FFFC!

AmandaJean12

Littledeer84 said:

noonandj04 said:

I totally favor cute children. For example, two very good friends of mine both have young kids that I see often. One has literally the cutest two kids I've EVER seen, and I adore them. When I'm around them, I want to just play with them and pick them up and hold them. My other friend's kid is not so cute, and I honestly don't really pay her much mind when I'm around. I show the bare minimum amount of interest just so I don't come off as rude in front of her parents. I'll be like "Oh, hiiiii (her name)" and smile at her then immediately divert my attention elsewhere. Isn't that just awful??

This does kind of suck. DD is pretty cute (don't get me wrong, she has her really annoying moments too), but she was born with a cleft that involves her lip and nose. I barely notice it but always wonder if she will be teased or treated differently because of it. So hearing this isn't reassuring.

I used to take care of a little girl with a cleft, and when she got old enough that she asked her mom why her nose/lip were different and if she could fix them I bawled... And she's not my baby girl.I totally feel for you worrying!

trisharenee0316

I have two this week:

1.  I bought a massive bucket of Sprite from McD's to take on a crosstown drive.  When I got to my destination, I was scrambling to organize my millions of bags I was taking inside and knocked the Sprite over into my cupholder and there was about an inch or more of standing Sprite.  I used a spare diaper I keep in my car to clean it up.  FWIW, it worked like a charm.

2.  Several weeks ago I shared a FFFC about judging people who eat at Chik-Fil-A.  We were on vacation last week and I hadn't eaten all day.  I ended up having to go to Chik-Fil-A because I had no idea where anything was and we ran into it.  I was literally sobbing in the drive thru and could barely eat the food because I felt like such an asshole.  And now my $5 food is going to cost me $10 because I'm forcing myself to donate an equal amount of the meal to Lambda Legal (which litigates for LGBT rights).

jesslinnn

NavyFlyer said:

mel689 said:

Signs like this annoy the shit out of me.

When I invite someone into my house I want them to feel comfortable.. if my big dog makes you feel uncomfortable I have no problem putting her in the kitchen while you visit. I think it's so rude when people invite you over and let their dog jump/climb/lick all over you.

hahahaha so funny! I'm totally this type of person though :0) In my defense, I rarely invite people over because of this. These signs DO apply, however, if someone visiting town asks if they can stay at my place, or otherwise REQUESTS to come to my house. Sure, you can stay at my house. But it's Mr. Bub's house too!

I get that, that's why I made sure to say "invite". DH's family is really bad about it. His grandparents have 3 big dogs that go crazy and jump all over me and the kids when we're over. One of the dogs I'm not very comfortable with the kids being around, so the whole time we're there I'm following the boys around like a hawk. Then they complain that we never visit... DH has explained it to them but they don't really seem to care.

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mel689 said:

Signs like this annoy the shit out of me.

When I invite someone into my house I want them to feel comfortable.. if my big dog makes you feel uncomfortable I have no problem putting her in the kitchen while you visit. I think it's so rude when people invite you over and let their dog jump/climb/lick all over you.

Agreed, but my lab is only one and a huge puppy. I have no problem segregating him to another room, but I also tell guests to leave him alone. I HATE when they ignore me, run in with a high pitched voice, and yell "Hi Jakey! You are so cute!" And then get annoyed when he jumps up and make comments about how I need to control my dog. He was fine until you bothered him lady!! 

staryb

My FFFC:

I have hardly done anything at work in WEEKS! To be fair it hasn't been super busy but I have been taking my time with everything I do and only accomplish small things in between browsing around on the internet. I have a coworker who is notoriously lazy and has probably been getting blamed for our lack of productivity and I don't feel bad about it. My laziness has nothing to do with my pregnancy and everything to do with the fact that I have very little respect for my boss and the way she runs the company. I can't wait until October when I have an excuse to quit, I'd do it sooner but I need to make as much money as I can before LO arrives. 

MorganWP

My FFFC:

Speaking of frosting. I made some buttercream icing for DD's birthday cupcakes and I purposely used less on each cupcake so that I would have leftover icing to snack on. Which I've been doing all week. Today is my GD test and I ate the rest of it last night just in case I failed the test today.

MrsTinMKE

I have zero sympathy for people who blame their life's problems on their childhood.... I want to tell people to get the F over it when they post their woe is me story on FB.  Having a bad childhood doesn't give you an excuse for making bad decisions, or blame your parents for crap like...why you can't hold a job, or why you do drugs.  I just want to slap these people.....I believe you are responsible for your own life as an adult and make your own decisions.  Stop making damn excuses. 

(PS - I grew up in a pretty messed up home,  so I could be one of these people, but I believe in taking responsibility for my own life)

Emerald27

My next door neighbors just told me they're moving (I saw a uhaul outside a couple days last week so I'm sure it's very soon), and I lied and said that we were sorry to see them go. The husband and wife sit on their porch all the time smoking, and we can't open the windows on that side of the house because the smoke smell comes inside and is super gross. We don't actually even know their names, so we really aren't sorry to see them go.

ETA: I hope this doesn't come back to bite me when our new neighbors move in. FX for a very nice, quiet, non-smoker. Lol

NavyFlyer

@mel689 that would be annoying since they insist you come visit. 

I pretty much tell people not to come to my house, and if they do, it's at their own risk. I guess this is a bit of a FFFC in and of itself, but I would much rather not get to see someone than to have to make my dog nervous and lock him up...... he's not aggressive, just really big and "in your face". 

Crazy dog lady, much?? yes, yes I guess I am..... 

 

SusieBW

FamousEa said:

pnwlover12 said:

I have another. DD is going through a weird eating phase right now. I managed to get her to eat about 1/2 an apple and after that, all she wanted to eat was shredded cheese. So I gave in. And my stomach is turning watching her eat it and lick her fingers after each bite. Oh well, least it has some protein.

My DD's epic obsession with yogurt is starting to gross me out, too.  At least it's yogurt and it's healthy, but when she's got her whole hand in the little cup, trying to dip her bananas in it, and there's yogurt ALL OVER her face, I skeeve a little bit.  I ask her if she wants oatmeal (or pretty much anything else) for breakfast every morning, but all she ever wants is yogurt.  And I let her have it every day because at least it's good for her.

My DD dunks her whole hand in the yogurt and then puts her fist in her mouth and slurps it off. Then it usually ends up all over her face. Edit to add -then she usually try's to pat my arm or my cheek with her yogurt covered hand

Yup, all the time.  So gross.

staryb

MrsTinMKE said:

I have zero sympathy for people who blame their life's problems on their childhood.... I want to tell people to get the F over it when they post their woe is me story on FB.  Having a bad childhood doesn't give you an excuse for making bad decisions, or blame your parents for crap like...why you can't hold a job, or why you do drugs.  I just want to slap these people.....I believe you are responsible for your own life as an adult and make your own decisions.  Stop making damn excuses. 

(PS - I grew up in a pretty messed up home,  so I could be one of these people, but I believe in taking responsibility for my own life)

My MIL often complains about how she used to be picked on in elementary school. She says it's part of the reason she's not more confident now 8-|

Emerald27

MrsSinner402 said:

theresat858 said:

My FFFC:
I peed in a diaper the other day.

Backstory: Baby girl likes to play soccer with my bladder. I peed before I left work, and it is usually a 45min drive home with traffic.  Traffic, however, was *terrible*...stupid county fair between work and home, and who knows what else was going on...after about an hour, only halfway home, I really really had to pee...ok, I'd had to pee for at least 20 minutes at that point.  One of DD's diapers was in the front seat...so I put it down my pants and used it.  It would have taken at least 20 minutes extra to get off of and back on the highway, and as it was, I finally got to daycare 10 minutes before they closed at 6.

Pregnant lady problems.

Hahaha! Someone else here did that, too. I think it was @AppleGrapeMSTK‌ or @Emerald27? I may be wrong, but I know someone has!

Wasn't me! The worst thing I've peed in during this pregnancy was the mens restroom at Cracker Barrel!

You win, @theresat858‌! Great confession. Now I must ask...did it work? Was the diaper really absorbent enough? I considered this while we were driving from MO back to VA this past weekend because DH was becoming annoyed at my frequent potty breaks, but decided against it since I thought it wouldn't hold enough pee!

hgielrebmik

Speaking of pets, my FFFC is that I have no desire to have pets....whatsoever. And I don't understand how some people treat their pet like their child. Last time my inlaws came for the weekend they brought their black lab with them without asking first. (BTW: I am allergic to dogs and they know this, but never make a fuss at their house, bc its their house. I just dont touch the dog and wash my hands a lot.) Its one thing when its your own house, but I do not appreciate having to clean up dog hair after you leave.

NavyFlyer

hgielrebmik said:

Speaking of pets, my FFFC is that I have no desire to have pets....whatsoever. And I don't understand how some people treat their pet like their child. Last time my inlaws came for the weekend they brought their black lab with them without asking first. (BTW: I am allergic to dogs and they know this, but never make a fuss at their house, bc its their house. I just dont touch the dog and wash my hands a lot.) Its one thing when its your own house, but I do not appreciate having to clean up dog hair after you leave.

I can't relate because I cannot imagine living without a dog in my home, BUT I would NEVER EVER EVER EVER take him to someones house without them offering first. I wouldn't even ASK, it would have to be something that they volunteered up, like "come for a BBQ, dogs welcome!". That is crazy rude of your inlaws. 

SusieBW

NavyFlyer said:

I pretty much tell people not to come to my house, and if they do, it's at their own risk. I guess this is a bit of a FFFC in and of itself, but I would much rather not get to see someone than to have to make my dog nervous and lock him up...... he's not aggressive, just really big and "in your face". 

Crazy dog lady, much?? yes, yes I guess I am..... 

 

My dog isn't aggressive or big, but he's really hyper and has anxiety and OCD, so I also tend not to have people over.  Hell, sometimes I don't want to deal with my dog, so I completely get it that other people don't.  When we want to have a party or something, he goes to my ILs for the night.  If someone is there for a quick visit or if we have to have delivery people (we just got a new washer and dryer) or contractors come to the house, he gets locked up.  I have a few friends that are dog people that I know it's cool for them to come over and deal with him. 

I don't consider myself a crazy dog person, though, other than in the sense that I own a crazy dog.

Emerald27

savagek7 said:

Oh, I have another one, too...
I have begun wearing my husband's athletic shorts, sweatpants, and t-shirts around the house. Mine just don't accommodate the bump at all. I am SO not ashamed.

I do this too! He actually complains about it, so sometimes I'll wear his athletic shorts or sweats during the day and switch to maternity pants before he comes home from work. ">

Emerald27

theresat858 said:

Emerald27 said:

MrsSinner402 said:

theresat858 said:

My FFFC:
I peed in a diaper the other day.

Backstory: Baby girl likes to play soccer with my bladder. I peed before I left work, and it is usually a 45min drive home with traffic.  Traffic, however, was *terrible*...stupid county fair between work and home, and who knows what else was going on...after about an hour, only halfway home, I really really had to pee...ok, I'd had to pee for at least 20 minutes at that point.  One of DD's diapers was in the front seat...so I put it down my pants and used it.  It would have taken at least 20 minutes extra to get off of and back on the highway, and as it was, I finally got to daycare 10 minutes before they closed at 6.

Pregnant lady problems.

Hahaha! Someone else here did that, too. I think it was @AppleGrapeMSTK‌ or @Emerald27? I may be wrong, but I know someone has!

Wasn't me! The worst thing I've peed in during this pregnancy was the mens restroom at Cracker Barrel!

You win, @theresat858‌! Great confession. Now I must ask...did it work? Was the diaper really absorbent enough? I considered this while we were driving from MO back to VA this past weekend because DH was becoming annoyed at my frequent potty breaks, but decided against it since I thought it wouldn't hold enough pee!

Yes, it worked! Sposies are crazy absorbant...like, I was worried, and then it barely appeared wet.


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Is it bad that I kind of want to go try this out? Lol.

DS wears a size 5. Hmmm...

MrsTinMKE

Nicb13 said:

MrsTinMKE said:

I have zero sympathy for people who blame their life's problems on their childhood.... I want to tell people to get the F over it when they post their woe is me story on FB.  Having a bad childhood doesn't give you an excuse for making bad decisions, or blame your parents for crap like...why you can't hold a job, or why you do drugs.  I just want to slap these people.....I believe you are responsible for your own life as an adult and make your own decisions.  Stop making damn excuses. 

(PS - I grew up in a pretty messed up home,  so I could be one of these people, but I believe in taking responsibility for my own life)

Eh. This is a tough one because some things can legit screw a person up if they don't get the proper help or have support (which is a lot of people I know).

For example, someone that was molested and the parents didn't get them counseling or hell, didn't believe them. That will F a person up for sure and not everyone is as strong as you and can easily overcome bad shit. Just like I said in the MIL thread, lots of alcoholics (not all of them) drink to forget about their problems and that's a hard thing to quit doing if what you are escaping from is truly awful.

I can understand... I know this is a tricky one... I was abused for years by my mother's husband and to this day she stays with him and has told family she thinks I lied about everything (this after he spent some time in jail for what he did) So I understand how difficult it is to deal with these things.  But I think some people take it to the extreme and take less serious situations and use them to make excuses for why they make bad choices or do the things they do.  At some point you have to take accountability for your life as an adult...But I do understand how difficult and complicated these things can be.

narabug

MrsTinMKE said:

I have zero sympathy for people who blame their life's problems on their childhood.... I want to tell people to get the F over it when they post their woe is me story on FB.  Having a bad childhood doesn't give you an excuse for making bad decisions, or blame your parents for crap like...why you can't hold a job, or why you do drugs.  I just want to slap these people.....I believe you are responsible for your own life as an adult and make your own decisions.  Stop making damn excuses. 

(PS - I grew up in a pretty messed up home,  so I could be one of these people, but I believe in taking responsibility for my own life)

I agree completely. My home growing up as a bit messed up. I'm honestly surprised that no one ever called CPS due to the state of filth we lived in for quite a while. My husband's was worse. I believe both of us to be capable, responsible adults. His siblings... Not so much. But if he can do it, what's their excuse?

MrsSinner402

MrsTinMKE said:

Nicb13 said:

MrsTinMKE said:

I have zero sympathy for people who blame their life's problems on their childhood.... I want to tell people to get the F over it when they post their woe is me story on FB.  Having a bad childhood doesn't give you an excuse for making bad decisions, or blame your parents for crap like...why you can't hold a job, or why you do drugs.  I just want to slap these people.....I believe you are responsible for your own life as an adult and make your own decisions.  Stop making damn excuses. 

(PS - I grew up in a pretty messed up home,  so I could be one of these people, but I believe in taking responsibility for my own life)

Eh. This is a tough one because some things can legit screw a person up if they don't get the proper help or have support (which is a lot of people I know).

For example, someone that was molested and the parents didn't get them counseling or hell, didn't believe them. That will F a person up for sure and not everyone is as strong as you and can easily overcome bad shit. Just like I said in the MIL thread, lots of alcoholics (not all of them) drink to forget about their problems and that's a hard thing to quit doing if what you are escaping from is truly awful.

I can understand... I know this is a tricky one... I was abused for years by my mother's husband and to this day she stays with him and has told family she thinks I lied about everything (this after he spent some time in jail for what he did) So I understand how difficult it is to deal with these things.  But I think some people take it to the extreme and take less serious situations and use them to make excuses for why they make bad choices or do the things they do.  At some point you have to take accountability for your life as an adult...But I do understand how difficult and complicated these things can be.

@MrsTinMKE‌ I'm so sorry you went through that. Hugs.

MrsTinMKE

narabug said:

MrsTinMKE said:

I have zero sympathy for people who blame their life's problems on their childhood.... I want to tell people to get the F over it when they post their woe is me story on FB.  Having a bad childhood doesn't give you an excuse for making bad decisions, or blame your parents for crap like...why you can't hold a job, or why you do drugs.  I just want to slap these people.....I believe you are responsible for your own life as an adult and make your own decisions.  Stop making damn excuses. 

(PS - I grew up in a pretty messed up home,  so I could be one of these people, but I believe in taking responsibility for my own life)

I agree completely. My home growing up as a bit messed up. I'm honestly surprised that no one ever called CPS due to the state of filth we lived in for quite a while. My husband's was worse. I believe both of us to be capable, responsible adults. His siblings... Not so much. But if he can do it, what's their excuse?

Yes - I have a brother who does the same thing.  He has barley held a job the last 7 years.... can't take care of himself and continues to do stupid things like getting tattoos all over his hands and quitting jobs etc... just stupid things that keep getting him into trouble, and it is always everyone else's fault.  Like you said, if I can do it, why can't he? some people need an excuse for their poor choices. 

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MrsTinMKE said:

Nicb13 said:

MrsTinMKE said:

I have zero sympathy for people who blame their life's problems on their childhood.... I want to tell people to get the F over it when they post their woe is me story on FB.  Having a bad childhood doesn't give you an excuse for making bad decisions, or blame your parents for crap like...why you can't hold a job, or why you do drugs.  I just want to slap these people.....I believe you are responsible for your own life as an adult and make your own decisions.  Stop making damn excuses. 

(PS - I grew up in a pretty messed up home,  so I could be one of these people, but I believe in taking responsibility for my own life)

Eh. This is a tough one because some things can legit screw a person up if they don't get the proper help or have support (which is a lot of people I know).

For example, someone that was molested and the parents didn't get them counseling or hell, didn't believe them. That will F a person up for sure and not everyone is as strong as you and can easily overcome bad shit. Just like I said in the MIL thread, lots of alcoholics (not all of them) drink to forget about their problems and that's a hard thing to quit doing if what you are escaping from is truly awful.

I can understand... I know this is a tricky one... I was abused for years by my mother's husband and to this day she stays with him and has told family she thinks I lied about everything (this after he spent some time in jail for what he did) So I understand how difficult it is to deal with these things.  But I think some people take it to the extreme and take less serious situations and use them to make excuses for why they make bad choices or do the things they do.  At some point you have to take accountability for your life as an adult...But I do understand how difficult and complicated these things can be.

Jesus. I'm sorry you went through that.

MrsTinMKE

noonandj04 said:

Nicb13 said:

MrsTinMKE said:

I have zero sympathy for people who blame their life's problems on their childhood.... I want to tell people to get the F over it when they post their woe is me story on FB.  Having a bad childhood doesn't give you an excuse for making bad decisions, or blame your parents for crap like...why you can't hold a job, or why you do drugs.  I just want to slap these people.....I believe you are responsible for your own life as an adult and make your own decisions.  Stop making damn excuses. 

(PS - I grew up in a pretty messed up home,  so I could be one of these people, but I believe in taking responsibility for my own life)

Eh. This is a tough one because some things can legit screw a person up if they don't get the proper help or have support (which is a lot of people I know).

For example, someone that was molested and the parents didn't get them counseling or hell, didn't believe them. That will F a person up for sure and not everyone is as strong as you and can easily overcome bad shit. Just like I said in the MIL thread, lots of alcoholics (not all of them) drink to forget about their problems and that's a hard thing to quit doing if what you are escaping from is truly awful.

I can understand... I know this is a tricky one... I was abused for years by my mother's husband and to this day she stays with him and has told family she thinks I lied about everything (this after he spent some time in jail for what he did) So I understand how difficult it is to deal with these things.  But I think some people take it to the extreme and take less serious situations and use them to make excuses for why they make bad choices or do the things they do.  At some point you have to take accountability for your life as an adult...But I do understand how difficult and complicated these things can be.

Jesus. I'm sorry you went through that.

Thanks ladies! It hope you don't think I was looking for sympathy! I really do appreciate the kindness.  I was just trying to make a point... I have been seeing this stuff a lot latley and it is so frustrating! lol 

bumpuser10309732

MrsTinMKE said:

Nicb13 said:

MrsTinMKE said:

I have zero sympathy for people who blame their life's problems on their childhood.... I want to tell people to get the F over it when they post their woe is me story on FB.  Having a bad childhood doesn't give you an excuse for making bad decisions, or blame your parents for crap like...why you can't hold a job, or why you do drugs.  I just want to slap these people.....I believe you are responsible for your own life as an adult and make your own decisions.  Stop making damn excuses. 

(PS - I grew up in a pretty messed up home,  so I could be one of these people, but I believe in taking responsibility for my own life)

Eh. This is a tough one because some things can legit screw a person up if they don't get the proper help or have support (which is a lot of people I know).

For example, someone that was molested and the parents didn't get them counseling or hell, didn't believe them. That will F a person up for sure and not everyone is as strong as you and can easily overcome bad shit. Just like I said in the MIL thread, lots of alcoholics (not all of them) drink to forget about their problems and that's a hard thing to quit doing if what you are escaping from is truly awful.

I can understand... I know this is a tricky one... I was abused for years by my mother's husband and to this day she stays with him and has told family she thinks I lied about everything (this after he spent some time in jail for what he did) So I understand how difficult it is to deal with these things.  But I think some people take it to the extreme and take less serious situations and use them to make excuses for why they make bad choices or do the things they do.  At some point you have to take accountability for your life as an adult...But I do understand how difficult and complicated these things can be.

Wow, I'm so sorry you were put through that. I can't imagine. 

I watched this special on 9/11 and it was about the families and how they were coping with what happened. This lady lost her husband and she had 2 daughters who were 9-12 and they had said that everyone stared at them when they went back to school. Their mom said something to them that really stuck with me. She said that their father dying is just part of their story, it doesn't have to BE their story. 

Edited: suck at gramar  

MrsTinMKE

Wow, I'm so sorry you were put through that. I can't imagine. 

I watched this special on 9/11 and it was about the families and how they were coping with what happened. This lady lost her husband and she had 2 daughters who were 9-12 and they had said that everyone stared at them when they went back to school. They're mom said something to them that really stuck with me. She said that they're father dying is just part of their story, it doesn't have to BE their story. 

Love this - Said this to my youngest brother last week (This one has his stuff together, but still struggling) I told him, it is something you went through, it is not who you are...These things do not define the person you are.  

MorganWP

In relation to people blaming their childhood for what has happened to them in adult life. I hate when people blame their absent parent for their problems. Like "Im this way because my father (or mother, I have a few friends whose mom wasnt the best) wasnt around" or whatever. I can count the amount of times I've seen/spent time with my father on one hand and whatever problems Ive had growing up are in no way related to him so why would I blame him for it? I get that its different for some people (broken promises etc) but still. If they werent there it shouldnt effect your life in any way.

ashcakes921

DH and I have run into car troubles this month. We've had two die on us. We're young, only been married 9 months and just a little over a year out of college so we're not wealthy to say the least. So lately I've been thinking this was not a good time to get pregnant. We made the choice to stop using protection which was perfectly effective up to that point. DH tells me he knew what could happen and would not have stopped using condoms if he didn't want a baby at the time. But I'm just worried we won't be able to take care of her and it'll be all my fault because I feel like I pressured him to have this baby.

Don't get me wrong, we both love her and are excited. But stressed.

bumpuser10309732

ashcakes921 said:

DH and I have run into car troubles this month. We've had two die on us. We're young, only been married 9 months and just a little over a year out of college so we're not wealthy to say the least. So lately I've been thinking this was not a good time to get pregnant. We made the choice to stop using protection which was perfectly effective up to that point. DH tells me he knew what could happen and would not have stopped using condoms if he didn't want a baby at the time. But I'm just worried we won't be able to take care of her and it'll be all my fault because I feel like I pressured him to have this baby. Don't get me wrong, we both love her and are excited. But stressed.

I'm sorry! Those things would be stressful for anyone. I've come to find that life is pretty much one thing after another! If we waited for the perfect time to have a baby there wouldn't be anymore babies :-) 

staryb

MrsBabe614 said:

ashcakes921 said:

DH and I have run into car troubles this month. We've had two die on us. We're young, only been married 9 months and just a little over a year out of college so we're not wealthy to say the least. So lately I've been thinking this was not a good time to get pregnant. We made the choice to stop using protection which was perfectly effective up to that point. DH tells me he knew what could happen and would not have stopped using condoms if he didn't want a baby at the time. But I'm just worried we won't be able to take care of her and it'll be all my fault because I feel like I pressured him to have this baby. Don't get me wrong, we both love her and are excited. But stressed.

I'm sorry! Those things would be stressful for anyone. I've come to find that life is pretty much one thing after another! If we waited for the perfect time to have a baby there wouldn't be anymore babies :-) 

This^ 

I wish we had started a family sooner but money has always been an issue for us. I was the one making excuses and putting off having kids in our relationship for that very reason and DH was starting to get really upset over it. Then I realized one day that I was about to turn 30 and that we needed to get started, ready or not. I still have the same concerns that you have but I know everything will work out. I'd rather be broke and have the family that we've always wanted than be comfortable and miss out on anything. 

MissMandyD

MrsTinMKE said:

Wow, I'm so sorry you were put through that. I can't imagine. 

I watched this special on 9/11 and it was about the families and how they were coping with what happened. This lady lost her husband and she had 2 daughters who were 9-12 and they had said that everyone stared at them when they went back to school. They're mom said something to them that really stuck with me. She said that they're father dying is just part of their story, it doesn't have to BE their story. 

Love this - Said this to my youngest brother last week (This one has his stuff together, but still struggling) I told him, it is something you went through, it is not who you are...These things do not define the person you are.  

Love the bold statement. DH and I were just saying this the other day. I have a family that likes to sweep things under the rug and want things to be processed and done. I tend to think that all of the things that happen in your life become a part of who you are. The good and the bad. 

AppleGrapeMSTK

MrsSinner402 said:

theresat858 said:

My FFFC:
I peed in a diaper the other day.

Backstory: Baby girl likes to play soccer with my bladder. I peed before I left work, and it is usually a 45min drive home with traffic.  Traffic, however, was *terrible*...stupid county fair between work and home, and who knows what else was going on...after about an hour, only halfway home, I really really had to pee...ok, I'd had to pee for at least 20 minutes at that point.  One of DD's diapers was in the front seat...so I put it down my pants and used it.  It would have taken at least 20 minutes extra to get off of and back on the highway, and as it was, I finally got to daycare 10 minutes before they closed at 6.

Pregnant lady problems.

Hahaha! Someone else here did that, too. I think it was @AppleGrapeMSTK‌ or @Emerald27? I may be wrong, but I know someone has!

It was totally me. I've done this twice and wasn't pregnant either time. At least you have a reasonable excuse!

lilmissfancy

I don't want to be selfish but I'm hating my husband's job right now. They are trying to deploy him right before the baby comes. So I'll be a single mom for the first few months and he will miss everything.

jesslinnn

lilmissfancy said:

I don't want to be selfish but I'm hating my husband's job right now. They are trying to deploy him right before the baby comes. So I'll be a single mom for the first few months and he will miss everything.

You don't sound selfish at all. I can't imagine how hard that would be.

AmandaJean12

lilmissfancy said:

I don't want to be selfish but I'm hating my husband's job right now. They are trying to deploy him right before the baby comes. So I'll be a single mom for the first few months and he will miss everything.

Not selfish at all, just honest. I have so much respect for the parents who stay home and do everything themselves while their SO is deployed!

I hope you don't have to, but it you have to you will do great. And you'll have a lot of ladies sending their support, myself included.

jesslinnn

ashcakes921 said:

DH and I have run into car troubles this month. We've had two die on us. We're young, only been married 9 months and just a little over a year out of college so we're not wealthy to say the least. So lately I've been thinking this was not a good time to get pregnant. We made the choice to stop using protection which was perfectly effective up to that point. DH tells me he knew what could happen and would not have stopped using condoms if he didn't want a baby at the time. But I'm just worried we won't be able to take care of her and it'll be all my fault because I feel like I pressured him to have this baby. Don't get me wrong, we both love her and are excited. But stressed.

Everything will work out. I know how stressful it is to not feel ready, but I think everyone probably feels that way a little bit when they're pregnant with their first kid (or any kid really). When we got pregnant (we were not trying!) with DS1 we were only 21 and not at all prepared for a kid. Everything worked out. Yes, we struggled a bit the first year (I'm pretty sure both of our cars took shits that year too) but we got through it. We've come a LONG way in the past 4.5 years since we got the positive test. It's crazy how much has changed and I think it was really our son that motivated us to work hard to get where we are today. Keep your head up lady.

lct2008

lilmissfancy said:

I don't want to be selfish but I'm hating my husband's job right now. They are trying to deploy him right before the baby comes. So I'll be a single mom for the first few months and he will miss everything.

I don't think that's selfish at all to have those feelings. At least I hope not. We are dealing with that too. We are already having to wait right now to find out where we are moving in 5 weeks which has annoyed me enough. Now there's a really good chance dh could not be here for baby being born Etc and I am so stressed thinking about being in a new place where I don't know anyone, trying to deal with my almost 3 year old and figuring out what to do with him and giving birth alone. Blah.

Anyway- I don't really have any good fffc. I ate two pieces of cake last night and plan on eating one tonight. But I don't feel guilty. I'm celebrating passing the glucose test I took on Friday or I've just been craving sweets.

Jennifer18131

An ex boyfriend just posted a FB status of "Someone offered me a job as a prostitute, but I'm hesitant." It's one of those stupid games where every commenter gets a PM with a "challenge" for some awareness or something. I'm really tempted to comment "With a penis as small as yours, I would be too."

Yes, I'm 12. And keep him as a FB friend for entertainment purposes.

pnwlover12

Jennifer18131 said:

An ex boyfriend just posted a FB status of "Someone offered me a job as a prostitute, but I'm hesitant." It's one of those stupid games where every commenter gets a PM with a "challenge" for some awareness or something. I'm really tempted to comment "With a penis as small as yours, I would be too."

Yes, I'm 12. And keep him as a FB friend for entertainment purposes.

Do it. Dooooo it.

hgielrebmik

When DH and I stay in a hotel, if we can't get a king, I insist we each sleep in our own bed. *Currently enjoying stretching out over an entire bed to myself*

ohioloveyou

FamousEa said:

Jennifer18131 said:

An ex boyfriend just posted a FB status of "Someone offered me a job as a prostitute, but I'm hesitant." It's one of those stupid games where every commenter gets a PM with a "challenge" for some awareness or something. I'm really tempted to comment "With a penis as small as yours, I would be too." Yes, I'm 12. And keep him as a FB friend for entertainment purposes.

Your friends sound more interesting. Mine all started using socks for toilet paper.

Pretty much all my friends were posting about diarrhea..

WHAT?  Why would you be using socks for toilet paper?  And then the next post made me think about how gross that would be if you did have diarrhea.