After being informed by my brother that he's bringing his puppy to my house yesterday, I'm thinking that I should send a mass text/message to my family laying down ground rules for my labor and their visits. Do you think that is appropriate or tacky? Should I just send individual texts? I want to make sure that things are very clear because my stress levels are rising and I don't want to deal with it later.
After being informed by my brother that he's bringing his puppy to my house yesterday, I'm thinking that I should send a mass text/message to my family laying down ground rules for my labor and their visits. Do you think that is appropriate or tacky? Should I just send individual texts? I want to make sure that things are very clear because my stress levels are rising and I don't want to deal with it later.
Personally I would text them individually. However, if you have an iphone, you can always type it up one time, copy and paste it and just change what needs to be changed to each person.
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Thanks! I got enough movement to put my mind at ease tonight, but when I called to follow-up with my doctor today and they asked if I wanted to come in just to check things out again, I jumped at the chance.
Everything is fine I mentioned the lack of movements and dr did say that they start having more napping cycles during these last few weeks.
The nurse and DH have decided I should be strapped down to the bed until the baby comes, though, to stop all the clumsiness
Fwiw, I spent the last few days of inside baby panicking because he slowed down so much (right around 39 weeks). Everything was just fine, he just started napping more but it freaked me out.
Thanks, @elsa1688! Now that you mention it, I remember you posting about that at the time. It actually does make me feel better... They make you so crazy - "call if there's decreased movement" and hen "oh that's normal". Which is it?!?
After being informed by my brother that he's bringing his puppy to my house yesterday, I'm thinking that I should send a mass text/message to my family laying down ground rules for my labor and their visits. Do you think that is appropriate or tacky? Should I just send individual texts? I want to make sure that things are very clear because my stress levels are rising and I don't want to deal with it later.
@ricecakes1216 - I think it depends on content/context and who you're sending them to. I would totally send my immediate family a "quick" text saying, you know, please call before you come or don't ring the doorbell... But outside of my immediate family I might feel weird. If you don't mind my asking, what are you planning in asking them to do?
@mrsdbc - I'm sure he's just caught up in all the stuff going on. It's better that's he's doing ok! Hang in there you will get to hug both of your babies at the same time very soon!
After being informed by my brother that he's bringing his puppy to my house yesterday, I'm thinking that I should send a mass text/message to my family laying down ground rules for my labor and their visits. Do you think that is appropriate or tacky? Should I just send individual texts? I want to make sure that things are very clear because my stress levels are rising and I don't want to deal with it later.
@ricecakes1216 - I think it depends on content/context and who you're sending them to. I would totally send my immediate family a "quick" text saying, you know, please call before you come or don't ring the doorbell... But outside of my immediate family I might feel weird. If you don't mind my asking, what are you planning in asking them to do?
@lest12 It would be to my siblings and parents. I'm worried about 2/3 siblings and my mom posting on FB pictures or birth announcements before we get the chance. So I'd be asking for them not to post until we do and no dogs.
My friend told me I sound like a pregnant control freak. Which I am. My in laws won't be at the hospital as it's too far of a trip to make last minute, they'll be coming a few days late, and my niece doesn't live here. I would hate for them to either see a picture or learn of the details on FB. My mom made it clear today that she will be posting and keeping everyone in the loop (see my Monday bitchfest post...) and has already divulged too much on FB.
I'm probably making a bigger deal, but I deal with anxiety and this is a huge source for me.
After being informed by my brother that he's bringing his puppy to my house yesterday, I'm thinking that I should send a mass text/message to my family laying down ground rules for my labor and their visits. Do you think that is appropriate or tacky? Should I just send individual texts? I want to make sure that things are very clear because my stress levels are rising and I don't want to deal with it later.
@ricecakes1216 - I think it depends on content/context and who you're sending them to. I would totally send my immediate family a "quick" text saying, you know, please call before you come or don't ring the doorbell... But outside of my immediate family I might feel weird. If you don't mind my asking, what are you planning in asking them to do?
@lest12 It would be to my siblings and parents. I'm worried about 2/3 siblings and my mom posting on FB pictures or birth announcements before we get the chance. So I'd be asking for them not to post until we do and no dogs.
My friend told me I sound like a pregnant control freak. Which I am. My in laws won't be at the hospital as it's too far of a trip to make last minute, they'll be coming a few days late, and my niece doesn't live here. I would hate for them to either see a picture or learn of the details on FB. My mom made it clear today that she will be posting and keeping everyone in the loop (see my Monday bitchfest post...) and has already divulged too much on FB.
I'm probably making a bigger deal, but I deal with anxiety and this is a huge source for me.
For this exact reason, I'm locking my FB down. No one will be able to post on my wall or tag me in anything until I unlock it. I'm also asking family to not post pictures or anything until I make an announcement. I don't know what makes people feel like it's ok to share other peoples news!!! It makes me totally stabby too! Andplusalso, no one needs to know that we aren't home so some creep can break into our house. DH is crazy paranoid about this.
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@crhein26 I don't get why people are like that. It's my news let me share it!!! When H was deployed I asked people not to post about it as well. I didn't want people to know I lived alone.
@crhein26 I don't get why people are like that. It's my news let me share it!!! When H was deployed I asked people not to post about it as well. I didn't want people to know I lived alone.
@ricecakes1216 - When I announced I was pregnant, my mom was all pissy because she couldn't tell people or post anything on FB until we told all our families. We told them all the same day on Thanksgiving. I literally was getting calls and texts from her all day asking when she could post it. It was so annoying. And it's going to be worse I'm sure because I will be in pain and tired.
Also, why does your mom need to keep people updated? They don't need to know anything except when the baby is born. People need to back off. Ugh! I mean I don't think it's necessary to update people on dilation except for immediate family. Dear Lord I hope your mom doesn't post that on FB! For what it's worth, I don't think you are being a controlling pregnant woman at all. I think people have lost all courtesy because of social media.
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@ricecakes1216 - I would absolutely send my family a group text about both of those things. Or an email, or even a 1-on-1 convo if necessary. And wouldn't care if they thought I was being bitchy or controlling. You're requests are not out of line, they are the ones pushing it here. So, you can stand up for yourself. And you don't have to be mean about it. Turn it around and make them feel bad for putting you in that position!
Personally I have an easier time with my family though. They know I can be bitchy or controlling and will just have to love me anyway.
@ricecakes1216, I waited until Charlie was born and told people then that they were not to post until we had announced. DH's SIL posted before I could last time and I was pissed. It worked well enough that no one posted.
@ricecakes1216 I don't think you're being control freakish at all. When we told our families we were pregnant we asked nothing be posted on Facebook until we posted, same thing with the name and when we found out the gender. The plan is to only text immediate family when I'm in labor because I know they'll respect the wishes of not having anything posted until WE decide to post. I have some friends who would totally post it before I got to which is why friends won't be getting texted. I've already have one friend go straight to my sister and asked my sister to text her when I go into labor. My sister was like "uh you're gunna have to talk to K about that".
I get people are excited and want to share this time with us, but it's not their news to share and if they can't respect that they don't get a text right away. Sorry you've got to worry about family doing that crap, that's not right
@ricecakes1216 You're definitely not a control freak! DH and I were actually talking about that today, how I don't want anyone posting anything about our LO's arrival until we give them the okay. It's his dad and gf that the message is more directed to. They have this thing where they think they're entitled to know everything and share everything. I'm definitely not about that. So with that said, we're not even telling them when I go to the hospital. They'll get a short text when I have the baby, then they can piss off until we get home. I don't want any visitors, that way no one can bother us during our bonding time, plus they won't be able to take any pics or anything so they can't try to be sneaky and post them. In all honesty I don't even want them posting anything about my kids in general on their social medias. I don't know who they're "friends" with, so I don't like the idea of them sharing anything about my children.
ricecakes1216- When my niece was born last week, my brother sent us all a pic. In the text, he asked that no one post the pic to social media. I thought it was quite appropriate and took out the sting of sending that type of message by itself.
Poor DH. I had an emotional meltdown on him last night. I am being induced tomorrow morning, which means shit is getting real REALLY QUICK. And since this is my first, not that you probably don't have all of the same emotions with seconds and thirds, etc., but my emotions are all over the place. Today is the last day that DH and I will get to spend together ALONE without having the worries of an outside baby. There is going to be a baby at my house THIS weekend. How am I going to protect her from the world? What if I don't want anyone to hold her? What if I'm not feeling up to going to his parents on Sunday for Father's Day with the entire family who is going to want to hold my squishy baby? Ahhhh....I'm having a baby...TOMORROW. I'm equal parts nervous and excited to meet this little thing that's been kicking the shit out of me for what seems like forever. She's going to melt my heart the moment I see her and I can't wait! Did you see that? Did you see how my emotions went full circle there? Yup...officially feeling like a crazy pregnant lady!
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@otter1103 love the pic of your kids, beautiful family
I'm with y'all in that people put way too much on social media. I haven't ever posted DD's name on FB and luckily even people I haven't discussed my reasons with have seemed to catch on and use the nickname I use for her. It will be the same with DS. However, I have a much more expanded group of friends in town now since I have been here 4 years. Many of these people didn't know me well when DD was born so I'm hoping they keep his name off of any posts without being asked. I hadn't thought about people putting up his picture...
@ricecakes1216 I don't think you're being too controlling at all! You're very pregnant and will soon have a newborn; if anyone's feelings are hurt, you can always apologize later and blame hormones You need as little added stress as possible!
@crhein26- I understand how you feel. It's been me and DH for so long. You're going to be fine. Besides, if you don't want to share your little squish, you don't have to.
@nelleebelle- Get the smart phone! You'll love how much easier it is to do everything.
@mtgrizgirl- I've been counting on this full moon since January. EDD is Satuday. I keep telling people that the full moon will help me make that date.
I sort of have 2 due dates (2 different dating u/s), one is the 12th, the other is the 14th....so of course it would make sense for me go into labor on the 13th.
I'm hoping for any day now though...it's so goddamn hot (110 yesterday) and I'm D.O.N.E. being pregnant in this heat.
Yay! I thought it was really grabbing at straws by counting on the full moon, but thanks to you ladies I don't feel quite so crazy. I don't want to do much to induce labor (don't want SO touching me at all, don't want to walk cuz it's hot, will NOT try the castor oil thing, etc) so fingers crossed that the time will be soon.
I'll also say, good points have been made...L&D may be packed, and it's the weekend - I was hoping for a weekday early in the week so DD could go to daycare like normal and not have her routine thrown off quite as much. Oh well. As they say, beggars can't be choosers!!
My AW/SS: I had a job interview today that went really well! Fingers crossed please!!! Today is also our 8th wedding anniversary and it is baby week! (due date Saturday, possible induction before)
This is shaping up to be a pretty good week!
ETA: misspelling and also re: social media- I can't believe people would think it is ok to steal the parent thunder! I mean, seriously!
My little sister posted about being an aunty on fb right away and luckily my older sister saw and told her to take it down. (But not before my grandma saw). My mil posted that he arrived and posted pictures. She didn't tag me and we don't share any friends but I was really annoyed.
Re: Social Media.
Posting someone else's birth announcement/pictures before they can is like wearing a white dress to a wedding.
Also, my CMW said that you'd be surprised how many moms refuse skin to skin immediately to ask her to clean the baby and weigh/measure it so they can post it to FB. @-)
@rachel5130 - I agree 100% on the social media. I will add that I would like my daughter to be cleaned up before skin to skin, but definitely not so I can post it on FB. WTF is wrong with people??? I just don't want the nasty all over me. I mean I'm going to be gross enough, but don't want to add to it.
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Black pants and a grey shirt with black piping and a funky necklace. I kind of forgot I had these work pants- they didn't fit well so I never wore them but I'm glad I had them for today!
Also, the principal told me she just hired a woman that is due August 1st and so will be starting the school year on maternity leave- which alleviated a lot of my fears! Unfortunately, now if I don't get the job I can't blame the baby. AND I'll have to find a different life-long guilt trip. Hahaha, just kidding.
My H and I are already like 9 episodes through the new season of Orange is the New Black "> I want to walk to try to get this baby out but how can I with that waiting for me on netflix?
@crhein26 I'm also being induced tomorrow! And I also had a meltdown on DH last night... This will be our second LO, and it's just as emotional a as it was when I has DS1. If not more so because it gave me a major guilt trip about how this is DS's last day as our only baby who gets spoiled and is a total mamas boy who's never had to share me! In just a couple days there's going to be a tiny human he's going to have to share me with. I'm so scared that he's going to hate me if I cant give him the attention he wants amymore. I'm legitimately having an internal freak out about how I'm going to do this with 2 kids. DH doesn't seem to realize that anything is bothering me. Or he does but doesn't realize it's baby related. He thinks I'm mad at him so he's been super defensive lately.. which is understandable but he got really upset with me last night which is what caused the meltdown... he has yet to apologize (and so have I).. but the fact that he hasn't knowing I'm already an emotional person to begin with, has made me feel super depressed today. Ugh.
So I've heard "code grey" about ten times since I've been here and I looked it up. Apparently it means a aggressive person, I feel so safe with those constantly going off
Not sure where you looked it up but it could something different at your institution vs somewhere else?
@cMichelle0423 - So sorry you are arguing with DH. That stinks. I think guys just don't get it sometimes at all. They think everything is going to be the same. It's not, at all. Everything changes. And in 99% of the cases, the women take the brunt of the hit with the change. I'm exhausted just thinking about not having sleep for the rest of my life. Hopefully you guys can talk it out tonight and your mind is clear tomorrow for the induction.
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Thanks, @elsa1688! Now that you mention it, I remember you posting about that at the time. It actually does make me feel better... They make you so crazy - "call if there's decreased movement" and hen "oh that's normal". Which is it?!?
@lest12
It would be to my siblings and parents. I'm worried about 2/3 siblings and my mom posting on FB pictures or birth announcements before we get the chance. So I'd be asking for them not to post until we do and no dogs.
My friend told me I sound like a pregnant control freak. Which I am. My in laws won't be at the hospital as it's too far of a trip to make last minute, they'll be coming a few days late, and my niece doesn't live here. I would hate for them to either see a picture or learn of the details on FB. My mom made it clear today that she will be posting and keeping everyone in the loop (see my Monday bitchfest post...) and has already divulged too much on FB.
I'm probably making a bigger deal, but I deal with anxiety and this is a huge source for me.
It would be to my siblings and parents. I'm worried about 2/3 siblings and my mom posting on FB pictures or birth announcements before we get the chance. So I'd be asking for them not to post until we do and no dogs.
My friend told me I sound like a pregnant control freak. Which I am. My in laws won't be at the hospital as it's too far of a trip to make last minute, they'll be coming a few days late, and my niece doesn't live here. I would hate for them to either see a picture or learn of the details on FB. My mom made it clear today that she will be posting and keeping everyone in the loop (see my Monday bitchfest post...) and has already divulged too much on FB.
I'm probably making a bigger deal, but I deal with anxiety and this is a huge source for me.
For this exact reason, I'm locking my FB down. No one will be able to post on my wall or tag me in anything until I unlock it. I'm also asking family to not post pictures or anything until I make an announcement. I don't know what makes people feel like it's ok to share other peoples news!!! It makes me totally stabby too! Andplusalso, no one needs to know that we aren't home so some creep can break into our house. DH is crazy paranoid about this.
I don't get why people are like that. It's my news let me share it!!! When H was deployed I asked people not to post about it as well. I didn't want people to know I lived alone.
Also, why does your mom need to keep people updated? They don't need to know anything except when the baby is born. People need to back off. Ugh! I mean I don't think it's necessary to update people on dilation except for immediate family. Dear Lord I hope your mom doesn't post that on FB! For what it's worth, I don't think you are being a controlling pregnant woman at all. I think people have lost all courtesy because of social media.
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
I get people are excited and want to share this time with us, but it's not their news to share and if they can't respect that they don't get a text right away. Sorry you've got to worry about family doing that crap, that's not right
Baby #1: expected June 2014
BFP #2 9/28/13....EDD 6/7/14
Baby #1: expected June 2014
@crhein26- I understand how you feel. It's been me and DH for so long. You're going to be fine. Besides, if you don't want to share your little squish, you don't have to.
@nelleebelle- Get the smart phone! You'll love how much easier it is to do everything.
@mtgrizgirl- I've been counting on this full moon since January. EDD is Satuday. I keep telling people that the full moon will help me make that date.
My little sister posted about being an aunty on fb right away and luckily my older sister saw and told her to take it down. (But not before my grandma saw). My mil posted that he arrived and posted pictures. She didn't tag me and we don't share any friends but I was really annoyed.
Also, baby snuggles. Best thing ever.