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March 2014 Moms
The Randomest Thread
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Re: The Randomest Thread
Bmerr posted on the SAHM board about starting an in-home daycare. Bearsbearsbears pointed out that she lives with her RSO FIL, so not so much a good idea. SAHM board reacted as you might expect. Bmerr sent out a bat-signal to our board. Then bears sent out a Parenting bat-signal. An M14-parenting rumble ensued on the SAHM board.
It was beyond dumb. Sorry guys , but it was.
ETA: happy birthday @jcoffeebean!
Is it really? I want to try it. But I'm wary of buying things they sell from infomercials.
Sorry this was not very helpful. Hoping you can find something new soon.
Married : ** 09/09/2011 ** BFP : 07-18-13 ** Baby #1 is a GIRL , Born 03/12/14 **
** BFP 2 : 01- 05-15 ** EDD 09-11-15 **
Married : ** 09/09/2011 ** BFP : 07-18-13 ** Baby #1 is a GIRL , Born 03/12/14 **
** BFP 2 : 01- 05-15 ** EDD 09-11-15 **
My baby has been on this schedule for about a month and a half now. It's tiresome during the day but somehow all fits together to make her STTN. Worth it IMO.
Oh and my friend who I literally just stood for in her wedding had a temporary BSC moment and got all prissy that I talked to her husband and asked to visit over 3 years ago. I told her that it was because I was with one of his old shipmates and he had mentioned it'd be nice to get together, and not alone. Still annoyed me since it was 3years ago, came out of nowhere and totes bitchy. Then she haha mentions that she could never have married a woman because they tend to be BSC. Oh the irony
I thought the SAHM thread made us all look like shit. I was upset. I said so there, here, on FB, and in Parenting. I said I was embarrassed to be a part of this group, as well, which right now is true, frankly, because we are STILL behaving badly.
If I didn't feel so strongly a part of this group I wouldn't have bothered to be embarrassed.
I said on Parenting (and should have said here --- I think I MAY have said this on the SAHM thread --- I was NOT trying to hide it) that I thought the whole thing was about personalities. I think bmerr is more popular than Bears, and I think the fact that we supported her monetarily makes us defensive.
Someone asked on Parenting if we'd given her (bmerr) money (I had not brought this up; they deduced it; check my post history) and I answered "Yes." It did not cross my mind that this could be considered confidential.
The M14 care fund was, I thought, not a confidence. Several threads had been made, and we had discussed previous recipients (kderoy) openly.
I have never, EVER, divulged ANYTHING said to me in confidence.
I thought if anything, learning about the care fund would make us look better. OF COURSE none of us were pro-daycare; it was an emotional thing. The money played into it.
Someone else on Parenting said that FB groups always go badly; I joked that I should be forgiven for not knowing that, since this was my first rodeo.
In consequence, I was painted as a treacherous backstabber, I was kicked out of the chat, called out on FB, and essentially asked to leave, which I did, because things were getting way too toxic way too quickly.
I am now trying to walk the line between being a drama queen and fading away into Parenting.
I have been hanging out here since the fall. I've enjoyed your company. I've tried to be kind. Sometimes we've disagreed.
I am really upset that what I thought was an embarrassing disagreement (and we've had many) has turned into a hill to die on. I am also really hurt.
Yes, a huge part of me wants to say "fuck you bitches" right now and walk away, but that's never been the way I roll.
So this is what I will apologize for:
-if my jokes on Parenting hurt your feelings, I am sorry. Really, truly sorry, not sorry-I-was-caught (I expected everything I said to be read; I just didn't expect y'all to be hurt by it)
-if bmerr's sunshine mission was supposed to be confidential, I am also really sorry I betrayed that confidence.
And this is what I will not apologize for:
-Feeling embarrassed and saying so.
-Thinking you acted badly and saying so.
-Being "team bears" and saying so.
I think that about covers it.
@babycaps my first day was awesome, so far I am loving working in Peds! The office is beautiful, the people are all super nice and best part is free lunch today from a drug rep
In the cold light of day I am OK with both of these things and don't want to go back. It wasn't a good idea to get involved with something so divisive. I won't do it again. I think I am now setting down a cold hard policy of not getting involved in off- board shit. *That's* what I regret, not being friendly with y'all.
If you're upset with my posts because they hurt *you* as someone who knows me, I am sorry for that; if you're upset because you feel like they fed the dramz, or violated some idea of Board Unity, I think that's a little silly. God knows we've all taken our turns feeding drama around here. Last I checked that wasn't a hanging offense!
Married : ** 09/09/2011 ** BFP : 07-18-13 ** Baby #1 is a GIRL , Born 03/12/14 **
** BFP 2 : 01- 05-15 ** EDD 09-11-15 **
Since I was taking it pretty light-heartedly, was really not that mean AT ALL, wasn't naming names, was really ONLY saying "omfg I can't believe my BMB is such a cluster right now!!! I'm blushing!!!!!!!!!!" I had no idea anyone was taking it to heart, or could possibly take it to heart.
If you were personally hurt as someone who knows me, @purpleowl221, again I apologize for any pain I caused. I really am.
If OTOH this about M14 presenting a united front, I guess I'm sorry you feel that way but not sorry for my words. :-(
THIS, then they proceeded to kick people out. Because that doesn't make people feel bad or feel excluded or anything ! I was apart of the chat and here and the FB group, but have NEVER repeated anything anyone has said or caused drama. BC I just don't have time for all of that !
Married : ** 09/09/2011 ** BFP : 07-18-13 ** Baby #1 is a GIRL , Born 03/12/14 **
** BFP 2 : 01- 05-15 ** EDD 09-11-15 **
If any of that is super confidential information I wasn't supposed to acknowledge, then we have waaaaaaaaayyyyyy different definitions of "confidential."
it's about my son's wiener you nosy nellies.
Responding, @babylimas !!!