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hmp1 · June 2014

I have been thinking about painting over the wallpaper in our half bath instead of taking it down first. I know this is going to just cause more problems later but I'm so lazy and just want the 90's flowers gone.

Holly_1007 · June 2014

jenndub said:

Holly_1007 said:

Fffc: I've never actually punched someone

I broke Emma and Beckett's dad's nose after I found out he cheated on me. I did not take the high road that day. I think the truly flameful part is that I'm still not sorry that I did it.

amazing. I wouldn't feel sorry either!

Holly_1007 · June 2014

hmp1 said:

I have been thinking about painting over the wallpaper in our half bath instead of taking it down first. I know this is going to just cause more problems later but I'm so lazy and just want the 90's flowers gone.

honestly, pay someone to remove it. It sucks trying to DIY, and you will be mad at yourself if you paint over it

bosha711 · June 2014

I still have mesh underwear too. I'm not sure why bc I'm pretty certain I won't ever be needing them again. Actually, I was given a pair the day I had my thyroid out bc I got my period after surgery. Couldn't help but laugh about that.

I beat up a girl at her friend's house when I was in high school. I got into a lot of trouble for it. I wouldn't recommend it lol.

melody921 · June 2014

A colleague who is getting married this fall asked a bunch of us in the office for our addresses. But then she told one colleague that she wasn't sure how she was handling invites yet bc they have too many people on their list and some will only be able to come to the ceremony. What? So some people are good enough to come to the church, and probably good enough to get you a gift, but you're not paying for them to eat, drink, dance and celebrate your newly-married status? Am I missing something here? I just hope I know which list I'm on before I get a shower invite bc I think this is tacky to the max.

Disclaimer: I think there are certain instances in which it's OK to invite people solely to the church -- ie, teachers who ask their students. However, I do not think these people should receive the same formal invite as everyone else with a caveat that it's for the church only.

tinyhumantoe · June 2014

I can't really punch. I swing my arm, but I don't hold my hand right or something, despite years of "punching" my brother. @jenndub did you punch him square in the nose? Did he expect it? DO YOU HAVE A SECRET VIDEO OF IT? ha!

Pokedot · June 2014

hmp1 said:

I have been thinking about painting over the wallpaper in our half bath instead of taking it down first. I know this is going to just cause more problems later but I'm so lazy and just want the 90's flowers gone.

Don't do it! You'll be sorry you did. Can you hire someone to do it and paint?

BeebopandBuddy · June 2014

melody921 said:

A colleague who is getting married this fall asked a bunch of us in the office for our addresses. But then she told one colleague that she wasn't sure how she was handling invites yet bc they have too many people on their list and some will only be able to come to the ceremony. What? So some people are good enough to come to the church, and probably good enough to get you a gift, but you're not paying for them to eat, drink, dance and celebrate your newly-married status? Am I missing something here? I just hope I know which list I'm on before I get a shower invite bc I think this is tacky to the max.

Disclaimer: I think there are certain instances in which it's OK to invite people solely to the church -- ie, teachers who ask their students. However, I do not think these people should receive the same formal invite as everyone else with a caveat that it's for the church only.

This seems weird to me. I've seen weddings where only a small group came to the ceremony and a lot more to the reception, so that the ceremony could be more intimate, but I've never really seen it done the other way around.

BeebopandBuddy · June 2014

Holly_1007 said:

jenndub said:

@Holly_1007 I LOVE the name Colby! It's a great name. And my favorite kind of cheese is Colby Jack. So I can find nothing wrong with this name.

thanks I just feel like I "settled" with it instead of searching and pushing for something I liked better. I hoped that it would grow on me, but I find myself calling him Colby Wyatt more often than just Colby.

I call my kids almost exclusively by their first and middle names together. I gave them both, may as well use them both. If you ask Maya her name, she will say "Maya Grace".

tinyhumantoe · June 2014

I have visitors who have lived in NY for a decade, but are originally from China. I have hot water for tea ready + a selection of bags and loose leaf. I kind of remember my last Chinese visitor putting milk in her tea. That isn't a major custom over there, is it? Halp! They're coming in 5 min.

hmp1 · June 2014

Pokedot said:

hmp1 said:

I have been thinking about painting over the wallpaper in our half bath instead of taking it down first. I know this is going to just cause more problems later but I'm so lazy and just want the 90's flowers gone.
Don't do it! You'll be sorry you did. Can you hire someone to do it and paint?

Not worth the money to me. We are perfectly capable of doing it ourselves. I'm just feeling lazy. DH won't let me just paint over it, I've just been thinking about doing it since he has been out of town so much.

bosha711 · June 2014

tinyhumantoe said:
I can't really punch. I swing my arm, but I don't hold my hand right or something, despite years of "punching" my brother. @jenndub did you punch him square in the nose? Did he expect it? DO YOU HAVE A SECRET VIDEO OF IT? ha!

Keep your thumb on the outside of your fist or else you risk breaking your thumb when you throw the punch

YWIA

MarisaKathleen · June 2014

origamipoppy said:

BeebopandBuddy said:

melody921 said:

A colleague who is getting married this fall asked a bunch of us in the office for our addresses. But then she told one colleague that she wasn't sure how she was handling invites yet bc they have too many people on their list and some will only be able to come to the ceremony. What? So some people are good enough to come to the church, and probably good enough to get you a gift, but you're not paying for them to eat, drink, dance and celebrate your newly-married status? Am I missing something here? I just hope I know which list I'm on before I get a shower invite bc I think this is tacky to the max.

We invited a bunch of people to our reception, but not to dinner...they were people from the bar we went to...not acquaintances, but not really good friends either. I've never heard of just being invited to a ceremony. that seems weird.

All that being said, I think it's fairly normal here to be invited to just the reception. that way you're still drinking and dancing (and most of the time having a snack at around 10pm) but you're not part of the formal dinner. Is that just a Wisconsin thing?

hmp1 · June 2014

I've seen both ways but just to the church is usually when you are inviting the congregation and not sending out a formal invite. We attended the church ceremony of one of DH's coworkers. It was an awesome Mexican wedding including a mariachi band. I didn't understand a word but it was fun. We didn't get a paper invite either, just word of mouth from the groom to my husband.

We did work showers for everyone and never expected to get invited to the wedding. If I got invited to the shower being hosted by the maid of honor, I would expect to be invited to the wedding/reception if it was local.

tinyhumantoe · June 2014

I would not go to that wedding.

redneckmomma25 · June 2014

We had an open invitation to our church congregation to come to our ceremony but we did not invite the whole church to the reception.

redneckmomma25 · June 2014

dimples12 said:

redneckmomma25 said:

We had an open invitation to our church congregation to come to our ceremony but we did not invite the whole church to the reception.

This was encouraged by our pastor. Since the reception was held at the church, I declined to do an open church invite.

Our reception was at another place. We did have one wedding crasher haha.

jenndub · June 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

I can't really punch. I swing my arm, but I don't hold my hand right or something, despite years of "punching" my brother. @jenndub did you punch him square in the nose? Did he expect it? DO YOU HAVE A SECRET VIDEO OF IT? ha!

I have two gigantic brothers and they taught me how to throw a punch. I did punch him directly in the nose, and I thought I broke my hand. That shit hurts. He wasn't expecting it at all, he told me that I was a terrible person after I hit him. He cheated on me with one of my best friends and walked out on his fiance' and two kids. And I'm the terrible person? Ok. I don't have a secret video, but I can replay it in my mind whenever I want.

BeebopandBuddy · June 2014

redneckmomma25 said:

We had an open invitation to our church congregation to come to our ceremony but we did not invite the whole church to the reception.

This makes total sense to me, however only inviting co-workers to the church does not. I wouldn't invite my co-workers to my wedding at all because I wouldn't want to invite everyone and I wouldn't want to deal with the drama of only inviting select people. I think the way this woman is going about this seems strange and disorganized.

BPer · June 2014

I think that I have a coworker worse than shitty cookies.

tinyhumantoe · June 2014

Oh I have a confession! I have been in denial, but I'll finally admit it. I take f-o-r-e-v-e-r to get ready in the morning. I'm not high maintenance, just sweaty and hot. I have no concept of time management.

6am woke up
6-615?
615-630 checked email while going to the bathroom, ha
630-640?
640-7 world's longest shower, per usual (shaved legs)
7-740 hair, makeup, ironed clothes, produced a gallon of sweat, got dressed
740-750 ?
750-800 Made W breakfast, made coffee to go, packed lunch
8 on the road

I always think....... if I want to leave at 7, I need to be up at 6. No. If I want to leave at 7, I guess I have to be up at 5.

Does anyone else take this long? I didn't even get W up and dressed!

Holly_1007 · June 2014

THT, Colby was up at 6:30 yesterday and I struggled to be out of the house by 9:45. I did have two kids on my own, but still! No idea what my problem was!

Holly_1007 · June 2014

It's 1pm. And all I have eaten today is an apple. I need to stop being so damn stressed.

hmp1 · June 2014

So for two years my boss has been talking about putting a team under me. I have managed people for years but it has been a nice break to be on my own. My boss just called to go over some stuff and it looks like by the end of summer, I will have to take on a team. The good news is it will mean more paid trips to TX and my boss is going to try to push it through as a promotion. The bad news is all the crap that goes along with managing people and I've never managed while working from home (my managers and associates will all work in the office). I am taking over for a person that works from home out of state already so at least that part won't change for them. I hate that I feel like I have no choice in this. Like if I say no then my name will be added to the chopping block for sure (we have been letting people go like crazy).

Hyaline · June 2014

hmp1 said:

I have been thinking about painting over the wallpaper in our half bath instead of taking it down first. I know this is going to just cause more problems later but I'm so lazy and just want the 90's flowers gone.

We can be bathroom wallpaper accountabilibuddies. Mine needs to come down, too.

Hyaline · June 2014

melody921 said:

A colleague who is getting married this fall asked a bunch of us in the office for our addresses. But then she told one colleague that she wasn't sure how she was handling invites yet bc they have too many people on their list and some will only be able to come to the ceremony. What? So some people are good enough to come to the church, and probably good enough to get you a gift, but you're not paying for them to eat, drink, dance and celebrate your newly-married status? Am I missing something here? I just hope I know which list I'm on before I get a shower invite bc I think this is tacky to the max.

Disclaimer: I think there are certain instances in which it's OK to invite people solely to the church -- ie, teachers who ask their students. However, I do not think these people should receive the same formal invite as everyone else with a caveat that it's for the church only.

IMO the only time you "invite" people to the church and not reception is when you attend one of those churches where all ceremonies are open to all members (ie, you don't actually invite the church membership, but there's an announcement and the old biddies show up). Someone needs to clue this girl in that what's she's considering doing is so flamefully wrong it's not even funny.

Holly_1007 · June 2014

My birthday is coming up. I just want a day to myself. Not even a spa day. I just want to sit in bed and watch movies and eat Bon bons all day

BeebopandBuddy · June 2014

FFFC: I just charged a beach chair for Ethan to DH's credit card without asking. It's on file with Amazon, so it's not like I stole it, but I'm tired of paying for every single thing for the kids just because I'm the one who puts the effort into shopping and finding the deal.

We have an account for bills and each have a separate spending account. I bet 90% of my money each paycheck goes to buying stuff for the kids. He does buy the groceries every weekend, but he never thinks to ask if I need money for their clothes, diapers, toys, haircuts or anything else that I do for them so I pay for. I've said something and he says just ask. I don't want to feel like I'm begging for money, so I guess this is my way of "asking".

Holly_1007 · June 2014

We are celebrating SDs birthday tomorrow. She really wanted to go to coco keys like we do every year, but the one by us was bought out by great wolf lodge and they require an overnight stay ($$$) to have access to the water park. She doesn't know that I found discount passes to the coco keys that is an hour away, so we are going there tomorrow. I'm so excited

Cheenomae · June 2014

BeebopandBuddy said:

FFFC: I just charged a beach chair for Ethan to DH's credit card without asking. It's on file with Amazon, so it's not like I stole it, but I'm tired of paying for every single thing for the kids just because I'm the one who puts the effort into shopping and finding the deal.

We have an account for bills and each have a separate spending account. I bet 90% of my money each paycheck goes to buying stuff for the kids. He does buy the groceries every weekend, but he never thinks to ask if I need money for their clothes, diapers, toys, haircuts or anything else that I do for them so I pay for. I've said something and he says just ask. I don't want to feel like I'm begging for money, so I guess this is my way of "asking".

I've always wondered how people don't "share" money. I mean, I realize you share because if you needed more he'd gladly give it to you, but it's still such a foreign concept to me. I also buy everything for the kids and well...I buy pretty much everything. I buy it all with our money though. I feel like if mine and DH's paycheck didn't go into the same account I'd have constant resentment. He makes a shitload more than me, but I also work my ass off!

I always want to ask a million questions. How did you decide who puts what in the shared account? Is it a percentage of each check or are the bills essentially split half and half? Do you both end up with the same amount left over after the money goes into the shared account? Why is it even fair for you to be buying everything and the DH not have to buy anything just because you're the one that "runs" the household. These are questions I'm not asking you to answer, just the questions I always have.

Our BFF's (a couple) don't share money and DH and I ask them questions EVERY TIME we go out with them. "So, who is paying tonight? lol!" It works great for them and they will literally never change it!

Flamingemu · June 2014

Recently, I am really resenting the lack of effort towards the house that DH is putting. He waters the plants outside and mows because it sets me into an asthma attack. That's about it.

We have talked several times about pulling more weight, doing dishes, cleaning (not just picking up) etc. He always makes me feel so guilty when we have these convos like I am missing something. So I have been putting it off and making terrible comments to him - this morning he asked if the whites were in the dryer (I had moments before switched them over) and instead of saying no, sorry babe, I went with no, you didn't flip them last night while you were playing video games.

I get so mad that I let this crap fester when I can just tell him her needs to do more and it will be over. I find myself bickering instead. Healthy. Really healthy.

kdsmith43 · June 2014

I took today off since I worked late on Monday. My FFFC is that I'm in the backyard laying in the pool... in my bikini. I feel naked. And fat. Oh well!

Holly_1007 · June 2014

kdsmith43 said:

I took today off since I worked late on Monday. My FFFC is that I'm in the backyard laying in the pool... in my bikini. I feel naked. And fat. Oh well!

I put a bikini on yesterday to play with the boys in their kiddie pool. Colby got so excited at one point he started screaming. I was so nervous my neighbors were going to come over due to the screaming and see me in my bikini haha

melody921 · June 2014

hmp1 said:

I've seen both ways but just to the church is usually when you are inviting the congregation and not sending out a formal invite. We attended the church ceremony of one of DH's coworkers. It was an awesome Mexican wedding including a mariachi band. I didn't understand a word but it was fun. We didn't get a paper invite either, just word of mouth from the groom to my husband.

We did work showers for everyone and never expected to get invited to the wedding. If I got invited to the shower being hosted by the maid of honor, I would expect to be invited to the wedding/reception if it was local.

Yeah, I'm talking outside shower, not work shower. I think work showers are different and not necessarily something that is tied to going to the wedding.

hmp1 · June 2014

BeebopandBuddy said:

FFFC: I just charged a beach chair for Ethan to DH's credit card without asking. It's on file with Amazon, so it's not like I stole it, but I'm tired of paying for every single thing for the kids just because I'm the one who puts the effort into shopping and finding the deal.

We have an account for bills and each have a separate spending account. I bet 90% of my money each paycheck goes to buying stuff for the kids. He does buy the groceries every weekend, but he never thinks to ask if I need money for their clothes, diapers, toys, haircuts or anything else that I do for them so I pay for. I've said something and he says just ask. I don't want to feel like I'm begging for money, so I guess this is my way of "asking".

We are set up like this too but DH always picks up the bill when we eat out with his spending money. Or anytime we do stuff as a family like go to a museum or ball game, that is paid for with his debit card. I feel like it evens out. I know that if he were buying the kids clothes/shoes he wouldn't spend as much so I don't want to open that can of worms.

melody921 · June 2014

redneckmomma25 said:

We had an open invitation to our church congregation to come to our ceremony but we did not invite the whole church to the reception.

I think that's different than inviting people you work with to only half of it. People at church already have a connection to your church.

melody921 · June 2014

BPer said:

I think that I have a coworker worse than shitty cookies.

Do tell @BPer! Shitty cookies never fails to entertain me, so this should be good.

melody921 · June 2014

hmp1 said:

So for two years my boss has been talking about putting a team under me. I have managed people for years but it has been a nice break to be on my own. My boss just called to go over some stuff and it looks like by the end of summer, I will have to take on a team. The good news is it will mean more paid trips to TX and my boss is going to try to push it through as a promotion. The bad news is all the crap that goes along with managing people and I've never managed while working from home (my managers and associates will all work in the office). I am taking over for a person that works from home out of state already so at least that part won't change for them. I hate that I feel like I have no choice in this. Like if I say no then my name will be added to the chopping block for sure (we have been letting people go like crazy).

I think the distance that comes with managing them from home makes it much more appealing than if you had to be in the office every day too. I'd take the promotion and just see how it works out bc I think you're right that turning it down wouldn't end well.

hmp1 · June 2014

Cheenomae said:

BeebopandBuddy said:

I've always wondered how people don't "share" money. I mean, I realize you share because if you needed more he'd gladly give it to you, but it's still such a foreign concept to me. I also buy everything for the kids and well...I buy pretty much everything. I buy it all with our money though. I feel like if mine and DH's paycheck didn't go into the same account I'd have constant resentment. He makes a shitload more than me, but I also work my ass off!

I always want to ask a million questions. How did you decide who puts what in the shared account? Is it a percentage of each check or are the bills essentially split half and half? Do you both end up with the same amount left over after the money goes into the shared account? Why is it even fair for you to be buying everything and the DH not have to buy anything just because you're the one that "runs" the household. These are questions I'm not asking you to answer, just the questions I always have.

Our BFF's (a couple) don't share money and DH and I ask them questions EVERY TIME we go out with them. "So, who is paying tonight? lol!" It works great for them and they will literally never change it!

We have the same spending amount. He makes more than me so he is putting more into savings than me. And we don't have a "bills" account. I pay the mortgage and groceries, he pays everything else bill wise. Both of our savings funds come out of our checks directly and never into our checking.

melody921 · June 2014

BeebopandBuddy said:

FFFC: I just charged a beach chair for Ethan to DH's credit card without asking. It's on file with Amazon, so it's not like I stole it, but I'm tired of paying for every single thing for the kids just because I'm the one who puts the effort into shopping and finding the deal.

We have an account for bills and each have a separate spending account. I bet 90% of my money each paycheck goes to buying stuff for the kids. He does buy the groceries every weekend, but he never thinks to ask if I need money for their clothes, diapers, toys, haircuts or anything else that I do for them so I pay for. I've said something and he says just ask. I don't want to feel like I'm begging for money, so I guess this is my way of "asking".

Why can't you make kid stuff and household stuff part of the bill account? It doesn't seem right that the separate accounts are supposed to be for personal use and yours is getting used up on the kids and then you have to "ask."

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