Did your partner have or is he planning to have a dadchelor party or man shower?

BumpJackie · May 2014

hfooter · May 2014

I feel ashamed I said had to say "yes." DH's friend asked him to please have a diaper party so he could have one (with his third kid btw). So DH's best friend threw a wipes party for him (we are doing CDs). What's really sad is the guy who told DH to have one so he could have one didn't even offer to throw it...

I was embarrassed whenever people asked me about it.

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January Bride · May 2014

Yes, my DH and his friends do "dadchelor" parties. It has absolutely nothing to do with gifts or babies - it is purely their excuse to get together with their buddies, drink and basically act like they are in their 20s again. At first I thought it was ridiculous, but it's just a way for DH to get some time with his friends, so I think it's fine. They're all in their late thirties and having their first kids now, so it's more of a way for them to reconnect as friends than anything else. They are good guys and have fun doing it, so I support it.

If it had anything to do with gifts or diapers, I agree that would be strange.

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jnnfrrose6 · May 2014

January Bride said:

Yes, my DH and his friends do "dadchelor" parties. It has absolutely nothing to do with gifts or babies - it is purely their excuse to get together with their buddies, drink and basically act like they are in their 20s again. At first I thought it was ridiculous, but it's just a way for DH to get some time with his friends, so I think it's fine. They're all in their late thirties and having their first kids now, so it's more of a way for them to reconnect as friends than anything else. They are good guys and have fun doing it, so I support it. If it had anything to do with gifts or diapers, I agree that would be strange.

Why the hell do they need and "excuse" to hang out? That's called a Saturday night for DH and his friends. Not every Saturday or anything, but if he needs a guys night, he has one.

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MrsGillen29 · May 2014

I guess I'm confused as to what the big deal is.. I'm throwing a surprise co-ed shower for my husband. I'm tired of him being left out (I know he would never say that, but I see it on his face whenever my mom talks about planning my baby shower and with my bridal shower 2 years ago). Why should I get all of the glory? WE made this baby, not just me. He deserves a lot of credit for all of the drama he's had to put up with during my hormonal turbulence. Seems kinda selfish to want all of the attention on yourself, imo.

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January Bride · May 2014

jnnfrrose6 said:

January Bride said:

Yes, my DH and his friends do "dadchelor" parties. It has absolutely nothing to do with gifts or babies - it is purely their excuse to get together with their buddies, drink and basically act like they are in their 20s again. At first I thought it was ridiculous, but it's just a way for DH to get some time with his friends, so I think it's fine. They're all in their late thirties and having their first kids now, so it's more of a way for them to reconnect as friends than anything else. They are good guys and have fun doing it, so I support it. If it had anything to do with gifts or diapers, I agree that would be strange.

Why the hell do they need and "excuse" to hang out? That's called a Saturday night for DH and his friends. Not every Saturday or anything, but if he needs a guys night, he has one.

They definitely don't need an excuse at all. We actually just went out to the bars with all his friends this past Fri night and out for brunch with them on Sunday. This is our main group of friends and we hang out all the time, both as couples and they hang out just as guys. DH can do whatever he wants with his friends, and he does. They just are a bunch of dorks who thought this was a hilarious and fun idea. They are extremely busy people (as every other person is, I'm not trying to pretend DH is any busier than anyone else), and they decided to go ahead and plan something so they made sure they went out and did it. I think it sounds fun for him. I don't see how my post came across as though I'm controlling my husband in any way?

WhoCanItBeNow said:

January Bride said:

Yes, my DH and his friends do "dadchelor" parties. It has absolutely nothing to do with gifts or babies - it is purely their excuse to get together with their buddies, drink and basically act like they are in their 20s again. At first I thought it was ridiculous, but it's just a way for DH to get some time with his friends, so I think it's fine. They're all in their late thirties and having their first kids now, so it's more of a way for them to reconnect as friends than anything else. They are good guys and have fun doing it, so I support it. If it had anything to do with gifts or diapers, I agree that would be strange.

Wow. Are you and the wives of his friends so controlling that they have to come up with bullshit like this to get you all to let them hang out?

I answered the pp above. I honestly didn't see how my answer came across as controlling - that wasn't my intent. By saying I "support it", I meant that normally I'd roll my eyes at a baby-named party. He can hang out with his friends whenever he wants.

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britab · May 2014

No, my hubby would have hated it. He did play games with his friends during my shower though.

toriori · May 2014

This is the most disgusting parent to be/parenting conversation thread I've ever read. How dare you all attack each other and judge what may be right for one person, solely because it wasn't right for you, your husband and/or your seemingly narrow minded group of friends.

You should be ashamed for going after and criticizing others. What's "tacky" is being a jerk online and hiding behind your screen name.

Get a life and do better for the sake of your children.

Jenrileysmom · May 2014

Wut

PrimRoseMama · May 2014

toriori said:
This is the most disgusting parent to be/parenting conversation thread I've ever read. How dare you all attack each other and judge what may be right for one person, solely because it wasn't right for you, your husband and/or your seemingly narrow minded group of friends.

You should be ashamed for going after and criticizing others. What's "tacky" is being a jerk online and hiding behind your screen name.

Get a life and do better for the sake of your children.

I want to be just like you when I grow up. Scolding people & putting them down on the internet in the name of "just be nice!".

;;)

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poofwok · June 2014

Wtf is even a dadchelor? Give me a break with these made up occasions. Ridiculous.

My SO will go out with the other H's and friends to hit some golf balls and have a few beers. That to me is just an afternoon with the guys.

arcangel333 · June 2014

I think it's a cute idea. My hubby actually came up with it. They are having a poker game and everyone has to bring a pack of diapers as part of their buy-in. :-)

arcangel333 · June 2014

Oh man... I just read the other responses.... Some of you are way to angry about this and should probably find other things to focus on.... Jeeeeez.... :-S

coffee89 · June 2014

I'm not so controlling that my hubby can't go out with his friends without a lame excuse.

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kaiyagirl29 · June 2014

My DH's buddies through him a Guy's Diaper Party last weekend while I was at my baby shower. They cooked out on the grill, drank beer, played corn hole and drinking games and then had a bon fire. Each guy/guest that came brought a pack or box of diapers for the baby.....awesome idea I think! We ended up with like 15 packs/boxes of diapers.... And I'm a few different sizes might I add! So it helps to do that in my opinion. Even if you get a bunch of the same sizes, you can always go to the store(ex. Walmart) and exchange them for sizes you need. That's what we did. We even returned a box of diapers and got a big box of wet wipes! So I believe its a wonderful idea to let the boys have a good time while you're enjoying your shower with the ladies....
Because to be honest, guys really don't want to be at a co-ed baby shower! At least the guys I know don't! They'd rather be eating some real good BBQ, drinking and playing games with their buddies! And you get a few cases/bags of diapers out of it!

kaiyagirl29 · June 2014

When this discussion become a huge argument over what everyone thinks about a guy's party? Every person is different. So what. This has become a hatred forum! Grow up! If the guys wanna have a good time together while their DW (girlfriend, etc) has her baby shower, so what. My DH had a guy diaper party.....his friends and his idea. So what! Who cares. I don't blame them for not wanting to sit at a ladies baby shower looking at baby items they're not interested in.....eating finger foods that will not even come close to filling them up....and engaging in baby conversation that is just a little small talk to them, with a woman they've never met or barely see! Let guys do what they want to celebrate this wonderful miracle coming into their lives. And accepting diapers from each guest..... What's wrong with that? If that's wrong, then it must be wrong to accept gifts at a baby shower, bridal shower, etc. The point is this wasn't supposed to be an argument topic....keep nasty opinions to yourself. Everyone is different and does different things to celebrate their new blessings coming into the world! Period!

kaiyagirl29 · June 2014

Immature

kaiyagirl29 · June 2014

Toriori......thank you! Well said!

lowerygirl · June 2014

kaiyagirl29 said:
Immature

And posting four posts within a few minutes to tell off a bunch of internet strangers (who haven't even replied to you in between each post) isn't? Gotcha!

kaiyagirl29 · June 2014

Nope....because the guests don't HAVE to bring anything! My DH's friends were the ones who came up with the idea.....not me or him. He wanted to just have a BBQ.....they threw the diaper party! Their idea. We never heard of it til they brought it up! And a registry is just your nice way of saying.....this is what I want. Why is it a woman/couple can accept gifts at a baby shower..... But a guy can't accept diapers at a guys get together? Either way you're not spending the money on buying your own baby what they need.....having a shower and putting where you're registered on the invitation isn't rude? How about this ( for all you posters being negative about the diaper party).....go buy your own kid's stuff! Why should anyone reward YOU for not keeping your legs closed!

kaiyagirl29 · June 2014

Putting teenager movie pictures on what's supposed to be an adults discussion is so mature.... You're right! Great movie to back you up by the way.....best movie ever! Lol

kaiyagirl29 · June 2014

That one I responded "Immature" to.....

mamaloaf · June 2014

kaiyagirl29 said:

That one I responded "Immature" to.....

Hi Kaiya,

Since you've been here all of 5 seconds and insist on blowing up OP's post, here's a helpful tip: use the "quote" button when replying and then we'll know who you're talking to.

jnnfrrose6 · June 2014

kaiyagirl29 said:

That one I responded "Immature" to.....

And who would that be?

Sirenalley · June 2014

We're having a Jack n Jill so we can celebrate together! Everyone's really excited!

arcangel333 · June 2014

Lol. This is hilarious. I can't believe how sad some of you are to have such strong opinions about a silly party. Why don't you focus that energy o something more important?

jnnfrrose6 · June 2014

arcangel333 said:

Lol. This is hilarious. I can't believe how sad some of you are to have such strong opinions about a silly party. Why don't you focus that energy o something more important?

Like our husband's not giving us foot rubs?

arcangel333 · June 2014

jnnfrrose6 said:

arcangel333 said:

Lol. This is hilarious. I can't believe how sad some of you are to have such strong opinions about a silly party. Why don't you focus that energy o something more important?

Like our husband's not giving us foot rubs?

Exactly!

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nadine11387 · July 2014

Im having a baby shower for our second ( a no gifts just come and spend a special afternoon of fun with me party) and my other half is going away for the weekend at the same time so we both have a little time out planned. Any of you judgemental kniw-it-all mums want to have a whinge about can kiss the proverbial. Why the hell shouldn't guys get to spoil themselves too geez there are some incredibly selfish obnoxious women onhere. I think I may as lealeave tjthis site because most of you are NOT the kind of people I want around me

WashingtonQueen · July 2014

nadine11387 said:
Im having a baby shower for our second ( a no gifts just come and spend a special afternoon of fun with me party) and my other half is going away for the weekend at the same time so we both have a little time out planned. Any of you judgemental kniw-it-all mums want to have a whinge about can kiss the proverbial. Why the hell shouldn't guys get to spoil themselves too geez there are some incredibly selfish obnoxious women onhere. I think I may as lealeave tjthis site because most of you are NOT the kind of people I want around me

I don't think you understand the definition of selfish. A dictionary would help with that, @nadine11387.

oohlala1983 · July 2014

It's really a diaper party/couple shower.

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