I think telling someone that they should go somewhere else that is specifically made for grieving moms is ridiculous. I personally have grown close to the women on our BMB. Every. Single. Loss. I have felt pain for. Every. Single. One. Every. Single. Lady. Mod or not. It completely breaks my heart for anyone who has ever dealt with the loss of a sweet baby. Losing a baby was one of the worse things I have ever been through and seeing people whom I would call a friend go through it is awful. If my friend IRL lost a baby, I wouldn't tell her that our friendship needs a break and she needs to go to a therapist who deals with women who have lost children over talking to me because I can't handle her grieving. NOPE. When you lose someone you love, the best people to have around are the people you are comfortable with and it sure is hell not jumping down the throat of everyone who tries to console them as being a kiss ass. Hell, now that I know @kristy774 has feelings toward the name Abigail, I will remember that. Why? Because I like her and I don't want to throw bad memories in her face by bringing up a name that hurts her. That's what friends do. That's what most of us have done for @lisaren, @mackenziesmama and all the other sweet ladies who have lost their precious babies on our board.
The cupcakes, unicorns and skittles have left the building. Bring on the thorns, monsters and sour patch candy!!
Happy Friday!
I still love this board. Sorrynotsorry
And hisgirl, respectfully, that's all I was doing was giving my opinion.
Anyways, I've apologized once. I apologize again. I do NOT use the pain Olympics. Whatever that means. I grieve with my husband. My friends my therapist my MW. And on the thread here comfy couch. I'm Sorry I'm not behaving the way some feel appropriate, or how they would, but I would NEVER dare to tell anyone how they should act, what they should do, or how they should respond to any traumatic situation. I respectfully ask for you to do the same with me
I think we've all gotten to know each other a lot better today.
Yep, now we know who can post about their feels and who can't without getting flamed. 8-|
What a load of bullshit. If you feel that you are being flamed, first of all, take a little trip around the bump to witness an actual flaming. This is so mild compared to what is actually a flaming. Second of all, what is being posted is not being said because of WHO posted it, it's being said because of WHAT was posted, so get off your high horse. This has nothing to do with who is friends and who is special and everything to do with people being insensitive in what and how they post.
You're fucking shitting me, right? I come from TTGP. But nice try.
But she can talk about her feels, but our feels are off limits, right? Sure, we'll go with that. Let me see if I can bring my eyes forward again after the tremendous eye roll I just did.
Surely if you are so awesome to have come from TTGP, then you fully realize that this post has remained pretty tame.
Feel free to talk about your feelings all you want, just don't expect that the board will remain silent about it if the vast majority don't agree with you.
Lisa said the post bothered her, many people agreed. I really fail to see how others sharing an opinion with someone makes you feel censored. Your posts and the others that I feel have been ridiculous have had had no effect on what I feel is my right to post.
Also what is up with this half season crap you get 5-10 episodes and then nothing for 6 months.
ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I hate this! one of my biggest peeves! TWD is one of the biggest offenders and it drives me nuts!
Yes, Yes they are and so are the shows on the USA Network. Just when it's getting good and your in the routin of looking forward to it BAM see you later.
What about all of the shows that were just cancelled? Hostages, Believe, Revolution, Etc.. They are just airing the last couple of episodes and pulling them. I NEED to know what happens. At least produce an episode that tells me how they are suppose to end!
@lissydee, I actually started watching "Orange is the New Black" while I was going through my last miscarriage (since we're talking a lot about loss today, I just remembered that!). I had a natural MC and it had me in bed all weekend. OITNB got me through a bunch of crappy, painful days. I loved it so much I insisted that my husband watch it. He balked until I said "And there's lots of lesbian sex!"
Now he's a fan. He he.
Me: 42, DH: 40; Surprise BFP 4/27/2011; no heartbeat at 9w3d, we miss you, Baby Manatee; D&C 6/1/2011; AF returned 6/26/2011; Ready to try for our take-home baby. 7/24/2011--BFP! Peanut born March 2012; BFP: 7/31/2013!; blighted ovum at 7 weeks 8/26/2013. Holy Cannoli! BFP 2/23/2014. EDD 11/6/2014!
Another Confession: I need to vacuum badly but am going to wait fo DH to come home so that he can deal with DS.
DS just walked over to me with a toy and his hand was covered in dog and cat hair. I guess it's been too long since I swept and vacuumed.
Oops!
Yep! I haven't vacuumed in forever. Mainly it's because I don't want to carry the vacuum up and down the stairs. DH finally gave up and hired someone to clean our house for us until after the baby comes. I feel bad but also feel like it's a small victory for me.
The cupcakes, unicorns and skittles have left the building. Bring on the thorns, monsters and sour patch candy!!
Happy Friday!
I still love this board. Sorrynotsorry
And hisgirl, respectfully, that's all I was doing was giving my opinion.
Anyways, I've apologized once. I apologize again. I do NOT use the pain Olympics. Whatever that means. I grieve with my husband. My friends my therapist my MW. And on the thread here comfy couch. I'm Sorry I'm not behaving the way some feel appropriate, or how they would, but I would NEVER dare to tell anyone how they should act, what they should do, or how they should respond to any traumatic situation. I respectfully ask for you to do the same with me
I haven't said anything to or about you on this entire thread?
I know. I was commenting from When you said that someone(sorry cannot remember) was just giving their opinion.
Words are lost on this thread now. But I was just paraphrasing what you said. Sorry. Should have been clearer
@lissydee. The first episode was really shocking. But I love all of the characters, and it's so well written. It premieres again June 6th. Woo hoo!!!
Thanks for your kind thoughts about my loss. I knew it was coming, but it still sucked. Fortunately, I was able to pass everything on my own, and didn't need surgery. It just wasn't meant to be that time, but it makes me that much more grateful for this pregnancy.
Speaking of crap to watch on Netflix, has anyone watched "Call the Midwife"--I'm officially addicted, even though watching it makes me feel like a Big Fat Wuss. There were women giving birth in fish houses and whatnot, and picking up the kid and going back to work. ha!
Me: 42, DH: 40; Surprise BFP 4/27/2011; no heartbeat at 9w3d, we miss you, Baby Manatee; D&C 6/1/2011; AF returned 6/26/2011; Ready to try for our take-home baby. 7/24/2011--BFP! Peanut born March 2012; BFP: 7/31/2013!; blighted ovum at 7 weeks 8/26/2013. Holy Cannoli! BFP 2/23/2014. EDD 11/6/2014!
FWIW, I don't think whether it was said in the OPs thread or here really matters. People can see it all...so it can be assumed that the OP is aware that she is being discussed here.
If anything FFFC are notorious for being passive aggressive. If we really had a problem with the OP, why not discuss it where the "offense" happened?
i do think it matters because this particular thread is for fffc. no one jumped on the OP on the name thread saying she was distasteful, no 'bullying', none of that shit. it was said here in the appropriate place and yeah sure the OP can see it here but it isn't an attack on her. lisa was just expressing her feeling. big fucking deal. we all do it.
-------------------------------------------------- I respectfully disagree. Plenty of people (not Lisa) flamed/attacked the OP of the name thread because of the name. I don't think the problem that some have with this has to do with how Lisa felt about the thread. She of all people has the right to feel as she does about it. Rather, it's some others who feel the need to dictate how and what people should post, and are using Lisa as the reason. Whether the flaming was here or there is moot IMO.
unless i missed something it wasn't even brought up until lisa said she didn't like it so i dont think any others are dictating what should be posted because of her. there have been dozens of examples of people saying they didn't like a particular post and there has never been an issue. the name thread wasn't an opinion so to say you feel some ladies can't post their feelings or opinons is just incorrect. we'll have to agree to disagree on this.
TW*** Child and loss mentioned Married 10/12 DS 11/14 Ectopic 2/16 PCOS/Ovulation Dysfunction 11/16 IUI x 3- BFN Laparoscopy 3/17 Endo and tubal damage IVF- 4/17- 40 eggs retrieved, 10 blasts, 7 pgs tested embryos FET- 6/17- BFP! Due Feb 15, 2017
Holy crap. I take time to groom two dogs, people, two dogs!
I'm leaving most of everything alone because I was asked too. However, @mrsmechanic1, I said something to you, respectfully, because I felt something needed to be said. i I know every few others would say anything because they are afraid of you. I feel like your initial response to me was respectful, opposing but respectful.
Also, I kiss nobodies fucking ass. I say what I want to, when I want to and stand up for the people I want to stand up for. If this situation were reversed and it was any one of you other ladies (even the ones on my sticky) who had this happen, I would have said the EXACT same thing.
ETA. - I'm going for for lunch with my mom and DD. Thread, don't explode again. I can't handle it.
Also what is up with this half season crap you get 5-10 episodes and then nothing for 6 months.
ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I hate this! one of my biggest peeves! TWD is one of the biggest offenders and it drives me nuts!
Yes, Yes they are and so are the shows on the USA Network. Just when it's getting good and your in the routin of looking forward to it BAM see you later.
What about all of the shows that were just cancelled? Hostages, Believe, Revolution, Etc.. They are just airing the last couple of episodes and pulling them. I NEED to know what happens. At least produce an episode that tells me how they are suppose to end!
WHAT ?? BELIEVE IS CANCELLED ?!!?? awwwww.....I am totally digging that show! I love that girl, she is BADASS! (
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Married July 14, 2007 ----- TTC # 1 October 1, 2013 BFP March 7, 2014 ----- EDD November 17, 2014 ---- Baby boy born November 16, 2014
My confession: I think it's silly to ask people about name opinions... I love reading and hearing what people are going to name their kids but actually asking a strangers opinion just seems wrong to me. Heck, my own mother doesn't like my name choices but thats not going to stop me from using them. As long as my husband and I agree and both like the name, I think that's all that matters...
Someone may point out an issue you overlooked.
For example, I thought Gisele was a nice name. Then I saw a list of alternative spellings, one of which was Jizzelle. Now all I see/hear with that name is "jizz". I noticed this on my own, but if I hadn't and it ended up being a finalist, I would sure hope someone would point it out to me!
This. A friend of mine liked Anna Leigh for a girl and maybe my brain is broken but all I heard was "anally".
See, here's my thing. I have no problem with discussion of names at all, and find it interesting, but it doesn't affect what I do. I love the name Annalise and planned to name LO that if it was a girl. And then I lurked on the BNB and read all this input about "anal ease" and I just didn't care and it didn't change my opinion of that beautiful name at all. I mean, for one the name has two "n"'s, not one. So if anything, you should be looking at that name and seeing "annal" not "anal." And an annal is essentially a volume, like the Annals of the Association of the American Geographers, a journal that I read all the time for work and school. Long story short, if I have a daughter, her name will be Annalise. And I will not be posting about it on the BNB.
@lizgrace03 - FWIW, I know of a few regs on the BNB that LOVE that name & are considering it as well . I think it's great that you're sticking w/your choice.
Thanks! Maybe if I get KU again w/ a girl, I'll rescind my earlier statement and head over there and try to find some kindred spirits...
My confession: I think it's silly to ask people about name opinions... I love reading and hearing what people are going to name their kids but actually asking a strangers opinion just seems wrong to me. Heck, my own mother doesn't like my name choices but thats not going to stop me from using them. As long as my husband and I agree and both like the name, I think that's all that matters...
Someone may point out an issue you overlooked.
For example, I thought Gisele was a nice name. Then I saw a list of alternative spellings, one of which was Jizzelle. Now all I see/hear with that name is "jizz". I noticed this on my own, but if I hadn't and it ended up being a finalist, I would sure hope someone would point it out to me!
This. A friend of mine liked Anna Leigh for a girl and maybe my brain is broken but all I heard was "anally".
See, here's my thing. I have no problem with discussion of names at all, and find it interesting, but it doesn't affect what I do. I love the name Annalise and planned to name LO that if it was a girl. And then I lurked on the BNB and read all this input about "anal ease" and I just didn't care and it didn't change my opinion of that beautiful name at all. I mean, for one the name has two "n"'s, not one. So if anything, you should be looking at that name and seeing "annal" not "anal." And an annal is essentially a volume, like the Annals of the Association of the American Geographers, a journal that I read all the time for work and school. Long story short, if I have a daughter, her name will be Annalise. And I will not be posting about it on the BNB.
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That is certainly your right, but also don't be surprised if she gets teased in junior high & high school about her name. Or if she is sexually active, that opens a huge door for undesirable nicknames; I can just imagine high school guys talking "Oh yeah, I've been with 'Anal Easy!'"
Holy crap. I take time to groom two dogs, people, two dogs!
I'm leaving most of everything alone because I was asked too. However, mrsmechanic1, I said something to you, respectfully, because I felt something needed to be said. i I know every few others would say anything because they are afraid of you. I feel like your initial response to me was respectful, opposing but respectful.
Also, I kiss nobodies fucking ass. I say what I want to, when I want to and stand up for the people I want to stand up for. If this situation were reversed and it was any one of you other ladies (even the ones on my sticky) who had this happen, I would have said the EXACT same thing.
When someone says someone's dead inside and they should eat dicks, no longer respectful.
I don't think I've been around here enough to make people "afraid" of me. I called Lisa out very early on due to something she'd said, and that's where she gathered her impression of me. Not many here actually know who I am or that I used to be one of the most active posters on the board. I think what you're trying to say is that I won't jump on the train with everyone else if I don't believe that what's said is correct. And yes, I do call out those who I'm familiar with as well. I hold no ill will towards Lisa or anyone else here, and that's NOT the reason why I posted what I did.
Here my question for you @mrsmechanic1 - I do remember you used to come around regularly in the beginning and if my memory is correct I think I remember you saying you didn't like the tone of the board.
That being said, your right, we don't know you, you don't talk about your pregnancy or what's going on in your life, you don't post or respond to some of our more light-hearted posts, so why does it even bother you at all I that someone posts something on a board that you aren't even really apart of anymore? I'm not saying this to be nasty, I'm really asking.
MM1- is that what this is about?? From the fuckin beginning??
I told you than in pm you were good people. I don't hold grudges, and I most certainly do not allow for my first hour on the bump to compromise my feelings about anyone here. I've never had an issue with you. Until recently, and even still, I don't care enough to give two fucks.
You're not the easiest person here to get to know, But you know what, I respect it. I even said that not long ago to you in a thread. You're real and you're you, so good. Great. Fuckin yahhhooooomotherfuckinwho!! Jesus. Step off my shit.
Seriously, wtf is the issue. I think you're the one who really doesn't like me. And that's cool!!
I'm so damn sorry I said a fuckin thing about the name.
And speaking of TV shows I'm addicted to law and order SVU
My confession: I think it's silly to ask people about name opinions... I love reading and hearing what people are going to name their kids but actually asking a strangers opinion just seems wrong to me. Heck, my own mother doesn't like my name choices but thats not going to stop me from using them. As long as my husband and I agree and both like the name, I think that's all that matters...
Someone may point out an issue you overlooked.
For example, I thought Gisele was a nice name. Then I saw a list of alternative spellings, one of which was Jizzelle. Now all I see/hear with that name is "jizz". I noticed this on my own, but if I hadn't and it ended up being a finalist, I would sure hope someone would point it out to me!
This. A friend of mine liked Anna Leigh for a girl and maybe my brain is broken but all I heard was "anally".
See, here's my thing. I have no problem with discussion of names at all, and find it interesting, but it doesn't affect what I do. I love the name Annalise and planned to name LO that if it was a girl. And then I lurked on the BNB and read all this input about "anal ease" and I just didn't care and it didn't change my opinion of that beautiful name at all. I mean, for one the name has two "n"'s, not one. So if anything, you should be looking at that name and seeing "annal" not "anal." And an annal is essentially a volume, like the Annals of the Association of the American Geographers, a journal that I read all the time for work and school. Long story short, if I have a daughter, her name will be Annalise. And I will not be posting about it on the BNB.
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That is certainly your right, but also don't be surprised if she gets teased in junior high & high school about her name. Or if she is sexually active, that opens a huge door for undesirable nicknames; I can just imagine high school guys talking "Oh yeah, I've been with 'Anal Easy!'"
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But couldn't you feasibly perv out any name? I mean, my maiden name lent itself very well to the nickname Shocker. So I got called The Shocker from time to time. I just laughed it off. Idk. That's just me. Some potential high school kids being gross won't affect my name choice. Each to their own.
Holy crap. I take time to groom two dogs, people, two dogs!
I'm leaving most of everything alone because I was asked too. However, mrsmechanic1, I said something to you, respectfully, because I felt something needed to be said. i I know every few others would say anything because they are afraid of you. I feel like your initial response to me was respectful, opposing but respectful.
Also, I kiss nobodies fucking ass. I say what I want to, when I want to and stand up for the people I want to stand up for. If this situation were reversed and it was any one of you other ladies (even the ones on my sticky) who had this happen, I would have said the EXACT same thing.
When someone says someone's dead inside and they should eat dicks, no longer respectful.
I don't think I've been around here enough to make people "afraid" of me. I called Lisa out very early on due to something she'd said, and that's where she gathered her impression of me. Not many here actually know who I am or that I used to be one of the most active posters on the board. I think what you're trying to say is that I won't jump on the train with everyone else if I don't believe that what's said is correct. And yes, I do call out those who I'm familiar with as well. I hold no ill will towards Lisa or anyone else here, and that's NOT the reason why I posted what I did.
I think you're getting me mixed up with someone else? I never said for to eat dick and that your dead inside. ETA - this is so not my style.
I have been around to know who you are though
ETA - I'm also saying I won't just jump on a train because it's what everyone else is doing. I have, and will continue to disagree with anyone that I disagree with too.
FWIW, I don't think whether it was said in the OPs thread or here really matters. People can see it all...so it can be assumed that the OP is aware that she is being discussed here.
If anything FFFC are notorious for being passive aggressive. If we really had a problem with the OP, why not discuss it where the "offense" happened?
i do think it matters because this particular thread is for fffc. no one jumped on the OP on the name thread saying she was distasteful, no 'bullying', none of that shit. it was said here in the appropriate place and yeah sure the OP can see it here but it isn't an attack on her. lisa was just expressing her feeling. big fucking deal. we all do it.
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I respectfully disagree. Plenty of people (not Lisa) flamed/attacked the OP of the name thread because of the name. I don't think the problem that some have with this has to do with how Lisa felt about the thread. She of all people has the right to feel as she does about it. Rather, it's some others who feel the need to dictate how and what people should post, and are using Lisa as the reason.
Whether the flaming was here or there is moot IMO.
@lissydee - OK, seriously. What name thread are you reading? I just went and read through the entire thing a second and third time. There is not even a hint of an attack or flame there. One person posted a very respectful request towards the end of thread (after OP came back and said she had decided on the other name) to please stop speaking negatively about the name Brody as one of our Angel Babies has that name. That was the only thing that even got close to mentioning a conflict of any kind and it was very well written and non-inflammatory.
Holy crap. I take time to groom two dogs, people, two dogs!
I'm leaving most of everything alone because I was asked too. However, mrsmechanic1, I said something to you, respectfully, because I felt something needed to be said. i I know every few others would say anything because they are afraid of you. I feel like your initial response to me was respectful, opposing but respectful.
Also, I kiss nobodies fucking ass. I say what I want to, when I want to and stand up for the people I want to stand up for. If this situation were reversed and it was any one of you other ladies (even the ones on my sticky) who had this happen, I would have said the EXACT same thing.
When someone says someone's dead inside and they should eat dicks, no longer respectful.
I don't think I've been around here enough to make people "afraid" of me. I called Lisa out very early on due to something she'd said, and that's where she gathered her impression of me. Not many here actually know who I am or that I used to be one of the most active posters on the board. I think what you're trying to say is that I won't jump on the train with everyone else if I don't believe that what's said is correct. And yes, I do call out those who I'm familiar with as well. I hold no ill will towards Lisa or anyone else here, and that's NOT the reason why I posted what I did.
First of all, what was said was "I also don't see how people can be so dead inside that they don't see what dicks they're being." So nothing about eating dicks...
Second of all, the poster was not @Maelara. I'm not going to tag or quote that person because I'm not calling them out, but feel free to actually read the thread and find it yourself. Page 5, I believe.
ETA - I orginally typed that first part and then read back and realized that @lissydee meant that the name thread OP was flamed here, not on the name thread, so I thought I deleted. Didn't intend to post it here, but it showed up anyway. I'm not going to DD though, so just know that I retract the first half of my post...
Holy crap. I take time to groom two dogs, people, two dogs!
I'm leaving most of everything alone because I was asked too. However, mrsmechanic1, I said something to you, respectfully, because I felt something needed to be said. i I know every few others would say anything because they are afraid of you. I feel like your initial response to me was respectful, opposing but respectful.
Also, I kiss nobodies fucking ass. I say what I want to, when I want to and stand up for the people I want to stand up for. If this situation were reversed and it was any one of you other ladies (even the ones on my sticky) who had this happen, I would have said the EXACT same thing.
When someone says someone's dead inside and they should eat dicks, no longer respectful.
I don't think I've been around here enough to make people "afraid" of me. I called Lisa out very early on due to something she'd said, and that's where she gathered her impression of me. Not many here actually know who I am or that I used to be one of the most active posters on the board. I think what you're trying to say is that I won't jump on the train with everyone else if I don't believe that what's said is correct. And yes, I do call out those who I'm familiar with as well. I hold no ill will towards Lisa or anyone else here, and that's NOT the reason why I posted what I did.
Here my question for you @mrsmechanic1 - I do remember you used to come around regularly in the beginning and if my memory is correct I think I remember you saying you didn't like the tone of the board.
That being said, your right, we don't know you, you don't talk about your pregnancy or what's going on in your life, you don't post or respond to some of our more light-hearted posts, so why does it even bother you at all I that someone posts something on a board that you aren't even really apart of anymore? I'm not saying this to be nasty, I'm really asking.
I do, and I have responded to light hearted posts. I posted yesterday about the cracking of the glass window box in Chicago. I have been more active in the past week or two, and I took a little break due to switching of jobs, as well as some other shit going on in my life. No, I don't like how fluffy this board is, but it's still MY BMB as well. Apologies for trying to become involved again.
Actually, scratch that. No apologies. Why should I apologize for that? I don't talk about my pregnancy because I have a life where other things happen aside from just growing a baby. I'm textbook. My pants don't fit, I'm still getting sick every morning, and all I ever want is ice cream. But I'm not going to make a new post every time I want to bitch about something or AW something that happened. I had an appointment yesterday and the HB was at 155 and I made my a/s appointment for 6/9, which is our 2 year anniversary. Is it interesting? Maybe, but it's not uncommon from everyone else, so why make a post just for that? We didn't have an NT scan, so no results there. What exactly am I supposed to talk about that hasn't already been talked about a million times? I'm not an AW.
Ok- you made your point. I honestly thought you didn't like it here, and were purposely not posting. I was really curious and not trying to be nasty. I apologize for assuming you didn't like it here.
Ok I have another one. Hahahaha.
When someone will love tit everyone's comments but yours!!! Is it an accident? Or do they really despise your comment?
It's
like a big ole love tit slap in the face!
I also kinda wish we had a "hate it" option.
@Lisaren - I have certain people that I withhold lovetits from regardless of the content of their post. I feel like it's the only way to consistently give them the finger without actually giving them the finger.
PS - you're not one of them
Here's my FFFC, you love titted one of my posts today and I did a happy dance in my head. I care entirely too much what people think of me. :P
Saying someone is being a dick is better than saying they should eat a dick. I imagine eating a dick is probably not pleasant, but who am I to say? I've personally never eaten a dick. That being said I think making shitty, hurtful, and unnecessary comments over and OVER again and telling someone they should no longer seek support here is a prime example of being a dick and/or asshole. Can it just stop? Thanks.
Also what is up with this half season crap you get 5-10 episodes and then nothing for 6 months.
ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I hate this! one of my biggest peeves! TWD is one of the biggest offenders and it drives me nuts!
Yes, Yes they are and so are the shows on the USA Network. Just when it's getting good and your in the routin of looking forward to it BAM see you later.
What about all of the shows that were just cancelled? Hostages, Believe, Revolution, Etc.. They are just airing the last couple of episodes and pulling them. I NEED to know what happens. At least produce an episode that tells me how they are suppose to end!WHAT ?? BELIEVE IS CANCELLED ?!!?? awwwww.....I am totally digging that show! I love that girl, she is BADASS! (
She is a badass, with a good heart to boot!! That's one of my favorite shows right now. I think a lot of people are rallying NBC to keep it. I hope they succeed!! And, I don't mind looking at Tate for an entire hour.
Ok I have another one. Hahahaha.
When someone will love tit everyone's comments but yours!!! Is it an accident? Or do they really despise your comment?
It's
like a big ole love tit slap in the face!
I also kinda wish we had a "hate it" option.
@Lisaren - I have certain people that I withhold lovetits from regardless of the content of their post. I feel like it's the only way to consistently give them the finger without actually giving them the finger.
PS - you're not one of them
Here's my FFFC, you love titted one of my posts today and I did a happy dance in my head. I care entirely too much what people think of me. :P
I just Love titted all over this post. I hope your dancing
Saying someone is being a dick is better than saying they should eat a dick. I imagine eating a dick is probably not pleasant, but who am I to say? I've personally never eaten a dick. That being said I think making shitty, hurtful, and unnecessary comments over and OVER again and telling someone they should no longer seek support here is a prime example of being a dick and/or asshole. Can it just stop? Thanks.
I desperately want to post a pic of Andrew Zimmern from Bizarre Foods.....but I'm sure it's going to be in bad taste......so I'm just going to giggle to myself a little. Totes agree that this needs to stop.
FFFC#2.....I make a lot of jokes when uncomfortable and this thread is SOOO beyond uncomfortable now. Can't we get back to our regularly scheduled dirty secrets?
Ok I have another one. Hahahaha.
When someone will love tit everyone's comments but yours!!! Is it an accident? Or do they really despise your comment?
It's
like a big ole love tit slap in the face!
I also kinda wish we had a "hate it" option.
@Lisaren - I have certain people that I withhold lovetits from regardless of the content of their post. I feel like it's the only way to consistently give them the finger without actually giving them the finger.
PS - you're not one of them
Here's my FFFC, you love titted one of my posts today and I did a happy dance in my head. I care entirely too much what people think of me. :P
Ha! I always appreciate the "Love Its" on any of my posts (if I go back and review), but sometimes the icons are so tiny, I have a hard time identifying the "lovetitters" (other than those of prolific posters) unless I click on each individual icon. I blame my crap memory on AMA and pregnancy brain. I never realized that the withholding of a Love-It could be seen as an "F you!" to the poster. I am a random lovetitter, and am horribly inconsistent with it, but that is due to laziness on my part, rather than having any issue with any of the ladies on this board.
I was thinking I should change my icon to something more recognizable, but I've had this picture for years, and I'm stodgy and averse to change. Plus, I can't think of anything cooler. I'm too tired.
Me: 42, DH: 40; Surprise BFP 4/27/2011; no heartbeat at 9w3d, we miss you, Baby Manatee; D&C 6/1/2011; AF returned 6/26/2011; Ready to try for our take-home baby. 7/24/2011--BFP! Peanut born March 2012; BFP: 7/31/2013!; blighted ovum at 7 weeks 8/26/2013. Holy Cannoli! BFP 2/23/2014. EDD 11/6/2014!
Saying someone is being a dick is better than saying they should eat a dick. I imagine eating a dick is probably not pleasant, but who am I to say? I've personally never eaten a dick. That being said I think making shitty, hurtful, and unnecessary comments over and OVER again and telling someone they should no longer seek support here is a prime example of being a dick and/or asshole. Can it just stop? Thanks.
Calling someone a dick is against TOU. I think that's pretty fucking shitty too, but hey, whatever. And I think you need to read everything over again. No one said she shouldn't get support here, just that the type of support offered in other boards is tailored more to losses vs. everyone else' developing babies. That when you get THAT bothered over someone mentioning the dislike for the name you chose for your child, maybe you need to take a step back and look at if this is a beneficial place for your grieving to happen. By all means, keep in contact with people. Post, love tit, whatever, but it might not be the most healthy place to be as a mod because there WILL be things that come up periodically that are going to cause hurt and pain.
But sure, it can stop, when you don't try to devalue my feelings on the situation and then ask it to stop.
--------------- STOP. I'm right here.
You're bring disrespectful and I'm Asking you to please please please stop. I never was THAT bothered. I made a comment. If isn't go on for hours about it. Seriously. Me being here is not causing me pain?? Why do you keep insisting it is? Can I not speak for myself?? Have I not already done so?? Why do you and others keep insisting on telling me I need or should go elsewhere??? Do you understand how hurtful this is to read????
I don't understand. But if you would please just posting about what I should do for my own grieving period. Really, it's just ridiculous now. And I'm asking you nicely to stop. I've got me under control. You do you. I'll do me.
And fwiw: there is not one single post where im out of control or losing my shit or blasting anyone for anything about their baby and my grief.
@lisaren I am sorry if my comment provoked her to spew nastiness again. It was not my intent. My intent was to ask for it to stop. I guess I also "devalued feelings" so there was a need to respond. FU TO TOU.
@PineApple85 I get goofy about how many love tits I get. I always want everyone to love me and worry when I don't get many if I am secretly on people's dreaded yellow post it notes
@PineApple85 I get goofy about how many love tits I get. I always want everyone to love me and worry when I don't get many if I am secretly on people's dreaded yellow post it notes
@sweetbabyrahe, I also wonder about these elusive "post-it" notes, and wonder if anything I've written has deemed me "post-it" worthy by other members of the board. Then I remember that, by and large, I'm pretty boring (more yawn-worthy than post-it worthy). Sad thing is, when posters mentioned their "post-it notes," it took me a while to figure out what they were talking about.
Me: 42, DH: 40; Surprise BFP 4/27/2011; no heartbeat at 9w3d, we miss you, Baby Manatee; D&C 6/1/2011; AF returned 6/26/2011; Ready to try for our take-home baby. 7/24/2011--BFP! Peanut born March 2012; BFP: 7/31/2013!; blighted ovum at 7 weeks 8/26/2013. Holy Cannoli! BFP 2/23/2014. EDD 11/6/2014!
Re: FFFC
Bring on the thorns, monsters and sour patch candy!!
Happy Friday!
I still love this board.
Sorrynotsorry
And hisgirl, respectfully, that's all I was doing was giving my opinion.
Anyways, I've apologized once. I apologize again. I do NOT use the pain Olympics. Whatever that means.
I grieve with my husband. My friends my therapist my MW. And on the thread here comfy couch. I'm
Sorry I'm not behaving the way some feel appropriate, or how they would, but I would NEVER dare to tell anyone how they should act, what they should do, or how they should respond to any traumatic situation. I respectfully ask for you to do the same with me
Me: 42, DH: 40; Surprise BFP 4/27/2011; no heartbeat at 9w3d, we miss you, Baby Manatee; D&C 6/1/2011; AF returned 6/26/2011; Ready to try for our take-home baby. 7/24/2011--BFP! Peanut born March 2012; BFP: 7/31/2013!; blighted ovum at 7 weeks 8/26/2013. Holy Cannoli! BFP 2/23/2014. EDD 11/6/2014!
I'm backing away from this thread.
@MeganMullikin said it perfectly. Telling a friend to go elsewhere is absurd and hurtful. And honestly it feels shameful.
@brooklyngirl18 I hope to god nobody feels they have to kiss my ass!!!
I know. I was commenting from
When you said that someone(sorry cannot remember) was just giving their opinion.
Words are lost on this thread now. But I was just paraphrasing what you said. Sorry. Should have been clearer
Me: 42, DH: 40; Surprise BFP 4/27/2011; no heartbeat at 9w3d, we miss you, Baby Manatee; D&C 6/1/2011; AF returned 6/26/2011; Ready to try for our take-home baby. 7/24/2011--BFP! Peanut born March 2012; BFP: 7/31/2013!; blighted ovum at 7 weeks 8/26/2013. Holy Cannoli! BFP 2/23/2014. EDD 11/6/2014!
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DS 11/14
Ectopic 2/16
PCOS/Ovulation Dysfunction 11/16
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FET- 6/17- BFP!
Due Feb 15, 2017
Who's talking about PP on this?
It was a general comment. Everyone looked past it but you didn't. Hmmm.
:P at least have a clue.
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That is certainly your right, but also don't be surprised if she gets teased in junior high & high school about her name. Or if she is sexually active, that opens a huge door for undesirable nicknames; I can just imagine high school guys talking "Oh yeah, I've been with 'Anal Easy!'"
When someone says someone's dead inside and they should eat dicks, no longer respectful.
I don't think I've been around here enough to make people "afraid" of me. I called Lisa out very early on due to something she'd said, and that's where she gathered her impression of me. Not many here actually know who I am or that I used to be one of the most active posters on the board. I think what you're trying to say is that I won't jump on the train with everyone else if I don't believe that what's said is correct. And yes, I do call out those who I'm familiar with as well. I hold no ill will towards Lisa or anyone else here, and that's NOT the reason why I posted what I
Here my question for you @mrsmechanic1 - I do remember you used to come around regularly in the beginning and if my memory is correct I think I remember you saying you didn't like the tone of the board.did.
That being said, your right, we don't know you, you don't talk about your pregnancy or what's going on in your life, you don't post or respond to some of our more light-hearted posts, so why does it even bother you at all I that someone posts something on a board that you aren't even really apart of anymore? I'm not saying this to be nasty, I'm really asking.
I told you than in pm you were good people. I don't hold grudges, and I most certainly do not allow for my first hour on the bump to compromise my feelings about anyone here.
I've never had an issue with you. Until recently, and even still, I don't care enough to give two fucks.
You're not the easiest person here to get to know, But you know what, I respect it. I even said that not long ago to you in a thread. You're real and you're you, so good. Great. Fuckin yahhhooooomotherfuckinwho!!
Jesus. Step off my shit.
Seriously, wtf is the issue. I think you're the one who really doesn't like me. And that's cool!!
I'm so damn sorry I said a fuckin thing about the name.
And speaking of TV shows I'm addicted to law and order SVU
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That is certainly your right, but also don't be surprised if she gets teased in junior high & high school about her name. Or if she is sexually active, that opens a huge door for undesirable nicknames; I can just imagine high school guys talking "Oh yeah, I've been with 'Anal Easy!'"
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But couldn't you feasibly perv out any name? I mean, my maiden name lent itself very well to the nickname Shocker. So I got called The Shocker from time to time. I just laughed it off. Idk. That's just me. Some potential high school kids being gross won't affect my name choice. Each to their own.
When someone says someone's dead inside and they should eat dicks, no longer respectful.
I don't think I've been around here enough to make people "afraid" of me. I called Lisa out very early on due to something she'd said, and that's where she gathered her impression of me. Not many here actually know who I am or that I used to be one of the most active posters on the board. I think what you're trying to say is that I won't jump on the train with everyone else if I don't believe that what's said is correct. And yes, I do call out those who I'm familiar with as well. I hold no ill will towards Lisa or anyone else here, and that's NOT the reason why I posted what I did.
I think you're getting me mixed up with someone else? I never said for to eat dick and that your dead inside.ETA - this is so not my style.
I have been around to know who you are though
ETA - I'm also saying I won't just jump on a train because it's what everyone else is doing. I have, and will continue to disagree with anyone that I disagree with too.
Friday FLAME FREE Confessions has been full of FLAMES...
I do, and I have responded to light hearted posts. I posted yesterday about the cracking of the glass window box in Chicago. I have been more active in the past week or two, and I took a little break due to switching of jobs, as well as some other shit going on in my life. No, I don't like how fluffy this board is, but it's still MY BMB as well. Apologies for trying to become involved again.
Actually, scratch that. No apologies. Why should I apologize for that? I don't talk about my pregnancy because I have a life where other things happen aside from just growing a baby. I'm textbook. My pants don't fit, I'm still getting sick every morning, and all I ever want is ice cream. But I'm not going to make a new post every time I want to bitch about something or AW something that happened. I had an appointment yesterday and the HB was at 155 and I made my a/s appointment for 6/9, which is our 2 year anniversary. Is it interesting? Maybe, but it's not uncommon from everyone else, so why make a post just for that? We didn't have an NT scan, so no
Ok- you made your point. I honestly thought you didn't like it here, and were purposely not posting. I was really curious and not trying to be nasty. I apologize for assuming youresults there. What exactly am I supposed to talk about that hasn't already been talked about a million times? I'm not an AW.
didn't like it here.
She is a badass, with a good heart to boot!! That's one of my favorite shows right now. I think a lot of people are rallying NBC to keep it. I hope they succeed!! And, I don't mind looking at Tate for an entire hour.
I desperately want to post a pic of Andrew Zimmern from Bizarre Foods.....but I'm sure it's going to be in bad taste......so I'm just going to giggle to myself a little. Totes agree that this needs to stop.
FFFC#2.....I make a lot of jokes when uncomfortable and this thread is SOOO beyond uncomfortable now. Can't we get back to our regularly scheduled dirty secrets?
ETA-spelling names is hard
Me: 42, DH: 40; Surprise BFP 4/27/2011; no heartbeat at 9w3d, we miss you, Baby Manatee; D&C 6/1/2011; AF returned 6/26/2011; Ready to try for our take-home baby. 7/24/2011--BFP! Peanut born March 2012; BFP: 7/31/2013!; blighted ovum at 7 weeks 8/26/2013. Holy Cannoli! BFP 2/23/2014. EDD 11/6/2014!
Calling someone a dick is against TOU. I think that's pretty fucking shitty too, but hey, whatever. And I think you need to read everything over again. No one said she shouldn't get support here, just that the type of support offered in other boards is tailored more to losses vs. everyone else' developing babies. That when you get THAT bothered over someone mentioning the dislike for the name you chose for your child, maybe you need to take a step back and look at if this is a beneficial place for your grieving to happen. By all means, keep in contact with people. Post, love tit, whatever, but it might not be the most healthy place to be as a mod because there WILL be things that come up periodically that are going to cause hurt and pain.
But sure, it can stop, when you don't try to devalue my feelings on the situation
---------------and then ask it to stop.
STOP. I'm right here.
You're bring disrespectful and I'm Asking you to please please please stop. I never was THAT bothered. I made a comment. If isn't go on for hours about it. Seriously.
Me being here is not causing me pain?? Why do you keep insisting it is? Can I not speak for myself?? Have I not already done so??
Why do you and others keep insisting on telling me I need or should go elsewhere??? Do you understand how hurtful this is to read????
I don't understand. But if you would please just posting about what I should do for my own grieving period. Really, it's just ridiculous now. And I'm asking you nicely to stop. I've got me under control. You do you. I'll do me.
And fwiw: there is not one single post where im out of control or losing my shit or blasting anyone for anything about their baby and my grief.
Me: 42, DH: 40; Surprise BFP 4/27/2011; no heartbeat at 9w3d, we miss you, Baby Manatee; D&C 6/1/2011; AF returned 6/26/2011; Ready to try for our take-home baby. 7/24/2011--BFP! Peanut born March 2012; BFP: 7/31/2013!; blighted ovum at 7 weeks 8/26/2013. Holy Cannoli! BFP 2/23/2014. EDD 11/6/2014!