Throat Punch Thursday!

theholmanherd · July 2014

Woooooooohooooooo

catlover790 · July 2014

I have been saving this for today!!

child mentioned***

I would like to TP the family at my RE office on Monday. I drove to my CD3 appointment first thing in the morning, already a little sad that I had a period and was going to have to start treatment. I walk in the door and there is a husband, wife, and little girl (maybe 2?) in the waiting room. I was a little shocked because the past few times I had gone I never saw any kids there and I thought I remember reading that children weren't allowed.

Anyway, I check in and find a chair not facing the family. Then the little girl starts walking around and comes over to me smiling and being cute. She was cute but the mother shouldn't have let her come walking over to people! Everyone else was just kind of staring at the mother or looking away but I was like seriously? The father was there too; if it was a consult they probably shouldn't have brought her anyway because they need to focus on what the RE is saying. If it was another appointment they could've taken turns watching her at home; idk it just bothered me! Also, my RE has a few rooms with couches for the consults maybe they should've put them in there ASAP so they weren't right inside the front door? It was very frustrating to have to feel uncomfortable at my appointment. I feel like it's hard enough to see pregnant ladies and children/babies out at the store, but to have to deal with it while I'm waiting to go in to an appointment!? ugh, so annoying!!

pblge · July 2014

I'm a lurker from the IF board, but I love this board's 'tude so I read a lot! I just can't resist a TP to PIO shots as I did my first one for this FET this am. I HATE them. And I hate that IF/TTTC ladies have to go through this crap but "normal" people don't. Blech.

@catlover790 - That's pretty bad! At my new RE's there's a sign asking patients to make arrangements for children to be cared for before coming to the office, i.e., children are not allowed. It's AWESOME. But even at my old RE's no parent was ever rude enough to think the other patients wanted to interact with their LO's! I probably would have called the mom out on it. Sorry you had to deal with it!

catlover790 · July 2014

@pblge I'm sorry about the shots! Good luck with your FET!

Thanks for the support! I wanted to say something to the mother but I didn't want to cause any problems. I do think I'm going to mention it next time to the secretary, they have an online system where you can submit suggestions/rate your visit.

jennym25 · July 2014

TP to the nurse that didn't call me back yesterday to give me the okay to have a biopsy done on my right foot (for unknown blisters) and need to use lidocaine to numb the area. I had to call back this morning to wait for about 10 min for her to get on the phone and not even apologize to say "it's okay to have the biopsy, it's only one time right?"... I wish I had her in front of me... TP!!

@catlover790‌ - sorry this was uncomfortable, some "parents" just don't understand. They should have known better.

BunnyBerry · July 2014

@catlover90 I'm sorry, that is so rude! It's hard to believe that mom was totally clueless that everyone was uncomfortable. What a horrible person. You are a better person than I am. I would have said something, either to the parents or the office staff.

***child-at-the-office mentioned***

A couple brought their LO (2yo or so girl) to the RE, and she kept being coy and coming over to interact with MH and me. MH loved every minute of it, so I just considered it inspiration for him to keep paying these bills and going to these appointments. But I felt really uncomfortable for other people in the waiting room who clearly did not appreciate it.

Sewfie · July 2014

I would like to TP the people who practically rush into my office and *NEED* training asap, because they *HAVE TO* start working *RIGHT NOW*, but when I try to schedule it they almost always seem to be unable to attend the time and date I set. Seriously? Then I either have to reschedule the session or see them separately (because there's nothing I love more than repeating a seminar two days in a row). Just let me know if there's a date you can't do, especially when I tell you upfront that I don't haven't anything scheduled at the moment.

The icing on the cake? At least half of the time they haven't completed the occupational health requirement, or they're not on a protocol, both of which are absolutely mandatory by our regulatory guidelines.

catlover790 · July 2014

@BunnyBerry‌ Thanks! It sounds like you had a similar experience! The one nice thing I liked was that the little girl wanted to come to me so maybe I give off a good vibe! haha!

My DH is the same way; he isn't bothered by seeing other people's children. I think he is just so hopeful that everything will work. I think for me it's harder because I read about the difficult and long journeys that some had and know that the RE isn't magic and it doesn't always work as soon as you go. I'm sorry you had to go through that!

@Lindy&Billy‌ Oh no! I hope everything is okay!

LindseyM2012 · July 2014

TP to my coworkers today. Two ladies speak like 90s valley girls (lots of "like", "dude", "literally", "totally", drawn out vowels at the ends of words) and it is just grating. One of the gentlemen is really sensitive and got all huffy when I didn't immediately say "Good morning" when I walked in.

I'm drinking tonight.

catlover790 · July 2014

@Buttmonkey34‌ I'm sorry for all the stress you're going through! We too were hit with he economy (I lost my job) and now that I have a more stable job I can't get pregnant and enjoy being able to not worry about finances for a little bit. It never seems to line up right! I hope you find new tenants soon and your DH can help you stay stress free!

@LindseyM2012‌ Sorry about the annoying coworkers!

wanderlust508 · July 2014

I would like to TP my uterus .....WTF is going on in there?!

Ever since about 7dpiui, I've had a really swollen/bloated belly. It's so bad that I don't want to leave the house unless I have to. Yesterday at work (even though I wore a looser fitting dress), I was so self conscious that people at work were gonna start speculating that I was pregnant. This weekend we are going out of town for a wedding and I'm so nervous about what to wear and I don't want to be in any pictures at all because I hate the way my body looks right now. It's not a good feeling

I'm inclined to think the bloating is because my fibroids have grown after 3 cycles of Clomid. But there could be some OHSS going on too. I have an ultrasound appointment with the RE tomorrow to get some answers on why I currently look like I'm about 4-5 months pregnant while POAS gives me a completely different answer. F*ck!

wanderlust508 · July 2014

@catlover790 - What a crappy thing to have had to deal with. (((HUGS)))! I'm such a non-confrontational person so I would not have been able to confront the lady myself ....but I would have been so upset too!

catlover790 · July 2014

@EastBayBride508‌ I'm so sorry about your fibroids and/or ohss! I hope you can find out tomorrow what's going on! I too understand the difficulty of finding something to wear. If I wear something tight I feel like it's not flattering but if I wear something loose or empire waist I feel like I look pregnant! I hope you find something you feel comfortable in for the wedding! A little black dress usually works! Hope you feel better soon.

LindseyM2012 · July 2014

@catlover790, it sounds like you handled yourself gracefully even though that was tough! If it continues happening, I would definitely say something to the receptionist. If you had a problem with it, you're probably not the only one.

@iputketchuponketchup, wow! Not cool. I noticed a couple birth announcements in my RE's personal office, not the waiting area (and definitely not an excessive amount). That's just rude. With as many tears as I am sure RE office employees see, you'd think they'd be more sensitive!

TTCBabyJ · July 2014

TP to my old RE. I actually sat down and wrote out how I felt like I have not received the best care in the last 11 months that I have been seeing her. Like for example I was diagnosed with severe pcos in August and she didn't even think to put me on metformin until December. I feel like I wasted almost a year with her dragging her feet. TP TP HEEEEY YA!!! X(

wanderlust508 · July 2014

@Rcvb22‌ - I'm so sorry! I would consider switching dental offices too. It's gotta be so stressful when unexpected big costs come up when dealing with IF (which costs us a pretty penny as it is). Big hugs coming your way!

Chasity08 · July 2014

**Warning: Children Mentioned**

I know I am going to be the minority here, but I took my children with me to my last RE appointment. My DH and I do not have daycare during the day most days during the summer as while my dd can go to her daycare, her daycare will not accept my step-son during just summer months. Because of this my dh and I work opposite schedules to keep our kids together as much as possible. With the being said...our only option if I want/need my dh with me at my RE appt is to bring my kids. Now, my kids sit next to us quietly and don't speak to others (and that is anywhere. I just find it rude), until my RE can take us back.

I empathize and appreciate the pain and struggle that all women feel, and I wish that it didn't hurt so much to see other people's children....but it's also a struggle for me to be dealing with my IF and I really need my dh there. In order for that to happen, my children have to come with. The pain is real for both women whom are struggling to conceive their first, as well as those who are struggling to conceive their second (or third, or whatever number). I try not to judge the pain of others and just focus on my own.

I'm sorry for those who feel pain by seeing other people's children. I feel that pain when I see others pregnant or with newborns. But I can't get angry at those women. I have to just be angry at the situation. and I surely can't blame them for having to parent the child that they do have in the same vicinity as myself.

I hope no one takes this as any sort of attack or anything. It's not. I'm just trying to show my side of it too, as someone struggling with IF who already has a child.

LindseyM2012 · July 2014

@Chasity08, I appreciate you explaining why you (and others) might bring their children to an RE appointment. That makes sense, and I appreciate how hard it must be for you to have IF issues this time around (I noticed you didn't have any issues with DD from your siggy). This is going to help me empathize more with those ladies and not be so huffy.

amylev80, take advantage of Tequila Day!! You deserve it! All you ladies do!

wanderlust508 · July 2014

Wow, I didn't think I'd be back so soon for another .....

I would like to deliver a HUGE TP to myself. I'm such an idiot. I was surfing TB on my phone while having lunch at Chipotle earlier. I was waiting for my husband's car to be serviced and killing time in the mean time. When I was almost back at the car service place, I realized I LEFT my phone at Chipotle!!! I rushed back there (not a short walk). Only to find that none of the staff knew where my phone was. I retraced my steps .....and nada. I'm so mad at myself

IF brain has made me have many similar absent minded episodes lately .....but none as bad as this. Now I have to go through the process of figuring out what to do. Finding my phone seems like a lost cause. I'm so angry!!! I'm not due for a discounted upgrade with Verizon until August 2015. So I have to either figure out another way to get a phone or suck it up and pay full price. UGHHHHH!!!! I loved that phone too. It was the HTC one and it is the best phone I've ever had. I feel so lost without it. Fuck Fuck FUCK!!!!!!!!!!

LindseyM2012 · July 2014

@EastbayBride508, I am SOOOO sorry!

catlover790 · July 2014

@Chasity08 I don't see your response as an attack either. There are always two sides to every situation. I appreciate your perspective and I wish that none of us even had to deal with IF in general.

In my situation in the RE's office I don't think that the family was being sensitive to the other people in the waiting room by allowing their daughter to walk around and interact with people and then guide her around in front of everyone. The mom held her hand and walked around the room with her daughter playing with the books on the shelves, the plants, etc. I felt that was insensitive.

It did bother me a little when you said, "But I can't get angry at those women. I have to just be angry at the situation. and I surely can't blame them for having to parent the child that they do have in the same vicinity as myself."

I understand when people don't have a babysitter and need to bring their children places. I just felt that because she knows how hard it is to be at a RE appointment in the first place maybe she would try to keep her daughter quiet and near her.

I am a caring person and I empathize with others dealing with all sorts of situations. I did not intend to come off that I was angry at this woman personally, but I think she should have handled the situation differently.

wanderlust508 · July 2014

@viola27 - thanks! I can't call Verizon because I have no phone right now (DH is at work). I want to disconnect service but right now I"m trying to figure out a way to find the phone by locator (and it needs the device to be active to do that).

FUCK FUCK FUCK .....ughhhhh. Sorry for all the curse words. I'm just so upset and pissed at myself.

Chasity08 · July 2014

@catlover790 - I apologize if that came off snarky. That was not my intention. And while I agree that perhaps the mom should have tried harder to keep her daughter near her (I wasn't there so of course it's hard for me to judge), I do remember what it was like to have a LO as well. And depending on the age, it may be a little harder to do that. They were probably thinking they were being more considerate by keeping her entertained by walking to keep her from getting upset and cranky (as is usually the case). But perhaps a suggestion of possibly walking the LO around in the hallway outside until they can be called back could be made, that way she still feels like her daughter can be there if needed but she can be considerate of those around her.

catlover790 · July 2014

@Chasity08‌ Thank you. I did not intend to be snarky either. I think IF is just so hard to deal with that little situations that maybe are no big deal can seem like a big deal at the moment. I think it's always good to try to be empathetic to everyone's situation.

wanderlust508 · July 2014

Ahhhhhhh .....hallelujah. I just got an email from my dad. He said that he has the contact of the guy who has my phone. That person must have called my dad (or maybe my dad called and this person picked up?). But either way, thank the LORD for good people who do not steal your phone and instead do the right thing and try to get you reunited with it. Thank you thank you thank you UNIVERSE (&God) for making things turn around for me and having this day suck a little less.

LindseyM2012 · July 2014

@EastBayBride508, "Thank goodness for good people" is right!!! Here's your good karma returning!

catlover790 · July 2014

@EastBayBride508‌ Yeay! So happy you can get your phone back!!

shirleymaeby · July 2014

@eastbaybride508 - Sorry about your phone, what a PITA!! I had mine stolen a few months back when I was on the bus home from work and was pretty angry at myself for not paying more attention to what I was doing. Also, sorry about your bloaty feelings.

ETA - Just saw your update...YAY for finding your phone!!

@catlover790 & @iputketchuponketchup - I'm so sorry, that must have been really rough. I am very thankful that my RE office has a strict policy about no kids and that I haven't seen any in there. I think usually I can deal with kids better than pregnant women though so I'm doubly happy I'm seeing an RE and not an OB anymore.

@BlueJoan - I have also had the worst attitude the last few days. I have been especially irritated with one of my co-workers for no other reason than she is pregnant and I am not. Oh, and also because I found out she's trying to take 6 months of mat leave and for some reason that threw me into a total rage. I hate feeling this bitchy all the time. I swear I am usually a really nice person.

I guess TP to Clomid and Clomid side effects. I have found that my mood swings aren't as bad this cycle (so far), but the hot flashes are way worse. I have been sleeping with two fans pointed on me at night so I can sleep. Sigh. And I have to take breaks when I am getting ready for work in the morning to go stand in front of the fan to cool off before resuming my routine.

mindaa · July 2014

@Buttmonkey34, filling a rental is SO frustrating. On one hand, it's great they've stayed 3 years, but that usually means there's more maintenance to do on the house.

I'm pretty much over it, but tonight it the last session of a class I'm teaching and I've been wanting to TP the half of the students who have been either crazy/rude/lying/cheating or otherwise sucking all my attention away from the rest of the class who seem to be normal and cool.

cautiouslydomestic · July 2014

I don't even know who to TP in this case....the universe? Myself? I don't know. (Pregnancy mentioned)

Last night, I received a frantic phone call from my sister asking for help. Today, I had to bring my 16 year old sister to a local crisis pregnancy center to get her PREGNANCY verified. Verified, it was.

There is nothing more that I can possible say about this situation.

lilmamapanther · July 2014

I have the urge to TP the medical records lady. Last week she told me she mailed my records to the RE and a copy to me. I still haven't received then do I've been calling leaving messages everyday day this week. No one calls me back. I've even email them and got no response. Finally someone answers the Damn phone and...(cussing happening in 5...4....3.....2.....1) this bitch had an attitude. I explain again why I'm calling and she tells me....well two copies of your records have been sitting in this office for a week waiting for you to pick them up.bitch why did y tell me last week you put them inthe mail you mean I could have had my records for my RE appointment. Ugh I could hurt you right now get off my phone......sorry for the rant...

Hpearl · July 2014

The only throat punch I have today is that I want to give up. I am starting to accept my life without kids in it. So, FUCK you 4 bedroom house, friends with kids, and my job at a preschool where I have done nothing but take care of children for the last 14 years at the expense of my health, my wealth, and today it feels like my sanity too.

catlover790 · July 2014

@cautiouslydomestic‌ I'm sorry; that is so hard to deal with. It's good that you can still be there for your sister even though you're going through IF. I hope everything turns out okay.

@lilmamapanther‌ Ugh, that's so annoying!

wanderlust508 · July 2014

@Hpearl‌ - Ugh ....Big hugs to you. I know the feeling. I often wonder if we'd be happier if we accepted that it just isn't gonna happen for us....and live our lives just us 2. But I'm not ready to give up and accept that yet

DharmaChick · July 2014

**Pregnancy (not mine, obviously) mentioned**

I feel so guilty about this, but I really wanted to TP my lousy timing this morning:
During rush hour it is pretty quiet on the train, but today there was a woman near me that wouldn't stop talking, LOUDLY, about her pregnancy... to a complete stranger.

What drove me nuts is that she kept using the phrase "I'm not complaining":
- She mentioned that she had come too far in her career to give it up after having a baby, and so she plans to be supermom and do it all, which was apparently shocking to her friends/family (like being a working mom is some crazy anomaly?) but she's "not complaining."
- Upon finding out that the person she was speaking to is in a similar field of work, she made a point to indicate that she is in a higher position than they are. Then she mentioned how much work it was, but she's "not complaining."
- She mentioned that she has had very few pregnancy symptoms, aside from being b*tchy to her husband, though she's heard that it will get worse, but she's "not complaining."

Unfortunately, she got off the train on the same stop as me and walked in the same direction, while having an equally loud conversation on her cell phone - again talking about her pregnancy and "not complaining".

Right, lady, you're not complaining, you're BRAGGING.

catlover790 · July 2014

@BlueJoan‌ I'm sorry this journey has been so hard for you.

That was so sweet of you to bring your DH flowers! I know it's not the same since we haven't been TTC as long, but I too wish we had started trying sooner so we would've known there was a problem before. We put off TTC because I lost my job and I didn't want to get pregnant when I was brand new at a new job( haha, don't have to worry about that!). Hindsight is 20/20 and it makes it even harder to think about how things could've been different.

I'm sorry; I hope you get to enjoy the weekend!

catlover790 · July 2014

@BlueJoan‌ It's okay to be down sometimes; it's good you can let out your emotions on here with us! I hope talking about it Monday will help too.

shirleymaeby · July 2014

@SnakeFisherBub - I have three sisters and they are all drama queens and total PITAs. I have effectively cut them all off. It's a huge relief to not deal with their shit anymore.

@DharmaChick - OMG, I'd have moved seats/train cars. What an asshole.

@BlueJoan - Don't get me wrong, this country's mat leave policy is the worst, but it is what it is. What makes her think she deserves to take 6 months when everyone else gets 3? She's not that great an employee in the first place so it's not like there's an incentive to keep a job open for her for that long. I think it's mostly just jealousy on my part because MH works from home and doesn't make nearly enough for me to take more than three months. And even with STD I will have to supplement by using saved up vacation time if I want to actually take the whole 3 months. So I'm a little bitter than she can even afford to take 6 months off of work.

mindaa · July 2014

@iputketchuponketchup

Totally OT, but I saw your siggy Pinterest fail in action IRL a couple weeks ago at a lake. DH had to drag me away, I couldn't stop openly staring and giggling at this group of girls who honestly thought they were going to make that photo happen.

cupcake122 · July 2014

Throat punch to the friend that immediately said "are you going to adopt? wouldn't that be easier?" after I confided in her. Ah, yes, because I have 30 grand just chilling, and adoption is such a quick and easy process and there are no emotions about not having a biological child of your own.

Seriously, how are people so ignorant?

Hpearl · July 2014

EastBayBride508 said:

@Hpearl‌ - Ugh ....Big hugs to you. I know the feeling. I often wonder if we'd be happier if we accepted that it just isn't gonna happen for us....and live our lives just us 2. But I'm not ready to give up and accept that yet

I am so with you on this! Today is a slightly better today. Yesterday I barely made it through work with out the full on mascara running down the face ugly cry. Crap, this sucks sometimes!

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