November 2014 Moms

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  • Not sure this is FFFC, but not sure where else to put it and not worth its own post. But I am seriously bothered by some "friend's" reactions to my pregnancy news. I'm thinking of one in particular. My best friend since kindergarten. She is single but is dating a childhood friend and the ring is coming any day now. Pretty sure she just started dating him because he has loved her forever and she turned 30 and started to panic, but that's a different story.

    Anyways, I had planned a girls' night out with her and 2 other close girlfriends when I was ready to tell I was pregnant. It was supposed to be in May, about 2 weeks before this friend's bday. All of us were busy that night, so we ended up deciding to go to Eat N Park later in the evening just to catch up (and I was going to tell my news). Well somehow this friend turned everything around to her (like she always does), threw a hissy fit that I "planned her birthday dinner at Eat N Park" and cancelled the whole thing. She's been weird with me ever since. I have apologized and since just told her over the phone I'm pregnant and that was never her birthday dinner (confused as to why she thought I was throwing her a dinner in the first place..we've never done that?). Now every time I talk to her all she wants to discuss is her upcoming wedding and she's not even engaged. Since announcing my pregnancy I've sent her a bday card and get well card (when she was sick) and have yet to really discuss my baby or get a card or any real acknowledgement from her.

    Maybe I'm being a brat, but Im getting so tired of the one-sided friendship that I've really started pulling away.

    Again, sorry if that wasn't FFFC.
  • OMG @lizzielu82 I've been wanting one SO bad!! I was going to have my first on my birthday (May 29th) but chickened out. Now I'm thinking maybe 4th of July? I have my official dr a/s on July 2nd so I feel like as long as she says everything looks good, maybe a glass of wine will be ok. Just SO nervous...
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  • My sister "forgot" to pay her car loan, so now my mom and I are putting the money together to get it out of the lot and pay her tow bill :( $900 dollars later, she is doing all of my laundry, making dinner, and taking us to the movies. Ugh my laundry is a good 15 loads so that should teach her! I hate folding, it's a problem...
    How many months did she forget?  I thought that usually took at least 2-3 months before they started even looking for you.

    On that note, here's my FFFC - My husband and I haven't made the mortgage payment on his rental in four years.  It was a multitude of things, his mom's business had a bad spell, she was on the mortgage, someone went in and filed liens on any property with her name (she had cosigned, but DH had refinanced and the title company forgot to take her off), the market went to shit, it was an adjustable rate mortgage.  The most we could get for the house was $600/month and we were paying almost $1,000 a month for it, our last tenants trashed the place, and then my husband got laid off.  It was so crazy, but we had to stop.

    The worst part, they haven't taken the freaking house yet.  (This is turning into more of a vent).  The sheriff's sale is finally set for this month.  We're in a better position financially (DH got a much better job) but this sets us back at least 3 years before we can buy a new house.
     TTC #1 since June 2008
    M/C @ 6 weeks 12/31/2008, Ectopic @ 6 weeks on 4/23/2010
    Diagnosed Unexplained 11/2009-DH is fine-I don't get AF
    Cycle #22 - 1/27/11 - IUI #1 & Injections - BFP! - DS born 11/11/11 
    TTC#2 - 2/24/14 - IUI & Injections - BFP! - EDD 11/29/14
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  • jaminjeffjaminjeff member
    edited June 2014
    Based on some of the UOs from yesterday, this is apparently bothersome to a lot of people, but I post a shit-ton of pictures of my kids on facebook. I do it once a month (I make a new album and post all pictures from the month prior), but there can be upwards of 120 pictures per album. My guess is that very few people actually bother to go through all the pictures, but my parents and in-laws appreciate them, which is pretty much the main reason I do it anyway.
    This is me.  My family and my husband's family are all over the place and I'm not going to remember who to text each cute picture to (I'll inevitably forget someone who will then see a pic by someone else and be pissed), so I make an album each month and it's really just for the families to see.  The big joke in our family is how many pictures I do take.  Trust me people, you don't see the half of them, you see the perfect ones.  BIL got some big fancy camera and tries to outdo me at parties and always asks why my son doesn't smile for him, you think it comes naturally to get a perfect shot of my kid?
     TTC #1 since June 2008
    M/C @ 6 weeks 12/31/2008, Ectopic @ 6 weeks on 4/23/2010
    Diagnosed Unexplained 11/2009-DH is fine-I don't get AF
    Cycle #22 - 1/27/11 - IUI #1 & Injections - BFP! - DS born 11/11/11 
    TTC#2 - 2/24/14 - IUI & Injections - BFP! - EDD 11/29/14
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  • Some guy was trying to give me his sales pitch at Sams club one day,  I lied and said I had ice cream in the car so he would shut up and let me keep walking.   I usually try to avoid eye contact with those people,  but this guy damn near jumped in front of me.     

    Nov. '14 January Siggy : Work Sucks!

     

    Me 32-DH 38

    Married July 14, 2007  ----- TTC # 1 October 1, 2013
    BFP   March 7, 2014  -----  EDD November 17, 2014 ---- Baby boy born November 16, 2014

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  • @MrsC430 You're not moody, mine is doing the same thing.  I actually snapped at him last night.  He said "just in case you didn't know, I love you." and I was all "YES I KNOW....YOU SAID IT ELEVENTY BILLION TIMES TODAY"  and then my head started spinning around and flames came up from the floor.  Or at least that's how I picture it, and then I blame the hormones.

    @NinerGirl52 Um, thanks, now I NEED a nutty bar.

    My FFFC....I don't think I dislike anyone more than my SIL.  She's a liar and a two face.  When we first met she said THE worst things about SS's BM...like BAD things. Flamed her for being a bad mother, a bad wife and said how much she hated her, how she cried throughout their wedding and how she was so glad they divorced...etc etc.  Five years later they're best buds....  SIL treats BM more like family than her own nephew....whom DH and I raise.  It just gets on my last nerve.    

     

     

     

     

     

  • jaminjeff said:


    Wicked22 said:



    I know you can't control street parking but this asshole neighbor who has 4 cars and rents (so he can't use the driveway) leaves his car outside my house PERMANENTLY. It's been about 5 or 6 weeks now that I've noticed.we moved in October so I didn't pay much mind til recently but now that I think about it, it's always been in front of my house the majority of the time. How the fuck do you have 4 cars and rent. Get your priorities straight douche. He moved it once for a few hours and came back. Today is the day. I'm slashing his tires. Oh and one of his other cars is parked in the other spot outside my house 90% of the time I just didn't know that car also belonged to his household. I can't take it anymore!!!! I don't even want to hear it's a public street blah blah blah it's there all.the.fucking.time.always.


    Not sure what the laws are where you're at but you might check the non-emergency line to see how long a car can be parked and left. If he leaves it longer then it should try and get it towed. I had to do that with a lawn guy that kept parking his truck and trailer at my old apartment compelx. I wouldn't have minded so much except for the fact he didn't live there.

    This.  Many cities have ordinances where vehicles can't be parked for more than 24 hours, or overnight on the roadway, etc.

    We have a single lane driveway and my step-son will keep his car in the street because he usually comes home after us at night, and leaves after us in the morning (Hubby and I leave about the same time).  I make him change up the house he parks in front of within four houses across the street so he's not monopolizing one spot in particular to be courteous.


    Where I live there aren't any rules like that. It's just obnoxious and I hate them
    TW*** Child and loss mentioned
    Married 10/12
    DS 11/14
    Ectopic 2/16
    PCOS/Ovulation Dysfunction 11/16
    IUI x 3- BFN
    Laparoscopy 3/17 Endo and tubal damage
    IVF- 4/17- 40 eggs retrieved, 10 blasts, 7 pgs tested embryos
    FET- 6/17- BFP!
    Due Feb 15, 2017


  • I know you can't control street parking but this asshole neighbor who has 4 cars and rents (so he can't use the driveway) leaves his car outside my house PERMANENTLY. It's been about 5 or 6 weeks now that I've noticed.we moved in October so I didn't pay much mind til recently but now that I think about it, it's always been in front of my house the majority of the time. How the fuck do you have 4 cars and rent. Get your priorities straight douche. He moved it once for a few hours and came back. Today is the day. I'm slashing his tires. Oh and one of his other cars is parked in the other spot outside my house 90% of the time I just didn't know that car also belonged to his household. I can't take it anymore!!!! I don't even want to hear it's a public street blah blah blah it's there all.the.fucking.time.always.

    Perhaps his priorities are different than your's and he rents so he can afford his cars?  I feel like this is kind of judgey against renters.  DH and I rent because we moved to the area not knowing a thing and wanted to have a few years to figure out where we wanted to settle.  We're both successful, make a good living, and *gasp* drive nice cars.  Who gives a fuck if we rent?

    It is annoying that your neighbor parks in front of your house though.


    I'm actually not judging at the fact he rents I'm judging the fact he is extremely inconsiderate. I rented for years before we were able to buy our house so i get it. When I rented I wouldn't have parked my car in front of the same persons house every single day and I only had 1 car. I should mentioned there are constantly spots in front of his house and yet he still parks in front of mine so it feels personal.

    TW*** Child and loss mentioned
    Married 10/12
    DS 11/14
    Ectopic 2/16
    PCOS/Ovulation Dysfunction 11/16
    IUI x 3- BFN
    Laparoscopy 3/17 Endo and tubal damage
    IVF- 4/17- 40 eggs retrieved, 10 blasts, 7 pgs tested embryos
    FET- 6/17- BFP!
    Due Feb 15, 2017
  • Okay I have a couple FFFCs:

    - My DH always wants to feel my tummy even though there isn't much to feel at the moment unless I have to pee. I'm not a fan of anyone touching my belly (never have been), so I secretly flex really hard when he rubs it so that he can't tell chub from muscle from uterus. 

    - I'm keeping my pregnancy off of Facebook (and have asked everyone who knows to kindly do the same) because I'm really not a big Facebook sharer (at all), but part of me deep down wonders if I'm doing it partly because my MIL wants SO BADLY to announce it all over everything. I've also sort of mentioned that once baby arrives, I don't really want photos of him/her all over Facebook, and that I'd rather gather e-mail addresses and do something like an e-mail blast or photo album share over iPhone or something.  But again, its partly because my MIL will just 'share' everything to her own Facebook. We actually get along quite well, but she has been driving me crazy since finding out the news :'(.  I know she's just excited, but she almost entirely outfitted her house with baby stuff and I haven't even browsed stores yet!  
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    @WildFlower810‌ that really made me lolol
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  • I have another one!  Every time we talk about hearing the baby's heartbeat the K$SHA song pops in my head and if I start singing it out loud my husband gets mad because it talks about dying young and we are terrified everyday of something happening to our little fetus.  But, in my defense, I forget the rest of the song every time it pops in my head.

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  • Alid86 said:

    Not sure if this is a FFC but I can't stand it that people think that they are entitled to make any comment whatsoever about a pregnant woman's body or ask how much weight she has gained. With DD people constantly told me how small I looked (I'm 6' tall she had a lot of up and down room!) and caused me to worry that something was wrong...I'm dreading the comments that will be coming this time! One poor 5' friend of mine was constantly asked if she was sure she wasn't having twins...she's 5' tall...where did these people think the baby was supposed to go but out? Commenting on a hormonal pregnant woman's body should not be done unless you tell her she looks beautiful!

    This ^^^ my stepgrandmother did this with my first pregnancy and started right at the beginning with this one. Every time I see her she asks how much weight I have gained. I took great pleasure in making sure she knew I lost weight in the first trimester.
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  • @knitsmagee I wish my water would do that!!!

     

     

     

     

     



  • I can't stand people who stand outside the grocery store asking people to sign petitions for shit. My goal is to get in and out of the store as quickly as possible, so NO I don't want to hear your one-sided spiel on xyz issue and I am sure as shit not signing anything without hearing more than your propaganda. You are blocking the flow of traffic. Go away! 


    I usually just lie and say I'm not registered to vote in my state, but then I feel like I look like a deadbeat citizen. 



    Eta: This goes for pretty much anyone asking for anything outside the grocery store entrance/exit. Unless you have thin mints, get the fuck out of my way. 
    Ugh, don't get me started on this. In our area it's most often little kids hockey teams raising money. They have the cute little kids standing with their hockey helmets to collect money as you enter and exit the store. And the parents stand a little ways back and chat and drink coffee- in their $500 winter coats. I don't mind giving to a charity that supports kids whose parents can't afford to pay for sports or extracuriculars, but I do have a problem with donating money to kids whose parents clearly CAN afford it. If you can afford a $500 winter coat you can afford to pay for your kids hockey.


    Do they just ask for money? Like they aren't selling anything? I think fundraiser should offer something - sell a service or good. You aren't teaching kids anything just having them ask for money.







  • I know you can't control street parking but this asshole neighbor who has 4 cars and rents (so he can't use the driveway) leaves his car outside my house PERMANENTLY. It's been about 5 or 6 weeks now that I've noticed.we moved in October so I didn't pay much mind til recently but now that I think about it, it's always been in front of my house the majority of the time. How the fuck do you have 4 cars and rent. Get your priorities straight douche. He moved it once for a few hours and came back. Today is the day. I'm slashing his tires. Oh and one of his other cars is parked in the other spot outside my house 90% of the time I just didn't know that car also belonged to his household. I can't take it anymore!!!! I don't even want to hear it's a public street blah blah blah it's there all.the.fucking.time.always.

    Perhaps his priorities are different than your's and he rents so he can afford his cars?  I feel like this is kind of judgey against renters.  DH and I rent because we moved to the area not knowing a thing and wanted to have a few years to figure out where we wanted to settle.  We're both successful, make a good living, and *gasp* drive nice cars.  Who gives a fuck if we rent?

    It is annoying that your neighbor parks in front of your house though.
    I'm actually not judging at the fact he rents I'm judging the fact he is extremely inconsiderate. I rented for years before we were able to buy our house so i get it. When I rented I wouldn't have parked my car in front of the same persons house every single day and I only had 1 car. I should mentioned there are constantly spots in front of his house and yet he still parks in front of mine so it feels personal.


    Okey dokes.  Then why bring up the fact that he rents?  Why not just say, "my neighbor has 900 cars and parks them in front of my house?".

    Anyway.  My FFFC - I just went to Carters and bought all the baby clothes.  And then I went to Target and bought more.  I need to stop.  I know we're going to get shit at our shower and I just can't resist!!!

    For dogs/cats - I like them but have no desire to have a pet right now.  I'll pet your puppy or kitty (hey now!) but just can't be bothered to own one. 


    Because I think he should have more respect for his neighbors who own. He renting in an area that is desirable and the homeowners are a big part of that. If he owned he would be able to park in front of his own house and not mine.
    TW*** Child and loss mentioned
    Married 10/12
    DS 11/14
    Ectopic 2/16
    PCOS/Ovulation Dysfunction 11/16
    IUI x 3- BFN
    Laparoscopy 3/17 Endo and tubal damage
    IVF- 4/17- 40 eggs retrieved, 10 blasts, 7 pgs tested embryos
    FET- 6/17- BFP!
    Due Feb 15, 2017
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