Monday Bitchfest

BookitBoo · June 2014

Let's hear it, ladies! What (or who) is really wearing on your nerves today?

BookitBoo · June 2014

I'll start!

Went into the doctor because I had a suspicion that I have strep throat. (Have had it since Friday). They were awesome and got me in first thing. The doctor said it was definite strep after the test came back positive, and then told me I had two options. A shot or a 10 day course of antibiotic pill.

Only as he was walking out the door did he ask what I was allergic to, and when I told him I was allergic to penicilin (which has been in my charts since I moved here ~2 years ago) did he tell me the shot was penicilin, so my only real option is the antibiotic pill. Cool, that's fine. But don't almost shoot me with something I'm deathly allergic to!

MichaelSC28 · June 2014

EVERYONE is on my shit list today! I wake up my husband as usual feels the need to reach over and grop my increasingly sore breast and wake me from a deep sleep for some "quality time". The minute I react and tell him I am tired...he proceeds to tell me he feels like we are growing apart cause we haven't had sex...umm yes we did a day ago!! I AM SO TIRED of him just not getting it. I am not in the mood and my breast are off LIMITS.

Next, The people I work with...how is it that no one know one knows what the hell to do when I go on vacation. WHY THE HELL am I working on my 4th of july vacation week...I am just in a mood today...

...did I mention that my husband 20 mins later tried again!!

dtucker9 · June 2014

My mother in law is driving me absolutely crazy!!!!! It is there first grandchild, and I feel so overwhelmed!!! This will be my parents third grandchild, so I feel much more relaxed around them and the conversations aren't always about baby. My in laws even made a joke about buying a brand new car so they can travel in bad weather to see there grand baby, and teasing that I will be put in the third row by myself. Joking or not, I didn't find it funny at all. It's probably just my hormones, but it was super disrespectful and I'm super irritated with feeling overwhelmed all the time with them. I want to enjoy being 4 months pregnant, I don't want to have to worry about not being able to even hold my baby when they come to visit when the baby is born... Suggestions!?!?

Tapsalteerie · June 2014

I'm done with this morning sickness. D O N E. I've missed my DD's swim lessons, family get togethers, birthday parties, the beautiful weather because I'm stuck clinging to a pillow and a bucket. I know with DD it ended at about 16 weeks, but this one also started 3 weeks earlier so I think it should be done now at 13 weeks. I'm tired of feeling like I'm experiencing a 24/7 hangover. I just want to eat/drink/sleep/poop/breath normally again. I want to be a mom again and not have my daughter get upset that mommy can't do things with her outside of this house.

Vent over.

danakatiepfoltzer · June 2014

I am sick of our utility company....1. It's 4x the amount of basic service as it was in my old state... 2.) I tried to switch suppliers (in my state you can choose supplier but the delivery company remains the same utility company)... but they blocked my account from being able to switch suppliers... SO annoying!!!!!!!!! People are so greedy ..... grr

Lanatir · June 2014

@BookitBoo-- OMG That's scary! Penicillin allergies are SUPER common, too! What the heck?

Lanatir · June 2014

@ladyamanuet-- OMG YES. I live off of a windy 2 lane road. The speed limit used to be 55. Locals tend to drive 10 over on the roads around here. The speed limit is now 45. Some people drive 30-35.... I can't tell you how scary it is to be behind a 30-35er and someone comes around a curve or over a hill and onto my bumper at 65... Also, there's a straighter, flatter, 4 lane road with 55 as its speed limit. Take 5 minutes to drive an extra mile or two out of your way to go to that road so those of us who have to live on the curvy road aren't dealing with you stupid drivers going from farther east to the interstate. Both roads go to the interstate and google maps is only accurate if you are driving the posted speed limit!

Edit to add clarity-- some of the locals still drive the road like the speed limit is 55, then their normal 10 over. And most GPS software if it has the capability to say "Speed limit __" says it's still 55, even though it hasn't been 55 for at least 6 years now.

Stephij1 · June 2014

I'm about to lose it on my in-laws! My MIL keeps giving my DD candy after I specifically asked her not to because too much sugar makes my usually sweet girl act like a bat out of Hell. Then she complains about my parenting when DD acts out. My FIL keeps making "jokes" to my husband about how "We really can't be sure this new baby is yours. You never know". I finally lost it and told him that statements like that are incredibly insulting and even if he is joking, it could seriously freak out DD. Did I mention that I have to spend almost two weeks with these people without my hubby as a buffer? I'm freaking out.

TXUltraRunner · June 2014

My running partner on Saturday! I mentioned that I can't suck in my stomach anymore and was pointing out my bump. She was like "well, you certainly don't look pregnant you just look fat right now." When I got home after our run, I was in tears. If someone knows me, i should think that they would think I'm pregnant and not fat. Now I'm totally self conscious and not feeling good about my body. DH and my mom said she's just being bitchy and that I do look pregnant. Do I look fat? Should I be covering it up?

TXUltraRunner · June 2014

dtucker9 said:

My mother in law is driving me absolutely crazy!!!!! It is there first grandchild, and I feel so overwhelmed!!! This will be my parents third grandchild, so I feel much more relaxed around them and the conversations aren't always about baby. My in laws even made a joke about buying a brand new car so they can travel in bad weather to see there grand baby, and teasing that I will be put in the third row by myself. Joking or not, I didn't find it funny at all. It's probably just my hormones, but it was super disrespectful and I'm super irritated with feeling overwhelmed all the time with them. I want to enjoy being 4 months pregnant, I don't want to have to worry about not being able to even hold my baby when they come to visit when the baby is born... Suggestions!?!?

Are you sure you aren't just taking it the wrong way? My inlaws love to tease me. Maybe yours are just joking? I think that this should be the least of your worries right now. Just let it roll off your back and when the baby comes, you'll know how to deal with things.

bkmama · June 2014

TXUltraRunner said:

My running partner on Saturday! I mentioned that I can't suck in my stomach anymore and was pointing out my bump. She was like "well, you certainly don't look pregnant you just look fat right now." When I got home after our run, I was in tears. If someone knows me, i should think that they would think I'm pregnant and not fat. Now I'm totally self conscious and not feeling good about my body. DH and my mom said she's just being bitchy and that I do look pregnant. Do I look fat? Should I be covering it up?

You look awesome and definitely not fat - you look like you're having a healthy, beautiful pregnancy! What a bitch, seriously.

BookitBoo · June 2014

TXUltraRunner said:
My running partner on Saturday! I mentioned that I can't suck in my stomach anymore and was pointing out my bump. She was like "well, you certainly don't look pregnant you just look fat right now." When I got home after our run, I was in tears. If someone knows me, i should think that they would think I'm pregnant and not fat. Now I'm totally self conscious and not feeling good about my body. DH and my mom said she's just being bitchy and that I do look pregnant. Do I look fat? Should I be covering it up?

You look gorgeously pregnant. She sounds insensitive. That bump you have going on is just too cute!

YaMrWhite · June 2014

TXUltraRunner said:

My running partner on Saturday! I mentioned that I can't suck in my stomach anymore and was pointing out my bump. She was like "well, you certainly don't look pregnant you just look fat right now." When I got home after our run, I was in tears. If someone knows me, i should think that they would think I'm pregnant and not fat. Now I'm totally self conscious and not feeling good about my body. DH and my mom said she's just being bitchy and that I do look pregnant. Do I look fat? Should I be covering it up?

This is how I look! I think you look great and I think your friend is a little jealous.

bkmama · June 2014

I finally told my family and my fiancé's family about our news this weekend. Fiancé's family reacted in the best, sweetest way possible -- his mom started crying out of happiness and said she would make tons of blankies and hats for the baby, his sister said it was the best present ever, and his dad posted it on Facebook immediately. They completely warmed my heart with how excited and supportive they are and how much they're looking forward to meeting the new baby.

When I told my family, my sisters were beyond excited -- but my parents had the weirdest reaction. At first my mom couldn't seem to register it and my dad looked bowled over (but happy/flustered?). Then the next thing they mentioned are things to worry about.

First thing: "You know it might be really tough for the first couple months after giving birth." So, be careful of postnatal depression. I KNEW I had an intuition about postnatal depression -- and now I think it's because my mom may have gone through it. But that was the FIRST thing she mentioned!

Second thing: "You might have to get a C-section, mom did, and you might, and really that's the best thing, so don't be upset if you have to get a C-section." Really??? I told them I really want to give birth naturally if at all possible and since I'm young and strong I don't foresee it being a problem. They kept trying to mentally prepare me for the fact that I may need a C-section.

Apparently my mom had one because her pelvis was "too small" to give birth naturally? I looked this up and according to some explanations I read, unless the pelvis is deformed due to sickness or an accident (hers isn't), this explanation is usually given for situations in which the mom has mentally given up on a natural birth..?

Oh, and my parents are visiting us next week, staying with us for four days. So far I'm really disappointed/weirded out by their reaction to the news, so I'm feeling pretty anxious about the visit. Sigh...

amiej1227 · June 2014

@TXUltraRunner‌ you don't need to cover up you look awesome!

YaMrWhite · June 2014

TXUltraRunner's post got me excited because tomorrow is July and we decided that HDBD would start in July. WOOHOO!!!!

TXUltraRunner · June 2014

bkmama I'm so sorry your parents reacted that way. It sounds like maybe your mother had a really hard time/bad experience with labor and postpartum. Maybe they are just scared for you to go through the same things? Try talking to them about it and relish in the rest of the family's excitement instead of just seeing your parents reaction.

JerseyHopeful · June 2014

@TXUltraRunner‌ I also have a lil bump like that. I am only 12 weeks and after readings countless stories and hearing from my friends about how I won't show until 20 weeks bc it's my first I had to finally let all that go and just accept that clearly my body is handling this pregnancy different than those women. I'm up 3 lbs and can't button most of my pants....even the ones I wore when I was 15 lbs heavier than I am now. Embrace your bump and tell your friend to screw off.

AlfiesMOM · June 2014

My office is dead and I have nothing to do. The only reason I am here is because my boss is on vacation and I am his back-up for EVERYTHING. So on the off chance someone needs something quickly I have to be here. Ughhh I wanna go layout by the pool or go grocery shopping!

AlfiesMOM · June 2014

TXUltraRunner said:

My running partner on Saturday! I mentioned that I can't suck in my stomach anymore and was pointing out my bump. She was like "well, you certainly don't look pregnant you just look fat right now." When I got home after our run, I was in tears. If someone knows me, i should think that they would think I'm pregnant and not fat. Now I'm totally self conscious and not feeling good about my body. DH and my mom said she's just being bitchy and that I do look pregnant. Do I look fat? Should I be covering it up?

This is exactly how I look. I am pretty thin person to begin with, so I assume most people think I am pregnant. I have started telling people so they don't think I gain weight!

danakatiepfoltzer · June 2014

@TXUltraRunner‌ seriously cute bump! Show it proudly

letsgox · June 2014

@bkmama‌ sorry your parents didn't have the excited reaction right away.

With regards to your mom's point about vaginal delivery, there is more than one reason why some people need c-sections. Most fall into the Ps of stalled labor: power (uterine contractions not strong and/or frequent enough), passenger (size of baby's head), presentation (sunny side up, etc) pelvis (size of mom). So, while your mom may have encountered one or more of these while giving birth to you, any one of us may face them in our own labor.

letsgox · June 2014

My bitch is that H scheduled practice for today, tomorrow and Wednesday. We leave for Florida on Thursday. I work until then. I asked him to keep one day open to help me pack up DD's things as I've been super busy with her (by myself since he's been traveling). He said be would.

I'm finding it hard to stay mad at him because he slipped a really sweet note into my work bag as a surprise. I wish I could just be pissed at him!

Babytime1778 · June 2014

My baby is making me face all my fears lately! Saturday was an emergency root canal without being numb. First dental procedure EVER and let me tell you I felt everything and still do.

ShuShubee · June 2014

TXUltraRunner said:

My running partner on Saturday! I mentioned that I can't suck in my stomach anymore and was pointing out my bump. She was like "well, you certainly don't look pregnant you just look fat right now." When I got home after our run, I was in tears. If someone knows me, i should think that they would think I'm pregnant and not fat. Now I'm totally self conscious and not feeling good about my body. DH and my mom said she's just being bitchy and that I do look pregnant. Do I look fat? Should I be covering it up?

You look fantastic. Your friend is insensitive.

Mine is that I am 12 weeks and it seemed like the nausea had subsided some over the last week, and I stopped taking Diclegis in the middle of the day (still taking it at night). So, I was planning on stopping it all together this weekend to see how I did. Nope, felt like crap on Friday and pretty much all weekend. And that was still with medication.

MKro2 · June 2014

My not so DH. My kitchen sink has been draining so slowly for the last two months. I've mentioned over and over again that we need to get a plumber's snake to get it unclogged. Yesterday it completely stopped draining and he was at a horse shoe tournament enjoying himself while I'm trying to get my dishes done. I took apart the pipe under the sink but the clog wasn't there. When he got home he suggested that I just put pans under the pipes and empty them when they fill up - which takes about 2 seconds. I proceed to ask him why he just couldn't call his uncle and borrow the damn snake and have it unclogged in 5 mins and he absolutely refused to do it because he was tired and didn't feel like it!!!! I completely lost it on him and we ended up in a huge fight. Needless to say my drain is still not unclogged and I either have to buy a snake and do it myself or call a plumber because he is being a complete ASS!! I so do not like him today at all!

MKro2 · June 2014

And I just noticed the toddler/restaurant rant is still going.... :0

SparksAZ · June 2014

My son (3), grabbed my boob yesterday and said, very excitedly, "The baby's gettin' bigger!"

This is not a bitch, just a lol-wtf.

alibc123 · June 2014

To the manager at work wont do her job, don't get pissed at me when the same homeowner calls 20 times about a serious problem and your assistant is too busy dealing with another 100 calls to take his. It's your job to deal with homeowners like this, don't put it on me to deal with him.

aerotigergirl · June 2014

@TXUltraRunner - You look adorable and healthy. I worry that your friend is one of those "mean girl" types who may just be trying to shake your confidence. You look great! Show off your bump proudly!

@bkmama - I was underwhelmed with my parents' (and MIL's) reaction to our news, also. They seem excited now, but initially, it seemed like they were leery of the good news, and I suspect that it may have had to do with my AMA. It sucks that they'd automatically jump to a bad outcome or see things in a negative light, but maybe (as your parents and all) they're just trying to protect you? Maybe they think that if they start preparing you for a bad outcome, you won't be so disappointed if things don't go as you'd like them to? Either way, I'm sorry their reaction was lackluster. I hope they'll come around soon.

readyforround2 · June 2014

Unfortunately my husband is creeping his way to the top of my list. I work as a teaching assistant at a school for children with learning disabilities so I've been out of work since June for summer break. At first my husband wanted me to stay in bed and rest and not worry about the house because I was making our child and the end of school was really stressful for me.
Only problem with that was that I wasn't tired early on so I didn't really listen to him, but now I feel like I've been run over by a Mac truck... Repeatedly! I'm going to be 11 weeks tomorrow and there are a few big things that I would like to accomplish before I become too big to do them. The only problem is that I need my husbands help, but he doesn't share my sense of eurgency. I talked to him last night about working on them today and tomorrow and he was all for it. So I got up early made sure I ate something that would help boost my energy and did some stretching to try and help my tightening tummy loosen up. When I went back into the room he wanted to cuddle and the next thing I know I'm asleep again! Now I feel like crap and thought we were going to have an easy day but then he came running into the room and told me that I needed to stop being lazy and he had things he wanted me to do with him (shopping for things for work).... I'm trying really hard not to cry (super hormonal! I cried over a google commercial..yes google! Not my proudest moment) I know I shouldn't take his lazy comment too seriously bc he did say it in a silly way and the logical part of my brain knows he didn't mean it in a bad way but it kinda hurt. What happened to "it's ok if you rest baby girl you are making our child"
Uh! I'm not asking for a pitty party from him or anyone for that matter but I don't see how picking out new company shirts is more important than getting the nursery usable right now. We have diapers pilled in our dining room and baby stuff taking up half of our livingroom (first baby, family is a lot more excited then we expected). There's a weight bench and a bunch of crap from our old roommates in the baby's room but I can't move that until the garage is cleared, and the garage can't be cleared until space is made in the attic and the stuff in the garage is moved up there but I can't lift anything in the garage because I'm a crazy holiday decorating lady who crams way too much crap into one box which makes them too heavy for me to lift by myself! Which means I need my freaking husband to do it!!! Grrrrr! Oddly enough this rant did make me feel a little better lol. Sorry it's so long!

mrsmoose5 · June 2014

My cat who keeps us awake all night every night. If she's inside, she throws temper tantrums (meowing, hissing, growling, screaming, etc.) because we're asleep and she wants attention/to play. Yes, she has been to the vet and has a clean bill of health. She throws these sort of tantrums whenever she wants something. If she goes outside at night, she comes to our bedroom window when she wants to come in and meows (usually around 1 a.m.). If we close the window, she scratches at the screen and rams her body against the window to make it shake until we get up and let her in. We have tried ignoring her for weeks, and it is just not working. Not only are my husband and I irritated and sleep-deprived, we have no idea what to do about this when we have an infant and she is pulling these antics. I love her because she's my cat, but I am beyond frustrated! UGH!

readyforround2 · June 2014

@mrsmoose5 our cat used to freak out at night too. We had a stray that abandoned one of her kittens (the vet estimated it was around 10 weeks) in our back yard and we intended on giving it to a friend of ours but surprisingly our little man loved having another cat in the house so we decided to keep her. The first week was a little rough but now they keep each other busy at night. Getting another cat might not be possible for you right now but it worked for us. You could also try picking up some mechanical toys like one that spins around and put it in a different room each night. It might be enough entertainment to keep him busy for awhile.

idontevenknow · June 2014

My b*tch might make me look like a brat, but we are going to Disneyland on the 4th of July and I am totally pissed and it was totally not my idea to go that day... SO's fam is down from out of state and apparently that's the only day that they can go. GRRRRR!!! I googled the crowd forecast for this day and read that this is one of the ONLY days where Disneyland could meet capacity and some ticketbearing guests could be denied entrance. Gonna be hot A/F and walking amongst crazy crowds. YAY!

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NatureLovers · June 2014

My bitch is the Hobby Lobby decision. I am furious and appalled.

AHemm1986 · June 2014

NatureLovers said:
My bitch is the Hobby Lobby decision. I am furious and appalled.

I'll leave this here:
https://m.theweek.com/article/index/263225/stop-calling-hobby-lobby-a-christian-business

In case you couldn't guess, I completely agree. I've been raging all day. Definitely my bitch of the day.

AHemm1986 · June 2014

CrazyMonkeyBear said:

AHemm1986 said:

NatureLovers said:
My bitch is the Hobby Lobby decision. I am furious and appalled.
I'll leave this here:
https://m.theweek.com/article/index/263225/stop-calling-hobby-lobby-a-christian-business

In case you couldn't guess, I completely agree. I've been raging all day. Definitely my bitch of the day.

Don't blame either of you. I'm right there with you. Corporations are people, but I guess women aren't in this case.

Don't worry thought, vasectomies and Viagra are still covered! Yes I know this is really only for two forms of the morning after pill and IUDs, but it sets a very dangerous precedent. See Justice Ginsburg's dissent if you really want more details on that pov.

It's nauseating to see things our mothers and grandmothers fought so hard for being slowly dismantled in the name of "religious freedom".

AHemm1986 · June 2014

I obviously don't know how to quote on mobile. Oops, sorry!

Lanatir · June 2014

Any NoVA ladies with me on this? I swear traffic on 95 today was worse than normal... It took over 2 hours to get from Fairfax to Fred Vegas this afternoon (between 3 and then a little after 5)... Normally that trip at that time in the afternoon is an hour and a half tops.

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