First Trimester Check-in

footprint · July 2014

Welcome to first trimester check-in. This is for those of us who want to stay in the safety of the PgAL board yet still have first tri questions. If you are not tagged in the post, please feel free to join. As this is the first check-in, let me know if you would like to see any other questions added or taken out. Also, should this be a weekly or bi-weekly check-in?

EDD/Week/Fruit

Worries (rational or irrational)

Appointments scheduled

Upcoming milestones/Loss dates

Let me know what other things you would like to see for a check-in.

Edited to add QOTW (which I forget to answer in almost every check-in I am involved with)

I'm gonna start with an easy one. What superpower would you like to have and why?

MoreThanSparrows08 · July 2014

Hey @footprint! Great idea!

EDD/Week/Fruit 1.25.15. 11 weeks 2 days, Lime

Worries (rational or irrational) I really don't have much bump/bloat, which, considering this is my 4th pregnancy (3rd to get to this stage), I would think I'd be showing sooner, so I'm mildly concerned about that.

Appointments scheduled Nothing until 7/28 - 14 weeks.

Upcoming milestones/Loss dates EDD for my last pregnancy is less than a month away - on my oldest son's bday. I'm not really sure how I'm going to handle that...

I think a weekly check-in would be fine. I would include a GTKY type question, and maybe a place for FTM's to ask questions that more experienced moms could help answer.

lorifromwi · July 2014

EDD/Week/Fruit: 2/22 - 7w - blueberry

Worries (rational or irrational): for the first time this pregnancy I'm not worried about it. It's only because we got a call yesterday to take placement of a 3w little one in foster care. She seems to be a perfect fit for our family, so we will be picking her up from the hospital tomorrow! Eeeek!

Appointments scheduled: I need to get my first appointment scheduled with my new OB. I've "graduated" from the fertility clinic!

Upcoming milestones/Loss dates: last week Thursday when we had the u/s we passed our loss milestone when we heard the heartbeat. A most beautiful sight!!

Another question I'm interested in from ladies is where are you at in your preparations this week? We really hadn't been doing much, but now that we are planning for two nurseries, we have some work to get started on!!

@footprint thanks for starting this thread!!

wendyld · July 2014

I never did a big intro post or anything, but I have jumped into posting here and would like to join.

EDD/Week/Fruit: 3/5/15; 5w5d

Worries (rational or irrational): I am a runner, but my heart rate gets really high. My last pregnancy I would stop and walk if it got to 200 BPM. Irrationally I'm afraid that contributed to my missed m/c and I'm afraid to run at all now. Maybe after the first ultrasound/heartbeat, but then I'm essentially starting something new after taking so long off and I second guess that too.

Appointments scheduled: my first appt is Jul 31st at 9 weeks.

Upcoming milestones/Loss dates: this weekend marks the time the baby stopped growing (in terms of total development anyhow) last time. It's hard to not focus on that for the next 3 weeks.

spazzz333 · July 2014

I have been lurking and not real good at jumping in but I am going to try.

Edd 3-9 so 5 weeks 1 whole day.

I posted before about my irrational fear about having sex. Still can't do it but I miss it a lot so I might get there quicker than I thought I would.

My first appointment is next Wednesday. Didn't make it to my first appointment last time so that's my milestone at the moment.

footprint · July 2014

@MoreThanSparrows08

I hear you about the EDD, mine is this Friday. I have a wedding to go to and I have been obsessing about the cake. I am hoping that keeping busy and eating loads and loads of delicious wedding cake will help.

footprint · July 2014

@lorifromwi

Wow. A three week old! That is fantastic. When you do foster care, do you have a time frame? How super exciting! Congrats on graduating to an OB! You just have crazy-good things going on all over the place.

AFM, I have not began any preparations. I want to get past when I lost my last one before I begin to think about it. I believe in jinxing much more after my loss than I ever did before.

footprint · July 2014

@wendyld

I have no advice about running except to talk to your doctor. I started MMA training a few months before this pregnancy and my OB said I could continue with some restrictions.

I know after my MMC, I blamed myself in so many ways. It's sad that we feel responsible for something we have no control over. I finally had to accept that I did everything correct and it still didn't work out and it wasn't my fault.

I hope the next three weeks goes quickly for you.

footprint · July 2014

@spazzz333

I had that same fear about sex. I mean, i think it is really common. Then after the first couple of times with no problems, I quit worrying about it. And it helps that for me pregnancy sex is awesome. I guess all the blood flow and hormones really help.

lorifromwi · July 2014

@footprint the agency knows we are an adoptive home, so they try to place a child with us that will likely move towards adoption vs. reunification. With this little one it is highly likely that we will move towards adoption!

dragonfly1809 · July 2014

Hello all

I'm due with our rainbow on February 5th 2015, but I'll be having a repeat c-section by 38 weeks..., so a January babe here.
Today I'm 9weeks 6days.

My worries are confusing, right now I'm sort of numb, still in disbelief about this pregnancy. I'm trying to be in the moment..., I'm worried I won't believe it even when he/she is here. I felt that way with Finn - we had waited so long for him, I said over and over "I can't believe he's here, I can't believe he's ours" ...and before it sunk in he was gone.
I'm also feeling scared of my reaction to gender this time around. We've always been team green - firmly. This time I have to find out because if we have a girl I'm going to need some time to sort out my emotions. I have this huge boy shaped hole in my heart and life. I want a boy so much... I know I'll be happy either way. I'm just not used to feeling so divided over gender.

I have an ultrasound appointment Monday at 9:30am and it can not come soon enough. I had on at 8weeks and everything was great, but I just need to see again. I'll only be just going on 11 weeks but my doctor is basically letting me have as many as we want. <- this sort of answers what superpower I wish I had. I wish I could see inside me. Maybe then I'd believe.

Finn's Birthday is approaching quickly. He was born on September 18th ...and died September 29th. I have no idea how I'm going to get through those days.
We have already arranged to have a tree planted and a bench installed in our favourite city park, which will be done one one of those days... and we're planting an apple tree in our own yard on his birthday.
I just can't believe September is around the corner... that he's been gone this long

Mom2anAngel2 · July 2014

@footprint‌ - Love This! Thanks! Also, BIG ((HUGS)) for you EDD.

@MoreThanSparrows08‌ - ((HUGS)) as you get closer to your EDD. Hopefully your son's bday can provide done distraction for you.

@lorifromwi‌ - Congrats on the foster care placement. It looks like you will have your hands full. As for preparations, we haven't done anything. I don't think I started getting DS's nursery and stuff together until I was about 25 weeks, so there is plenty of time.

@wendyld‌ - ((HUGS)) on getting past your milestone. I hope that is providing you with some relief.

@spazzz333‌ - Good luck at your appointment.

AFM:

EDD/Week/Fruit: 12w5d (I don't know the fruit)

Worries (rational or irrational): I still worry about everything and anything. I tend to over think everything. I don't think I took a breath while pg with DS until he was placed on my chest. So I am preparing for the same this time.

Appointments Scheduled: I had an u/s yesterday. It was cute because the very first image we saw looked like baby was waving at us. Even the tech got a kick out of that. I have another OB appointment next Monday. There is a new OB in the practice and they are trying to get everyone in to meet her.

Upcoming Milestones/Loss Dates: We past out last loss milestone at 10 weeks, however my first loss was at 19 weeks (discovered at our A/S). Do I still have a bit of worrying and stressing to go. That loss was after I had already begun to feel movement, so consistent movement is something I am constantly monitoring. For now, I listen with my Doppler every night to try and stay sane (if possible).

Samuelismomma · July 2014

Edd: 1/19/2015 12 weeks 1 day or 1/20/2015... Been told both:) lg plum I think this week:) Irrational fears,,,if I get excited or plan something bad will happen and I will jinx it:( I'm also still checking for symptoms. They left 2nd trimester with ds which was great. This time I'm afraid when they do I will freak..I just want to be happy and enjoy this...ugh;(... Appointments: Monday for harmony and other blood work and u/ s..had to call dr blood pressure bottoming and getting faint..if worried can come in this week. I haven't decided yet:) Milestones. I had cp in July then next was blighted ovum..due in July so this month isn't the greatest:( I took second loss the hardest because I think I thought cp was fluke and next time would be perfect and was shocked. Third blighted ovum in January I hadn't gotten hope up as much..it hurt but second one just blindsided me I guess! My H's cousin ( she is like his sis) is due 19th , I was m/c at her house...while she was crying about being pregnant so that's been challenging seeing her pregnant and due, also:( the hb was my milestone which I have heard twice so I know bean is in there:) I haven't prepared anything but did buy some maternity clothes. I would like gtky questions! Good luck to all you!

mandi195 · July 2014

EDD/Week/Fruit 3.14.15/4 weeks/poppyseed

Worries (rational or irrational) I have a minor panic attack every time I have to pee or feel the slightest cramping (which I know is normal). I keep praying (as in, constantly) that this pregnancy will proceed uneventfully and I'll have a healthy, happy baby.

Appointments scheduled 1st appointment on 8/1 (8 weeks). Seriously counting the days, I just need to hear that heartbeat!

Upcoming milestones/Loss dates anniversaries of EDDs for both of my losses are next month, so that's kind of lame.

larahouseman · July 2014

So glad we are starting this, even though it's only 2 weeks until 2nd tri. I think it's something all of us First tri PgALs really need.

EDD/Week/Fruit

1/27/15 - 11 weeks - Lime

Worries (rational or irrational)

I was super super worried from Wednesday to Friday because all of my symptoms suddenly disappeared! Triggered a serious PgAL meltdown. But Friday afternoon I started getting all new symptoms, so I've calmed down again.

Appointments scheduled

Two weeks from yesterday is my 12 week appointment. So looking forward to checking on my LO and making sure everything is alright.

Upcoming milestones/Loss dates

Thankfully I have passed my loss milestone. I'm just so eager to get to the 2nd Tri. I have high hopes that when that happens, in 2 weeks, I can finally get around to just enjoying this pregnancy. A girl can dream, right?

footprint · July 2014

@dragonfly1809

I have had no experience like you have had with Finn. I am terrified that I will say something that reads as (or unintentionally is) insensitive or offensive. Everything you describe about your worries sounds completely normal to me. When I was TTCAL, month after month I was so disappointed with negative tests, but a little bit relieved because I knew I would be scared and numb to a new pregnancy. I was so shocked by my MMC that I planned on not becoming attached this time around until after I passed my loss date. That plan really made me sad because why should this pregnancy lose out just because the last one failed? So i decided I am going to celebrate every pregnancy I have while I am pregnant. I don't want to deal with the pain and shock of a loss, but I know I am capable of dealing with it, so I am not going to deny any of the joy to this new baby - because he/she deserves to be in an ecstatic uterus. Of course the doubt and fear tries to creep in but I try my hardest not to give in to it.

I truly think whatever you feel is completely natural and right, no matter how ugly the feeling. After my MC, I felt some petty and envious things that I would have preferred to deny that I felt. But being honest about the ugly feelings is the first step towards resolving them. If you need to find out the sex, go for it. You will love your baby more than you thought possible regardless of sex and knowing beforehand won't change that, so if it will help you, I say do it!.

It sounds like you already have some great plans for honoring Finn's life. You know that moment when you saw the positive pregnancy test with Finn and the first time you felt him move and actually giving birth to him and the sheer joy of it all? That's what you should try to remember in September.

footprint · July 2014

@Mom2anAngel2

That is awesome that the baby was waving hello! Will you get another u/s when you meet the new OB?

I keep going back and forth about buying a Doppler. I think I might drive myself crazy with it.But I have a few weeks to decide

footprint · July 2014

@Samuelismomma

I am sorry about your experience with your H's cousin. I am happy that you saw the hb twice. I have yet to have my first u/s, but can't wait until I see it!

footprint · July 2014

@mandi195

Sorry about the panic attacks when you need to pee. That sounds exhausting for me because i am peeing constantly now. Between four and five weeks I had a lot of stretching type cramping too and no matter how much you understand it is normal, it still freaked me out.

footprint · July 2014

@larahouseman

The disappearance of symptoms is so nerve-wracking! On the one hand, it is nice to have a respite, but the other hand - the fear and panic it causes far outweighs any relief. I notice that when I have a symptom break, my symptoms seem to come back even harder! I am glad you passed your loss milestone. Was there anything in particular that helped you through it that you can share with those of us still facing it?

Beckyboo71 · July 2014

EDD/Week/Fruit: 1/15/15...12w5d... Plum (I think!) Worries (rational or irrational): Everything!! Right now, the results of the bloodwork I just did to check for Down Syndrome, etc. Appointments scheduled: just had my first ultrasound today, on my birthday! Upcoming milestones/Loss dates: in 2 days I will be in the 2nd trimester officially, so I will feel a "little" calmer! Superpower: either reading minds or being invisible when I want so I can spy on people!

*****sorry if this is in paragraph form. I'm using my iPad!

dragonfly1809 · July 2014

@footprint‌ Thank you... so much ..for all you said. Thank you (((hug)))

footprint · July 2014

@Beckyboo71‌

Happy birthday! The u/s went well, I assume. Do you have a long wait for the be results?

footprint · July 2014

I forgot to do one for myself.

EDD 2/16/2015 Week: 8 Raspberry.

My worries kinda center around my symptoms and when they shift into new ones sometimes there is a pause in intensity and that pause freaks me out.

My first OB appt is Thursday. I am pretty excited about it. I will get my u/s Rx then.

My EDD for my last pregnancy is Friday. I am sad, but I will be able to hold it together.

If I could have a super power I guess I would like flight. Something about ring free to move about in the air is enticing.

tigerlily2015 · July 2014

EDD/Week/Fruit: 3/20/15; 3w4d

Worries (rational or irrational): My test lines are still pretty faint, so I'm worried it's either a chemical pregnancy or bad tests with really strong evap lines (I'm using Dollar Tree tests). Last time I didn't test until 14dpo, so my line was much darker. I also don't have any symptoms yet. I'm trying to relax though - worrying won't change anything.

Appointments scheduled: None yet, will call tomorrow.

Upcoming milestones/Loss dates: My blighted ovum wasn't discovered until 8 weeks. I still have a ways to go to get there.

Superpower: This might seem lame, but I'd pick telekinesis. I always thought it would be awesome to be able to control objects with my mind.

@footprint - thanks for starting this! I hope your first OB appointment goes great!

ngolimento · July 2014

I hope no one minds if I squeeze in here as a newbie. I just got my positive test this morning and I'm sadly leaving the wonderful ladies on TTCAL.

EDD/Week/Fruit: March 16th 2015, week 2 in fetal growth.

Worries (rational or irrational) : I think I'm experiencing the normal worries of a loss lady. Very nervous that every twinge and symptom means the baby isn't doing well. I'm very much crossing my fingers that this is my rainbow baby.

Appointments scheduled None yet. I have already picked out the hospital I want to deliver at (they have delivery tubs!), so I need to find an OB related to that hospital.

Upcoming milestones/Loss dates My loss was almost 8 years ago, so I try not to hang on to the date of the loss. It's been rocky though since I started TTC again. Whew, so many emotions on this journey!

CaraH · July 2014

EDD/Week/Fruit

2/25/15; 6w2d; apple seed or something like that

Worries (rational or irrational)

Despite the fact that I am feeling plenty of symptoms - I'm living on buttered toast and peaches right now - I am completely freaked by the amount of dull pain I have in my abdomen. The sharp twinges to the side don't bother me, but the dull pains in the center do. I know its partially because I realized I was going to miscarry last time when I started having period cramps. Nevermind, that these aren't at all the same; they freak me right the heck out.

Appointments scheduled

I have a long-standing appointment for my annual OB/Gyn visit on Thursday. My OB is amazing, but since I haven't actually been released from the RE yet I'm not sure how much if anything she's going to do. beyond an exam.

The big date is next Wednesday when I'm scheduled for my first ultrasound. Oh, how I hope to see a healthy bean and a heartbeat.

Upcoming milestones/Loss dates
This was the week I started cramping and realized something was wrong last time. Next week is the week we didn't find a healthy embryo, and then a little over a week later is when I actually miscarried.

I'm pretty sure that's why I'm having so much trouble being rational about the dull aches I feel in my abdomen now. Ironically, its probably a good sign that I feel it. Last time the baby never really grew. The stretching and twinges almost certainly mean that my body is expanding to make room, because this time the baby is growing. But, I didn't feel them with my first pregnancy (when I was only 33 and my muscles were much less stretchy), so that's only carrying a little weight with me.

QOTW: Hmmm, I honestly can't come up with one right now. Mostly I'm dreaming about the ability to nap. I'm living for the weekends, when my husband entertains our four year old and lets me sleep in the afternoon, and going to bed at ridiculously early hours.

@lorifromwi - what an amazing blessing! Best of luck!

@wendyld - I've stopped yoga and going to the gym for the same reason. Everyone says there's no way it had anything to do with the loss, but I just can't. Once I get a little energy back, I'm going to sign up for a prenatal yoga class and ease my way back in, though. I exercised gently throughout my fabulously easy and healthy first pregnancy, and I'd like the benefits again.

@dragonfly1809 - My nephew suffered severe complications at birth two years ago. I'm not going to stress everyone out by giving details here, but suffice to say he's very special needs now. It was a crazy thing, literally a 1 in 10,000. There's no reason for it ever to happen again to anyone we know. And yet, it changes everything for all of us. Once you know lightning can strike you, its hard to trust. Everything, absolutely everything, you've said makes so much sense to me. All my thoughts and prayers will be with you.

@footprint - I was never, not once, able to find my daughter's heartbeat with the doppler. So, if having trouble finding the baby is going to freak you out, you may not want to buy one. Or at least make sure you buy a better one than I was given!

dragonfly1809 · July 2014

I just want to say ...this is a great group of ladies. I've read through everyone's posts, and I wish I could comment back on each. Amazing stories, so many companions in fears and anxieties, and superpowers too. I'm really looking forward to getting to know you all better.

Wishing us all healthy pregnancies.

kefttsc · July 2014

EDD/Week/Fruit: February 9, 9 weeks 3 days, two green olives
Worries (rational or irrational): I worry every day about so many things that I can't even list them!!!!! I have mostly irrational fears tonight about my diet. I am mostly eating whatever tastes good, but the quality of that food isn't great right now.

Appointments scheduled: My next ultrasound (due to PGAL and multiples) is next Thursday. We are going every two weeks right now.Every two weeks is the longest two weeks ever. Getting a doppler about a week ago was the best thing I've ever done. Even though it is super early, I've been able to find at least one of the twins every day and that really puts my mind at ease. I cry every time I hear one of them. Today, I counted one of them at 168 bpm.

Upcoming milestones/Loss dates: I have never been this pregnant and didn't really realize it until today. I was talking to a friend and said it outloud and she said that she realized that a few weeks ago but didn't say anything. I have the best friends in the world. The most amazing support system there is. Here come the tears..........dang hormones!

What superpower would you like to have and why? I'd like a power that enables me to have dinner ready every night without having to do a dern thing. I HATE coming up with what to have. Tonight we are having pizza from Costco with a "toppings bar" because I'm too tired to make anything else. Good thing DH is marvelous.

@footprint getting the doppler was the best thing I ever did for my PGAL brain, but it's also the worst. I have heard at least one of my babies for five days in a row. I DREAD the day when I simply can't find it and while I would be sure it was innocent user error, PGAL brain would take over.

dragonfly1809 · July 2014

@footprint‌
I just received my Doppler - the Sonoline C. I had the Sonoline B with Finn but gave it away before he was born because he was moving around so often I just wasn't using it anymore.

I'm not letting myself use it until 12 weeks. I'm just 9.6 weeks, I don't want to make myself crazy ...yet.

It's a blessing and a curse. Great when you can find it, torture when you can't. I'm willing to torture myself for those worthwhile moments.

That said.., I have Finn's heartbeat recorded forever because of it (I video recorded it with my iPhone).

kefttsc · July 2014

@dragonfly1809 that is amazing that you have that recording!

footprint · July 2014

@dragonfly1809 This is a great group of women! And, I never would have thought of recording the heartbeat. How great it is that you have it. I think you just convinced me to get one. @CaraH @Krefttsc I have a question and if you are not comfortable answering, by all means, please don't: I am an ample woman. About a size 18. Do you know if Dopplers work as well on women of larger proportions?

footprint · July 2014

@Tigerlily2015 Congrats on the Positive! I got a faint positive using Dollar Store 15dpo and an even lighter Wondfo that day. I urge you to put down the pregnancy tests until the day of your missed period. It can drive a woman mad! Seriously, I tested from 10dpo until my positive and really figured I was out of the running because you hear so much about women getting BFP 10dpo. Today you are pregnant and celebrate it!

I hadn't thought of telekinesis. I may have to change my answer...

footprint · July 2014

@Peledreamsofrain Congrats! I remember you from stalking and being on TTCAL. I'm happy to see you here! Are you thinking of a water birth? That sounds pretty cool. If I want to stay with my OB (which I am leaning towards) I have to have a repeat c, no VBAC, so I am a little too interested in other women's birth plans! Welcome!

footprint · July 2014

@CaraH Sounds like the next few weeks might be a little hard. I'm glad you don't have too much longer to wait for an u/s although I suspect it may feel like an eternity. I am hoping to get in for my first u/s around then, too.

So you know, I am a huge proponent of napping. If my 23 month old didn't nap everyday, I don't know what I would do.

footprint · July 2014

@krefttsc I hear you about the diet. I'm so tired of everything we eat and by the time i need to make dinner, I am so physically tired I usually choose the easiest option which translates to least healthy option. But I'm not actually worried enough to change so I just try to eat healthier earlier in the day. Prenatals make me feel better too.

Twins!! How exciting! It must be exciting to be this pregnant, too. And definitely yay for good OBs and good friends!

smcniff · July 2014

Thanks so much for doing this @footprint! Clearly it has been well received. Also, I love that your uterus is ecstatic. I will try and embrace that idea.

EDD/Week/Fruit 2/20/14, 7w4d, Blueberry

Worries (rational or irrational) So scared of another blighted ovum right now.

Appointments scheduled First US this Thursday

Upcoming milestones/Loss dates Just passed my EDD this past Friday, but had the holiday to distract me. If my baby is alive in there I am currently more pregnant than I have ever been.

footprint · July 2014

@Maryhr1 Yay for Seeing a hb! 132 is fantastic. Boo to the OB for not understanding (or for pretending to not understand) what you were asking. Are you thinking of finding a new OB? I'd hate for you to feel like you are missing out on care because the doctor is a bit dense.

Invisibility is a good power. I'm so clumsy that everyone would know I was in the room even if i was invisible because stuff would be falling off tables and there would be a lot of swearing coming from nowhere.

wendyld · July 2014

@EurydiceNymph‌, I do plan to talk to my Dr, but I won't see her until the end of the month, so I'm being a scaredy cat until then. I know it's probably unnecessary. It was on my must ask list last time, but my first appt started with an ultrasound and derailed quickly from there so I never got to ask any questions.

footprint · July 2014

@EurydiceNymph Of course you can join! I hope the PgAL brain quiets down some for you. Will you get an u/s tomorrow? I wouldn't suggest poking your brain with a q-tip, what if it made PgAL brain worse? How awful would that be?

Which Batman would you like to be? Old school Adam West? Weird dude Micheal Keaton? Maybe seldom discussed George Clooney?

ngolimento · July 2014

footprint said:

@Peledreamsofrain Congrats! I remember you from stalking and being on TTCAL. I'm happy to see you here! Are you thinking of a water birth? That sounds pretty cool. If I want to stay with my OB (which I am leaning towards) I have to have a repeat c, no VBAC, so I am a little too interested in other women's birth plans! Welcome!

Thanks for the welcome

. The hospital won't let the actual birth happen in the tub, but it's a brand new unit with laboring tubs in each private suite. I fell in love as soon as I toured the place, since all the other hospitals had like one communal one. I'm going to try to avoid getting a saddle block since needles terrify me.

Cross my fingers that all this planning isn't for nothing. I'm really super nervous about this pregnancy going well! Planning as if it will makes me feel more in control.

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