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Need Parenting Advice for baby
I feel like I have already lost control over my 10 month old. She is seriously soooo smart, she says "hi", Dada, answers the phone, understands how to use her toys correctly, takes direction ("go hand mama that...no, not that one..yes, that one"), she is walking, she dances and singsvto music, I could go on and on. You get the point - she is smart, she understands. The issue is that I KNOW understands but will purposely do the opposite when I tell her no.
She will throw her food and I'll say, " no, take a bite" and then she will take a bite abd Ill say "yay, thank you!" but then right after she will stare me in the eyes and throw it to the floor. Or I tell her not to touch something and I will move her away from it and she will go back and touch it 20 times then lay on the ground and have a yelling fit (not crying..yelling like she is mad) after I keep telling her no a million times. She is only 10 months old! I didn't expect this disobience to happen so soon lol!
I know she is still very young and I can't expect too much from her just yet, but she IS already testing her boundaries. There has to be something I can do. I don't want to just let her run the show or let her think she can, ya know? Any ideas how to get my strong willed, testy baby to obey just a little bit lol?
She will throw her food and I'll say, " no, take a bite" and then she will take a bite abd Ill say "yay, thank you!" but then right after she will stare me in the eyes and throw it to the floor. Or I tell her not to touch something and I will move her away from it and she will go back and touch it 20 times then lay on the ground and have a yelling fit (not crying..yelling like she is mad) after I keep telling her no a million times. She is only 10 months old! I didn't expect this disobience to happen so soon lol!
I know she is still very young and I can't expect too much from her just yet, but she IS already testing her boundaries. There has to be something I can do. I don't want to just let her run the show or let her think she can, ya know? Any ideas how to get my strong willed, testy baby to obey just a little bit lol?
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Re: Need Parenting Advice for baby
Perhaps you'd be less frustrated if you did some reading on child development? No matter how smart she is she'll understand discipline at about the same stage as all babies. She's not there yet.
Babies, man.
Redirect, ignore, redirect, ignore. When we ignored the food throwing she stopped doing it for attention. When it was clear she was done with something we removed it from the tray before it became a projectile. Good luck.
Lol no, I'm saying she is too cute for her to be mean. I was just kidding. But I know redirection is probably best I can do at this point.
Made up my mind about what? About not just ignoring every wrong thing she does? Definitely. I was helped in this post...knowing it is normal and more about learning than just being a sass and that redirection is basically all I can do.
Last night DS would eat a bite, throw a bite on the floor, and repeat.
I was laughing.
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@CTGirl30 laid it out pretty well for you, but you still seem to have trouble understanding that redirection/removing temptation is addressing the issue at this age. I promise in about a year you will look back and think wow my baby had no understanding about these grand concepts of right/wrong/punishment/acceptable behavior. She understands attention at this point, that is it.
There is no reason that in your own home you need to be saying no very often. Completely babyproof an area. It doesn't have to be large and know that she can explore to her hearts content. If you are in a non-baby proofed area and she is getting into something move her to where she can explore. If she throws her food, don't make a big deal just take the food away. You don't learn to not play with knives by always being exposed to knives. You keep things away from babies until they are old enough to know better.
Maybe this is different for every child. Like I said, she is very strong willed and wants to do what she wants to do... That's the real issue at hand that needs to be corrected.
I get that it is challenging, and parenting is hard, but at that age, you really just need to set her up for success (like, keeping things she shouldn't have out of reach and/or sight), and chill about normal things like throwing food. There are a lot more challenging things in store for you, I promise.
Ok now you're trolling, right?
Umm..yesss Thank you for the advice, truely. I understnad what you are saying.
I'm not seeing how I am ignorant...but that's fine.
Or it's totally ok that she has a strong personality and throws food at 10 friggin months old.
I can't get the ticker to work, but I have two sons:
Baby RJ, born 1/25/2014
Formerly Twilightmv
But really... Is your goal to break her spirit? You're upset with your ten month old's personality?! That's just wrong.
Ignoring or redirecting is appropriate at this age because she doesn't get other punishments. She does not understand "disobedience". Later you can introduce the concepts and teach her to "behave", but right now that's not the case.
Tell your friends and family to write parenting books because I don't know a single baby that didn't throw food and "disobey" at ten months.
I can't get the ticker to work, but I have two sons:
Baby RJ, born 1/25/2014
Formerly Twilightmv
Anyways, thank you. I really do need to remind myself this. And it's not that I get frustrated, I just feel...idk the word..maybe defeated a bit and nervous for when she is older because she is a challenge for me.
Idk why this lead to people being rude to me...I'm just a mom trying to do whats best for my baby and raise her the best I can.
(OP: not serious. Please don't spray your "strong willed" aka normal baby)
Harry Styles = Life Ruiner
There’s a lightning in your eyes I can't deny
Then there’s me inside a sinking boat running out of time
Without you I'll never make it out alive
But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
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Ding ding, this is the fundamental difference between you and most parents on here, and why you aren't getting this. No, the goal of raising our kids (for most people here) is not to get our children to obey us and authority.
I want my children to listen and respect authority but not blindly obey. My children will be taught to respectfully challenge me or authority if they have a different view. Kids are people that need to be taught not just bullied into submission. And no this does not make me some softy parent that allows my children to do whatever they want.
Actually, no, I don't want my kids to blindly obey anyone. Respect? Be polite? Not judge? Yes. If you teach your child to always obey, bad things could happen.
Let's say Mr. Police officer is your neighbor, little Suzy was taught she has to obey him, he sexually assaults her and she's too terrified to try to stop it or tell her parents. After all, she must obey!
Kind of reminds me of professor Umbridge.
Of course that's a horrible thing, but it happens every day.
If my 17 month old throws food, she throws food. It's not hard to clean up.
I sincerely thank the peoplebthat gave real, helpful advice.
What a terrible thing to want for your child!? I must be the worst person ever. And that MUST mean that I don't want her to be a free thinker and just roll over when someone says...yup. You nailed it! Totally.
And if you view her personality as challenging, it will be. Just my opinion.
Harry Styles = Life Ruiner
There’s a lightning in your eyes I can't deny
Then there’s me inside a sinking boat running out of time
Without you I'll never make it out alive
But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
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J. 1.14.13 my reason for breathing