FFFC!

mcclan03 · June 2014

noonandj04 said:

pnwlover12 said:

Oh everyone, please calm down! I just wanted to say something shocking to keep the thread interesting, and I suppose it worked. I certainly do not dislike this child at all, nor am I mean to her! I like her, she's cute, but yes I do prefer my other friend's children. They are cuter, but that is definitely not the ONLY reason! Her kids are a little older, at a more "fun" age and they interact with me, and I do see them on a much more regular basis, so they know me and love when I come over to play. The other friend's kid just doesn't really do that much so I have a harder time interacting with her.

Sorry! I promise I'm not that shallow. It's really not about the cuteness thing, that's more of an after-thought due to my favoritism (still bad, I'm aware!).
Oh, the back pedaling.

It's true, really! Ugh, I feel bad. I'm sorry for all I offended with my thoughtless "FFFC". I'm really not a terrible person! I hope I haven't become "that poster" on the O'14 board and will be blacklisted by everyone. I like it here... :-S

I wouldn't fret, OP. It was one random comment. I personally don't have the time or desire to memorize and keep track of who says what every day and hold it again them. Most aren't going to blacklist a virtual stranger based on one paragraph on an internet message board. Plus, lots of comments on Oct14 encourage controversial, juicy confessions, so I think you gave us what we asked for. I can always tell someone spiced things up when I see "83 new" next to a discussion topic!

atraveller · June 2014

Littledeer84 said:

Littledeer84 said:

I totally favor cute children. For example, two very good friends of mine both have young kids that I see often. One has literally the cutest two kids I've EVER seen, and I adore them. When I'm around them, I want to just play with them and pick them up and hold them. My other friend's kid is not so cute, and I honestly don't really pay her much mind when I'm around. I show the bare minimum amount of interest just so I don't come off as rude in front of her parents. I'll be like "Oh, hiiiii (her name)" and smile at her then immediately divert my attention elsewhere. Isn't that just awful??
This does kind of suck. DD is pretty cute (don't get me wrong, she has her really annoying moments too), but she was born with a cleft that involves her lip and nose. I barely notice it but always wonder if she will be teased or treated differently because of it. So hearing this isn't reassuring.

People can suck in that respect. I don't feel like anyone's immune from being made fun of. I doubt it's that noticeable to anyone! The picture you have she looks pretty darn cute to me! Also, Joaquin Phoenix...plenty of ladies think he's pretty damn sexy.
***end quote*** I'm pretty sure DD has the exact same type of cleft as Joaquin Phoenix. It's funny you mention him because most people have never heard of a microform cleft. Thank you all for your reassurance, I usually don't worry about it much, but it gets to me sometimes.

Don't let it worry you. From what I can see she's adorable. And i know this was an FFFC but wow that post by noonandoj4 just made me sad - bc its stuff like that in the adult world that teaches too many people to judge based on looks versus whats on the inside.

atraveller · June 2014

I have two: 1. My brother in law and father in law are bachelors and when they come to stay with us they insist on cleaning up if we cook for them, but they put the dishes into the dishwasher after only barely rinsing and leaving most of the food on them. I know dishwashers are supposed to take food off but it has been my experience that doesn't happen if you don't run the dishwasher immediately and it cakes on. It drives me nuts.... So when they're not paying attention I go into the dishwasher and re-rinse all of the dishes. I feel fussy, but at least that way I don't stop them from trying to do something nice and can still have clean dishes. 2. I have one co-worker who drives me nuts and I prefer to not have to communicate with her on the phone if possible (I work remote), so whenever she calls I pretend to be on a call and IM her that I'm on a call and then she has to email or IM me what she wants. If she asks me to call her when I'm off I lately claim pregnancy brain and forget and then when she tries me again, say I'm back on the phone. I just sometimes am less than patient with her and probably come off that way, so think its easier to avoid verbal communication as much as possible.

[Deleted User] · June 2014

atraveller said:

Littledeer84 said:

Littledeer84 said:

I totally favor cute children. For example, two very good friends of mine both have young kids that I see often. One has literally the cutest two kids I've EVER seen, and I adore them. When I'm around them, I want to just play with them and pick them up and hold them. My other friend's kid is not so cute, and I honestly don't really pay her much mind when I'm around. I show the bare minimum amount of interest just so I don't come off as rude in front of her parents. I'll be like "Oh, hiiiii (her name)" and smile at her then immediately divert my attention elsewhere. Isn't that just awful??
This does kind of suck. DD is pretty cute (don't get me wrong, she has her really annoying moments too), but she was born with a cleft that involves her lip and nose. I barely notice it but always wonder if she will be teased or treated differently because of it. So hearing this isn't reassuring.

People can suck in that respect. I don't feel like anyone's immune from being made fun of. I doubt it's that noticeable to anyone! The picture you have she looks pretty darn cute to me! Also, Joaquin Phoenix...plenty of ladies think he's pretty damn sexy.
***end quote*** I'm pretty sure DD has the exact same type of cleft as Joaquin Phoenix. It's funny you mention him because most people have never heard of a microform cleft. Thank you all for your reassurance, I usually don't worry about it much, but it gets to me sometimes.

Don't let it worry you. From what I can see she's adorable. And i know this was an FFFC but wow that post by noonandoj4 just made me sad - bc its stuff like that in the adult world that teaches too many people to judge based on looks versus whats on the inside.

I really contemplated not replying because I was just ready to walk away from this mess I created and be done with it, but I feel like I just need to get this off my chest before I can drop it. Honestly, I've been thinking about this literally almost nonstop since yesterday. I feel awful. A first class asshole. I've even felt sick to my stomach at points, and wondered why I was letting it get to me so much. You are a bunch of internet strangers, you know? You don't know me, not really, and although at times I can be an asshole (guilty) and completely put my foot in my mouth (big time), I'm not the out-and-out monster some of you have already written me off as. But I realized what's really upsetting me about this is that I didn't think about how what I said could make someone feel. So really I just wanted to touch back here on this because I owe @littledeer84 a big, HUGE apology. I did not think before typing; it never dawned on me how something careless like what I said would make you feel about your daughter. I'm so sorry. Please know that your daughter is beautiful and there are really good people in this world. I'm sorry I couldn't have been a better example of that for you.

That's really the last I want to say in regards to this. I've learned my lesson and will probably stay away from the UO and FFFC threads in the future, and just stick to giving support and advice as I was before. I just hope when the time comes that I need the support and/or advice of this board, that you ladies won't shun me simply because I said one really stupid, regretful thing. Thanks to anyone reading this for hearing me out. Enjoy the rest of your weekend!