Ok now I feel like we need this thread ...

Re: Ok now I feel like we need this thread ...

• cagoldi member

  June 2014

  Thanks @DevynnMarie‌. I'm not going to go into great detail here but I will just say it was a thread you started and she gave her opinion, and it was colored by her personal experience.
  
  I have my own issues with her, but I just think this matter in particular is something we should drop, as far as her pregnancy.

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• cagoldi member

  June 2014 edited June 2014

  DevynnMarie said:

  cagoldi said:

  Thanks @DevynnMarie‌. I'm not going to go into great detail here but I will just say it was a thread you started and she gave her opinion, and it was colored by her personal experience.
  
  I have my own issues with her, but I just think this matter in particular is something we should drop, as far as her pregnancy.

  I know what thread your talking about now, I just wasn't paying attention to what she was saying.
  
  I apologized for making her feel bad about her pregnancy, but I still stand on how I feel about her story.
  
  

  Agreed. I admit when I read it I chuckled and just shook my head because I can't take the aggravation. It's possible, but incredibly unlikely. I know you would never say something hurtful about her pregnancy on purpose.

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• cagoldi member

  June 2014

  @rachelhermione415‌ I understand, and that's a fair position.

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• cagoldi member

  June 2014

  Also, @ximenita003‌, I don't think anyone here is "shitty," at least they haven't been in this thread. They didn't remember the information you had shared before. I'm confident if they did, they wouldn't have inquired about what became of the pregnancy.
  
  While you aren't winning any popularity contests, the gals here are not that low. They wouldn't throw that in your face just to hurt you.

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• cagoldi member

  June 2014 edited June 2014

  I must have missed it. I recall the thread, but I don't know what she did that was atrocious?
  
  Sing, DT, and I did take issue with some statements by a couple people in that thread, and I make no apologies for that. That isn't white knighting. Blaming the victim is not okay, ever. If anyone wants to believe I'm a WK for saying that it's not acceptable to basically say she deserves to be hit then that's fine. Ridiculous, but fine.
  
  I am sorry that thread stirred up strong emotions on your part and I do think the personal experiences you shared were helpful, and hope they are something she will consider.
  
  ETA: I remember now, her statement about 'taking' an adoptive child. Yes, that is insensitive and offensive and she was called on it, as she should have been. But I maintain that calling other people on the fact that they were victim shaming is not white knighting.
  

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• cagoldi member

  June 2014

  @flitterin I agree and I know that nobody brought up that pregnancy to use against her. But some people were asking for details and I just thought they probably wouldn't do so if they were reminded of that information.
  
  Like I said before, claims of conception after never having intercourse are apocryphal at best. I don't believe that.

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• [Deleted User] member

  June 2014

    CFox815 said:

  Ok, since @joelies asked on a different thread about our policy ill post it here. I technically lost my back door virginity before my front door. Weird right? And I was 19.

  It's actually not that weird. I went to Catholic school and lived with guys. I have heard quite a few stories about girls doing this to keep themselves "pure."

  I definitely didn't do it for that reason haha. It was more of a " wait wtf?!" caught by surprise kinda thing...and alcohol. Lots of alcohol.
  

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• tisunge602 member

  June 2014

  CFox815 said:

  Maybe we should stop giving certain things attention if they derail posts so much and get so many people angry. It's just getting old. I don't care if we stay on-topic, but let's stop rewarding bad behavior.

  This is exactly what I was thinking. The same thing continues to happen with this person. She says something ridiculous and we all take the bait. Then drama ensues, she gets pissed off and "leaves," and we continue to discuss it.

  
  

  Guys, let's just not even engage her in the first place. Just roll your eyes, ignore her, and maybe she'll go away...

    
  
  
  

  
  

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• Dreamingmommy4 member

  June 2014

  Late to the party and to be safe, I'm sticking to the original thread. I lost my v-card at 19. It was to my DH on our wedding night. He lost his v-card that night too (he was also 19). I wouldn't change a thing and I hope I can encourage my kids to make the same choice to wait, because it was worth it.

      

  

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