Hi Everyone!
For the months leading up our starting to TTC I poured over the posts here to get as much information as I could. So although I've been reading your posts for quite some time, this is my first post so, hello!
Last cycle was our first attempt and although I had been tracking my periods & ovulations we wanted to take a more lax approach and only make love when we truly felt the passion. All the days leading up to my expected period date I was SURE I was pregnant. My boobs were sore, I felt cramping, I was just hyper sensitive to everything going on with my body. My period was even 4 days late which never happens and then I get a BFN in the morning and AF came in the afternoon.
This cycle we made our attempts based on when I was ovulating, used preseed and were overall more calculated about it (while still keeping it romantic of course!). Same thing is happening this month, I am sure I am pregnant. I am uber-sensitive to everything that happens in my body. I keep telling myself that there is no possible way I would be having any symptoms even if I were pregnant but I guess one can't help but be hopeful.
My question to those who have already been through this is, will it be like this every month I am TTC? I don't think this cycle I can wait to miss my period, it's too long to go without knowing. What would be the earliest I should test and what test should I use?
Thank you so much for listening and any help you offer. I am excited to join this community!
Re: 2nd Month of TTC. Already Stressing.
You're TTC, so of course you're excited and want a baby. These "symptoms" you're feeling could just be PMS combined with hypersensitivity (as you've mentioned yourself.) It would be quite early for all of these symptoms to manifest themselves if you were pregnant.
Just like you don't want to put stress on your relationship by forcing the "passion," you shouldn't put pressure/stress on yourself to start obsessively testing during the 2 WW.
Try to not stress yourself out. It can take a healthy couple up to a year to conceive.
US (with RE) 3/24/2014 (two healthy HB), US (with OB) 3/31/2014 (three healthy heartbeats)
BFP#2: 10/22/14 | (beta #1 75, beta # 2 219) | EDD 7/3/15 ~*Please be our RAINBOW*~
I had to laugh at this post, because it reminded me so much of my own mindset when trying to get pregnant. My husband and I agreed we would put off trying to get the pregnant the first year we were married, and would revisit it the second year. I wanted to get pregnant like, yesterday, but I agreed to put it off because I wanted him to feel 100% ready and not like he was pushed into it.
Well, a month after our wedding he surprised me by saying we could go off BC, but with the caveat that we were just going to let things happen and I wasn't going to be consumed with maximizing my fertility and boning on a timetable for the purposes of getting pregnant instead of enjoying sex. I said, sure, it's a deal, and then went to Walgreens the next day and bought a thermometer, fish oil, and checked out every getting pregnant book the library had. What can I say, I like to maximize my chances when I want something.
Anyways, despite the fact that in the 15 years between my first period and that first month TTC, I had NEVER had a four week cycle, and the fact that generally when I went off birth control (which I'd been on and off BC probably about 5-10 times since starting at age 16- I only ever went on it when I had a steady partner, and occasionally switched to non hormonal BC sometimes) my period would take 6-7 weeks to appear, I still remained convinced that entire cycle that I was pregnant. When I had cramps two weeks after going off BC, I was like, ovulation cramps! When my period didn't come four weeks after going off the pill (I got my period immediately upon stopping the pill) I took a pregnancy test, which was negative, because I hadn't even ovulated yet, I would learn later. I took at least one pregnancy test a week until 7 weeks after my off-BC induced period, when my first real period came. Which given my history, is exactly what I should have expected. Yet I wanted it so bad, I absolutely convinced myself I would miraculously have a 4 week cycle and get pregnant right away. It's easy to get obsessive about it when you want it so badly. But googling early pregnancy symptoms is such a set up for disappointment- who isn't fatigued, crampy, emotional, etc. at times?
Married: 4.4.14
BFP #1: (unknown dpo) 12.1.14 (CP ended 12.11.15)
BFP #2: 9dpo (on clomid 50mg 3-7) 4.9.15 di+di twins due December 21, 2015
My Ovulation Chart