How do we not have a UO thread yet?

magentawarped · June 2014

Cause I have one.

I hate maxi skirts and I hope they die as a fashion.

iwubrory · June 2014

I can't stand it when moms post messages on facebook "talking" to their young children who don't have facebook.

"Oh Little Timmy, mommy's so proud of you for cleaning up your room all by yourself!!! You're the best son in the whole world!!!!! Mommy loves you sooooooo much!!!!!!!"

GTFO, we all know you didn't write that status for your five year old to read. If you really want to brag about your kid in your status then just say "Proud mama today, Timmy cleaned his room up without being asked to. I love that kid!"

ReneeBH · June 2014

Sophie. I just don't understand the appeal of that little giraffe...I admit I bought it for the twins when they were little and they were not the least bit impressed...I won't be buying it for this LO because to me it's like an expensive dog toy? :-/

SuzyQq02 · June 2014

golfergirl08 said:

I dont think the Ed Sheeran song "sing" is that great. I am already sick of it. Judging by how much Sirius plays it, I think this is a UO.

I LURVE Ed Sheeran and that song annoys me... WHY are they trying to make him sound like Justin Timberlake? He was perfect with just him and an acoustic guitar, don't electronica him all up into sounding like everyone else.

ziggy903 · June 2014

iwubrory said:
I can't stand it when moms post messages on facebook "talking" to their young children who don't have facebook.
"Oh Little Timmy, mommy's so proud of you for cleaning up your room all by yourself!!! You're the best son in the whole world!!!!! Mommy loves you sooooooo much!!!!!!!"
GTFO, we all know you didn't write that status for your five year old to read. If you really want to brag about your kid in your status then just say "Proud mama today, Timmy cleaned his room up without being asked to. I love that kid!"

I can one-up this UO.

My MIL used to post things like that "from" DS. I asked her to stop, because creepy.

"Happy birthday SIL, I can't wait to play with you Love David" does NOT need to be on my MILs Facebook. Ever.

shellbell3845 · June 2014

1. I don't think the stroller organizer everyone else loves is that cute. I'm also not sure what you put in a stroller organizer. If I thought I needed one, though, I wouldn't get one with an animal on it.

2. I don't like seeds on my bagels. They just fall off and make a mess everywhere.

3. Fizzy water is gross.

@magentawarped‌ I'd way rather see maxi skirts than mini skirts. There are somethings that cannot be unseen.

magentawarped · June 2014

car seat said:

magentawarped said:

Cause I have one.

I hate maxi skirts and I hope they die as a fashion.

...why?

Because I think that they don't look flattering on most of the people wearing them, and I think they're the skirt equivalent of wearing yoga pants everywhere.

shellbell3845 · June 2014

magentawarped said:

car seat said:

magentawarped said:

Cause I have one.

I hate maxi skirts and I hope they die as a fashion.

...why?

Because I think that they don't look flattering on most of the people wearing them, and I think they're the skirt equivalent of wearing yoga pants everywhere.

I agree about the skirt version of yoga pants, but I still think they look nice. Fabric is also key -- I have a couple that are nice and look "dressy" and I have a couple that are more casual.

Maxi skirts are way more universally flattering than other types of skirts. IMO, of course.

MissDemeanor · June 2014

shellbell3845 said:

1. I don't think the stroller organizer everyone else loves is that cute. I'm also not sure what you put in a stroller organizer. If I thought I needed one, though, I wouldn't get one with an animal on it. 2. I don't like seeds on my bagels. They just fall off and make a mess everywhere. 3. Fizzy water is gross. @magentawarped‌ I'd way rather see maxi skirts than mini skirts. There are somethings that cannot be unseen.

As someone who is eating a sesame seed bagel right now, I'd have to agree that I am covered in seeds. But it's still yummy.

My UO is that I think we're all reaching now. I think we could just cancel the UO thread, and make FFC a week long thread, mostly because I can't remember my confession all the way to Friday.

RondackHiker · June 2014

@magentawarped

You say that like yoga pants everywhere is a bad thing.

boogerbearoriginal · June 2014

shellbell3845 said:

1. I don't think the stroller organizer everyone else loves is that cute. I'm also not sure what you put in a stroller organizer. If I thought I needed one, though, I wouldn't get one with an animal on it. 2. I don't like seeds on my bagels. They just fall off and make a mess everywhere. 3. Fizzy water is gross. @magentawarped‌ I'd way rather see maxi skirts than mini skirts. There are somethings that cannot be unseen.

Carbonated drinks are gross, one big reason why I don't drink pop.

ziggy903 · June 2014

shellbell3845 said:
1. I don't think the stroller organizer everyone else loves is that cute. I'm also not sure what you put in a stroller organizer. If I thought I needed one, though, I wouldn't get one with an animal on it.

Bottled water
Phone
Spare paci

magentawarped · June 2014

car seat said:

magentawarped said:

car seat said:

magentawarped said:

Cause I have one.

I hate maxi skirts and I hope they die as a fashion.

...why?
Because I think that they don't look flattering on most of the people wearing them, and I think they're the skirt equivalent of wearing yoga pants everywhere.

Oh, I think they look great on most people! I also think fabric is key to the look, but I'm not bothered by casual ones. Maxi skirt + tank top + cute flats = perfect summer outfit.

I guess I just don't really understand being offended enough by them to want them to go away forever. It's not like velour tracksuits or Crocs. Do you hate maxi dresses, too?

Not as much but yes.

Also, that's why it's a UO.

MissDemeanor · June 2014

Mevaroo said:

1. I don't think the stroller organizer everyone else loves is that cute. I'm also not sure what you put in a stroller organizer. If I thought I needed one, though, I wouldn't get one with an animal on it.
Bottled water Phone Spare paci
This. I actually "needed" it so is have a better place for my phone and keys than a cup holder which, a.) is not secure, and b.) leaves one less cup holder for actual drinks. If I have DH and the three older boys with me, I need ALL the cup holders. ETA: Amazon does sell plain black (cough*boring*cough) ones

My stroller doesn't even have a cup holder. I bought a Britax one for my B-Agile, but it sucks, and I wish I'd just bought the organizer in the first place. I'm planning to add 1 diaper, burp cloth, and a few bucks into mine. Sometimes I go for a walk and wish I had cash on me to stop for a coffee.

I'm pretty sure my boyfriend will want the plain Britax organizer, not a funky 3 Spouts one.

In other Britax stroller discussion, although I like my stroller, I'm finding myself annoyed at all the "extras" I need, rain cover, uv cover, organizer, cup holders, tray, mommy hooky thing, travel bag.

MissDemeanor · June 2014

I just realized that my UO last week was the same. I'll stop hating on the UO thread now. I'm such a thread hypocrite

ETA: I just realized I do have an UO. I love love love the random thread, but now I think it's getting used too much. For example, I think @LaurLaurLaur‌ should totally have started a pillow poll. I love polls

SuzyQq02 · June 2014

MissDemeanor said:

Mevaroo said:

1. I don't think the stroller organizer everyone else loves is that cute. I'm also not sure what you put in a stroller organizer. If I thought I needed one, though, I wouldn't get one with an animal on it.
Bottled water Phone Spare paci
This. I actually "needed" it so is have a better place for my phone and keys than a cup holder which, a.) is not secure, and b.) leaves one less cup holder for actual drinks. If I have DH and the three older boys with me, I need ALL the cup holders. ETA: Amazon does sell plain black (cough*boring*cough) ones

My stroller doesn't even have a cup holder. I bought a Britax one for my B-Agile, but it sucks, and I wish I'd just bought the organizer in the first place. I'm planning to add 1 diaper, burp cloth, and a few bucks into mine. Sometimes I go for a walk and wish I had cash on me to stop for a coffee.

I'm pretty sure my boyfriend will want the plain Britax organizer, not a funky 3 Spouts one.

In other Britax stroller discussion, although I like my stroller, I'm finding myself annoyed at all the "extras" I need, rain cover, uv cover, organizer, cup holders, tray, mommy hooky thing, travel bag.

I bought the Britax cupholder and HATE it, should have gotten the organizer. Also pretty sure MH will kill me if I buy the organizer since I went on for days about how I *needed* the cupholder so had to get to BRU during a sale... plan ahead fail!

Lemon81 · June 2014

Ok here is one that is probably pretty unpopular. I believe the child support system is majorly unfair. The amount DH pays is more than our mortgage each month. I'm all for supporting your children, but when my step-daughter's mother drives a Cadillac Escalade without having a job, there is a problem.

magentawarped · June 2014

Lemon81 said:
Ok here is one that is probably pretty unpopular. I believe the child support system is majorly unfair. The amount DH pays is more than our mortgage each month. I'm all for supporting your children, but when my step-daughter's mother drives a Cadillac Escalade without having a job, there is a problem.

That's not "the system", that's your case. There are way more people getting too little or no child support than people paying too much, I can guarantee you. So yeah, I guess it's flawed, but not the way you think it is.

shellbell3845 · June 2014

elf828 said:
I wish boot cut jeans were back in style. I'm tired of skinny jeans. Yes I know I can wear what I want but it just seems like skinny jeans/pants are everywhere and everyone looks the same.

And skinny jeans are not that flattering on 97% of the population.

Codypup · June 2014

^^^^ I HATE skinny jeans. Maybe because short? But they look terrible on me, they're so uncomfortable, and I honestly don't think they look all that good on other people either.

Gimme some flare! Bell bottoms, wide legged, anything but skinny jeans!

...Between this and the overalls, I am officially stuck in 2001.

RondackHiker · June 2014

Lemon81 said:
Ok here is one that is probably pretty unpopular. I believe the child support system is majorly unfair. The amount DH pays is more than our mortgage each month. I'm all for supporting your children, but when my step-daughter's mother drives a Cadillac Escalade without having a job, there is a problem.

Sorry. His kid, he gets to pay. If he feels he's overpaying he can have it readjusted, but it's based off his income.

And I HIGHLY doubt that his ex supports her daughter and pays for rent and food and an escalade on his child support with no money of her own.

Lemon81 · June 2014

RondackHiker said:

Ok here is one that is probably pretty unpopular. I believe the child support system is majorly unfair. The amount DH pays is more than our mortgage each month. I'm all for supporting your children, but when my step-daughter's mother drives a Cadillac Escalade without having a job, there is a problem.
Sorry. His kid, he gets to pay. If he feels he's overpaying he can have it readjusted, but it's based off his income. And I HIGHLY doubt that his ex supports her daughter and pays for rent and food and an escalade on his child support with no money of her own.

I'm not getting into particulars of our case and you are free to believe what you want, but it is true. She tried to get his child support raised more when she had a second child because she had more expenses (the 2nd child is not my husband's). Luckily and rightfully, a judge turned her down for an increase. The amount is based off what my husband used to make before he lost his job. He has a new job making about half what he made before, but they will not adjust the amount for 3 years.

RondackHiker · June 2014

Lemon81 said:

RondackHiker said:

Ok here is one that is probably pretty unpopular. I believe the child support system is majorly unfair. The amount DH pays is more than our mortgage each month. I'm all for supporting your children, but when my step-daughter's mother drives a Cadillac Escalade without having a job, there is a problem.
Sorry. His kid, he gets to pay. If he feels he's overpaying he can have it readjusted, but it's based off his income. And I HIGHLY doubt that his ex supports her daughter and pays for rent and food and an escalade on his child support with no money of her own.

I'm not getting into particulars of our case and you are free to believe what you want, but it is true. She tried to get his child support raised more when she had a second child because she had more expenses (the 2nd child is not my husband's). Luckily and rightfully, a judge turned her down for an increase. The amount is based off what my husband used to make before he lost his job. He has a new job making about half what he made before, but they will not adjust the amount for 3 years.

I have a lot of trouble believing this. What state do you live in?

I also am a bit suspicious of the rest of the story. You say she's got a cadillac escalade and she doesn't work. I just looked online an a Cadillac escalade offer right now is $699 dollars a month. So without working she's able to pay for rent, a $700 a month car payment, food, health insurance, gas, electricity, water, phone, etc etc etc on child support alone?

She should teach budgetting lessons. Unless your husband was making a massive amount of money a month, and then he should've gotten a better lawyer.

I get that child support payments can suck but this just doesn't seem real.

Lemon81 · June 2014

magentawarped said:

Ok here is one that is probably pretty unpopular. I believe the child support system is majorly unfair. The amount DH pays is more than our mortgage each month. I'm all for supporting your children, but when my step-daughter's mother drives a Cadillac Escalade without having a job, there is a problem.
That's not "the system", that's your case. There are way more people getting too little or no child support than people paying too much, I can guarantee you. So yeah, I guess it's flawed, but not the way you think it is.

Again, I am not saying he should not have to financially support his child. He absolutely should. I just believe it should not be the responsibility of only one parent to support his/her child (mother or father).

Lemon81 · June 2014

I guess this is why my opinion on this subject is unpopular. Without going into super details of our case, everything I said is completely true. The sort of quick story: we had been together 10 months and he was subpoenaed as one of three for a paternity test for a baby who was 3 months old at the time. DH was the father and step-daughter's mother said he was never going to see her or be a part of her life, but all she wanted was the money. DH could not live with that and took her to court to get visitation rights. DH did get screwed very badly, but his thought was he just wanted to be able to see his child. Without giving her what she wanted financially, that was not going to happen. He is a wonderful father and did what it took to be able to get to know his child. I know for every one like him, there are probably 10 deadbeat parents who don't care, but it is bad that he is treated so poorly for trying to do the right thing. I have a million crazy stories of things she has said or done, but I try not to dwell on those. So, yes, my husband was partly to blame for how much he pays, but it is a broken system that allows things like that to happen legally.

RondackHiker · June 2014

Lemon81 said:

I guess this is why my opinion on this subject is unpopular. Without going into super details of our case, everything I said is completely true. The sort of quick story: we had been together 10 months and he was subpoenaed as one of three for a paternity test for a baby who was 3 months old at the time. DH was the father and step-daughter's mother said he was never going to see her or be a part of her life, but all she wanted was the money. DH could not live with that and took her to court to get visitation rights. DH did get screwed very badly, but his thought was he just wanted to be able to see his child. Without giving her what she wanted financially, that was not going to happen. He is a wonderful father and did what it took to be able to get to know his child. I know for every one like him, there are probably 10 deadbeat parents who don't care, but it is bad that he is treated so poorly for trying to do the right thing. I have a million crazy stories of things she has said or done, but I try not to dwell on those. So, yes, my husband was partly to blame for how much he pays, but it is a broken system that allows things like that to happen legally.

Bullshit he had to pay in order to see his child. Child support and visitation are not linked. He does not have to give her $ in order to see his child. You can be months behind on payment and still see your child, and the other parent would be held in contempt of court if they didn't follow the court devised document.

Now, if your husband was an idiot and didn't go through the courts or gave in to whatever ridiculous demand she had without learning his rights, that's his fault. It's even more his fault if he hasn't corrected that by now. It's not that child support is unfair or the system is bad. It's that your H didn't bother to learn his rights.

Do you have a court agreement? Have you looked into the child support calculator for your state? Is child support adjusted for time spent at each home?

I've seen some really crazy exes and horrible stories. But this one seems more like "We have to pay a lot and had no choice because she wouldn't let us see the baby!! And she spends the money on a pricey car!!" All of that is bullshit.

Missy0483 · June 2014

I hate the abbreviations for words....like vaca or vacay, obvi or obvs, using 2 or 4 in place of the word "to" and "for", and the cutesy words like "twinsies" or "samesies". Ahhh they make me cringe.

I second the maxi dress, yoga pants, skinny jeans fad. Also adding the big bug eye sunglass craze. And wearing any type of eyeglasses that look like prescription glasses if you eyes are perfectly fine just why??? I don't get any of the fashion trends. I'm sitting here in jeans, a t-shirt, and running shoes. Haha.

cattuccino · June 2014

I don't like when people use their personal facebook accounts to promote and push their "business" (arbonne, beach body, epicure etc). Make a business/separate account or group (that I can opt in or out of). I want to log in and see cute family photos and stories and catch up on life events, not be constantly solicited to.

Lemon81 · June 2014

RondackHiker said:

Lemon81 said:

I guess this is why my opinion on this subject is unpopular. Without going into super details of our case, everything I said is completely true. The sort of quick story: we had been together 10 months and he was subpoenaed as one of three for a paternity test for a baby who was 3 months old at the time. DH was the father and step-daughter's mother said he was never going to see her or be a part of her life, but all she wanted was the money. DH could not live with that and took her to court to get visitation rights. DH did get screwed very badly, but his thought was he just wanted to be able to see his child. Without giving her what she wanted financially, that was not going to happen. He is a wonderful father and did what it took to be able to get to know his child. I know for every one like him, there are probably 10 deadbeat parents who don't care, but it is bad that he is treated so poorly for trying to do the right thing. I have a million crazy stories of things she has said or done, but I try not to dwell on those. So, yes, my husband was partly to blame for how much he pays, but it is a broken system that allows things like that to happen legally.

Bullshit he had to pay in order to see his child. Child support and visitation are not linked. He does not have to give her $ in order to see his child. You can be months behind on payment and still see your child, and the other parent would be held in contempt of court if they didn't follow the court devised document.

Now, if your husband was an idiot and didn't go through the courts or gave in to whatever ridiculous demand she had without learning his rights, that's his fault. It's even more his fault if he hasn't corrected that by now. It's not that child support is unfair or the system is bad. It's that your H didn't bother to learn his rights.

Do you have a court agreement? Have you looked into the child support calculator for your state? Is child support adjusted for time spent at each home?

I've seen some really crazy exes and horrible stories. But this one seems more like "We have to pay a lot and had no choice because she wouldn't let us see the baby!! And she spends the money on a pricey car!!" All of that is bullshit.

You are correct. Child support and visitation are not linked. He was ordered to pay child support and provide health insurance once the paternity test came back, which he did and has never missed a payment ever. He was already paying and providing insurance while she was refusing him to be able to see the child. That had to be ordered through a court which it was several months later. There is a court order in place that outlines all visitation. She follows the parts that give her benefits and ignores what is in his favor: For a small example, transportation is supposed to be 50/50 and she refuses to provide any. Yes, DH lets her get by with too much and I have told him this. She has said if he does not go with what she wants, she will not let him see their child. If she decides he cannot see the child, going to court for contempt is about a 6-8 month wait so he worries about not seeing his child in that amount of time. The child support calculator for our state shows he should be paying a little under half the amount he is paying based on his current salary without taking our LO into account. (It should not be to his first child's detriment that we have another child, so I don't believe that should be taken into account).

RondackHiker · June 2014

So then it isn't the system that's the issue. It's that your H's ex is difficult and he lets her get away with things and overpays and doesn't work to correct things. I mean, I'm sorry that it sucks, but that's all on him not on the system.

I think a good lawyer would be worth the investment.

Lemon81 · June 2014

RondackHiker said:

So then it isn't the system that's the issue. It's that your H's ex is difficult and he lets her get away with things and overpays and doesn't work to correct things. I mean, I'm sorry that it sucks, but that's all on him not on the system.

I think a good lawyer would be worth the investment.

I do agree with you on that. I think his lawyer tried to play too nice and he did whatever wanting to see his child. We were engaged, not married, so I let him deal with everything without being at all involved. (I honestly didn't think we were going to make it as a couple at that point, so being involved was pointless. Bad attitude, I know.) I guess I blame the whole system because when he lost is job, he went to JFS to discuss his child support. They suggested he apply for wellfare benefits to give her to pay his child support and refused to lower it, citing it could only be reviewed every three years. Since she had it reviewed when she had her second child trying to increase his amount, which was ridiculous, he had to wait until that 3 year period was up.

RondackHiker · June 2014

Lemon81 said:

RondackHiker said:

So then it isn't the system that's the issue. It's that your H's ex is difficult and he lets her get away with things and overpays and doesn't work to correct things. I mean, I'm sorry that it sucks, but that's all on him not on the system.

I think a good lawyer would be worth the investment.

I do agree with you on that. I think his lawyer tried to play too nice and he did whatever wanting to see his child. We were engaged, not married, so I let him deal with everything without being at all involved. (I honestly didn't think we were going to make it as a couple at that point, so being involved was pointless. Bad attitude, I know.) I guess I blame the whole system because when he lost is job, he went to JFS to discuss his child support. They suggested he apply for wellfare benefits to give her to pay his child support and refused to lower it, citing it could only be reviewed every three years. Since she had it reviewed when she had her second child trying to increase his amount, which was ridiculous, he had to wait until that 3 year period was up.

It sounds like he loves his child but procrastinates tough stuff and may be unaware of his rights. Get a good lawyer and see if you can get emergency custody hearings in case she denies him visitation.

Then remind your H that it does no good for his child to see dad be pushed around and threatened. He should fight for his child and his right to have a say in that child's life.

RondackHiker · June 2014

@Lemon81‌

Also, consider posting on the blended families board. Many ladies there are very experience with this kind of thing and could give good advice. Be aware they don't pull any punches and complaining about the ex when you haven't stood up to her would be flamed.

Lemon81 · June 2014

RondackHiker said:

@Lemon81‌ Also, consider posting on the blended families board. Many ladies there are very experience with this kind of thing and could give good advice. Be aware they don't pull any punches and complaining about the ex when you haven't stood up to her would be flamed.

I truly believe it is not for me to stand up to her. It is up to my husband.

RondackHiker · June 2014

Lemon81 said:

RondackHiker said:

@Lemon81‌

Also, consider posting on the blended families board. Many ladies there are very experience with this kind of thing and could give good advice. Be aware they don't pull any punches and complaining about the ex when you haven't stood up to her would be flamed.

I truly believe it is not for me to stand up to her. It is up to my husband.

I meant you two as a couple/ more him really.

I agree with you. I'd want to smack him if I were you. Good luck!

Lemon81 · June 2014

@Jrstar3861 @broccoli's_girl and @RondackHiker

I am a part of this and am loving and involved in step-daughter's life while she is in our home. It feels odd for me to be too involved with his ex and the relationship between the two of them. I pick up SD sometimes when MH can't and will say Hi to her, but that is about it. Me going in and saying "you will follow the court order as it says XYZ" does not seem ok and makes him appear weak that his wife has to deal with life for him. It is up to my husband to enforce the CO. I encourage him to do that, but in the end if he doesn't, that is on him.

I guess you guys are right though. We have tried the route of JFS and they refuse to review anything, so maybe we do need to go back to court or at least talk to a lawyer about all this and see what, if anything, can be done.

Lemon81 · June 2014

@Avswolf You are right on a lot of things. I guess that's why I let things go because I don't want to be the nagging wife about a situation that is largely out of his control. I encourage and help and research, but in dealing directly with her, that is his to deal with.

Lemon81 · June 2014

broccoli's_girl said:

@Lemon81‌ , I agree with whoever it was that said to document. No, it's really not your place to tell her to obey the court order, but you can document everything. That you had to go pick up, that she did xyz... A journal of all interactions can be very useful in court. I wish you the best of luck. She sounds like a b!tch.

I do that already by the way. I have an excell spreadsheet that lists every text message, interaction, who picked up, who was home when we drop SD off etc. She's a peach to deal with for sure.

MissDemeanor · June 2014

@elf828‌ the last 3 pairs of jeans I've bought, all pp, are straight legged. Either I'm now wearing "mom" jeans, or I'm becoming part of the revolution. Viva la flattering pants!

sprashley · June 2014

I am not liking this month's gif theme. @missdemeanor and @rondackhiker gifs are going to haunt me tonight.

Edit: wait, just realized @rondack is no longer! just the memory of it still haunts me I guess!

RondackHiker · June 2014

innanni said:
Ok, I've got one. I hate classic cars.

I mean sure they may look cool, but they pollute more and are less safe than a modern car. Some of them still don't have seatbelts from crying out loud, and that is still legal.

I know someone with a classic car. It has seatbelts in the front, but not the back seat. It is legal to drive the car this way. Guess where the two year old's car seat goes? (Not sure if this is legal or not.)

Seeing this tonight was just kinda the tipping point, but I seriously don't see the appeal of having an old gas guzzling, dinosaur of a car, that cost more money to buy than a new car, but is much more likely to kill you in crash.

And also, no air conditioning.

I'm pretty sure that the two year old's seat not being restrained is illegal.

But I want a classic car. Dh and I have plans to buy an old corvette. Not really to drive, though.

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