Any other lesbian mom's expecting?

HeatherNLesley · July 2014

My wife and I are pregnant with our first baby, we get silly and sometimes personal, questions. (Like how did that happen? Was it planned?) Does anyone else have this problem?

Momarazzi007 · July 2014

Omg my friends told an idiot one time that her hand turned into a penis for one magical night lol! Not a lesbian, but I crack up everytime I think of that and thought I'd share

HeatherNLesley · July 2014

Haha I just tell every one my wife forgot to wear a condom. Hehe

FrecklesInside · July 2014

Speaking of - where is @wishiwasprego? I haven't seen her in a long time.

chaysefaith · July 2014

@FrecklesInside she's on vaca. But I'm anxiously awaiting her return, I know she had some spotting before she left.

HeatherNLesley · July 2014

How do I change my profile picture?

chaysefaith · July 2014

HeatherNLesley said:

How do I change my profile picture?

Are you on a desktop? If so, click on the little gray head and shoulders guy in the top right corner, he'll take you to your preferences and you can change it from there.

HeatherNLesley · July 2014

Oh boo, I'm on my phone, I'll have to do it when I get home.

MrsT11 · July 2014

Hey hey hey! Pregnant lesbian mom to be over here! My wife and I are also expecting our first!! We are 8 week today! So far no strange questions, as most people in our lives have know that we planned to be mommies come hell or high water! I am a social worker working in a residential setting so I know as soon as the residents find out that I am pregnant, the silly questions will come! They all know that I'm a leabian and married.

HeatherNLesley · July 2014

Yes! I'm so happy to see it as well! I work for an oil rig company so when I tell the truckers I'm married to a woman, and pregnant, they freak out

HeatherNLesley · July 2014

Haha! Sounds like a great plan! Where are you ladies from? My wife and I got lucky and got pregnant our first round trying (we did at home AI). We were so shocked! We expected it to take 6 months or so.

HeatherNLesley · July 2014

P.s. We're from Texas

jessicabrown711 · July 2014

My wife is pregnant. First question my brother had when I told him was.."HOW?!" It's kind of annoying but I guess natural curiousity and some ignorance is to blame! We live in South Dakota.

MrsT11 · July 2014

We are from Long Island , NY. Took us 3 months natural cycle using iui and donor sperm! We were thrilled it happened under 6 months too!

expectingrainbow · July 2014

We are

took us 4 months of ici heard and saw heartbeat today

HeatherNLesley · July 2014

I just can't wait for my appointment! (August 11th!) I'm making my wife get an account on here so she can be included!

expectingrainbow · July 2014

It was amazing not bad at all, my wife said it was a little uncomfortable but they answered all of our questions

MrsT11 · July 2014

Because we used an RE we have actually already had 4 ultrasounds! Once every week since our BFP! So it's been awesome to see our little raspberry grow!!!!! We have our first official appointment at our OB on July 31! How long have you all been married? Have you and your wife already started having the "mommy/mama/mom", what will our baby call each of us, conversation?

HeatherNLesley · July 2014

Yes we have had that conversation! I'm 26 and she's 25, we've been together 4 years and married 2 months lol, we didn't want to wait too long to get pregnant! I want to be called "mama" but my wife wants to be called "baba" it means guardian/protector.

Leather318 · July 2014

Hey there! Heather's wife here. I'm still on the fence about what to be called. I just feel kind of weird being called mom or momma. Maybe its something I'll have to get over. I had read about being called Baba in this great book I read called The Other Mother. Its a collection of stories and advice from non biological lesbian mothers and I would recommend it to everyone. Anyways, this one woman thought Baba felt perfect because it represents its own role in itself. Its not a father, and its different then the "mommy". I guess it depends on how you feel your rolewill be. l just don't see myself as super matronly, but I'm also not a man and have no desire to be. Its a complex thing, really.

MrsT11 · July 2014

Yeah, it's a tough thing! In one respect I'm sure you want to be unique with your names but still hold true to who you are and how you feel about yourself. K and I will probably be "traditional" and stick with mommy and mama since that's how we refer to ourselves to our dogs! Lol! Not to sound ignorant or anything, but for those of you living in TX and SD, how is the gay culture there and how do you anticipate your family being accepted? In NY it's become almost a non issue, but we are still bracing ourselves for what it will be like showing up to the first day of nursery school as our little family....

FrecklesInside · July 2014

Leather318 said:

Hey there! Heather's wife here. I'm still on the fence about what to be called. I just feel kind of weird being called mom or momma. Maybe its something I'll have to get over. I had read about being called Baba in this great book I read called The Other Mother. Its a collection of stories and advice from non biological lesbian mothers and I would recommend it to everyone. Anyways, this one woman thought Baba felt perfect because it represents its own role in itself. Its not a father, and its different then the "mommy". I guess it depends on how you feel your rolewill be. l just don't see myself as super matronly, but I'm also not a man and have no desire to be. Its a complex thing, really.

I really like Baba.

Amber&Reva · July 2014

Pregnant lesbian here too. Got pregnant with our second IUI in November 2013 but lost Brynlee at 19 weeks due to PPROM. Took the suggested 3 cycles off then got Pregnant on our first IUI and we are expecting March 2nd 2015. I do most of my posting on LGBT Parenting but have been lurking here. I kept my pregnancy mainly on the DL last time around so didn't get to many questions how it happened. I have found that most people assume IVF when they do find out because they don't even realize there are other options at an RE's office.

ngolimento · July 2014

Unfortunately it's not something people ever really stop asking. I have a friend/coworker with a beautiful daughter who is 4, and she complains sometimes about having people be nosy about her conception. She likes to yank thier chains by just saying "turkey baster".

expectingrainbow · July 2014

We got married in Iowa, we are located in michigan, and we are going to be mom and mama.

DragonflyDreaming · July 2014

MrsT11 said:
Yeah, it's a tough thing! In one respect I'm sure you want to be unique with your names but still hold true to who you are and how you feel about yourself. K and I will probably be "traditional" and stick with mommy and mama since that's how we refer to ourselves to our dogs! Lol! Not to sound ignorant or anything, but for those of you living in TX and SD, how is the gay culture there and how do you anticipate your family being accepted? In NY it's become almost a non issue, but we are still bracing ourselves for what it will be like showing up to the first day of nursery school as our little family....

I'm straight, but live in Houston, TX, so figured I'd pipe in!

Smaller towns in Texas are not as LGBT friendly, honestly. But the bigger cities (Houston and Austin that I know of!) have a wonderful LGBT community. In Houston, the Montrose is the place to be. You're still going to have a lot of people that judge and discriminate here, depending on the part of town you're in, but for the most part, Houston is just a massive melting pot of people.

MrsT11 · July 2014

That's so awesome to hear! It's wonderful to see progression happening all around!!

robinsoncrew5 · July 2014

I'm not but I just wanted to say congrats to you all!! So exciting!! People will be ignorant regardless and it's super annoying at times. Enjoy this time

HeatherNLesley · July 2014

Thank you! I can deal with ignorance, I know its going to happen lol. Im just excited for this precious life forming inside of me. What a miracle!

brittgirl123 · July 2014

Congrats! I am also queer and pregnant..to get rid of the questions I just call my donor my boyfriend (this is to people who don't really matter)

monikkar · July 2014

Hi! Lesbian mom to be here. This is our first, I'm due 3/29. My wife and I tired for about two year, took a year off and got a bfp our first try back (using clomid and IUI). Most of our close friends know we've been trying an how it works. Once we go public in sure well get all the questions.

She will be mom. Still trying to figure out what I'll be. We are leaning towards mum or ma-ma (muh-mah not momma).

hotmofomom · July 2014

Hi! I am very new to the group. My wife and I are expecting our 1st baby March 17, 2015. I am currently 6 weeks and 5 days today. I am not going to lie as I am scared. I don't look "the part" so I know I will get a lot of questions once The news get out. Anyway, just wanted to reach out .

Leather318 · July 2014

So good to see so many lesbians creating families. We live in New Braunfels, which is between Austin and San Antonio. The community as a whole tends to lean more conservatively, however, we have wonderful friends, family, and coworkers who support us. IWe honeymooned and got legally married in Seattle and I must admit, I fell in love with the open culture and how we really felt we could be ourselves wherever we were. I feel like if my family was not such a huge part of our lives, we'd move somewhere more accepting In a heartbeat. I Want my children to grow up in a place where our family is celebrated, but I also value grandparent relationships so very much. A lot to think about sometimes.

jms627 · July 2014

Not a lesbian mom myself, but know a colleague and her wife were asked "was it planned?"...umm...*shakes head*. People say the dumbest things haha.

wishiwaspreggo · July 2014

Hey! Lesbian mom here (as mentioned by some of these fine ladies). I haven't gotten a lot of intrusive questions but my family and friends already knew we were TTC and we've been very open about the process. I'm bracing myself for the questions of strangers, though, and I'm not looking forward to it. One I'm dreading most: "But which one of you is the REAL mom?" We're both the "real" moms. I just happen to be the incubator and the one who is genetically related.

Leather318 · July 2014

Haha yes, people's awkward questions are my favorite! I feel like we've been really open about it, but I'm already starting to get annoyed with peoples first question being like "but how?" *insert awkward face trying to visualize how that worked*. I mean, I get that its different, but geez, a little tact? I mean, is the first question you ask straight people what position/method they used? I'm all for respectful and tactful discussion but I really am surprised by the lack of thought sometimes. If someone asks who the "real mom" is, I politely say, "we're both very real parents." Which makes them think and then rephrase the question.

MrsT11 · July 2014

I agree with you all, and am definitely trying to embrace the ignorance as an opportunity to teach others. One question that my wife and I had no prepared ourselves to answer or "reveal" was when our family and very close friends asked to see the baby picture of the donor (since that is all the cryo bank gives you). Have any of you been asked that and what have you decided as couples? We spoke about it after being stumped with the question a few times and decided that we are happy to verbally share the physical qualities and attributes of the donor, but that the photos were for us and our kids when they are of age and ask. We didn't do this purposely, but our donor is anonymous so unless the laws change by the time our kids are 18, they will never have info about the donor besides the donor number.

HeatherNLesley · July 2014

My wife @Leather318‌ and I have a known donor, when friends or family ask about it I just let them know that legally we can not say who it is, and that usually ends the conversation.

gailraye · July 2014

Lesbian mama to be. Used donor seed, in home. Positive on first try. 7 weeks. EDD 3/19/15

ATHiker2011 · July 2014

My wife and I are a queer couple.
I'm an ftm and the process was complicated and confusing to a few people in our life. We are lucky to live in boston and have very good healthcare and open minded professionals

goyachula · July 2014

I would agree TX is getting better. There are still ignorant people, obviously. Like the lady at the county's office who refused to help my close friend who was with his partner. I still get annoyed just thinking about it. I'm in N. Texas, Dallas Fort Worth area. But as a whole, it's getting better.

Oh I should say. I'm not lesbian. But I'm carrying for a gay couple.

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