I know we all get sick of the "why don't you just adopt question". I was just curious what reason you give if you give or have one.
For us it started that ivf seemed like the solution for us having biological children. Now it's more that I just feel more comfortable w ivf using donor whatever, it's what we know at this point. Honestly it's also a $$ factor, we are in a guarantee program. I know "normal" people probably won't understand many reasons we have but I'm just curious if you'd share w me.
Also for the record I'm not saying I'd never pursue adoption, more "why" we aren't pursuing it now instead of DE or ivf
Also my race is next weekend!!! I'm really nervous because the heat kills me and I've been having some hip pain, but I'm going to run the whole thing if it kills me! Eek
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DH SA normal count and motility, 1% morphology Me .72 AMH, Fragile X premutation carrier IVF #1 (6/12/13) BFN
My answer always had various components. I am 40 and DH is 46. I was doubtful that a birth mother would pick us. We don't have a large pretty house. When I was working, I worked long hours. I didn't think that would be appealing to a birth mother. I didn't want to create a marketing plan to get someone to pick us. Wasn't willing to put my life on display to see if someone thought we were "good" enough. I didn't want to wait for years with no idea if we'd ever get selected. I knew I'd have to do all the paperwork etc--DH isn't good at that sort of thing. I didn't want to have my heart broken with a failed adoption. Financially, I believed it to be way more $ than we spent for DE. I also wasn't open to drug addicted issues etc. I just wasn't up for a lot of these challenges after IF treatments.
TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46 DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE DE IVF #3 1/14 ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d
DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!! First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!
My answer always had various components. I am 40 and DH is 46. I was doubtful that a birth mother would pick us. We don't have a large pretty house. When I was working, I worked long hours. I didn't think that would be appealing to a birth mother. I didn't want to create a marketing plan to get someone to pick us. Wasn't willing to put my life on display to see if someone thought we were "good" enough. I didn't want to wait for years with no idea if we'd ever get selected. I knew I'd have to do all the paperwork etc--DH isn't good at that sort of thing. I didn't want to have my heart broken with a failed adoption. Financially, I believed it to be way more $ than we spent for DE. I also wasn't open to drug addicted issues etc. I just wasn't up for a lot of these challenges after IF treatments.
We have friends that just went through a failed adoption after having the baby for three months so this was also a concern of ours.
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I haven't had too many people ask about adoption, but that's probably because I am not extremely open about our infertility. My biggest reason for chosing IF treatments over adoption is that I would like to experience pregnancy. I want to know what it is like to have a child growing inside of my body, even if that child is not my genetic child. I am also afraid that we would never get picked by a birth mother. We have a tiny house and don't make a ton of money. I just feel like we don't have anything that would be appealing to a birth mother.
DH (32): SA is ok, slightly low morph, normal SCSA Me (32): Slightly low progesterone, hostile CM, carrier for CF, Moderately high NKC, High TNFa, heterozyogous mutated Factor XIII, and +APA
October 2012-May 2014: 4 failed IUIs, 3 failed IVFs, and 1 failed FETw/donor embryos
November 2014: IVF w/ICSI #4 Agonist/Antagonist with EPP and Prednisone, Baby Aspirin, Lovenox, and IVIG for immune issues. Converted to freeze all due to lining issues. 2 blasts frozen on day 6!
January 2015: FET #2 Cancelled due to lining issues
I hate giving my answer. But I'm safe here so I'll tell. When I was 17, I had a girlfriend she was pregnant and had chose adoption. She drank, smoked,drugs, partied hard ..... You name it. When asked what about the baby. She would say it's not mine anyways... I never forgot that. Any time I have told people that they feel the need to argue. Some people think you fill out some papers and a fairy drops a healthy baby at your door the next day....
Also, adoption is so expensive. Our local agency wanted 15k just to start. And another 15 after placement with no guarantees.
36 DH 33 TTC for over 3 years First mini-IVF Sept 2011... Only 1 egg! ... BFN Switching RE IVF#2 May 2012 9 eggs and only 2 sperm, WTH! BFN
IVF #3 March 2013~Tesa with back-up Donor Sperm,Tesa, unsuccessful used DS~ Chemical
Switching RE's within practice
2 frosties waiting for us, November 2013!!!!! Transferred 2 "average" blasts 11/20/2013
I echo a lot of what McIrish said. I didn't want to feel like I was auditioning for a baby. I didn't want some random person picking my life & lifestyle apart. Another thing that totally turned me off is the popularity of open adoptions. I'm not into that at all and so many adoptions are set up this way now. Lastly, I really would be devestated if the birth mom changed her mind and took the baby back. That's why I cannot foster either. I get attached too quickly.
Side note- It really pisses me the F off when people just sling adoption around like it's as easy as going to the store, picking out and then paying for your purchase. People don't know jack __ about the process but yet want to look at you like you are selfish/unreasonable for not choosing adoption. Adoption is a wonderful option but it's not for everyone.
Me & DH (33), 3 Furbabies, TTC since October 2011 Day 3 #’s (Dec 2012) FSH 9, AMH .77, LH 2.4, E2 31, AFC 9
DX: Me-DOR + No Tubes, DH-Fine
Ectopic 2007; lost tube/2nd tube removed Dec 2011
(hydro)
April 2012=IVF#1- EPP Antag+ICSI, 2R,0F (BFN),
Now dx’d with DOR.
June-July 2012=IVF#2- MDL+ICSI&AH,
8R,4M,3F (BFP 9dp3dt) Beta#1 at 11dp3dt=36, Beta#2 at 15dp3dt=156, Beta#3
at 19dp3dt=671, dx'd with SCH, no growth-m/c at 7wks/Lap Dec 2012 to remove small
fibroid.
Feb 2013=IVF#3-MDL, 2/1=baseline, started
10 units mdl, AFC-7, 2/3 start gonal f, self cxld cycle b/c of low
e2.
April 2013=IVF#3.5-(with new RE)AG/ANT Conv + ICSI. 4/10-4/23
bcp's, 4/20-4/27 lupron, 4/28-ganirelix until end of stimming, 5/2-600 gonal f,
5/4-add 1/2 vial menopur, 5/13-ER (9R,1M,1F), 5/17-ET, 1 beautiful 8 cell
(please be my sticky baby!!!!) 5/28-BFFN.
Oct
2013=IVF#4-LLP+ICSI &AH, 10/14 (6R, 2M, 2F), 10/17-ET, 1 seven cell &
a six cell, BFP at 9dp3dt, 1st beta=56, 2nd beta=52, CP.
Jan
2014=IVF #5-LLP, Cxld after 6 days of stims due to fast
response and lead follicle.
March 2014=IVF
5.5-LLP, Lupron 3/10, BL 3/18, 11 days of stims, Trigger 3/29, ER 3/31. 7R, 2M, 2F. ET 4/3. Txfd one 5 cell & one 9 cell. BFP on hpt from 7dp3dt & on. Praise be to God. Beta #1 at 11dp3dt=106, #2 at 13dp3dt=239. First u/s 4/28, measuring on track & heartbeat seen. 5/5-2nd u/s, measuring on track with strong heartbeat. 5/12- 3rd u/s & released from RE. Grow baby grow, we love you! Baby G&T is a BOY! Born 12/2014 via c/s! 8lbs, 8oz & 21 inches.
I say "Adoption is very difficult, and I have known many people have had adoptions fall though. I cannot handle that kind of loss. And more than anything I want to experience pregnancy.'
::: Married June 2003::: TTC #1 since: Aug. 2008 Me: 34, DOR, MTHFR-A1298C (heterozygous), decreased blood flow to uterus, Mild Endo DH: 38, Balanced translocation 5&10, unexplained MFI, normal SA and SCSA Tx History: IUI 1&2= BFN IVF# 1 W/ICSI= BFN IVF# 2: cancelled d/t no response IVF# 3= 1 egg retrieved=immature/not viable IVF# 4= c/p ***CCRM ODWU*** Found DHs BT and Me-decreased blood flow to uterus Recommended DE IVF w/PGD, incorporate electro-acupuncture. Decided to cycle locally ***New RE*** DE IVF# 1(cycle #6) w/pgd, (freeze all): 30R, 23M, 15F, slow/poor embryo development, 4 biopsied, 1 Normal "Norm"; DE IVF w/PGD, incorporate electro-acupuncture. IVF# 6: (OE/DS) cancelled IVF# 7: (OE/DS) 1R, 1M, 1F, arrested day 5 Plan-DE IVF# 2 (cycle #8): DE/DS in May 2015
McIrish said it perfectly. I don't want to be a fake person to hope to be selected. I shouldn't need anyone's approval to be a mother. I am certified to watch 30 children that aren't mine for 8 hours a day, but I need someone's approval to care for one that would be mine.
Also, since our child won't have a grandmother, I'm afraid someone might pick someone who still has living parents.. and that idea upsets me a lot.
While we are considering it, we both aren't ready or comfortable with it. I'm not sure if we ever will be or how we will feel if it proves to be the only way we can have a child.
No one 'just' adopts. I HATE it when people say 'just adopt'.. It's a huge undertaking in itself, full of unknowns and would force us to compromise about a lot of really important issues that right now we aren't ok with.
I've found that if I try to explain this to people, I get a lot of examples of someone they know who adopted and how wonderful everything is...
One of the woman I work with was telling me how lucky her friend who adopted us because her child only has 'a few issues' from the birth mothers lifestyle/habits during pregnancy...
Wtf? I'm just not ok with that! Really? She's 'lucky' for this?
At this point I simply tell people we aren't open to adoption. Usually people shut up, but if not I tell them it's a lot of issues and it's a personal decision.
Me (32) DOR, elevated NK Cells/ 2 copies of MTHFR mutation/ MH (35) azoo/high DFI
(TTC#1 since 2009)
IVFs#1-4: (4/10-2/12) all BFN
Surprise Bfp (9/11) - c/p
DS IUI#1-2 (9/12, 10/12) - BFN
DS IVF: (11/12) - BFN
DE/DS IVF#1: (10/13) - 2 day 3 embies transferred-BFFN
FET of 2 day 6 blasts: (12/13) - c/p
DE/DS IVF #2: (4/14) - 1 day 5 blast transferred...BFFN...again.
FET 5/14: 1 day 5 hatching blast transferred...another BFFN
I haven't encountered this question too much even though we are open about our IF. I think if someone did ask, I'd point out how expensive and unstable the path to adoption is. I have a colleague who went through IF and then a failed adoption, and she said the failed adoption was far more devastating. I don't think I could ever bounce back from it to be honest.
Since no one knows about our IF struggles, I have never fielded the question. When DH and I talk, he asks me why not adoption instead of 'putting me through all of this'. To be honest, it seems easier in a few ways to do ivf and even DE or DS. I would want an infant or newborn adoption and I hear it's very difficult to find. I hate the thought of the mom changing her mind, worrying forever if the mom is healthy, smoking, drinking, etc. And as shallow as it may sound, I want the option of ivf DE instead because I won't have to explain everything. Outside people will think it is our child and we can choose who to share the information with. Also, I want the excitement and feeling of being pregnant.
Me: 37, DH: 38: ttc 7 years, dx: unknown 10/11: after 2 years, saw a RE, FSH 5.4 11/11: BFP! (surprise after thyroid & normal hsg), 12/11: missed m/c after 7 week u/s, 1/12: D&C 6/12 IUI#1-IUI #3: clomid = BFP!, C/P IVF #1(10/12) FSH 5.4, AFC: 16 long Lupron, 5R/5M/4F, all 4 made it to 5dt, 1 blast/1-8 cell transferred=BFN IVF #2(12/12)AFC 21, MD lupron, 4R/4M/3F, 5dt of 1 blast and 2-8cell. BFN. IVF#3(4/13) Natural start antagon protocol, 12R,11F. one PGS normal at day 6 transfer. BFN. IVF#4 (11/13) C.CRM (ODW.U normal 8/13 Still no Diagnosis) EPP/antagonist. ER 13R/7M/6F. Only 1 made it to freeze. Abnormal.
Looking into options of DE, Fresh vs frozen. 10/14 new local RE to look into what's next. CD3 FSH 4.7, AMH 0.9. Met with DE agencies and exploring options for feb/march 2015. Surprise natural bfp (4 days before donor is signed). Beta #1 at 9dpo: 51.8, 2nd beta: 195 (25 hours doubling) @11dpo. 3rd beta (12/15): 516 (35 hrs doubling) 4th beta(12/17): 895 (58 hours doubling) 5th beta(12/19): 2120. U/S at 5w0d(12/22): one gestational sac with yolk sac. U/S #2 (6w0d)12/29. One little bean measuring 6w0d with HR 124. 3rd u/s(1/4)7w0d: baby measuring 7w2d. HR 134. 3/30: A/S at MFM went great except for low lying placenta. Verifi results are normal! Team Blue!
Please send any positive thoughts our way! EDD:8/24/2015
Baby Will born 8/18. He's perfect.
I've honestly only been asked the adoption question once and surprisingly it was recently. A family I babysit for asked me to watch their kids about a month or so ago.... I've been one of their sitters for 7 years so we're pretty close. The Mom said, so now what , do you think you'll adopt instead? I was just confused as to why that would be assumed next on the list, like lose your baby well time to adopt!! I just told her no , we're trying again and see where it takes us.
Me: 33, Endocrine issues & FVL DH: 32, Nothing
NTNP 2009-2012 TTC since 2012:
Clomid, 2 IUI cycles, and 5 IVF cycles = BFN
FET #1 August 2013 = BFP! EDD 5/11/14
Jack dx at 19w1d with Dandy Walker on 12/16/13
Severe Pre-e /HELLP set in Jack born sleeping at 20w1d on 12/23/13
I get asked this question ALL the time. I think because we have two close friends who have struggled with infertility and adopted (one successfully, one not) so people just assume we will too
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DH SA normal count and motility, 1% morphology Me .72 AMH, Fragile X premutation carrier IVF #1 (6/12/13) BFN
I was open to adopting and looked into many options, but my heart could not fully embrace the idea until I had grieved the loss of a genetic or biological child. Also adoption was really no cheaper than ART nor was there any garuntee of a take home baby.
I think it takes a certain personality to adopt. Personally me and DH always talked about it and wanted to to do it before IVF. It's not for everyone and info think that it's right that people always go to that question with women's doing IVF. I agree it's annoying and people just day stupid stuff in general to people struggling to have a baby.
Me 34 and DH 39 married in aug. 2002
Did 5 round of clomid 2010 =BFN
High levels of NK CELLS DX sept.2012 DOR:# 0.02
IVF #1 May 2012 ER 4, EF 2, ET 2 =BFN
MINI IVF Oct.2012 Cancelled 10-27-12
Ivf #3 Antagonist Protocol April 2013
Shared cycle..Donor cycled in July Got 12 eggs 9 fertilized and 8 frozen!!
DE FET #1 Sept. 3rd 2013 FIRST BFP EVER 5dp5dt
miscarried Sept 24th at 5 weeks 5 days
Etopic D&C and hysterscopy Nov 5 2013
dx with pre genetic blood clotting dec 2013
FET #2 Jan 31st 2014
Miscarried for a second time again at 5 weeks 5 days
Currently fostering to adopt an amazing little 1 year old boy..P.J!
I never wanted to adopt and then I was in a bad situation at work with adopted kids and now I really don't want to so I just tell people I don't want to adopt. If they press the issue I ask them if they feel they deserved to have bio kids.
Natural cycle Dec 2010 BFP M/C 6 1/2 Weeks, D&E Jan 2011 1 Clomid/Ovidrel BFN May 2011 Natural cycle Aug 2011 BFP M/C 4 Weeks 1 IUI Sept 2011 BFP M/c 7 weeks Provera Dec 2011 BFP M/C 3 Weeks
DQ ALPHA HLA MATCH, High NK Cells Diagnosed Dec 2011 IVF March 2012 BFP m/c 4weeks 5 days (IL, Prednisone) IVF#2w/DS July 2012 MEGA FAILURE BFN (IL, Dexamethasone) Diagnosed No real HLA Match, DQ Beta Triad, High TNF, Low NK Cells Oct 2012 Natural Cycle m/c 4wks (Lovenox, Prednisone) Went to Beer Center- high tnf, low lad, implantation failure
Nov/Dec 2012 LIT Treatment
Dec 12 Humira Jan 2013 BFP Humira,LIT,Prednisone, Lovenox, IVIG, Baby Aspirin Miracle Born August 2013 Premature
Re: Curious how you answer this
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DH SA normal count and motility, 1% morphology
Me .72 AMH, Fragile X premutation carrier
IVF #1 (6/12/13) BFN
IVF #2 (8/16/13) BFN
FET 10/4/13 Chemical
IVF #3 MC 5 weeks 5 days
IVF #4 DE 11/7 BFP, edd 7/28/15
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TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
DE IVF #3 1/14 ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d
DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!
K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days
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Me(31). DH (31)
DH SA normal count and motility, 1% morphology
Me .72 AMH, Fragile X premutation carrier
IVF #1 (6/12/13) BFN
IVF #2 (8/16/13) BFN
FET 10/4/13 Chemical
IVF #3 MC 5 weeks 5 days
IVF #4 DE 11/7 BFP, edd 7/28/15
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September 2012: Start IF testing
DH (32): SA is ok, slightly low morph, normal SCSA Me (32): Slightly low progesterone, hostile CM, carrier for CF, Moderately high NKC, High TNFa, heterozyogous mutated Factor XIII, and +APA
October 2012-May 2014: 4 failed IUIs, 3 failed IVFs, and 1 failed FETw/donor embryos
November 2014: IVF w/ICSI #4 Agonist/Antagonist with EPP and Prednisone, Baby Aspirin, Lovenox, and IVIG for immune issues. Converted to freeze all due to lining issues. 2 blasts frozen on day 6!
January 2015: FET #2 Cancelled due to lining issues
April 2015: FET #2.1
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First mini-IVF Sept 2011... Only 1 egg! ... BFN
Switching RE
IVF#2 May 2012 9 eggs and only 2 sperm, WTH!
BFN
Switching RE's within practice
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Me & DH (33), 3 Furbabies, TTC since October 2011
Day 3 #’s (Dec 2012) FSH 9, AMH .77, LH 2.4, E2 31, AFC 9
DX: Me-DOR + No Tubes, DH-Fine
Ectopic 2007; lost tube/2nd tube removed Dec 2011 (hydro)
April 2012=IVF#1- EPP Antag+ICSI, 2R,0F (BFN), Now dx’d with DOR.
June-July 2012=IVF#2- MDL+ICSI&AH, 8R,4M,3F (BFP 9dp3dt) Beta#1 at 11dp3dt=36, Beta#2 at 15dp3dt=156, Beta#3 at 19dp3dt=671, dx'd with SCH, no growth-m/c at 7wks/Lap Dec 2012 to remove small fibroid.
Feb 2013=IVF#3-MDL, 2/1=baseline, started 10 units mdl, AFC-7, 2/3 start gonal f, self cxld cycle b/c of low e2.
April 2013=IVF#3.5-(with new RE)AG/ANT Conv + ICSI. 4/10-4/23 bcp's, 4/20-4/27 lupron, 4/28-ganirelix until end of stimming, 5/2-600 gonal f, 5/4-add 1/2 vial menopur, 5/13-ER (9R,1M,1F), 5/17-ET, 1 beautiful 8 cell (please be my sticky baby!!!!) 5/28-BFFN.
Oct 2013=IVF#4-LLP+ICSI &AH, 10/14 (6R, 2M, 2F), 10/17-ET, 1 seven cell & a six cell, BFP at 9dp3dt, 1st beta=56, 2nd beta=52, CP.
Jan 2014=IVF #5-LLP, Cxld after 6 days of stims due to fast response and lead follicle.
March 2014=IVF 5.5-LLP, Lupron 3/10, BL 3/18, 11 days of stims, Trigger 3/29, ER 3/31. 7R, 2M, 2F. ET 4/3. Txfd one 5 cell & one 9 cell. BFP on hpt from 7dp3dt & on. Praise be to God. Beta #1 at 11dp3dt=106, #2 at 13dp3dt=239. First u/s 4/28, measuring on track & heartbeat seen. 5/5-2nd u/s, measuring on track with strong heartbeat. 5/12- 3rd u/s & released from RE. Grow baby grow, we love you! Baby G&T is a BOY! Born 12/2014 via c/s! 8lbs, 8oz & 21 inches.
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::: Married June 2003:::
TTC #1 since: Aug. 2008
Me: 34, DOR, MTHFR-A1298C (heterozygous), decreased blood flow to uterus, Mild Endo
DH: 38, Balanced translocation 5&10, unexplained MFI, normal SA and SCSA
Tx History: IUI 1&2= BFN
IVF# 1 W/ICSI= BFN
IVF# 2: cancelled d/t no response
IVF# 3= 1 egg retrieved=immature/not viable
IVF# 4= c/p
***CCRM ODWU***
Found DHs BT and Me-decreased blood flow to uterus
Recommended DE IVF w/PGD, incorporate electro-acupuncture. Decided to cycle locally
***New RE***
DE IVF# 1(cycle #6) w/pgd, (freeze all): 30R, 23M, 15F, slow/poor embryo development, 4 biopsied, 1 Normal "Norm"; DE IVF w/PGD, incorporate electro-acupuncture.
IVF# 6: (OE/DS) cancelled
IVF# 7: (OE/DS) 1R, 1M, 1F, arrested day 5
Plan-DE IVF# 2 (cycle #8): DE/DS in May 2015
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TTC Since 12/2008; DH: 32, Azoospermia me: 33, DX during IVF #4: Low AMH (Normal FSH) / SER due
to IVF Meds (causing failure to fertilize) Recent DX: Hashimoto's, Lupus Anticoagulant, White Blood Cell Disorder
High ANA, ATA, & APA, PAI-1 Heterozygous= blood clotting disorder; connective tissue disorder
IVF w/ ICSI #1 2/2011 IVF w/ ICSI #2 5/2011 IVF w/ ICSI #3 12/2012 *New RE* IVF w/ ICSI #4 5/2013
IVF w/ ICSI #5 8/2013 (Natural Cycle- No drugs)- One follicle->one blast. CCS normal. FET 9/10- 6BB blast. m/c @ 5w
IUI #1 12/23- BFN IUI #2 Cancelled (ovulated during AF) Prep:CoQ10 (300 mg); DHEA (25 mg); Melatonin (3 mg), Folgard 2.2, Metformin 500 2x, Levothyroxine 50mcg, Aspirin 81mg w/ calcium, B12, Vit. D 4000 & Prenate Elite Daily; Cabergoline 1/2 pill 2x week- Cycling: Estrace Priming; Prednisone 10mg, Lovenox 40mg 2x, Femera & Menopur
IUI #2.1 6/30 & 7/1. 1st Beta: 90 (7/15); 2nd Beta: 226 (7/17); 3rd Beta: 766 EDD: 3/23/2015
While we are considering it, we both aren't ready or comfortable with it. I'm not sure if we ever will be or how we will feel if it proves to be the only way we can have a child.
No one 'just' adopts. I HATE it when people say 'just adopt'.. It's a huge undertaking in itself, full of unknowns and would force us to compromise about a lot of really important issues that right now we aren't ok with.
I've found that if I try to explain this to people, I get a lot of examples of someone they know who adopted and how wonderful everything is...
One of the woman I work with was telling me how lucky her friend who adopted us because her child only has 'a few issues' from the birth mothers lifestyle/habits during pregnancy...
Wtf? I'm just not ok with that! Really? She's 'lucky' for this?
At this point I simply tell people we aren't open to adoption. Usually people shut up, but if not I tell them it's a lot of issues and it's a personal decision.
Me (32) DOR, elevated NK Cells/ 2 copies of MTHFR mutation/ MH (35) azoo/high DFI (TTC#1 since 2009)
IVFs#1-4: (4/10-2/12) all BFN
Surprise Bfp (9/11) - c/p
DS IUI#1-2 (9/12, 10/12) - BFN
DS IVF: (11/12) - BFN
DE/DS IVF#1: (10/13) - 2 day 3 embies transferred-BFFN
FET of 2 day 6 blasts: (12/13) - c/p
DE/DS IVF #2: (4/14) - 1 day 5 blast transferred...BFFN...again.
FET 5/14: 1 day 5 hatching blast transferred...another BFFN
Repeat SHG 6/14-normal / Endometrial Receptivity Array biopsy 7/14-Receptive Uterus
New RE, additional testing reveals elevated NK Cells
FET of 1 day 5 blast (RE recommends transferring 1 due to elevated NK cells) with lovenox, steroids & intralipids in October
10/11: after 2 years, saw a RE, FSH 5.4
11/11: BFP! (surprise after thyroid & normal hsg),
12/11: missed m/c after 7 week u/s, 1/12: D&C
6/12 IUI#1-IUI #3: clomid = BFP!, C/P
IVF #1(10/12) FSH 5.4, AFC: 16 long Lupron, 5R/5M/4F, all 4 made it to 5dt, 1 blast/1-8 cell transferred=BFN
IVF #2(12/12)AFC 21, MD lupron, 4R/4M/3F, 5dt of 1 blast and 2-8cell. BFN.
IVF#3(4/13) Natural start antagon protocol, 12R,11F. one PGS normal at day 6 transfer. BFN.
IVF#4 (11/13) C.CRM (ODW.U normal 8/13 Still no Diagnosis) EPP/antagonist. ER 13R/7M/6F. Only 1 made it to freeze. Abnormal. Looking into options of DE, Fresh vs frozen.
10/14 new local RE to look into what's next. CD3 FSH 4.7, AMH 0.9. Met with DE agencies and exploring options for feb/march 2015.
Surprise natural bfp (4 days before donor is signed). Beta #1 at 9dpo: 51.8, 2nd beta: 195 (25 hours doubling) @11dpo. 3rd beta (12/15): 516 (35 hrs doubling) 4th beta(12/17): 895 (58 hours doubling) 5th beta(12/19): 2120. U/S at 5w0d(12/22): one gestational sac with yolk sac. U/S #2 (6w0d)12/29. One little bean measuring 6w0d with HR 124. 3rd u/s(1/4)7w0d: baby measuring 7w2d. HR 134. 3/30: A/S at MFM went great except for low lying placenta. Verifi results are normal! Team Blue! Please send any positive thoughts our way! EDD:8/24/2015
Baby Will born 8/18. He's perfect.
NTNP 2009-2012 TTC since 2012:
Jack has handpicked his sibling up there
My blog about IF and loss ... Kate's IF Blog
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Me(31). DH (31)
DH SA normal count and motility, 1% morphology
Me .72 AMH, Fragile X premutation carrier
IVF #1 (6/12/13) BFN
IVF #2 (8/16/13) BFN
FET 10/4/13 Chemical
IVF #3 MC 5 weeks 5 days
IVF #4 DE 11/7 BFP, edd 7/28/15
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Age: 35 TTC since 2005, MFI & DOR
IVF #1 Sep '11 - canceled poor response
IVF #2 Nov '11 8R/8M/4F 3dt x2 - chemical
IVF #3 April '12 11R/6M/4F 3dt x2 - m/c
FET #1 Aug 2012 3dt x2 - BFN
**new RE**
IVF #4 Jan '13 BFN 11R/6M/6F 5dt x2 - BFN
IVF #5 July '13 16R/10M/10F 5dt x2 + 1 frostie
9dp5dt Beta 1 = 344!! 16dp5dt. Beta 2 = 4822 7wk u/s= 2 heartbeats!
Twin girls! 3/6/14
Anovulatory cycles, increased Synthroid Diagnosed Sep 2010
1 Clomid/Ovidrel BFN May 2011
Natural cycle Aug 2011 BFP M/C 4 Weeks
1 IUI Sept 2011 BFP M/c 7 weeks
Provera Dec 2011 BFP M/C 3 Weeks
IVF March 2012 BFP m/c 4weeks 5 days (IL, Prednisone)
IVF#2w/DS July 2012 MEGA FAILURE BFN (IL, Dexamethasone)
Diagnosed No real HLA Match, DQ Beta Triad, High TNF, Low NK Cells
Oct 2012 Natural Cycle m/c 4wks (Lovenox, Prednisone)
Went to Beer Center- high tnf, low lad, implantation failure
Jan 2013 BFP
Humira,LIT,Prednisone, Lovenox, IVIG, Baby Aspirin
Miracle Born August 2013 Premature
Yours doesn't have to be a sad story