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  • pepperedmothpepperedmoth member
    Banich4eva said:

    I haven't read all the way through but

    TEN MONTH OLD BABIES CANNOT BE DISOBEDIENT. 

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  • billybumblerbillybumbler member
    OP, not sure if you're a troll or just stubborn but here goes.

    There's nothing wrong with being a more authoritative parent. That's your call to make on what parenting style you will have. I'm pretty strict myself, more than I anticipated.

    But here's the thing: I read up on child development because there's no point trying to teach her something or have her listen to me when she's developmentally not capable of. 

    That just leads to frustration which is where you're at. Try to base your expectations on things she's actually capable of.

    My DD is just 18 months, but at that age (10 months) I saved no for when she tried to do something really dangerous. Other than that I redirected or gave very simple explanations for consequences ("you threw the food so I'm taking it away").
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  • minervacullenminervacullen member
    In regards to what @TyrannosaurusLex‌ said, my kids walked, talked, understood basic commands very early as well. Yes as young as yours, they aren't gifted or extra super smart, they're just them. They still have the emotional maturity of their ages. DS is actually a highly sensitive person. He walked at 8.5m, ran at 9.5, talked early... But he's average academically and once again, it's just who he is.
    Please don't compare your DD to other children, even if you think she's so much smarter.


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  • RondackHikerRondackHiker member
    I walked at 8 months. 

    My mom cried. (My sister wasn't yet 2.)


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  • wiggyslilsiswiggyslilsis member
    I feel like other posters covered the topic very well already but I just wanted to add that you don't know what those "10 other babies" are like at home. My DD is quiet and reserved and a little more on the anxious side. She is non confrontational. My mom friends have not seen her throw a fit.

    But at home she most certainly threw food on the floor. And laughed. And touched things after I told her not to. At home she was comfortable enough to explore and push the boundaries. I used redirection and natural consequences with her.
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  • aglennaglenn member

    If you are this frustrated with non-compliant behavior at 10 months old, you better buckle up when she starts approaching about 2 1/2.  I have two "strong-willed" ones, and let me tell  you, it gets way  more challenging when they get a little older.

    I get that it's annoying, I really do.  I would love it if I could eat a simple meal without a lot of chaos and madness.  But the only way past it is through it, and as others have said you need to have approximately 8,000 tools in your toolbox because sometimes one thing works, sometimes another, and sometimes nothing makes a damn bit of difference and you grit your teeth and wait for bedtime.  This is life with young kids.  It sucks at times, but of course they are also awesome and amazing and so incredibly cool if you can learn to step back and look at their behavior from a positive perspective.  Try to appreciate the things they are exploring and learning, and that they are curious about their world. 

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  • DebateThisDebateThis member
    Obedience training is for puppies, not babies. No reasonable parenting or developmental information will tell you that you need to "train" a baby to "obey" or else they're doomed to asshole behavior as five year olds and subsequently adults.

    It really sounds like you're approaching parenting from a religious perspective, OP. James Dobson discipline books, the Bible, Michael and Debbie Pearl (To Train Up a Child), and Gary Ezzo/Babywise are not reasonable or based in any developmental research.
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  • MrsLaLaBugMrsLaLaBug member
    MrsBadKat said:

    Would you say your brilliant 10 month old is as stubborn as, say, her mother?

    DEAD. Call me a Zombie.
                                                                                      
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