So while my MIL insists that she respects our parenting choices (namely no spanking and positive discipline approach) and will follow them, she constantly posts pro-spanking things on facebook. We had a huge argument about it months ago and she still does it. I try to ignore it but the general message behind all of them is "if you don't spank your child, they won't be behaved/won't respect you/blah blah blah". When she posts things like this, it makes me really nervous to let her babysit my children. We have had other issues with babysitting so in-laws babysitting is kept at a minimum but they still watch him about one or two evenings a month. My son has started "acting out" with hitting and biting and I am just worried that she won't be following our positive discipline approach (which we have gone over with her before). Am I overly worried? Would you bring it up again with her?
Re: MIL vent
In general, my kids listen to both sets of grandparents better than they do w DH and I. They have fun w them, and don't have the boundary pushing that comes w how they can act w us.
All that being said, you can't make grandparents follow your dislpline strategy to a T. As long as they are nice and kind, does it really matter if they aren't doing it the same way you would?
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My first reaction would be to change my settings so I don't she her posts and I would not go to her page to see anything.
That won't fix the trust issues and how she will treat your child but it will at least stop her from stressing you out as much!
If she gets upset that you let your mom babysit more than her and says something to you then your response should be a clear "my mother has agreed to respect my wishes on discipline and your posts on facebook clearly lead me to believe that you don't. Make it know that it is HER actions that are preventing her from being asked to babysit.
I have been somewhat okay with her watching him at our house 2x a month, for maybe 2 hours each time. But now, she is talking about getting a carseat so she can take him places and I'm just not comfortable with that. My husband sides with his mother because my mom has a carseat (it is rarely used) but my mother does not work and takes my son when I have weekly NSTs. I just hate that because my mother does one thing, MIL does the same thing or expects it should be that way with her too when we have had way more issues with ILs not respecting wishes.
I don't see this as being an issue. If the grandparents were on the bed playing with him then they were supervising him and would be there should he try to get the syringes. I would think that the large majority of grandparents have objects on their end tables and coffee tables and throughout their homes that are not suitable for a young child. They are supervising the children so it isn't a problem.
I can't help but feel that this was an over reaction. I would have spoken to them about your concerns and asked them to baby proof and supervise to ensure your child's safety but I don't think I would refuse to let them have your child at their house because they have objects on their end tables that are not meant for children.
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