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kdsmith43 · May 2014

Confess all of your sins.

kdsmith43 · May 2014

I just read an article in our local newspaper about my employer, and the fact that we are not getting raises this year. Could our employer have not notified us first before speaking with a reporter? It'll be the 3rd year in a row without a raise. I really want to stay here because you cannot beat these benefits, but I am really starting to rethink things. At the rate the benefits are dissapearing, it won't matter before long anyways. I don't guess this is really a confession, but I am pissed about it.

PenelopePond · May 2014

I'm annoyed we have to pay sales tax on Amazon purchases now.

melody921 · May 2014

kdsmith43 said:

I just read an article in our local newspaper about my employer, and the fact that we are not getting raises this year. Could our employer have not notified us first before speaking with a reporter? It'll be the 3rd year in a row without a raise. I really want to stay here because you cannot beat these benefits, but I am really starting to rethink things. At the rate the benefits are dissapearing, it won't matter before long anyways. I don't guess this is really a confession, but I am pissed about it.

That was a shitty way for your employer to announce it. But a lot of places aren't giving raises the past few years, so I'd be hesitant to switch jobs just based on that. That's not usually something they broadcast during the interview process. What do you do for work?

melody921 · May 2014

I realized yesterday that the vast majority of other daycare parents are only known to me as "Adrianna's mom" or "Ryan's dad," even the ones I see every single day.

melody921 · May 2014

I'm pretty sure DS went to school today without his teeth being brushed. DH was taking care of DD's, but now that I think of it, DS might have already been downstairs and gotten skipped in that whole process.

MrsKipper · May 2014

I've never used the oven in this house (I cleaned it when we moved in but it's LP and it scares me to turn it on). I've also never cooked on an actual cooktop here (we never got one installed), just a hot plate.

We move out tomorrow and I can't wait to have brand new appliances. I'm going to bake all the cookies!!

melody921 · May 2014

Not sure if this is really flameful, but I'm already worrying about the logistics of kindergarten, and DS doesn't go until 2015. Like I mentioned yesterday, our district is only half day (not even 3 hours of school) and doesn't have before and after care on site until 1st grade. I'm not sure any of our options are really ideal right now:

Our daycare doesn't bus to our elementary school because it's across the district line. We could switch to the sister daycare site, which still isn't connected to our school, and petition to have him go to a different elementary school in the district. But they wouldn't tell us if we got approved until July, at which point it's way too late to switch daycares or get him into a private school.
We could switch both kids this upcoming year to a daycare that does bus to our elementary school. But there are only 2, one of which looks ghetto and the other is not the most convenient location and only takes kids who go to PM kindergarten.
We could do Catholic school, which has before and after care on site, but then the kids would be at two different places, which could make for some very tight afternoon pickups, with everywhere closing the doors at 6.
A Goddard School is coming to our area late this fall. We had a positive experience with them when DS was younger. We could enroll the kids there, with the hope that they get everything together to be approved to offer full-day kindergarten on site in 2015, and just pay to keep DS there. It would be more expensive than our current daycare.

I'm thinking right now that the last option is our best because the kids would be in the same spot, DS wouldn't be shuffled from daycare to school to daycare every day. And when it comes to first grade, he could just switch to our home elementary school, with the neighborhood kids. It also might be good when it's DD's turn for kindergarten, if she's ready for school, bc she misses our district's cutoff by 3 days, but they'd let her do kindergarten at Goddard.

Ahhhhhhh, if your read all this, you deserve a cookie. I'm probably overthinking all of this, but with waiting lists at daycares and private schools, I know we can't drag our feet because there's simply no way to keep him in our current daycare when he starts school.

kelbel527 · May 2014

LoisLayn23 said:

I think I may have taken Poke's comment a little too personally yesterday. Because I have that kid at the park. And she doesn't understand social cues and appropriate social awareness. So I'm admittedly a little hypersensitive when I hear something that describes Tess and it feels like an attack on me, like I've done something wrong (the no attention thing). But it still sucks to hear your kid is annoying.

Also, when a kid does this to me, I'll talk to him for a couple minutes and then walk to the swing or where my kid is and check on them and let the kid follow me. The kid usually stays playing at the equipment when I do that.

I think it's easy to be sensitive with comments like that when you can relate. I didn't even reply because I also think that can be my kid. He isn't as forward with strangers, but once he gets to know you a little bit, he will chat your ear off about everything. He longs for attention from his teachers and other adults, but it isn't because he doesn't get it at home.

I have hope though because DH was the exact same way and loved talking to adults sometimes more than kids when he was little. Now he's a very successful, smart salesman and gets paid to talk to people all day long.

melody921 · May 2014

LoisLayn23 said:

This kid will never have a name.

Start a name suggestions thread!

kelbel527 · May 2014

melody921 said:

I realized yesterday that the vast majority of other daycare parents are only known to me as "Adrianna's mom" or "Ryan's dad," even the ones I see every single day.

Same. There is one parent who is really good at knowing everyone's names and always uses my name and I feel bad because I often forget his...

At least I work with many of the parents at our daycare, so I can look them up in our email system when I'm trying to figure out someone's name. But the parent that doesn't work here, I never know their names.

watercolor5 · May 2014

LoisLayn23 said:

I'm really sad our self cleaning oven didn't come with us when we moved. I hate cleaning the oven.

My mom started a small fire by using the self cleaning option on a too dirty oven when I was little, and now I have an irrational fear of using self-cleaning. My oven will self-clean, but I clean it by hand instead.

I hate when appliances lock on you- the oven during self-cleaning, or some laundry machines. I can't take that loss of control!

watercolor5 · May 2014

@melody921 That's rough! It stinks you have to switch daycares no matter what option you choose. Hopefully the Goddard school will come through in time and be the best option for both kids!

redneckmomma25 · May 2014

I've never cleaned an oven. MIL did it one nap time haha. She also normally tends my neglected plants.

G is eating breakfast while watching mickey.

I gave her pb on white bread and felt really guilty.

kdsmith43 · May 2014

melody921 said:

kdsmith43 said:

I just read an article in our local newspaper about my employer, and the fact that we are not getting raises this year. Could our employer have not notified us first before speaking with a reporter? It'll be the 3rd year in a row without a raise. I really want to stay here because you cannot beat these benefits, but I am really starting to rethink things. At the rate the benefits are dissapearing, it won't matter before long anyways. I don't guess this is really a confession, but I am pissed about it.

That was a shitty way for your employer to announce it. But a lot of places aren't giving raises the past few years, so I'd be hesitant to switch jobs just based on that. That's not usually something they broadcast during the interview process. What do you do for work?

I should have added that in my profession I could find a job closer to home with comparable pay and benefits, that's what is making me rethink things. I am a financial aid administrator for graduate level education.

melody921 · May 2014

kdsmith43 said:

melody921 said:

kdsmith43 said:

I just read an article in our local newspaper about my employer, and the fact that we are not getting raises this year. Could our employer have not notified us first before speaking with a reporter? It'll be the 3rd year in a row without a raise. I really want to stay here because you cannot beat these benefits, but I am really starting to rethink things. At the rate the benefits are dissapearing, it won't matter before long anyways. I don't guess this is really a confession, but I am pissed about it.

That was a shitty way for your employer to announce it. But a lot of places aren't giving raises the past few years, so I'd be hesitant to switch jobs just based on that. That's not usually something they broadcast during the interview process. What do you do for work?

I should have added that in my profession I could find a job closer to home with comparable pay and benefits, that's what is making me rethink things. I am a financial aid administrator for graduate level education.

Ah, in that case, not a bad idea to shop around.

melody921 · May 2014

I'm meeting a woman at lunch to sell my pump. I'm irrationally sad about this considering how much I disliked pumping.

Pokedot · May 2014

LoisLayn23 said:

I think I may have taken Poke's comment a little too personally yesterday. Because I have that kid at the park. And she doesn't understand social cues and appropriate social awareness. So I'm admittedly a little hypersensitive when I hear something that describes Tess and it feels like an attack on me, like I've done something wrong (the no attention thing). But it still sucks to hear your kid is annoying.

Also, when a kid does this to me, I'll talk to him for a couple minutes and then walk to the swing or where my kid is and check on them and let the kid follow me. The kid usually stays playing at the equipment when I do that.

LL I didn't want anyone to take that UO personal. I was just making an observation and I'm sure Tess really isn't annoying. She social, she wants to understand the world aroud her. She's a child with a billion questios and observations. It's just something I noticed at the park when playing with B. I'm all about talking with kids, answering questions, pushing a swing. It's just hard to have time with him when an older kid is fighting for my attention and it takes away from B. A few minutes here and there, totally fine. 1+ hour, gets under my skin.

My FFFC: DH has decided that almost everytime I'm in the shower lately (when DS is sleeping) he needs to join me. I'm all about the shower love but for god sakes man can't a woman shower in peace? Its like the 15 minutes of peace and quiet I can get to myself without someone depending on me. Leave me be!

watercolor5 · May 2014

When I go too long without having sex, it starts to affect my dreams. That used to be when I'd have fun sex dreams, but last night I had a dream where I was standing around with a bunch of women, complaining about how you never have sex when you're married with kids. 8-|

miss50 · May 2014

I really do not care for my new job. The worst part, I work with a former Co worker and we will eventually have to have a talk about what happened after my departure. I'll make a post later, but since I have no social life at work (how ironic) it'll have to wait til the weekend. Also, no drinks at your desk.

Also, I brought homemade cookies today. I may or may not be "shitty cookie chick".

To be continued.....

MarisaKathleen · May 2014

FFFC: I've never cleaned my oven. I've used the self cleaning once or twice in 4 years.

another one? I got out of the shower this morning, walked into our room and was going to fold laundry until I found what I wanted to wear. Dumped out the hamper onto our bed and out scurried the biggest centipede I've seen so far this year. It charged at me, jumped off our bed and scurried under it. The whole time I'm standing there, naked, doing the silent scream/hop around on one foot thing loud whispering for the stupid cats to come eat it and freaking out. I grabbed some clothes, shut my bedroom door and don't plan on going back in there until further notice.

Pokedot · May 2014

MarisaKathleen said:

FFFC: I've never cleaned my oven. I've used the self cleaning once or twice in 4 years.

another one? I got out of the shower this morning, walked into our room and was going to fold laundry until I found what I wanted to wear. Dumped out the hamper onto our bed and out scurried the biggest centipede I've seen so far this year. It charged at me, jumped off our bed and scurried under it. The whole time I'm standing there, naked, doing the silent scream/hop around on one foot thing loud whispering for the stupid cats to come eat it and freaking out. I grabbed some clothes, shut my bedroom door and don't plan on going back in there until further notice.

Those things have way too many legs for one creature. I'd do the same. YUCK!

kelbel527 · May 2014

I'm not loving my job these days. The one thing I've always said about being a working mom is that I do it because it makes me a happier, better mom. I feel bad that not only does it keep me away from my kids for many hours, but that it's making me cranky too.

It may be directly related to the fact that I'm stressed about more things in my personal life that I just don't have the patience to deal with high-pressure at work. We're not saving lives here...

Pokedot · May 2014

SpoofLeJones said:

I still think Poke's UO was asshole-ish. But 80% of the things that come out of her "mouth" usually are. You need to work on your delivery, girl.

Guess I'm a big asshole then. Thanks.

MarisaKathleen · May 2014

kelbel527 said:

I'm not loving my job these days. The one thing I've always said about being a working mom is that I do it because it makes me a happier, better mom. I feel bad that not only does it keep me away from my kids for many hours, but that it's making me cranky too.

It may be directly related to the fact that I'm stressed about more things in my personal life that I just don't have the patience to deal with high-pressure at work. We're not saving lives here...

How is your house coming along? Did they break ground and everything yet?

AKB090609 · May 2014

DH took all of the mini donuts I bought for breakfast this week to work, I'm way more upset about it than I should be. My plan for this morning involves getting more and stuffing my face out of anger.

Somehow time seems to be speeding up because we are somehow at less than 35 days until 2.0 will be here. DH and I haven't bothered talking about names in weeks because we have gotten nowhere.

DH keeps yelling at me about our budget, but doesn't seem to understand that he's the one who paid our auto and homeowners insurance in full the same month as our HOA, Annual Lawn care bill and gutter bill were due. So yes, we are over budget this month (by exactly what you paid before you told me you were going to pay it).

MomtobeNJ · May 2014

I want to lie to my husband about how much a new daycare costs. I won't, because I am a terrible liar and the man knows me better than I know myself, but lying definitely crossed my mind.

It sounds worse than it is (I think). I fell in love with a new daycare we visited and it's about $200/month more than we said we could afford. I think we can make some sacrifices and swing it, but DH is super paranoid about finances related to this move. I don't think he saw the sheet with the exact tuition cost, so I was trying to think of some way to make him believe it's within our budget.

I'm going to have to find another way to convince him.

starrysmile18 · May 2014

My FFFC: I'm on this board every single day. I never log in or comment. I have no idea why.

I participated randomly after my little guy was born, but don't feel like I have much to contribute now....

jenmbott · May 2014

LoisLayn23 said:

melody921 said:

LoisLayn23 said:

This kid will never have a name.

Start a name suggestions thread!

We are both so meh on all of them thus far. Every time I have one that I love I'll bring it to him, and he literally says 'eh'. That's helpful!

DH and I didn't decide on a boy name until 39 weeks and we picked 2 girl names the day before 2.0 was born. In my rational brain, I thought that my body wasn't ready for labor since we hadn't decided on a girl name so I convinced myself that if we at least had an idea for a girl name that labor could start. When the time crunch really started to hit I found it easier to pick out names. Not sure why, maybe it was because I put more thought into names versus looking at hundreds of names and giving each on 0.2 seconds of thought.

ETA: FWIW the two girl names we narrowed it down to were Juliana and Rosalie.

melody921 · May 2014

LoisLayn23 said:

We have it down to 2 girls names (Stella Kate or Lydia Sue) but we have a minimum of 10 boys names that are "ok".

I love Stella Kate, so much!

MomtobeNJ · May 2014

LoisLayn23 said:

We have it down to 2 girls names (Stella Kate or Lydia Sue) but we have a minimum of 10 boys names that are "ok".

I love Lydia Sue. You didn't ask for input, but I thought I would share anyway. :P

I'm surprised you have no boy names you love, since you should have some "stored up" from the last 2. Did you & DH have one at some point, but feel differently about it now? Or did you never really love any?

melody921 · May 2014

LoisLayn23 said:

We have it down to 2 girls names (Stella Kate or Lydia Sue) but we have a minimum of 10 boys names that are "ok".

Boy names that I like:

Joel, Connor, Levi, Henry, Luke, Samuel. I'm sure there are more, but I'm drawing a blank.

What's your boy name style? What are some of your meh ones? Do you want traditional/trendy/unusual?

MomtobeNJ · May 2014

BobKat22 said:

We are bribing DD with M&Ms an awful lot these days. Potty usage, picking up, and now eating. DH sat one M&M in the middle of the table during dinner and told her she could have it if she ate all of her food she had been poking at and throwing. I've never seen her eat so quick and stuff so many carrots in her mouth. I can't decide if this is a good tactic or ridiculous.

My daughter does not understand "if/then" yet. We've tried. I wish she did. I am not opposed to bribery in the least.

Pokedot · May 2014

SpoofLeJones said:

SpoofLeJones said:

I still think Poke's UO was asshole-ish. But 80% of the things that come out of her "mouth" usually are. You need to work on your delivery, girl.

Guess I'm a big asshole then. Thanks.
--- I actually don't think that, I think that you are bad at talking and make yourself sound like an asshole unnecessarily. Do you proofread?

You kind of just said that and yes I do proofread. Do I want to go back and say something "better" usually yes. Does someone like cherry say what I meant better, yes. It's until after the fact that sometimes I'm like "Oh that sounded better than I put it." I stand by what I said yesterday in the UO. I'm not an asshole nor have I ever been. I would never mean to offend anyone on this board. Have I said things that hit a nerve, sure. We all have. Would I mean to, no.

KTC926 · May 2014

I bitch when people don't RSVP to an event that I'm hosting.

Signed,
the girl who didn't RSVP to a baby shower this Sunday.

I'm a hypocrite.

MarisaKathleen · May 2014

I love the name Lydia. I think it's so cute and really underused. That would be my vote, hands down. And it goes cute with Tessa & Nora. :-) I think Stella sounds a little too close to Tessa, but it is still cute.

I keep saying that boys names are way harder because of all the criteria that (should) go into them.

BeebopandBuddy · May 2014

Scary Mommy posted this article on FB yesterday:

https://www.scarymommy.com/the-mother-of-rage/

I related to it way more than I am comfortable with. I'm ashamed. Having a 3-year-old is kicking my ass.

BeebopandBuddy · May 2014

Also, I got DH to commit to doing the 30-day Ab Challenge with me yesterday. I anticipate 3 days of participation from him tops.

Edited: Word choice

MomtobeNJ · May 2014

BeebopandBuddy said:

Scary Mommy posted this article on FB yesterday:

https://www.scarymommy.com/the-mother-of-rage/

I related to it way more than I am comfortable with. I'm ashamed. Having a 3-year-old is kicking my ass.

I worry about this. I really do.

melody921 · May 2014

LoisLayn23 said:

melody921 said:

LoisLayn23 said:

We have it down to 2 girls names (Stella Kate or Lydia Sue) but we have a minimum of 10 boys names that are "ok".

Boy names that I like:
Joel, Connor, Levi, Henry, Luke, Samuel. I'm sure there are more, but I'm drawing a blank.

What's your boy name style? What are some of your meh ones? Do you want traditional/trendy/unusual?

Love Joel (that's DH's name and he doesn't want a Junior but I still love it anyways) Connor and Levi are too trendy/popular now. Love Lucas, that's my brother's name I still want to use it anyways but DH says no, love Samuel too but DH is meh. Last night we came up with Henry (nn Hank) and he says "I could do that" Also ones that have been on our list prior that we throw around are: Drake, Colton, Oliver, Callen, Jonah, Judah,

Judah, hands down, is my favorite. Love that name! Also really like Jonah and Oliver.

BeebopandBuddy · May 2014

melody921 said:

Not sure if this is really flameful, but I'm already worrying about the logistics of kindergarten, and DS doesn't go until 2015. Like I mentioned yesterday, our district is only half day (not even 3 hours of school) and doesn't have before and after care on site until 1st grade. I'm not sure any of our options are really ideal right now:
Our daycare doesn't bus to our elementary school because it's across the district line. We could switch to the sister daycare site, which still isn't connected to our school, and petition to have him go to a different elementary school in the district. But they wouldn't tell us if we got approved until July, at which point it's way too late to switch daycares or get him into a private school.
We could switch both kids this upcoming year to a daycare that does bus to our elementary school. But there are only 2, one of which looks ghetto and the other is not the most convenient location and only takes kids who go to PM kindergarten.
We could do Catholic school, which has before and after care on site, but then the kids would be at two different places, which could make for some very tight afternoon pickups, with everywhere closing the doors at 6.
A Goddard School is coming to our area late this fall. We had a positive experience with them when DS was younger. We could enroll the kids there, with the hope that they get everything together to be approved to offer full-day kindergarten on site in 2015, and just pay to keep DS there. It would be more expensive than our current daycare.
I'm thinking right now that the last option is our best because the kids would be in the same spot, DS wouldn't be shuffled from daycare to school to daycare every day. And when it comes to first grade, he could just switch to our home elementary school, with the neighborhood kids. It also might be good when it's DD's turn for kindergarten, if she's ready for school, bc she misses our district's cutoff by 3 days, but they'd let her do kindergarten at Goddard.

Ahhhhhhh, if your read all this, you deserve a cookie. I'm probably overthinking all of this, but with waiting lists at daycares and private schools, I know we can't drag our feet because there's simply no way to keep him in our current daycare when he starts school.

Having to work out something like this would make me a total wreck. We didn't have too much to work out at all with Maya's preschool in our district but I was still very nervous in the days leading up to enrollment. We will have two drop off points once she starts preschool in-district, but the money that we will save makes it all worth it.

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