FFFC

missnacholover

brooklyngirl18 said:

brooklyngirl18 said:

brooklyngirl18 said:

I know you can't control street parking but this asshole neighbor who has 4 cars and rents (so he can't use the driveway) leaves his car outside my house PERMANENTLY. It's been about 5 or 6 weeks now that I've noticed.we moved in October so I didn't pay much mind til recently but now that I think about it, it's always been in front of my house the majority of the time. How the fuck do you have 4 cars and rent. Get your priorities straight douche. He moved it once for a few hours and came back. Today is the day. I'm slashing his tires. Oh and one of his other cars is parked in the other spot outside my house 90% of the time I just didn't know that car also belonged to his household. I can't take it anymore!!!! I don't even want to hear it's a public street blah blah blah it's there all.the.fucking.time.always.

Perhaps his priorities are different than your's and he rents so he can afford his cars?  I feel like this is kind of judgey against renters.  DH and I rent because we moved to the area not knowing a thing and wanted to have a few years to figure out where we wanted to settle.  We're both successful, make a good living, and *gasp* drive nice cars.  Who gives a fuck if we rent?

It is annoying that your neighbor parks in front of your house though.

I'm actually not judging at the fact he rents I'm judging the fact he is extremely inconsiderate. I rented for years before we were able to buy our house so i get it. When I rented I wouldn't have parked my car in front of the same persons house every single day and I only had 1 car. I should mentioned there are constantly spots in front of his house and yet he still parks in front of mine so it feels personal.

Okey dokes.  Then why bring up the fact that he rents?  Why not just say, "my neighbor has 900 cars and parks them in front of my house?".

Anyway.  My FFFC - I just went to Carters and bought all the baby clothes.  And then I went to Target and bought more.  I need to stop.  I know we're going to get shit at our shower and I just can't resist!!!

For dogs/cats - I like them but have no desire to have a pet right now.  I'll pet your puppy or kitty (hey now!) but just can't be bothered to own one. 

Because I think he should have more respect for his neighbors who own. He renting in an area that is desirable and the homeowners are a big part of that. If he owned he would be able to park in front of his own house and not mine.

That makes no sense.  So my next door neighbors own.  Should I kiss their ass and have more respect for them than the other renters in my neighborhood??

missnacholover

HappyToBeHere said:

Okay I have a couple FFFCs:

- My DH always wants to feel my tummy even though there isn't much to feel at the moment unless I have to pee. I'm not a fan of anyone touching my belly (never have been), so I secretly flex really hard when he rubs it so that he can't tell chub from muscle from uterus. 

- I'm keeping my pregnancy off of Facebook (and have asked everyone who knows to kindly do the same) because I'm really not a big Facebook sharer (at all), but part of me deep down wonders if I'm doing it partly because my MIL wants SO BADLY to announce it all over everything. I've also sort of mentioned that once baby arrives, I don't really want photos of him/her all over Facebook, and that I'd rather gather e-mail addresses and do something like an e-mail blast or photo album share over iPhone or something.  But again, its partly because my MIL will just 'share' everything to her own Facebook. We actually get along quite well, but she has been driving me crazy since finding out the news .  I know she's just excited, but she almost entirely outfitted her house with baby stuff and I haven't even browsed stores yet!  

I am debating between not posting any pics of the baby on FB or requesting that the gmas and aunts do not post their own pictures...instead I will tag them so pics show up on their wall or whatever. 

AnnieRoo13

lisaren said:

In defense of the money outside of stores thing, sometimes there's no choice. You have to do it. It's a requirement. Like with my boys basketball team they had to do this because it was to benefit new sporting equipment. I disliked being the parent there just as much as the person being asked to donate the money.

I totally get that it's likely mandatory, but it still bugs me!

brooklyngirl18

missnacholover said:

brooklyngirl18 said:

missnacholover said:

brooklyngirl18 said:

missnacholover said:

brooklyngirl18 said:

I know you can't control street parking but this asshole neighbor who has 4 cars and rents (so he can't use the driveway) leaves his car outside my house PERMANENTLY. It's been about 5 or 6 weeks now that I've noticed.we moved in October so I didn't pay much mind til recently but now that I think about it, it's always been in front of my house the majority of the time. How the fuck do you have 4 cars and rent. Get your priorities straight douche. He moved it once for a few hours and came back. Today is the day. I'm slashing his tires. Oh and one of his other cars is parked in the other spot outside my house 90% of the time I just didn't know that car also belonged to his household. I can't take it anymore!!!! I don't even want to hear it's a public street blah blah blah it's there all.the.fucking.time.always.

Perhaps his priorities are different than your's and he rents so he can afford his cars?  I feel like this is kind of judgey against renters.  DH and I rent because we moved to the area not knowing a thing and wanted to have a few years to figure out where we wanted to settle.  We're both successful, make a good living, and *gasp* drive nice cars.  Who gives a fuck if we rent?

It is annoying that your neighbor parks in front of your house though.

I'm actually not judging at the fact he rents I'm judging the fact he is extremely inconsiderate. I rented for years before we were able to buy our house so i get it. When I rented I wouldn't have parked my car in front of the same persons house every single day and I only had 1 car. I should mentioned there are constantly spots in front of his house and yet he still parks in front of mine so it feels personal.

Okey dokes.  Then why bring up the fact that he rents?  Why not just say, "my neighbor has 900 cars and parks them in front of my house?".

Anyway.  My FFFC - I just went to Carters and bought all the baby clothes.  And then I went to Target and bought more.  I need to stop.  I know we're going to get shit at our shower and I just can't resist!!!

For dogs/cats - I like them but have no desire to have a pet right now.  I'll pet your puppy or kitty (hey now!) but just can't be bothered to own one. 

Because I think he should have more respect for his neighbors who own. He renting in an area that is desirable and the homeowners are a big part of that. If he owned he would be able to park in front of his own house and not mine.


That makes no sense.  So my next door neighbors own.  Should I kiss their ass and have more respect for them than the other renters in my neighborhood??


At what point did I even insinuate he should kiss my ass? I said he should have more respect than to leave his cars parked outside my house permanently. Maybe it's just me but when I rented I respected my neighbors and alternated where I parked.

absolutelymaybe

(sorry I have another one)

I'm really tired of people's response when they ask me what we're hoping for and I say "We're hoping for a boy and a girl."

"Oh, so that way you can be done!"

NO! First off, why do people assume you have to have babies of both sexes to be done? Our lives would be just as complete if we had only boys or only girls. And whose to say that just because you have one of each you have to be done? Some people may want more than two children. 

Personally, we are done no matter what the sex of these babies turns out to be (we feel maxed out at two), but I just hate people making assumptions about my future breeding goals. 

missnacholover

brooklyngirl18 said:

At what point did I even insinuate he should kiss my ass? I said he should have more respect than to leave his cars parked outside my house permanently. Maybe it's just me but when I rented I respected my neighbors and alternated where I parked.

Just your tone makes you sound like people who rent are not as good as people who own.  That's all.  I think everyone should respect their neighbors regardless of how they pay for their housing.  I really don't see how him being a renter has anything to do with it. 

brooklyngirl18

missnacholover said:

brooklyngirl18 said:

At what point did I even insinuate he should kiss my ass? I said he should have more respect than to leave his cars parked outside my house permanently. Maybe it's just me but when I rented I respected my neighbors and alternated where I parked.

Just your tone makes you sound like people who rent are not as good as people who own.  That's all.  I think everyone should respect their neighbors regardless of how they pay for their housing.  I really don't see how him being a renter has anything to do with it. 

i don't think that at all and that's not what i said. like i said i rented for years so obviously i have nothing against renters. i think you're reading too much into one line of my initial post.

lisaren

AnnieRoo13 said:

lisaren said:

In defense of the money outside of stores thing, sometimes there's no choice. You have to do it. It's a requirement. Like with my boys basketball team they had to do this because it was to benefit new sporting equipment. I disliked being the parent there just as much as the person being asked to donate the money.

I totally get that it's likely mandatory, but it still bugs me!


So you also understand that the parents standing outside in $500 jackets are required to be there. They're not asking for handouts, it's mandatory. (Maybe not all kids, but for most sport teams)

Would it make you feel better if the parents were wearing a busted jacket?? Hahaha

I'm only bringing up the jacket because you initially brought it up. I personally could care less, I drop a quarter and move on.

missnacholover

brooklyngirl18 said:

missnacholover said:

brooklyngirl18 said:

At what point did I even insinuate he should kiss my ass? I said he should have more respect than to leave his cars parked outside my house permanently. Maybe it's just me but when I rented I respected my neighbors and alternated where I parked.

Just your tone makes you sound like people who rent are not as good as people who own.  That's all.  I think everyone should respect their neighbors regardless of how they pay for their housing.  I really don't see how him being a renter has anything to do with it. 

i don't think that at all and that's not what i said. like i said i rented for years so obviously i have nothing against renters. i think you're reading too much into one line of my initial post.

Maybe I am. I just really don't see why it has to be mentioned.  But if where he parks really bothers you, just ask him not to park there. 

mander82

@missnacholover  I haven't bought ALL the babies clothes yet.....but I did buy 3 onesies last night looking for a cute one for DH for fathers day.   I found one red one that says "my dad is SUPER"  Another one that was white with green trim,  that has a soccer ball on it that says "Dads sidekick"  and a white one with the Pittsburgh Penguins logo on it.

That is the first baby clothes I have purchased,  but I can see it getting very ugly once I find out the sex.

brooklyngirl18

missnacholover said:

brooklyngirl18 said:

missnacholover said:

brooklyngirl18 said:

At what point did I even insinuate he should kiss my ass? I said he should have more respect than to leave his cars parked outside my house permanently. Maybe it's just me but when I rented I respected my neighbors and alternated where I parked.

Just your tone makes you sound like people who rent are not as good as people who own.  That's all.  I think everyone should respect their neighbors regardless of how they pay for their housing.  I really don't see how him being a renter has anything to do with it. 

i don't think that at all and that's not what i said. like i said i rented for years so obviously i have nothing against renters. i think you're reading too much into one line of my initial post.

Maybe I am. I just really don't see why it has to be mentioned.  But if where he parks really bothers you, just ask him not to park there. 

thanks will do

MrsC430

@venussapphire‌ I don't think you can blame a dog for a person's bad hygiene. If someone smells, it's probably because they need a shower lol

runningmama14

kyliedaniellexx said:

I have a UO for FFFC... breakin rules here probably. I thought FFFC was somewhere we post confessions we don't want to get flamed for (but probably will anyways), not somewhere we go to make judgey overdramtic complaints about what everyone else is doing wrong with their lives. But maybe that's just me. Carry on...

@kyliedaniellexx- That may have been the initial intent many ions ago, but for as long as I can remember (8-10 years ago on the knot) FFFC have always been full of flames and snark.  It's a bump misnomer.

mander82

We have to start wording our FFFC's  as  "I confess, I judge people that buy filet mignon with their access card"   

runningmama14

kyliedaniellexx said:

I'm totes cool with flame and snark...that's the good shit, bring it ooon. I just meant I think a lot of the FFFC stuff resembles bitchfest Monday stuff and there isn't an awful lot of actual confessin' going on. That's all

I confess that I formulate whatever is currently pissing me of into the format of that day's theme post.

HappyToBeHere

@NinerGirl52 - YES to that t-shirt.  I want one in a super big(ger than me) size so that it isn't even tempting to reach out and find my belly in it!  I'm nervous for the point where strangers think its ok to rub my belly!  I shall be hunting TB boards to find out how others deal with this.

@missnacholover - I think it's such a personal preference - both of those sound like great ideas, so totally choose whichever makes YOU the most comfortable!  I've learned that Facebook is pretty much there to satisfy others' nosiness, even though I'm sure for the most part it is absolutely well-intended nosiness! (I know this because while I don't share, I do creep - hence why I still have the stupid thing).

AnnieRoo13

lisaren said:

lisaren said:

In defense of the money outside of stores thing, sometimes there's no choice. You have to do it. It's a requirement. Like with my boys basketball team they had to do this because it was to benefit new sporting equipment. I disliked being the parent there just as much as the person being asked to donate the money.

I totally get that it's likely mandatory, but it still bugs me!

So you also understand that the parents standing outside in $500 jackets are required to be there. They're not asking for handouts, it's mandatory. (Maybe not all kids, but for most sport teams) Would it make you feel better if the parents were wearing a busted jacket?? Hahaha I'm only bringing up the jacket because you initially brought it up. I personally could care less, I drop a quarter and move on.

Actually I think it would make me feel better if they were wearing a busted jacket! I'm all for supporting charities and kids, but I don't like the method of standing outside the grocery store using the cute kids as bait. And I always feel like I have to give them at least a few dollars. The $500 jackets bother me because I can't afford a $500 jacket and it makes me a little bitter to give your kid money when you are clearly much better off than I am.

wallygirl

My FFFC... I'm getting ready to go to visitation for my sister's father-in-law and it got me thinking I hate going to visitation or funerals. They have always made me uncomfortable but even more so since my dad passed. I just always feel like a bumbling idiot because I have no idea what to say because honestly there is nothing you can say that helps. Sometimes people even say things that inadvertently hurt and I'm always afraid I will somehow do that.

cindyNmark2010

FFFC - I rent and I totally leave our second car for a week or more at a time in the same spot. 

Yes, I rent but SOMEONE owns the house.  Just because someone owns doesn't entitle anyone to the spot in front of their house.   I'm fortunate enough to live in a neighborhood where people don't mind walking 200 feet because the spot in front of their house is occupado.  I sometimes have to park a block or two away, that's what I get for owning two cars.  I have two feet, and I use them.  As long as a car is registered and not abandoned or left there and is a harm to others then there's no leg to stand on as far as complaining goes. 

We had a car on our block that was left there for months, windows open.  I happen to live near  a park and kids were always throwing garbage into it and beating it up.  Finally it was towed after numerous calls to our non-emergency live.  That's grounds for a complaint.

I also had a jerk neighbor at my old place that would wait at the window for cars in front of his house to move and he'd run out to move the car in his driveway just to take the spot and leave the drive way empty. 

lisaren

kyliedaniellexx said:

I'm totes cool with flame and snark...that's the good shit, bring it ooon.

I just meant I think a lot of the FFFC stuff resembles bitchfest Monday stuff and there isn't an awful lot of actual confessin' going on. That's all

Agreed.

It's like one big jumbled bitch Monday-Friday

lisaren

In a little surprised just how judgmental a lot of people are. I guess I live in my sweet little bubble and just don't give a shit about smells or dogs or how much people pay for jackets and people asking for money or parking spots.

It's to each person on what annoys them and yes, everyone gets annoyed but I guess my fffc is that there seems to be so much judgement behind the annoyance.
Just to simply say I'm annoyed because I do not like dogs, but to add the whole people smell who have dogs is just rude and totally judgmental.
Or to be annoyed because you are behind someone who is waiting for a parking spot, ok... But to add that they are lazy. Again, judgmental. Which I'm Not saying anyone here said that just making example.

I just don't get the judgmental aspect to annoyances and/or opinions.

phdprocrastinator

brooklyngirl18 said:

I know you can't control street parking but this asshole neighbor who has 4 cars and rents (so he can't use the driveway) leaves his car outside my house PERMANENTLY. It's been about 5 or 6 weeks now that I've noticed.we moved in October so I didn't pay much mind til recently but now that I think about it, it's always been in front of my house the majority of the time. How the fuck do you have 4 cars and rent. Get your priorities straight douche. He moved it once for a few hours and came back. Today is the day. I'm slashing his tires. Oh and one of his other cars is parked in the other spot outside my house 90% of the time I just didn't know that car also belonged to his household. I can't take it anymore!!!! I don't even want to hear it's a public street blah blah blah it's there all.the.fucking.time.always.

We learned the hard way that - in CA at least - a car that hasn't moved in 3 days is considered abandoned.  DH parked on the street at his old apartment once (I can't remember why he didn't use his assigned space) and then left for a business trip for a week.  By the time he'd returned, his car was towed.  When he figured it all out, the police explained that they had put a warning on his car after three days, then towed it two days later.

So what I'm saying: I would report this car abandoned.  But then again, we park on the street, too, so a car in front of my house would really bother me.

phdprocrastinator

abbyful said:

Here's my confession: I chuckle to myself when parents-to-be say things like "my kid will never go out in public with a dirty shirt", "my kid won't have a snotty nose", "my kid won't get french fries at a restaurant", etc.

My confession is that I chuckle whenever I hear a FTM-to-be vent that she can't wait to have kids so that she's finally allowed an opinion on parenting.  Usually followed by other FTM-to-bes saying that of course you can have informed opinions about parenting before having kids.

I was an ECE teacher.  I had experience.  I also had NO IDEA.  

brooklyngirl18

kyliedaniellexx said:

brooklyngirl18 said:

At what point did I even insinuate he should kiss my ass? I said he should have more respect than to leave his cars parked outside my house permanently. Maybe it's just me but when I rented I respected my neighbors and alternated where I parked.

Just your tone makes you sound like people who rent are not as good as people who own.  That's all.  I think everyone should respect their neighbors regardless of how they pay for their housing.  I really don't see how him being a renter has anything to do with it. 

----- It is most definitely about your tone. Whether I rented or owned would not affect my desicion on where I park my car...lol. Do you usually park in front of your house? Is it impossible to park in front or behind him? If so I can understand your frustration if nothing else. You own your house, not the street. Respectively his landlord owns the house he lives in, which to most people isn't a big deal. Both my parents rent and I will likely do the same most, if not all of my life. For some people's situations renting makes more sense.

if that is how i came across then i apologize. i park in the driveway but my husband parks on the street. i know you don't own the spots in front of your house which is why this was said in a fffc the first line said i know i don't control outside my house. my frustration is that there are 2 spots outside my house and this guy parks in both of them and leaves his cars there, as in he drives his other cars and never moves them from outside my house. that wouldn't piss you off? it has nothing to do with the fact he rents, i shouldn't have said that. it just really pisses me off that we are courteous to our neighbors and my husband never parks in front of the same neighbors house when he moves his car. 

again, just to be clear i have nothing against renters, i rented for almost 10 years.

ETA- one of the biggest issues is there are TONS of other spots, including in front of this guys own house and he still parks outside mine for unknown reasons. it seems like he's doing it to fuck with us. why not park in front of your own damn house when it's open?

AnnieRoo13

lisaren said:

In a little surprised just how judgmental a lot of people are. I guess I live in my sweet little bubble and just don't give a shit about smells or dogs or how much people pay for jackets and people asking for money or parking spots.

It's to each person on what annoys them and yes, everyone gets annoyed but I guess my fffc is that there seems to be so much judgement behind the annoyance.
Just to simply say I'm annoyed because I do not like dogs, but to add the whole people smell who have dogs is just rude and totally judgmental.
Or to be annoyed because you are behind someone who is waiting for a parking spot, ok... But to add that they are lazy. Again, judgmental. Which I'm Not saying anyone here said that just making example.

I just don't get the judgmental aspect to annoyances and/or opinions.

I think generally that as a society we are all too judgemental. Consider how much people talk about being judged on this board- whether they're finding out the sex or not finding out, whether they've gained too much weight to be x weeks pregnant or not enough. Unfortunately we lives out lives being judged an judging others.

Let's get back to rainbows and unicorns and sparkles on this board I don't think we're very good at FFFC anyway.

brooklyngirl18

cindyNmark2010 said:

FFFC - I rent and I totally leave our second car for a week or more at a time in the same spot. 

Yes, I rent but SOMEONE owns the house.  Just because someone owns doesn't entitle anyone to the spot in front of their house.   I'm fortunate enough to live in a neighborhood where people don't mind walking 200 feet because the spot in front of their house is occupado.  I sometimes have to park a block or two away, that's what I get for owning two cars.  I have two feet, and I use them.  As long as a car is registered and not abandoned or left there and is a harm to others then there's no leg to stand on as far as complaining goes. 

We had a car on our block that was left there for months, windows open.  I happen to live near  a park and kids were always throwing garbage into it and beating it up.  Finally it was towed after numerous calls to our non-emergency live.  That's grounds for a complaint.

I also had a jerk neighbor at my old place that would wait at the window for cars in front of his house to move and he'd run out to move the car in his driveway just to take the spot and leave the drive way empty. 

i don't think I'm entitled to the spot and never suggested so. i just think its fucked up to take up both spots in front of someone else's house all the time. i know someone will park there obviously but if you are leaving your car for a  month or longer then pull it around the corner where it won't block other people. i park in my driveway so this isn't even about me, its about how rude i think they are. and for the record i have no problem walking. i used to live in an area that had alternate side parking twice a week and it was impossible to find a spot and i regularly had to park blocks away. that's an entirely different situation than the one i'm dealing with. 

smboswell1

lisaren said:

In a little surprised just how judgmental a lot of people are. I guess I live in my sweet little bubble and just don't give a shit about smells or dogs or how much people pay for jackets and people asking for money or parking spots.

It's to each person on what annoys them and yes, everyone gets annoyed but I guess my fffc is that there seems to be so much judgement behind the annoyance.
Just to simply say I'm annoyed because I do not like dogs, but to add the whole people smell who have dogs is just rude and totally judgmental.
Or to be annoyed because you are behind someone who is waiting for a parking spot, ok... But to add that they are lazy. Again, judgmental. Which I'm Not saying anyone here said that just making example.

I just don't get the judgmental aspect to annoyances and/or opinions.

This! I get that everyone judges and I hate myself for doing it. But adding unnessary comments are unnessary. Haha. I'm laughing at myself as I'm speaking. Idk what's so funny.

Maelara

My FFFC... I hate socks.

Sarahbeth612

Maelara said:

My FFFC... I hate socks.

@Maelara your sock hatred recently is making me giggle.
I'm not a sock person either. DH is, he wears socks all the time! I had to remind him to take them off before getting in the shower when we first got married! He sleeps in them too. Drives me bonkers.

lisaren

Fuck socks. Especially this one

Sarahbeth612

Oh Anthony :x

lisaren

lisaren

RHCP awesome in concert. Saw them in Atlanta last September. With janes addiction, Kendrick Lamar, cake, capital city, Phoenix, the yeah yeah yeahs, 2 chains, the Neighbourhood, Teagan and Sara, QOSA, and Imagine Dragons. Amazinnnnggggg

dr_pr

Kllopez1221 said:

My DH, said as long as they sew me up good and tight he'll be fine. Also, there is a vaginal rejuvenation clinic down the street from his old house, and he has offered to look into pricing for me once all is said and done.

8-|

I would throat punch H if he said something like that to me.  Saying things like that makes it sound like he cares more about your vagina than you as a person, and I wouldn't be afraid to point that out (at least to my H).  Statements like that really get my panties in a bunch.

My FFFC--we're going out to an early Father's Day dinner with our friends tomorrow night, and I will be having my second glass of wine since the BFP.  The first was amazing, and I'm sure this one will be too.

Sarahbeth612

@lisaren that concert sounds like perfection! I saw RHCP live but it was in the nosebleeds years ago. I'm gonna need like front row and maybe Anthony in a sock


The other guys are just making me LOL but when Anthony does it, panties are dropped

MrsAdventure

Sometimes when my grandma has one of her 'dementia moments' and forgets who I am and starts throwing a tantrum about why I am here (we live with her, so she can stay in her home), I lock myself in my bedroom and watch a movie until she forgets that's she forgot.

Also, I spent yesterday eating my way through a tub of red vines (I prob. ate about 3 or 4 times the serving size) and I don't feel guilty cause it tasted awesome!

hiketheworld

Confession: I hate that there is a thread to bitch every single day and that it is almost always the most popular thread. This shit is depressing- everyone arguing for pages before getting to see the hilarious penis sling. I'm clearly a rainbow/unicorn person I guess but I why don't we have a daily happy thread too?

lizgrace03

I don't think the FFFC has to be all bitch though. Like mine is that I was too lazy to walk up the stairs to our 3rd floor apartment after work and before going to dinner, so I made DH bring down my heartburn meds and makeup to the car and then we went directly to dinner. And I've had Ben & Jerry's 3x this week. No bitching, just confessions.

Kristy774

Wait a second....did someone say that waiting for someone to come out of a spot is assuming the person is lazy??? Because that REALLY pisses me off. I drive an SUV, my windows are tinted so you can't see my children in the back. I will park as absolutely close to where ever I'm going because I have a toddler, and child and people drive like idiots through parking lots and god forbid someone hit my child or my child broke free from my grip and ran (it has happened) away from me in a parking lot, this makes me putting my children's safety first not lazy. So think before you are judge someone waiting on a spot, they just might have a child. And one day, you too could be the person that wants to park as close as possible for the exact same reasons I do.

SweetMelissa5

WildFlower810 said:

For me it was more of a "all you kids were accidents and we hate having so many kids so it's your fault that our lives are miserable." Not doing that to my kid. Not. Not. Not. I don't care if I wind up with 12 kids and my own reality show, I'm not devaluing them like that.

So another FFFC: Parents who talk about their kids to other people in their kid's hearing! "Yeah, Johnny didn't do so well on his spelling test so we're having to cut back on TV time and work on that" or "Sally made her sports team but her sister didn't. We're so proud of Sally!" I mean, come on. Parents need to talk to each other sometimes, I get it. But be respectful of your kids or they won't respect themselves and that causes all kinds of trouble.

That is a horrible thing to say, and I don't blame you for being bothered, but my sister and I have pretty much known all our lives that we were unplanned, and it never bothered us anyway. We certainly were never made to feel unloved or like we were unwanted burdens. They were 18 (and in high school) when they got pregnant with my sister and 19 when they had me, so as soon as we could do the math, we figured things out, but my mom was always very clear that she didn't regret having us even though she did sometimes regret having to put her plans on hold (and we weren't hurt by that admission because it made sense).