew me to him was that he's not like the average guy, being all pig-headed and horny all the time (sorry, not trying to make forceful generalizations here, but that was the best way I could word this)...and hes super emotional/sensitive, which i love...but sometimes I just want to feel wanted more.

    He also has been struggling with depression, and has recently changed dosages on his meds, so I'm trying to factor that into understanding where he's at, but, meh. Our sex life has been pretty vanilla since i was pg with DS. It definitely ramped up a bit when we were ttc #2, but that ended up happening rather quickly (and I'm fortunate for that!), and then I got sick with morning sickness so sex went out the window.
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  • @Pepperedmoth I may take you up on that after his next appointment, right now all I've got is 3rd hand jumbled up information.  
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  • Why I do like drugs over drinking:

    Molly=no hangover, feel great the next day and am completely clear headed while on it.
    Booze=major hangovers, feel like crap the next day and black out...often.

    But, I still choose to drink because it tends to be more social and I actually enjoy wine with food and what not and there are definitely more risks with manufactured drugs like Molly.


  • gwinny said:
    • I also forgot to put butter in my coffee this morning. I might make another pot in a bit.
    • Never done any drugs. I would go to the garage but the idea of inhaling smoke grosses me out. That being said, my dad did it every single day and I had no idea until I was like 19. I just assumed he was smoking cigarettes.
    • Lived on my own for three years. Loved every second of it, even though I was poor as fuck.
    • I got really annoyed with a nurse the day after C was born because she came in to weigh him, woke us both up, told me he needed a diaper change and left the room. Logically I know it was my responsibility to change him, but at the time it really pissed me off.
    WHAT? This is a thing? Please to explain the bolded.
    Butter coffee is a thing.  I don't know how I feel about it though.
  • @vandelay - where in LA will you be next week, I will also be there Tuesday and Thursday


    Also - a few years ago I had to be evacuated from our airport because someone brought their battery-operated friend in their carry-on, and the TSA agent freaked that it was a bomb.  So you should probably check it ;)
    Gah!!! This is not helping to convince me to take it!!!

    I'm going to be in Ontario on Tuesday through Friday morning. I'm told that doesn't mean I'll be in Canada but I have my doubts. If I hear a lot of apologizing, I'll know I've been lied to.

    Is Ontario close to where you'll be?
                                  

      
                                   
  • CTGirl30 said:
    BOB issues - can't you just remove the batteries and keep separate for the flight?
    Just check it in your main luggage, no batteries. Done and done. 



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  • vandelayvandelay member
    edited July 2014


    vandelay said:

    @vandelay - where in LA will you be next week, I will also be there Tuesday and Thursday


    Also - a few years ago I had to be evacuated from our airport because someone brought their battery-operated friend in their carry-on, and the TSA agent freaked that it was a bomb.  So you should probably check it ;)
    Gah!!! This is not helping to convince me to take it!!!

    I'm going to be in Ontario on Tuesday through Friday morning. I'm told that doesn't mean I'll be in Canada but I have my doubts. If I hear a lot of apologizing, I'll know I've been lied to.

    Is Ontario close to where you'll be?

    I live in Ontario!

    ETA: Yes, it's in Canada. Ontario is a province.


    Lol, apparently Ontario, California is a thing too, though, and that's where I'm going.

    ETA based on your ETA: lol. I promise I've heard of Ontario, Canada!
                                  

      
                                   
  • I don't feel like looking back through the thread, but why are you taking your vibrator on vacation?  It just seems like more work than necessary. 

  • aditigirl said:


    aditigirl said:

    DH and I have had the same argument almost every day for at least a year now, and it's not going to change anytime soon.

    :(
    I feel like an asshole saying this but it's his fault. I'm deaf in my left ear. He knows this but constantly mumbles on that side. I get frustrated and then he gets mad because I'm frustrated.

    Argument ensues. We get over it. Rinse, repeat.


    DH does this to me too !!!!!!  Drives me absolutely insane!!  You would think by now he would remember NOT to mumble!

    Same. My Dr told me it was DH's problem, not mine. He needs to get my attention and then speak.

    DH still gets pissy when he has to repeat himself 4 times.
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