FFFC

Maelara · May 2014

lisaren said:

Just read the name post and I gotta say that it seems the op wasn't aware of all the details of Lisaren's loss. It was alluded to in comments but not directly mentioned. Maybe if it was she might apologize. For @Lisaren - I know this hurts because your loss is so recent. And I know that just because you suffered a loss that doesn't automatically mean that you aren't a part of this community but I think you should consider taking a bump break. I think we all love you and support you and want you to take time to heal.
Wow. Ummmm ok. I'm very upset right now and I'm very sorry to have said anything. I thought I was doing ok. But now I'm just so upset and that's not the point of the bump for you or me. This place was/is like therapy. But apparently I appear different then how I feel. And I apologize. I'll be around, but I'll hang back for a while. This prob doesn't even make sense but I'm just feeling, fuck I don't even know. It is what it is.

I know this upset you. You don't need to go anywhere. It's obvious that her opinion isn't shared. We want you here. I want you here. Please don't let this post upset you. I wish I could give you a big IRL hug. I honestly think you're doing really well and certain posts ARE going to hurt you. Every milestone is going to hurt but you are and have handled it beautifully. You're so strong and have such a positive effect on this board. It wouldn't be the same if you hung back.

lincoln79 · May 2014

I am avoiding my sister's phone calls on purpose.

I had a huge grant proposal due today (it's in! time to start the weekend!) and I had spent nearly all waking hours working on it since Tuesday so I didn't answer her call yesterday bc I didn't have the time for an hour long conversation.

She then threw a telephonic temper tantrum calling my phone 10 times in an hour. Now the grant is in and I just don't want to reward the temper tantrum.

CarrieAnne09 · May 2014

lisaren said:

Just read the name post and I gotta say that it seems the op wasn't aware of all the details of Lisaren's loss. It was alluded to in comments but not directly mentioned. Maybe if it was she might apologize. For @Lisaren - I know this hurts because your loss is so recent. And I know that just because you suffered a loss that doesn't automatically mean that you aren't a part of this community but I think you should consider taking a bump break. I think we all love you and support you and want you to take time to heal.
Wow. Ummmm ok. I'm very upset right now and I'm very sorry to have said anything. I thought I was doing ok. But now I'm just so upset and that's not the point of the bump for you or me. This place was/is like therapy. But apparently I appear different then how I feel. And I apologize. I'll be around, but I'll hang back for a while. This prob doesn't even make sense but I'm just feeling, fuck I don't even know. It is what it is.

@lisaren - No... just no. We like you here, scratch that we LOVE you here - and like you said this place is like therapy. Unless you legitimately want to take a break don't just because someone decided to be ridiculous. You said how you felt and somehow it got blown out of proportion - which in my opinion is also ridiculous. I don't blame you for feeling how you felt about the post - I won't even go into it because it seems like a terrible post to me. Please don't let one girl who apparently knows you better than you know yourself wanted to share her opinion.

ETA: I also hate whistling... hate hate.

Nfranco973 · May 2014

Is it me or have all the Lurkers come out of hiding all of a sudden, all at the same time?! I'm just saying...

TeeJ526 · May 2014

Nfranco973 said:

Is it me or have all the Lurkers come out of hiding all of a sudden, all at the same time?! I'm just saying...

Who's lurking?

Sarahbeth612 · May 2014

My FFFC is I don't like FFFC. Mine are always lame and trouble always starts somewhere.

Can we change it to flame free friday cupcakes?

No?

MrsTuna08 · May 2014

@lisaren I just want to throw my love for you in. And also throw in a meme, because this kitten is adorable and this board needs more memes/gifs and don't let the haters get to you. Mwuah.

MollMoll4 · May 2014

lisaren said:
Wow. Ummmm ok. I'm very upset right now and I'm very sorry to have said anything. I thought I was doing ok. But now I'm just so upset and that's not the point of the bump for you or me. This place was/is like therapy. But apparently I appear different then how I feel. And I apologize. I'll be around, but I'll hang back for a while. This prob doesn't even make sense but I'm just feeling, fuck I don't even know. It is what it is.

@lisaren, take a break!?

I mean, not unless you really want to. Don't let ONE person get you down. Most of us really, really love having you here. Who else is gonna supply all the rainbows, unicorns, and REALNESS??

Kristy774 · May 2014

Who in the FUCK tells a mod she needs to take a fucking bump break??? Who do you think you are @BlackBooks‌ ??? FFS, STFU.

DoubleUp8 · May 2014

jlove253 said:

My FFC is that I think over-use of swear words is often tacky. For some reason it doesn't bother me to read them as much as when people say them aloud. I think that anyone who swears a lot, especially if they're just saying it for the sake of saying it, makes you sound like you don't have enough words in your vocabulary to express yourself. Don't get me wrong, I use swear words, and if they're used appropriately I don't really care. It's just when people use them allllllllll the time. It's basically like using the word "like" or "totally" a lot, but thinking you sound a lot cooler because you used an edgy word. And this may be the most offensive FFC I've ever posted. Taking a risk

I feel you on this with people who use "fuck" as every other word in a sentence. I think "fuck" is a good word for the right situation, sometimes you just need to yell "FUCK!" But if you say is every other word such as: "I went to the fucking store to get some fucking milk and I also picked up some fucking bread." It loses it's power and you become numb to the emphasis the word is suppose to have. I also find it is usually preppy DBs who are trying to prove something who do this, and I can't stand them to being with.

cindyNmark2010 · May 2014

@sarahbeth612 I say yes please!!

@lisaren ....DON'T GO!!!!!!!!!

mommymeg143 · May 2014

lisaren said:

I love cussing. It's horrible. I don't curse around my children but when they're not around, fuck yeah! I appreciate that most people get where I am coming from with the name thread and I do not think the OP meant any malicious harm. I'm sure over time situations like this will get easier to read, hear and see. I generally make it a point to avoid certain post but coming on the thread and seeing Brody in bold letters there, against my better judgment I went in. The last comment was how the name reminded her of a dog. I'm sorry but that fuckin sucks. But yes, such is life! More fffc: white bikini bottoms. No. Just no. Whistling. At any time.

FWIW...My cat's name is Henry. So, Henry reminds me of my cat. Brody reminds me of a sweet little boy. Brody is definitely at the top of my boy name list but my cousin named her little boy that so I wouldn't use it since we are very close. I completely think your feelings are justifiable. I know it must hurt like hell and I hate hate hate that you have to go through it. Personally, I don't want you to take a break but would understand if YOU felt like you needed it. If it was because someone else told you to, I would say hell to the nah. You are the life of this board and I know I would miss you if you were gone.

uncharted01 · May 2014

ProcessofBecoming said:

*snip*

My FFFC is that I get to go visit my hometown tomorrow--all by myself!--and am leaving in the wee hours of the morning, and letting my husband take our DS to his toddler gym class. I am going down for a dinner with my friends that DH organized for me (my mother's day present), so I could leave in the afternoon, but I'm being selfish and want the whole day to spend at home, just driving around town and going to the cemetery to see my parents. Part of me feels crappy leaving DH to fend for himself with our son, but the other part of me is counting the hours until my escape. I've lived in Upstate NY for 8 years, and am still homesick (I'm originally from right outside the NYC area). I get to drive on Rt. 17 in Jersey and curse at people who cut me off (and they WILL cut me off). Whoo hoo!!!!!

@ProcessofBecoming - Maybe we will pass each other on 17 tomorrow! :-bd

mommymeg143 · May 2014

MY FFFC is that i've been completely Bump lazy for the past week or so. I read all threads but don't have the energy to comment on them. I comment in my head and love tit the shit out of everyone but don't actually put my thoughts down on the thread. That's the definition of a Grade A Lurker right there. Dammit.

absolutelymaybe · May 2014

I omitted the detail that I stopped to get breadsticks on my way home last night to my DH so he would still pick up an order of Butterflies from the Thai restaurant on his way home for me.

What? I had a craving for both!

Nfranco973 · May 2014

TeeJ526 said:

Nfranco973 said:

Is it me or have all the Lurkers come out of hiding all of a sudden, all at the same time?! I'm just saying...

Who's lurking?

Didn't think it needed an explanation

/:)

abbyful · May 2014

Allyvaughan86 said:
My confession: I think it's silly to ask people about name opinions... I love reading and hearing what people are going to name their kids but actually asking a strangers opinion just seems wrong to me. Heck, my own mother doesn't like my name choices but thats not going to stop me from using them. As long as my husband and I agree and both like the name, I think that's all that matters...

Someone may point out an issue you overlooked.

For example, I thought Gisele was a nice name. Then I saw a list of alternative spellings, one of which was Jizzelle. Now all I see/hear with that name is "jizz". I noticed this on my own, but if I hadn't and it ended up being a finalist, I would sure hope someone would point it out to me!

emoxymoose · May 2014

Bree8485 said:

My FFFC: I don't think people should have to censor what they post because of one person's loss. There are dozens of women on here who have experienced losses and none of them come back to comment how they find threads distasteful because of their loss. I've had a loss and I know how hard it is, but I didn't stay on that BMB because I knew that some of the threads would upset me. This is a pregnancy board and I don't think asking about baby names on a BMB is out of line. There have already been several posts on baby names and no one got upset about any of those. I don't think the OP of that thread did anything wrong or distasteful at all.

I think this FFFC is getting all personal and I don't like it. I also don't see how people can be so dead inside that they don't see what dicks they're being.

abbyful · May 2014

emoxymoose said:
My FFFC is that I always want to post free stuff on craiglist, especially when it's baby stuff, because I know people could use it. However, I'm super paranoid that someone is going to come and take it from my house and then come back and try to steal my son in the middle of the night because now they know we have a child... I'm super paranoid in general about him getting stolen, even though I know how stupid that sounds.

Arrange to meet them in a public place. I've picked up Craigslist stuff in restaurant parking lots before.

Dimples0101 · May 2014

PineApple85 said:
@lisaren I know I'm probably not really a reg but I try to keep up with everyone and you are definitely a favorite of mine. I love your positive attitude and obvious strength. You do what's right for you but I personally love having you around and I don't think the board would be remotely the same without you. I'm totally bump-crushing on you. :x

This exactly.

PineApple85 · May 2014

abbyful said:

My confession: I think it's silly to ask people about name opinions... I love reading and hearing what people are going to name their kids but actually asking a strangers opinion just seems wrong to me. Heck, my own mother doesn't like my name choices but thats not going to stop me from using them. As long as my husband and I agree and both like the name, I think that's all that matters...
Someone may point out an issue you overlooked. For example, I thought Gisele was a nice name. Then I saw a list of alternative spellings, one of which was Jizzelle. Now all I see/hear with that name is "jizz". I noticed this on my own, but if I hadn't and it ended up being a finalist, I would sure hope someone would point it out to me!

This. A friend of mine liked Anna Leigh for a girl and maybe my brain is broken but all I heard was "anally".

AnnieRoo13 · May 2014

Bree8485 said:
My FFFC: I don't think people should have to censor what they post because of one person's loss. There are dozens of women on here who have experienced losses and none of them come back to comment how they find threads distasteful because of their loss. I've had a loss and I know how hard it is, but I didn't stay on that BMB because I knew that some of the threads would upset me. This is a pregnancy board and I don't think asking about baby names on a BMB is out of line. There have already been several posts on baby names and no one got upset about any of those. I don't think the OP of that thread did anything wrong or distasteful at all.

While I understand what you're saying, I disagree that it is censorship. When someone experiences a loss of any kind it is polite, compassionate and kind to recognize that loss and not bring things up that will remind them of the loss as well as help them deal with it as much as you can. For example, my mom died when I was 23 in a tragic accident that involved falling down the stairs. I didn't ever expect people to censor themselves and not talk about their moms ever again, but most people were thoughtful and tried to be sensitive to my feelings as the general topic of moms was hard for a very long time. The topic of stairs/falling down stairs was a really horrible topic and still is for obvious reasons and 5 years later those who are close to me are still aware that I am sensitive about it, but I don't expect everyone around me to be aware of my own personal feelings about the loss of my mother.

My point is, there are many of us that really value and appreciate @lisaren‌ and we show that by being kind and compassionate at a difficult time. Lisa doesn't expect us to stop talking about babies, but I think the incident in question was in poor taste due to timing. If it was a few months from now I think it might have been different.

emoxymoose · May 2014

mrsmechanic1 said:

What I think is distasteful is pulling the Pain Olympics excuse for everything. I'm sorry you had the loss. I really truly am. I felt terrible when I heard about it and I completely understand where the hurt and pain comes from. I really do.

But, when that interferes with the ability for people to post the questions/comments/concerns on the board that they belong to because it might be a touchy subject for the mod, it might be time for that mod to take a look at whether or not she's dictating the tone of the board. That's not the mod's job, at all. And if I have to question whether I can post on my own BMB with a question or comment because of fear of recoil from everyone kissing the mod's ass, that's bullshit. You're right, she does have the right to feel the way that she does, but when she brings it up every two seconds, it makes some of us question whether or not the job of moderator is a good place for her. Sure, come and post, but it's skewing the perception of the board. Yes, she's the mod, but she's a person, just like you, just like me. Don't force me to censor myself for fear of offending the mod.

I don't think this has anything to do with Lisaren being the mod. I don't know her from Adam, and she doesn't know me, but I would hope if it was the other way around that people would be just as upset at some of the nasty comments people are making on here. Maybe the OP didn't know her, didn't know the incredibly sad situation, but everyone in this FFFC does. You can say this is a public internet forum all you want, but for people who post here regularly, this is a second home. If you can call yourself a woman, call yourself a (future) mother, call yourself sympathetic, empathetic etc. then you would know better. People aren't asking posters to censor, they are asking them to be tactful and kind to someone that has put aside their tragedy to give support to others. I would hope that everyone else could do the same.

TeeJ526 · May 2014

Nfranco973 said:

TeeJ526 said:

Nfranco973 said:

Is it me or have all the Lurkers come out of hiding all of a sudden, all at the same time?! I'm just saying...

Who's lurking?

Didn't think it needed an explanation

/:)

Yeah, kind of does. PPs look familiar to me.

FirstBabyDoyle · May 2014

I'm in disbelief. Fucking tactless. You should be ashamed of yourselves.

emoxymoose · May 2014

mrsmechanic1 said:

emoxymoose said:

mrsmechanic1 said:

What I think is distasteful is pulling the Pain Olympics excuse for everything. I'm sorry you had the loss. I really truly am. I felt terrible when I heard about it and I completely understand where the hurt and pain comes from. I really do.

But, when that interferes with the ability for people to post the questions/comments/concerns on the board that they belong to because it might be a touchy subject for the mod, it might be time for that mod to take a look at whether or not she's dictating the tone of the board. That's not the mod's job, at all. And if I have to question whether I can post on my own BMB with a question or comment because of fear of recoil from everyone kissing the mod's ass, that's bullshit. You're right, she does have the right to feel the way that she does, but when she brings it up every two seconds, it makes some of us question whether or not the job of moderator is a good place for her. Sure, come and post, but it's skewing the perception of the board. Yes, she's the mod, but she's a person, just like you, just like me. Don't force me to censor myself for fear of offending the mod.

I don't think this has anything to do with Lisaren being the mod. I don't know her from Adam, and she doesn't know me, but I would hope if it was the other way around that people would be just as upset at some of the nasty comments people are making on here. Maybe the OP didn't know her, didn't know the incredibly sad situation, but everyone in this FFFC does. You can say this is a public internet forum all you want, but for people who post here regularly, this is a second home. If you can call yourself a woman, call yourself a (future) mother, call yourself sympathetic, empathetic etc. then you would know better. People aren't asking posters to censor, they are asking them to be tactful and kind to someone that has put aside their tragedy to give support to others. I would hope that everyone else could do the same.

Um, yeah, when someone can't ask a question about a name, or show their dislike for it without getting the entire board up in arms about it, completely unrelated to another board member's loss, it's dictating the tone.

No one was up in arms about anything. No one even said anything to the OP so I don't see what tone you're talking about.

I'm up in arms about all the garbage I'm reading in this thread, and pretty much everyone else is too. So if that's the tone you're talking about then good, I like that kind of tone.

lisaren · May 2014

Oh for fucks sakes people I just said I didn't like the post. HERE. IN THIS THREAD. I wasn't rude to her. I didn't call her out in her thread. I was sweet and shit. This is what fffc is for, right?????
And I've never made any derogatory comments to anyone prior.
If anything I try to cheer y'all on!

I've never made any inappropriate comments about any post here, because honestly shit doesn't get to me like that. I'll be pissed for 3 seconds then done. I stay here because I like you girls. A lot of you are what I would consider a friend.
I'm a behavioral counselor do you not think if I felt it was not healthy to come here, I wouldn't!!! JFC. Y'all are talking about me and I can speak for myself!
I don't dictate this board. These ladies think and speak for themselves and t assume otherwise is a huge big fuck you to their face.

And MM1 you don't tiptoe around anyone. Or any board. I highly doubt you do it here.

lisaren · May 2014

Bree8485 said:

FhSTAR81 said:

I really don't think anyone is saying no one can use that name but let's be real this just happened recently. If you had a loss the next day you aren't joking around and all happy go lucky. I think there's nothing wrong with a grieving period, everything is still very raw.

If I had a loss I wouldn't be on my BMB the next day reading threads that could be potentially painful for me. I would be taking time to heal and grieve for my angel baby which is exactly what I did after my loss. There are boards dedicated to this.

Well thank you for dictating how I should grieve.
And cupcake... I have a special needs daughter, I deal with shit every day. I walk outside and guess what!! There's. Child walking. Talking. Playing. I guess I just dig a hole and live there because that's what others would do. Never leave my house. Go on Fb.
I'm not wired that way.
I deal with life on life's terms.
Give me a fuckin break. You act like I'm I'm here posting a new goddamn post every day about my loss. I'm on here posting shit to break the redundancy.

This is unfuckinreal.

brooklyngirl18 · May 2014

MeganMullikin said:

MY FFFC is that i've been completely Bump lazy for the past week or so. I read all threads but don't have the energy to comment on them. I comment in my head and love tit the shit out of everyone but don't actually put my thoughts down on the thread. That's the definition of a Grade A Lurker right there. Dammit.

i'm with you on this. i'll lurk on a bunch of thread or try to keep us but just don't feel like adding to 2 cents. im so bump bipolar. some i love commenting on and others i just like watching. im such a creep

CarrieAnne09 · May 2014

I can't... I just can't. @lisaren was expressing her OPINION. Which last time I checked isn't against the rules of the board? She even said:

I know this is because of my personal experience and I cannot expect not one person to never mention anything "Lisa pregnancy related"

I think everyone freaking out over this is totally blowing it out of proportion. She's allowed to grieve, feel sad, angry, upset, happy, and EVERY other emotion under the sun if she wants to. And no one gets to dictate that.. or criticize her on it. Jesus people. This is the last thing I'm saying on this because I'm so annoyed.

Kristy774 · May 2014

I think we've all gotten to know each other a lot better today.

runningmama14 · May 2014

Kristy774 said:

I think we've all gotten to know each other a lot better today.

No kidding. I haven't rolled up my sleeves and truly posted my full opinion on this topic because I know that's not what my friend @Lisaren would want, but man, some people are really being jerks.

brooklyngirl18 · May 2014

mrsmechanic1 said:

emoxymoose said:

mrsmechanic1 said:

What I think is distasteful is pulling the Pain Olympics excuse for everything. I'm sorry you had the loss. I really truly am. I felt terrible when I heard about it and I completely understand where the hurt and pain comes from. I really do.

But, when that interferes with the ability for people to post the questions/comments/concerns on the board that they belong to because it might be a touchy subject for the mod, it might be time for that mod to take a look at whether or not she's dictating the tone of the board. That's not the mod's job, at all. And if I have to question whether I can post on my own BMB with a question or comment because of fear of recoil from everyone kissing the mod's ass, that's bullshit. You're right, she does have the right to feel the way that she does, but when she brings it up every two seconds, it makes some of us question whether or not the job of moderator is a good place for her. Sure, come and post, but it's skewing the perception of the board. Yes, she's the mod, but she's a person, just like you, just like me. Don't force me to censor myself for fear of offending the mod.

I don't think this has anything to do with Lisaren being the mod. I don't know her from Adam, and she doesn't know me, but I would hope if it was the other way around that people would be just as upset at some of the nasty comments people are making on here. Maybe the OP didn't know her, didn't know the incredibly sad situation, but everyone in this FFFC does. You can say this is a public internet forum all you want, but for people who post here regularly, this is a second home. If you can call yourself a woman, call yourself a (future) mother, call yourself sympathetic, empathetic etc. then you would know better. People aren't asking posters to censor, they are asking them to be tactful and kind to someone that has put aside their tragedy to give support to others. I would hope that everyone else could do the same.
Um, yeah, when someone can't ask a question about a name, or show their dislike for it without getting the entire board up in arms about it, completely unrelated to another board member's loss, it's dictating the tone.

whoa! first of all who exactly is kissing her ass? we are group of women supporting each other and yeah its playful with gifs and shit but its also serious. i would never say what we 'kiss her ass' but we support her and allow this to be a place or security for her. second, no one said you can't post a question about a name. all we're saying is it was distasteful. i dont see anyone getting'up in arms' or whatever other terms you were using. @lisaren is a big girl and can speak for herself but i think you are a little out of line here and being disrepectful to her and the board.

ProcessofBecoming · May 2014

lissydee said:

Wicked22 said:

Also what is up with this half season crap you get 5-10 episodes and then nothing for 6 months.

ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I hate this! one of my biggest peeves! TWD is one of the biggest offenders and it drives me nuts!

Mad Men just did this too. My husband and I were looking for "scenes" from the next episode and they were all "See you in 2015!" What the hell is that???

I am personally thrilled that "Orange is the New Black" and "True Blood" are premiering soon. I miss me some Lafayette, Pam, and Crazy Eyes.

PandaCon · May 2014

Another Confession: I need to vacuum badly but am going to wait fo DH to come home so that he can deal with DS.

DS just walked over to me with a toy and his hand was covered in dog and cat hair. I guess it's been too long since I swept and vacuumed.

Oops!

cindyNmark2010 · May 2014

Can't we all just hug it out? I'd much rather that than all the hen-pecking. This is getting ridic!

brooklyngirl18 · May 2014

lissydee said:

FWIW, I don't think whether it was said in the OPs thread or here really matters. People can see it all...so it can be assumed that the OP is aware that she is being discussed here.

If anything FFFC are notorious for being passive aggressive. If we really had a problem with the OP, why not discuss it where the "offense" happened?

i do think it matters because this particular thread is for fffc. no one jumped on the OP on the name thread saying she was distasteful, no 'bullying', none of that shit. it was said here in the appropriate place and yeah sure the OP can see it here but it isn't an attack on her. lisa was just expressing her feeling. big fucking deal. we all do it.

PandaCon · May 2014

FhSTAR81 said:

PandaCon said:

Another Confession: I need to vacuum badly but am going to wait fo DH to come home so that he can deal with DS.

DS just walked over to me with a toy and his hand was covered in dog and cat hair. I guess it's been too long since I swept and vacuumed.

Oops!

I vacuum and 30 seconds later it's dog hair central again. It's a waste of time

You know the westerns with the tumbleweeds?

Yeah that's my house right now. Every corner has a animal hair tumbleweed.

I think it is partially the weather. It's really getting warm here the last week and bpth animals seem to be dumping piles of hair!

runningmama14 · May 2014

mrsmechanic1 said:

Kristy774 said:

I think we've all gotten to know each other a lot better today.

Yep, now we know who can post about their feels and who can't without getting flamed.
8-|

What a load of bullshit. If you feel that you are being flamed, first of all, take a little trip around the bump to witness an actual flaming. This is so mild compared to what is actually a flaming. Second of all, what is being posted is not being said because of WHO posted it, it's being said because of WHAT was posted, so get off your high horse. This has nothing to do with who is friends and who is special and everything to do with people being insensitive in what and how they post.

kjmommy1214 · May 2014

My FFFC: I plan to take some naughty pics on my phone and send them to DH. He gets home on Wednesday. And he is stuck with a bunch of guys until then. So, I plan to tease every.single.day until he gets home. I want lots and lots of sex.

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