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NunyaBennis · May 2014

I am abstaining comment on the aforementioned name thread, though my confession does have to do with names. I started a names list but only wrote down boys' names. We're having a girl... and I'm completely lost. Girls' names are hard!

mamatohne · May 2014

Maelara said:

tarynleann said:
This week I commented on a thread just to be the 1st person to answer a question only to get a new badge. And I didn't even get the badge.
I think that only works for those threads that have the word question (or something similar) under it. I did get my 2500 comments badge this week though!

It did

nonoemily · May 2014

Here's my confession:
I have stopped the toilet up every morning for the last three days. It's embarrassing. At least I'm regular again, but jeez...

nicnac817 · May 2014

nonoemily said:

Here's my confession: I have stopped the toilet up every morning for the last three days. It's embarrassing. At least I'm regular again, but jeez...

Jealous.

runningmama14 · May 2014

MindyAndRyan said:

FFFC #2: @Maelara - my brain is goofy, and if I see a word wrong once, or hear the wrong thing in a song, my brain will forever keep it at that first memory and not allow me to re-write it. Example: in a song I love, the singer says "when I showed you the dark inside of me", but I will forever hear "when I showed you the DUCK inside of me". Example #2: My brain keeps insisting that your name is Malaria. I try to re-write it! Your name is such a pretty name. But my brain says "Nope! Malaria it is!"

ETA: Don't hate me!

Oh yep, you're Malaria in my head too. I type it out right, but sound it out in my head wrong...

Maelara · May 2014

tarynleann said:

This week I commented on a thread just to be the 1st person to answer a question only to get a new badge. And I didn't even get the badge.
I think that only works for those threads that have the word question (or something similar) under it. I did get my 2500 comments badge this week though!
It did

Aw! Stupid bump!

Allyvaughan86 · May 2014

My confession: I think it's silly to ask people about name opinions... I love reading and hearing what people are going to name their kids but actually asking a strangers opinion just seems wrong to me. Heck, my own mother doesn't like my name choices but thats not going to stop me from using them. As long as my husband and I agree and both like the name, I think that's all that matters...

runningmama14 · May 2014

lisaren said:

Ok I have another one. Hahahaha. When someone will love tit everyone's comments but yours!!! Is it an accident? Or do they really despise your comment? It's
like a big ole love tit slap in the face! I also kinda wish we had a "hate it" option.

@Lisaren - I have certain people that I withhold lovetits from regardless of the content of their post. I feel like it's the only way to consistently give them the finger without actually giving them the finger.

PS - you're not one of them

NunyaBennis · May 2014

CatLady22 said:

NunyaBennis said:

CatLady22 said:
I bought a slip to take a picture in for a boudoir shot then returned it because I felt guilty for spending too much.
... but did you return it before or after the photo shoot? :P
Definitely after that's the flame worthy part!

Niiiice

VanillaTwilight13 · May 2014

I haven't done a load of laundry in like a week and a half... and the last load I did is still sitting folded in our bedroom :-S I also haven't completely finished unpacking from our move, and we've been here since the beginning of April! I wish I could say it's because I'm super busy all the time, but other than the usual day to day stuff with DS and cooking, etc., I'm really not doing much. I probably spend way too much time on this board, playing World of Warcraft, and talking to my mom on the phone.

runningmama14 · May 2014

Allyvaughan86 said:

My confession: I think it's silly to ask people about name opinions... I love reading and hearing what people are going to name their kids but actually asking a strangers opinion just seems wrong to me. Heck, my own mother doesn't like my name choices but thats not going to stop me from using them. As long as my husband and I agree and both like the name, I think that's all that matters...

I won't be asking for opinions from anyone, but I do see the benefit of asking internet friends instead of IRL. Someone may point out an issue with the name that you didn't think of, but you also don't have to face that person on the daily if they reveal that they don't like the name and you choose it.

Maelara · May 2014

runningmama14 said:

MindyAndRyan said:

FFFC #2: @Maelara - my brain is goofy, and if I see a word wrong once, or hear the wrong thing in a song, my brain will forever keep it at that first memory and not allow me to re-write it. Example: in a song I love, the singer says "when I showed you the dark inside of me", but I will forever hear "when I showed you the DUCK inside of me". Example #2: My brain keeps insisting that your name is Malaria. I try to re-write it! Your name is such a pretty name. But my brain says "Nope! Malaria it is!"

ETA: Don't hate me!

Oh yep, you're Malaria in my head too. I type it out right, but sound it out in my head wrong...

BAHAHA! I think I need a new badge! Down with the sickness!

lisaren · May 2014

I have a right to my opinion and post a flame here and I did. I still stand by it. It was fuckin tacky to post that thread. She did it. I hated it. I said so here. What's the problem???

There's a shit load of post that other people post and it's not liked either. This just happens to be personal, and very fresh.

And fwiw: I clearly said I understand that other women should not gage anything they say here by me, I never would expect that. Ever.
But I also would not expect for any of you to expect me to be a non emotional chick who didn't give a fuck.

brooklyngirl18 · May 2014

Allyvaughan86 said:

My confession: I think it's silly to ask people about name opinions... I love reading and hearing what people are going to name their kids but actually asking a strangers opinion just seems wrong to me. Heck, my own mother doesn't like my name choices but thats not going to stop me from using them. As long as my husband and I agree and both like the name, I think that's all that matters...

this exactly. who gives a f what others think about the name of your child. especially a bunch of people you only know online. not everyone is going to like the name and no one has to like it but you and dh.

brooklyngirl18 · May 2014

runningmama14 said:

@Lisaren - I have certain people that I withhold lovetits from regardless of the content of their post. I feel like it's the only way to consistently give them the finger without actually giving them the finger.

haha yes this exactly for me too. some people i just dont like and withhold lovetits. flame away or call me immature but whatevs. you always get my lovetits @runningmama14 and @lisaren

MrsC430 · May 2014

My confession: I can't stand people who leave a crappy tip (or don't tip at all) at restaurants. Even if the service wasn't the best, sometimes it's out of the wait staff's control. I've never waitressed, but I respect those in the service industry. If you can't afford a tip, don't go out to eat. Period.

Kristy774 · May 2014

I get not being able to keep up with every single poster and their loss. But this is our mod who lost her baby and isn't it pretty known on The Bump if your going to go after a mod or be insensitive to a mod, you WILL get flamed? We all picked her as our mod, so clearly she's a fan favorite and we are going to be more protective over her then other posters.

I think the Henry/Brody post could have been worded differently, and maybe used a little more tact, I don't know, it definitely made me sad for Lisa.

I don't know if the baby I lost was a girl or not, I feel in my heart like it was, and I was going to name her Abigail. It still hurts me when I hear a little girl with that name and I didn't even know.

PineApple85 · May 2014

MrsC430 said:

My confession: I can't stand people who leave a crappy tip (or don't tip at all) at restaurants. Even if the service wasn't the best, sometimes it's out of the wait staff's control. I've never waitressed, but I respect those in the service industry. If you can't afford a tip, don't go out to eat. Period.

Nope. I take into account what is within and outside of the waiter's control - including being new or busy. But sometimes they just suck and I tip accordingly. I think I only ever completely withheld a tip once but I'll definitely leave a cheap tip for cheap service. As a rule though I'm also a very generous tipper if they earned it. I always tip at least 20% for average to good service and go up from there.

ETA: I also make a point to speak to the manager for exceptional service because most people only make the effort to complain. I just feel strongly that you (the waiter) are in a service-based position. If you can't handle it, find another job. I say that based on my SO's previous experience in the field and my SIL's current experience. They both tip based on the same standards that I do.

DoubleUp8 · May 2014

lisaren said:

Ok I have another one. Hahahaha. When someone will love tit everyone's comments but yours!!! Is it an accident? Or do they really despise your comment? It's like a big ole love tit slap in the face! I also kinda wish we had a "hate it" option.

This is what I envision this looks like:

jlove253 · May 2014

My FFC is that I think over-use of swear words is often tacky. For some reason it doesn't bother me to read them as much as when people say them aloud. I think that anyone who swears a lot, especially if they're just saying it for the sake of saying it, makes you sound like you don't have enough words in your vocabulary to express yourself. Don't get me wrong, I use swear words, and if they're used appropriately I don't really care. It's just when people use them allllllllll the time. It's basically like using the word "like" or "totally" a lot, but thinking you sound a lot cooler because you used an edgy word.

And this may be the most offensive FFC I've ever posted. Taking a risk

emoxymoose · May 2014

My FFFC is that I always want to post free stuff on craiglist, especially when it's baby stuff, because I know people could use it. However, I'm super paranoid that someone is going to come and take it from my house and then come back and try to steal my son in the middle of the night because now they know we have a child... I'm super paranoid in general about him getting stolen, even though I know how stupid that sounds.

wildflower75 · May 2014

I want to call my OBs office and go OFF on the receptionists!
Yesterday during the third hour of my glucose test a woman opened up a bag and proceeded to eat a full plate of food!! I hadn't eaten since dinner the previous night and it was 11 AM!!! I was starving and here's THIS BITCH eating a full plate of food??? I know she had just done the 3 hour test as well and I'm sure she was hungry but take that shit outside!
I didn't say anything at the time because I know I would have caused a scene and been looked at like the crazy pregnant lady but I'm still really upset about it. I am almost sure that there's a sign in the waiting room that says no food or drink allowed... and umm can you add no cell phone talking to that sign? Same lady was talking on her cell phone around 9:30...
Lesson is: spending 3 hours in the waiting room starving makes you really grouchy!!

I was shocked by the Henry / Brody post and did not comment because I couldn't believe she was really asking that...and once again I didn't want to "make a scene"

jlove253 sorry for the swear words but I think they were appropriate here!

wildflower75 · May 2014

tarynleann said:

This week I commented on a thread just to be the 1st person to answer a question only to get a new badge. And I didn't even get the badge.

@tarynleann
OMG! I totally did this too!
LOL

PandaCon · May 2014

I just put my toddler down for a nap. It's way to early but he was driving me bonkers. I yelled at him to much this morning too. (That's the flame worthy part, I hate being yelling mom) He's only 18 months and yelling only makes him more upset/cry and I know better.

He's been up for exactly two hours and has cried/whined all of them except the 15 minutes it took to eat breakfast. He cried for two seconds and I think he's sleeping now so I'll let him sleep.

BlackBooks · May 2014

Just read the name post and I gotta say that it seems the op wasn't aware of all the details of Lisaren's loss. It was alluded to in comments but not directly mentioned. Maybe if it was she might apologize.

For @Lisaren - I know this hurts because your loss is so recent. And I know that just because you suffered a loss that doesn't automatically mean that you aren't a part of this community but I think you should consider taking a bump break. I think we all love you and support you and want you to take time to heal.

lisaren · May 2014

I love cussing. It's horrible. I don't curse around my children but when they're not around, fuck yeah!

I appreciate that most people get where I am coming from with the name thread and I do not think the OP meant any malicious harm.
I'm sure over time situations like this will get easier to read, hear and see.
I generally make it a point to avoid certain post but coming on the thread and seeing Brody in bold letters there, against my better judgment I went in.
The last comment was how the name reminded her of a dog. I'm sorry but that fuckin sucks. But yes, such is life!

More fffc:

white bikini bottoms. No. Just no.

Whistling. At any time.

runningmama14 · May 2014

BlackBooks said:

Just read the name post and I gotta say that it seems the op wasn't aware of all the details of Lisaren's loss. It was alluded to in comments but not directly mentioned. Maybe if it was she might apologize. For @Lisaren - I know this hurts because your loss is so recent. And I know that just because you suffered a loss that doesn't automatically mean that you aren't a part of this community but I think you should consider taking a bump break. I think we all love you and support you and want you to take time to heal.

Who are you to decide that she needs a bump break? If she wants to be here, then I want her here. Seriously, you just pissed me off in a major way.

jlove253 · May 2014

@wildflower75‌ you didn't bother me, haha! How rude to eat right there, where asked not to (via sign), and in front of people who are trying to get through their test without puking. Go eat in your car. And why was she even there still?
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ProcessofBecoming · May 2014

I keep The Bump up at work, but don't get on to post as much as I'd like (I do it in spurts, but lurk more), and saw the "Henry vs. Brody" post. My first thought was "Uh oh!," but when I read the post, I figured that the OP had to be someone who was not familiar with what had happened (or was unaware that Brody was the chosen name of Lisaren's angel baby). Was the timing great? No. But I don't think the OP posted with the intent to hurt anyone. With so many ladies posting to the boards, some intermittently, things like this will happen. Anyhow, just my two cents.

FWIW, I love the movie "Jaws" and I loved Chief Brody. Henry is a nice, classic name, but all the Henrys I know are nicknamed "Hank." Not a fan of Hank, especially on a baby.

My FFFC is that I get to go visit my hometown tomorrow--all by myself!--and am leaving in the wee hours of the morning, and letting my husband take our DS to his toddler gym class. I am going down for a dinner with my friends that DH organized for me (my mother's day present), so I could leave in the afternoon, but I'm being selfish and want the whole day to spend at home, just driving around town and going to the cemetery to see my parents. Part of me feels crappy leaving DH to fend for himself with our son, but the other part of me is counting the hours until my escape. I've lived in Upstate NY for 8 years, and am still homesick (I'm originally from right outside the NYC area). I get to drive on Rt. 17 in Jersey and curse at people who cut me off (and they WILL cut me off). Whoo hoo!!!!!

lisaren · May 2014

BlackBooks said:
Just read the name post and I gotta say that it seems the op wasn't aware of all the details of Lisaren's loss. It was alluded to in comments but not directly mentioned. Maybe if it was she might apologize.

For @Lisaren - I know this hurts because your loss is so recent. And I know that just because you suffered a loss that doesn't automatically mean that you aren't a part of this community but I think you should consider taking a bump break. I think we all love you and support you and want you to take time to heal.

Wow. Ummmm ok. I'm very upset right now and I'm very sorry to have said anything. I thought I was doing ok. But now I'm just so upset and that's not the point of the bump for you or me. This place was/is like therapy. But apparently I appear different then how I feel. And I apologize.

I'll be around, but I'll hang back for a while.

This prob doesn't even make sense but I'm just feeling, fuck I don't even know. It is what it is.

JamieK1882 · May 2014

emoxymoose said:
My FFFC is that I always want to post free stuff on craiglist, especially when it's baby stuff, because I know people could use it. However, I'm super paranoid that someone is going to come and take it from my house and then come back and try to steal my son in the middle of the night because now they know we have a child... I'm super paranoid in general about him getting stolen, even though I know how stupid that sounds.

I don't think that's stupid at all. Crazy people on craigslist (I had a foot fetish guy email me for MONTHS after I listed shoes for sale)

MrsTuna08 · May 2014

wildflower75 said:

I want to call my OBs office and go OFF on the receptionists!
Yesterday during the third hour of my glucose test a woman opened up a bag and proceeded to eat a full plate of food!! I hadn't eaten since dinner the previous night and it was 11 AM!!! I was starving and here's THIS BITCH eating a full plate of food??? I know she had just done the 3 hour test as well and I'm sure she was hungry but take that shit outside!
I didn't say anything at the time because I know I would have caused a scene and been looked at like the crazy pregnant lady but I'm still really upset about it. I am almost sure that there's a sign in the waiting room that says no food or drink allowed... and umm can you add no cell phone talking to that sign? Same lady was talking on her cell phone around 9:30...
Lesson is: spending 3 hours in the waiting room starving makes you really grouchy!!
**snipped**

I would have lost it. I was so hungry and head-achey during that test. There has to be a more humane way to assess whether someone has GD or not.

Also, eating in the waiting room, Ewwwww. All those germy people and their germy hands touching all the things.

ARZamora1111 · May 2014

My husband has gained more weight than I have in this pregnancy and won't admit it. In turn, this makes sex horrible and for the time being, I have sworn it off (though he doesn't know that). I've dropped hints and tried to get him to workout with me to no avail. Even his family has said something, but he still denies the weight gain.

hiketheworld · May 2014

@lisaren‌ I'm pretty sure that most everyone does not share @blackbooks opinion. I for one am glad you are here

jlove253 · May 2014

hiketheworld said:
@lisaren‌ I'm pretty sure that most everyone does not share @blackbooks opinion. I for one am glad you are here

This.

PineApple85 · May 2014

@lisaren I know I'm probably not really a reg but I try to keep up with everyone and you are definitely a favorite of mine. I love your positive attitude and obvious strength. You do what's right for you but I personally love having you around and I don't think the board would be remotely the same without you. I'm totally bump-crushing on you. :x

brooklyngirl18 · May 2014

lisaren said:

Just read the name post and I gotta say that it seems the op wasn't aware of all the details of Lisaren's loss. It was alluded to in comments but not directly mentioned. Maybe if it was she might apologize. For @Lisaren - I know this hurts because your loss is so recent. And I know that just because you suffered a loss that doesn't automatically mean that you aren't a part of this community but I think you should consider taking a bump break. I think we all love you and support you and want you to take time to heal.
Wow. Ummmm ok. I'm very upset right now and I'm very sorry to have said anything. I thought I was doing ok. But now I'm just so upset and that's not the point of the bump for you or me. This place was/is like therapy. But apparently I appear different then how I feel. And I apologize. I'll be around, but I'll hang back for a while. This prob doesn't even make sense but I'm just feeling, fuck I don't even know. It is what it is.

NO! do not let anyone dictate how you express yourself or how you feel. i think i speak for the group when i say no one wants you to take a break (unless of course you want to). this is still your home and you are entitled to feel/say anything you want. i'm sorry you are having a tough time. we are all here to support you. ((hugs))

runningmama14 · May 2014

lisaren said:

Just read the name post and I gotta say that it seems the op wasn't aware of all the details of Lisaren's loss. It was alluded to in comments but not directly mentioned. Maybe if it was she might apologize. For @Lisaren - I know this hurts because your loss is so recent. And I know that just because you suffered a loss that doesn't automatically mean that you aren't a part of this community but I think you should consider taking a bump break. I think we all love you and support you and want you to take time to heal.
Wow. Ummmm ok. I'm very upset right now and I'm very sorry to have said anything. I thought I was doing ok. But now I'm just so upset and that's not the point of the bump for you or me. This place was/is like therapy. But apparently I appear different then how I feel. And I apologize. I'll be around, but I'll hang back for a while. This prob doesn't even make sense but I'm just feeling, fuck I don't even know. It is what it is.

@lisaren - don't apologize. And, don't hang back, unless you want or need too! Obviously, multiple posters felt the exact same way you did about the post and think that your feelings on the issue are justified and understandable. Far more people have posted that they get it than the few who felt the need to continue to piss in your cheerios.

I think you have shown such remarkable strength and grace through this and I love your presence on this board. Seriously, don't let the few ruin this for you if it's the support you need.

Nfranco973 · May 2014

lisaren said:
I think it was super tacky to post a name thread about the name Brody. Then have people make negative comments about the name Brody. Super tacky.
there's a name board that this could have easily been done on.
I know this is because of my personal experience and I cannot expect not one person to never mention anything "Lisa pregnancy related" but JFC it was just like bam all up in my face.

Honestly, I truly feel you on this one.

brichar31 · May 2014

I don't know how all of this transpired, I haven't read the name post but this thread is getting out of hand.

@lisaren don't take a break, all of us who have grown to love you are still here to support you and COMPLETELY understand why reading Brody's name would be like salt in the wound so soon.

My FFFC - I avoid Starbucks. Not because I don't like the coffee but because I'm cheap.

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