B*fest Monday

angelsnight · June 2014

Can I start, I so need to vent.

angelsnight · June 2014

I've mentioned in other threads that we just hired a maid service to come in bi-monthly since I now have zero time to clean the house since returning to work.

They were supposed to come Thursday, but locked themselves out because they tried using the deadbolt, which I specifically said the key was for the doorknob only.

So they came Friday, and I just happened to be home. First, they left our door wide open to go out to their car to get something, despite being told we have cats that cannot get let out. Both things (the door and the key) were told to the woman that did the consultation, so either the crew just doesn't listen, or were not given this info.

Once they left I did a walk through....a rather sloppy clean, gritty granuals on the kitchen floor, only half the floor under the furniture was vaccumed, they missed a light fixture covered in dust and the cabinets under the kitchen sink were still filthy. I'm willing to overlook the missed items because I know our house was REALLY dirty, but I hope this doesn't continue.

But the worst part, they broke a knickknack we have for our angel, and they didn't say one word about it! I understand accidents happen, but I am really pissed they didn't at least leave a note. I want to give them another chance, but I'm just not sure I should. Potentially letting my cats run away and breaking hugely sentimental items is a big deal.

WoodShopGirl · June 2014

That sucks about your keepsake @angelsnight‌. I would be having a conversation with the company and depending on how said conversation went I would decide if I was going forward with them.

My bitch: I just dropped A off at daycare for the first time. I don't start work until Wednesday but I wanted to take him a half day today and tomorrow for practice. It wasn't horrible, but not fun either. And I forgot his paci.

Kewii · June 2014

@angelsnight That would get them fired by me. The breaking something and not owning up to it is way too disrespectful to have them still coming. Any chance you can find an individual to come clean? Someone who is not a company? Then you'll know they have your instructions instead of worrying about it getting passed on.

SurpriseAt39 · June 2014

I had just gotten back to sleep at 6am after feeding LO when my phone rang at 6:30.

OMG. I hate wrong numbers.
If you are calling someone before 8am you better make DAMNED sure you have the right number.

I never got back to sleep.

SurpriseAt39 · June 2014

Also, I have a kink in my upper back. It really hurts. I can't seem to fix it.
I need a massage, but can't seem to work it into my day.

I'm going to see if I can book one for Wednesday.

mfarmer0811 · June 2014

@angelsnight‌ I'm so sorry that happened! How annoying; I don't think I would give them another chance.

My BF is that I'm SO tired of people coming up and rubbing my baby's head...especially when he's asleep!!! DS is a light sleeper and without fail, when I have him out at least 4 people come up and start rubbing his head! I was at a bridal shower yesterday, and it happened no less than 10 times!!! Ugh gross...and rude!! I'm going to start rubbing their heads next time!

saisongbird · June 2014

Dh went to a birthday party an hour or so away yesterday. I wasn't going to say don't go but we had such an awful morning and then I was alone with the baby again all day! I wasn't comfortable going since my car adapter for my pump isn't here yet and it was an outdoor party - too long for LO. I felt abandoned by him - not cool.

angelsnight · June 2014

I have another....my inlaws are watching LO on Mondays now and I told all the grandparents, no blankets or stuffed animals in the crib. So my MIL sends a pic this morning of her napping with a blanket over her and her monkey stuffie. I'm not so worried about it since I know they'll constantly check on her, it's not like she's sleeping overnight where they'll be asleep too. And if anything, she'd be more likely to kick the blankets off than get them up around her face, but it makes me wonder what else they are doing that I said not to.

And my stepmom is trying to over feed my kid. Even if she isn't due for a bottle for another hour or two, she'll feed her if she's fussing. Not to say I've never done that, sometimes she really is just extra hungry, but not ALL the time. Yesterday she said she was still crying after her 4 ounces so she gave her ANOTHER full four ounces. I am so surprised she didn't spit that second bottle up all over her. LO almost always fusses after a bottle until she burps because it's uncomfortable for her, it doesn't mean she needs more. Thankfully my dad watches her more often and agrees fussing does not equal hungry all the time.

SurpriseAt39 · June 2014

@angelsnight‌
When I returned to work last year MIL (and FIL) were babysitting a couple days a week.
We had given them instructions for certain foods not to be given, but MIL decided any liquidy-mushy type food was fine (we did BLW so he was never spoon fed). She was giving him a butterscotch pudding (or 2) every day.
* he was 10 months old

She was babysitting at our house so I had no worries initially because we feed him what we eat, and don't keep junk food in the house. But then she started making 'lunch' at home and bringing it with her. So she was feeding him all her own homemade purees and frankly, she is a scary cook. Really...

Eventually she became unreliable as a sitter so I didn't have to worry about him being with her 10-12 hours a day without a parent.
**I'm not sure what I'm doing when I return to work next spring. :-S

tsmith312 · June 2014

ITS MONDAY, I don't want to be at work, I miss LO.

My other one, is people who are constantly complaining about ANYTHING and EVERYTHING. I'm more so referencing to some people on my FB. I mean I have a friend who is a SAHM mom and is always complaining about having to take care of her kids, cook , clean with no help.. PLEASE I do all of that while working 60 hours a week THANKS ! CONSIDER yourself lucky you get that extra time with your child.

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desertmouse39 · June 2014

@Laura8388

Insomnia is the WORST. Sorry you are dealing with it, and a total injustice that your LO is sleeping and you cannot. I hope they have a good medication for you - are you bfing? If so, options might be limited but even taking some Unisom for one or two nights might help you get some rest and break the cycle. Good luck.

My bitch for the day is that we had to pay over 3K in medical bills last month (and still have as much outstanding) and it is going to use up a huge percent of the savings we put away so we could move back to CA next summer. It is looking like we will not be able to do so, and I feel so trapped here, in a place I didn't want to move to in the first place, but was assured would only be for a few years, max...

:-<

ProudMommy030614 · June 2014

I have two: 1) time needs to slow down Colton is 3 months old already. Before I know it he will be going off to school. 2) it's so hot and humid outside already.

kstar83 · June 2014

Was hanging out with lots of family this weekend. At one point I was excited to celebrate that I had lost 30 lbs since I got home from the hospital. My grandmothers response? "good. keep going."

ummm.... I plan on it, but really? I didn't gain that much in pregnancy, almost at my weight when we first got pregnant. Granted im a little overweight, but not terrible. And frankly, I consider myself pretty healthy. I don't drink very much, I work out and mostly eat whole foods. My main goal is to develop a healthy sense of self and be happy about it so that I pass on good habits to my daughter. Not trying every single random type of diet out there and constantly stressing about weight.

PerkyErky · June 2014

@angelsnight‌ I would be so upset. Definitely talk to them and see what they do to try and "make it right", but it sounds like they won't be working for you much longer.

@Laura8388‌ not sleeping sucks! Hope you're able to knock yourself out tonight. And good thoughts for Ryker's appt today!

@kstar83 congrats on the weight loss. Boo on your grandma, she can go kick rocks!

PerkyErky · June 2014

My bfest. My BIL is still a colossal asshole. He called his 10 y/I son ugly last week because he has long hair and "looks like a girl" and told DH that is the longest conversation he's ever had with his son. It's his place/right to tell his kid whatever he wants and he knows his kid will end up being one of the ones who shoots up a school.

I loathe him. He has inflicted damage on this boy and sees nothing wrong. Then he goes about his merry way posing pictures of his stupid dogs and his girlfriend's 3 daughters.

All I can do it try to offer as much support and encouragement to his son in an attempt to let him know not all adults are judgmental assholes. DH and I also plan to have him come stay with us for a few weekends this summer so he can have a positive silt male interaction.

desertmouse39 · June 2014

@bennieangel - thank you. Yes, the only part of this scenario I can really control is my reaction and adjustment to the circumstances. The crime and the schools here are awful, so a big part of wanting to leave has to do with my little girls, but it may be that we just have to look at an in-state move, maybe more rural.

Khedges07 · June 2014

My BF..... Lily has suddenly taken to not eating as much during day & waking again every two hrs in night from midnight! Grrrr! Hubby is away with work, DS is being a pain in the tush with attitude etc!!! I'm tired, cranky bitch that just wants a break & some sleep!
Booooo!

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Rant over!

Babybeachbum · June 2014

If I hear my mom say one more time that I don't feed LO enough or that he's hungry I'm going to lose it!! He eats 4oz of pumped breast milk every 3 hours and nurses 2-3 times daily. He has almost doubled his birth weight and grew 4 inches!!! He's eating enough, he's just fussy bc you scare him with your weird "baby voice" and faces you make at him!!

PerkyErky · June 2014

@bennieangel‌ his mom is the one single parenting and she tries. But she also kind of puts my nephew in the middle by telling him what an asshole his dad is etc. My BIL has cared for his son solo twice for a few hours each time in the last 10 years. He is just a piece of work and true narcissist. My nephew's mom tries but she is kind of flaky too and not the best parent, although of the two she is a gazillion times better than my BIL. She is always going from one job to the next and has now decided to go back to school, they are constantly moving. My nephew has no real stability and my heart just breaks for him.

LittlePigeon · June 2014

Lame BF, but the only friend I hang out with on a regular basis during the day is on vacation. I miss her and wish I was in Florida at the beach with her!

kstar83 · June 2014

bennieangel I feel the same way. I am the first to have kids in my group from college. They live maybe 20 min away. Not one of them has met LO yet. They assume i can't do anything because I have a kid so never invite me. They have planned twice to come out as a big group. We bought stuff to BBQ etc. Then all canceled the same day. She is almost 3 months old. I hadn't seen them in a while when pregnant either.Sucks. Part of why we moved back here was to be closer to family and friends... but despite being in their 30s, none of them really seem ready to settle down. And I really don't want to have a conversation about you getting drunk and making out with a random at a bar in front of everyone again...

SurpriseAt39 · June 2014

MIL is a whiny bitch.

She cancelled taking DS1 one day so I could get some running around done.
Then she asked to take him on the only day DH had off in a 2 week span so we said no.
She hasn't asked since...and she's going away for 10 days then back for 2 and leaving for 6 more.
She whined about wanting to see him but not knowing how to fit it in...

She almost asked for him today, but He has a contagious rash...and with how easily she catches stuff, we told her to stay away.

Whine, whine, whine...

teachermommy9967 · June 2014

@SurpriseAt39‌ I could have written that myself. The exact same thing happened to me at 7:00 just 15mins after I put baby boy back to bed after his early morning feeding. Thanks to her he was up for the day

YankeePeach08 · June 2014

@angelsnight‌ you should NOT have to pay for that cleaning. I would call and explain about the door being left open and the meaning full keepsake being broken. They need to do your next cleaning for free. Then ditch them!

LaurenAsh23 · June 2014

my bitch is that dd is only sleeping 3 hour stretches. I know its just temporary, but I just want to have something longer than a 3 hour stretch! Also, I don't have enough time to be on the bump anymore haha. I haven't signed on here in at least a week!

I feel so out of the loop.

tsmith312 · June 2014

bennieangel said:

My Bitch for the day. I feel like I don't have friends anymore. I'm one of the first with a kid in my group & I almost never hear from my girlfriends anymore (except the one with a kid). We had a BBQ yesterday & I felt a little left out / out of the group. One is pregnant, so she was chatty with me but only about pregnancy stuff. Hello people, I'm still the same person...I just have a kid. My BFF is trying & struggling right now...so I felt like she avoided me & LO yesterday. It hurts my feelings. I so hope that I can meet & make new friends at ECFE this fall (early childhood family education for those not in MN).

I feel the same I never get to go out with my friends. I feel like we have nothing in comoon. Maybe me and you should be friends IRL !

tsmith312 · June 2014

CAN I add another... I hate tattle tails, were all grown adults . GET OVER IT !

angelsnight · June 2014

Thanks all for the comments. They called and apologized for the broken item and my dissatisfaction. She said my next clean will be free and they will send a new team. I'll see how this next one goes, but I am definitely in the market for someone else even if they do a good job. My SIL has a few names she'll send me so I'll check that out. They are all independent cleaners.

linzerd · June 2014

I have to go back to work tomorrow. Ugh. Yuck. So dumb. #don'twannaleavemybaby

bumpuser10054788 · June 2014

The fire alarm (aka air raid siren) at the local fire department went off and woke LO up from her nap AGAIN today. It's one thing if it's a truck going by with their sirens on...I get it and know I need to deal...but in the 21st century with pagers and cell phones and the like I feel there should be no need for a siren outside the building to go off and let the whole neighborhood know whenever there's a call. *sigh*

Ahutch428 · June 2014

I have my doctors appointment to check my Mirena today. My mom was supposed to watch Brooke, but told me Friday she wouldn't be able to, because the people installing hardwoods would still be there. Luckily my 22 year old sister is able to babysit. She has never watched LO before on her own, and can be a little immature at times, so I'm a tad nervous. Of course the doctor is running behind. It's 40 mins past my appointment time and I am STILL in the waiting room. I'm about to go bug the front desk lady for the third time.

The worse part is, 10 minutes ago they called for Andrea, but it was a different one. Ugh!

nlane0723 · June 2014

I can't stand people who complain about EVERYTHING and drag it out FOREVER. Especially when other women on this board had premature babies, stitched cervixes, a c-section incision that won't heal, ect. Your L&D experience is a 10 in comparison to the others. So you didn't get your drugs when you wanted them. Get over it already. It's been at least 3 months. Get off your throne and put your big girl panties on. The woe is me attitude is really unattractive. #sorrynotsorry

SurpriseAt39 · June 2014

@Ahutch428‌
I had that happen to me once.
They called my name...two of us stood up. They said last initial...same. Lol.
They wanted her.

Another time they misfiled my chart and I got pushed to the wrong end of the list. Boo.

tsmith312 · June 2014

nlane0723 said:

I can't stand people who complain about EVERYTHING and drag it out FOREVER. Especially when other women on this board had premature babies, stitched cervixes, a c-section incision that won't heal, ect. Your L&D experience is a 10 in comparison to the others. So you didn't get your drugs when you wanted them. Get over it already. It's been at least 3 months. Get off your throne and put your big girl panties on. The woe is me attitude is really unattractive. #sorrynotsorry

AMEN !!!!!!! There's some people even after L & D Still bitching , now its about their baby ! Or the lack of sleep they are getting bc of baby, or this OR that bc of baby.. SOME PEOPLE just aren't happy people. Or they are just dis-satisfied, either way its annoyinh !

acdiaz11 · June 2014

Yesterday was our friend's birthday party and I knew that MH would be drinking. I asked him if we could leave by at least 11:30 so that I could make it to playgroup this morning. We didn't end up getting home until 1am and MH was so trashed that he couldn't do anything once we got home. I ended up sleeping in the nursery because he is also a very loud drunk.

It is now almost noon and he is still sleeping and LO and I missed playgroup this morning because we got to bed so late.

pepperedmoth · June 2014

I'm in a pretty stanking good mood, just reading this thread for funsies . . . literally the only thing I can think of to complain about right now is that I just ate all of our leftover Thai food. So now . . . there is no more Thai food.

Scraping the bottom of the barrel here, I know. ;-)

@angelsnight, so sorry about your keepsake! Glad you're getting the next cleaning free.

AriaAmante143 · June 2014

torilea said:

CHPhotoMama said:

I'm nursing LO in a dressing room right now. That's not the problem. The problem is I am trying on clothes. I don't hate my body. I just don't know how to dress it anymore...

This is me. I just don't know what looks good anymore because everything has shifted.

I'm the exact same way...

SmittyPants · June 2014

kirotea said:

nlane0723 said:

I can't stand people who complain about EVERYTHING and drag it out FOREVER. Especially when other women on this board had premature babies, stitched cervixes, a c-section incision that won't heal, ect. Your L&D experience is a 10 in comparison to the others. So you didn't get your drugs when you wanted them. Get over it already. It's been at least 3 months. Get off your throne and put your big girl panties on. The woe is me attitude is really unattractive. #sorrynotsorry

Don't forget the part about being "abandoned" ... like, every day.

lol, I thought I was the only one sick of it.

My bitch is that my DD decided the twenty minute nap she took on the way home from the zoo was enough for her today so I've now got a cranky two year old on my hands. Thank God for Sesame Street.

AriaAmante143 · June 2014

Futuremrstonyasmith said:

nlane0723 said:

I can't stand people who complain about EVERYTHING and drag it out FOREVER. Especially when other women on this board had premature babies, stitched cervixes, a c-section incision that won't heal, ect. Your L&D experience is a 10 in comparison to the others. So you didn't get your drugs when you wanted them. Get over it already. It's been at least 3 months. Get off your throne and put your big girl panties on. The woe is me attitude is really unattractive. #sorrynotsorry

AMEN !!!!!!! There's some people even after L & D Still bitching , now its about their baby ! Or the lack of sleep they are getting bc of baby, or this OR that bc of baby.. SOME PEOPLE just aren't happy people. Or they are just dis-satisfied, either way its annoyinh !

I will say, I will always feel for the lack of sleep people. When your baby only sleeps two or three hours at a time, that absolutely sucks.

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