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*Update* Is this "normal" or concerning? **Trigger warning**

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Re: *Update* Is this "normal" or concerning? **Trigger warning**

  • SimpleJaneSimpleJane member
    I usually just lurk but wanted to say that it would be helpful if there was some kind of warning in the title of this thread. I have PTSD from childhood sexual abuse and try to stay away from threads like this and now I wish I would not have opened it.
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  • ManateearmzManateearmz member
    I agree that this thread should come with a trigger warning. It is very concerning behavior and I really hope you call CPS.

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  • amedberyamedbery member
    I think the beast lurking in the shadows here is that, by refusing to address their son's issues, his parents may be allowing someone who is abusing their child and countless others to continue victimizing children. Also, I doubt she warns other parents her children is around - so he could be abusing other friends, cousins, etc. (And any kid he or his abuser victimizes can, in turn, become a victimizer). That's the problem with abuse - it's a cycle. The people who could be harmed by inaction grows with each day you wait. Please call.
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  • NotSharknadoNotSharknado member
    Since the boy was so casual about this, I wonder if other family members addressed this? Grandparents? Aunts?
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  • umma4babesumma4babes member
    This isn't just about your friend's family anymore. Wow, they know he "humps" other girls and no one has addressed this? You'd be doing a much bigger favor to the boy and your friend by calling CPS now. He's going to a sexual predator who will end up a registered sexual offender for the rest of his life if adults don't step in and get him the help he needs. Or if the boy is being abused himself, your call to CPS could put a stop to that as well. I don't care if the mom is "clueless" or "oblivious," she put YOUR kids at risk as well by allowing all of them to be left alone, however brief that may have been. Aren't you livid about that? What if your son had to use the bathroom and something happened to your girl???? I am so furious for you.
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  • ready-or-notready-or-not member
    The longer this goes without an update the more it makes me think she hasn't made that call & is going with the "talk it out with my friend" route :o(
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  • RondackHikerRondackHiker member
    Did she PM anyone about reporting it for her? If so, please report it.

    OP, I know it's hard. But she described a child as SENSUAL. You saw abuse.

    There's something wrong and that something and the safety of the kids is more important than CPS. Knowing those kids are safe is worth the loss of a friendship.

    Please call.


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  • RondackHikerRondackHiker member
    I'm glad CPS was called.


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  • 74dragonfly74dragonfly member
    I am very glad cps was called. Thanks for taking action and for updating us.




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    So glad you called.
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  • ASmallWonderASmallWonder member
    Thank you so much for the update and for doing the right thing for those children.  My hope is that this is something that hasn't been going on for long and that, with the right help, these children will be ok.
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  • bensmommy518bensmommy518 member
    Mags748 said:
    Ugh, I literally feel sick to my stomach now. There is still a part of me that wants to believe I don't know the whole story and am just reading too much into it. 

    My friend can be pretty oblivious to things (like having no clue or worries about car seat safety as mentioned above), so part of me is thinking that could be the case with this. Being her friend, I would like to talk to her first to see if she reacts and then call CPS if/when she doesn't. I do understand where everyone is coming from saying go straight to CPS but I would like to avoid that if she will take me seriously and do the right thing. 
    Please call CPS.  It is their job to investigate as to whether abuse is actually happening (which it sounds like there likely is) not yours.  They are trained to see what is going on, not you.  Please let them do their job.  If nothing is happening, nothing will come of it but if something IS going on, they need to know.  A call to CPS is just to report SUSPECTED abuse.  They will do the investigating. 




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  • LnR70707LnR70707 member
    So glad to see the update and that CPS is going to investigate.


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  • FalconCrestFalconCrest member
    I am glad to hear that CPS was called.

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  • TugboatSheilaTugboatSheila member
    I am happy that you called. If they find nothing, I think at the very least the parents will see that they need to discuss boundaries with their children and learn about appropriate and inappropriate behavior themselves. 

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  • MonkeybabeMonkeybabe member
    I'm really glad someone made the call. This had been on my mind all weekend.
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  • fancynewbeeslyfancynewbeesly member
    I am so glad that you made the call. Those poor children---my heart breaks for them. 
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  • SmootchySmootchy member
    I'm also just reading this now. I hope everything turns out to be a big misunderstanding. Like the kid saw his dad watching porn or something. Right? That could be what happened. I hope. I don't know, I'm honestly trying not to think about it. 
     
    But I agree with everyone that the mom's lack of concern for her "very sensual" 6 year old is probably the most odd of all the behavior 
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