Almost time for Labor Buddies!

mrsdanielleM2010 · May 2014

Hey everyone,

A while back, labor buddies were brought up on the board, and the consensus was that before we set them up, we want everyone to be at viability. I'm excited to say that's only two weeks away! So before we get to June 10, can we discuss and iron out:

What exactly IS a labor buddy to the people on our board?

What kind of commitment are you making if you opt to get/be a labor buddy?

What goes into matching people? Is it random? Does due date matter? Does time zone?

Is there someone you have already arranged to be partnered with? Is there anyone particular you'd hope to have, or hope not to have?

Just putting it out there that I would love to coordinate since I'll be done teaching by June 10 and will have plenty of time (yay!!) but if the board wants someone else I'm fine with that too.

LTMama · May 2014

Oooh I'd love to do it! I think a lot of us are friends already, would it make sense to start pairing ourselves up?

mrsdanielleM2010 · May 2014

Maybe if people are comfortable, they can take care of that? I don't want anyone to feel pressure since a good half of us aren't at viability yet?

LTMama · May 2014

Good point.

mrsdanielleM2010 · May 2014

When we open up a "who wants a labor buddy" thread I (or whoever is doing it) can ask who already has it settled, and respect that when the list is made.

poptart109 · May 2014

Way back with DS (2008) it was someone we randomly were paired with to avoid "being the odd one out." It was posted on the spreadsheet who everyone was paired with.

EDD and time zones weren't factored in because anything could happen at any time. We chose between buddies how to contact- either PM on TB or text. It was done to update the board with who went into labor, when, and baby stats. Birth stories were done by the moms after they settled into their homes.

CplusJ=S · May 2014

Count me in!

JustCricket · May 2014

mrsdanielleM2010 said:

When we open up a "who wants a labor buddy" thread I (or whoever is doing it) can ask who already has it settled, and respect that when the list is made.

I think what can happen is once the 10th rolls around.. people add their name to a spreadsheet... then after x amount of hours it's randomly paired off (and spreadsheet closed to prevent peopel from messing it up... lol). IF you are close with someone... then maybe just don't comment on the thread.. since you already chose your labor buddy???

ETA- Idk if this is a good way to do it since this is my 1st bmb

mrsdanielleM2010 · May 2014

Random is good, I wouldn't want anyone left out - but I think it's important to respect requests like pgal, high risk, or even if someone wants someone local in the hopes it would turn into an irl friendship?

So I could set it up a few different ways:

1- public, editable google doc for people to add themselves

Or

2- a thread on the board for people to add their name and any specifications/requests

anyone not comfortable sharing requests could PM me whether we go with option 1 or 2

Thoughts?

Gizmo1231 · May 2014

I'd love to participate!

peanutbuttervibes · May 2014

shimmer475 said:
Woohoo I'm excited to have a labor buddy, I wasn't very active on DS's bmb so I've never had one.

This

Smallllmin · May 2014

Can I call mine an anti-labor buddy? Since I'm a scheduled c/s and not allowed to go into labor? Lol

mrsdanielleM2010 · May 2014

Smallllmin said:

Can I call mine an anti-labor buddy? Since I'm a scheduled c/s and not allowed to go into labor? Lol

Yes.

jortiz780 · May 2014

Sounds good! I would be interested in participating as well.

kateitho · May 2014

@lindsayhilleary We have the same due date

Labor buddy time is the only time that's a downer. I would also like someone who is a PgALer.

mrsdanielleM2010 · May 2014

MermaidsMagic said:

I can only speak for how it was done on my BMB. Everyone wrote in a thread EDD, time zone. Then the person sorted in by time zone then EDD. LBs were I the same time zone and two weeks apart. (1st week was paired with 3rd and 2nd with 4th.) Idk how any other BMBs did it.

I think 1st and 3rd/2nd and 4th weeks are a good idea, and if time zone matters to people they can include that info too - though like @23Melissa28‌ said, they can come any time.

wrightpalomo · May 2014

Yay! This is exciting! As a FTM I have no clue what works and doesn't but I'm happy to follow along

LifeofCat · May 2014

I'm definitely interested but want to echo what @lindsayhilleary and @kateitho said: I would also prefer a fellow PgALer. Thanks for building the awareness, @mrsdaniellem2010

kateitho · May 2014

@LifeofCat We're almost a week apart, and they think he might be earlier due to his size so far. We might make a good match!

mrsdanielleM2010 · May 2014

mmnumber5 said:

I would love to have a labor buddy and would like a pgal but if you factor time zone I can be with one person on the board @Texasgurly0313‌ because I think she's the only other Hawaii. I like the idea of a couple people just in case you and your labor buddy are in labor the same time or they disappear for whatever reason.

I would definitely take into account if people said they preferred one buddy or a group of 3/4.

conradraging · May 2014

mrsdanielleM2010 · May 2014

Conradgallagher said:

Girl, didn't you hear you're on a funny list? People like you, biznatch.

trebekastan · May 2014

Conradgallagher said:

Bitch, we like you!

conradraging · May 2014

@mrsdanielleM2010 I cry.

JulyMomma2U2 · May 2014

Holy crap time is going so fast! Can't believe its labor buddy time already! With Ds1 i had a labor buddy through PGAL, they were assigned randomly based on due dates (staggered by a week or two).. Time zones also didn't matter. Mine went MIA long before we reached delivery, so I ended up updating the board myself, but it would be neat to be paired up with an active person as a labor buddy! I'd like a PGAL or high risk person as I was early both times due to pre-e and DS1 was a NICU babe, so we have no idea what to expect this go round! If all goes well tough, I'll be a scheduled RCS!

conradraging · May 2014

lstrejcek said:
Bitch, we like you!

I enjoy your tough love.

Ecat504 · May 2014

Count me in!!!

laurendcolee · May 2014

Excited for this thread!

mrsdanielleM2010 · May 2014

zoeygirl1105 said:

Here's how August did theirs and it seemed to work good for them. https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12314636/want-a-labor-buddy-sign-up-here/p1 Unless people are worried about time zones too. The matching would be done by the person running it @mrsdanielleM2010‌ so no ones feelings are hurt. Of course you can request to be with a specific person or with another pgal. If Danielle is open to it pm her if there is anyone you really don't want to be matched with.Then after a certain date the list will get posted. Is that too much work?

Doesn't feel like too much work @zoeygirl1105. I would definitely respect any request - so far it looks like those would include pgal, high risk, time zone, and a specific person. Looks like the August one went smoothly. ETA I'll post something similar to this on June 10 (unless people pick someone else to do it of course)

conradraging · May 2014

I just want someone hotter than me, I'm trying to date up.

GabbyCat13 · May 2014

I'm down

mrsdanielleM2010 · May 2014

Conradgallagher said:

I just want someone hotter than me, I'm trying to date up.

Well based on today's hdbd there are plenty of fly ladies to friend crush on

mrsdanielleM2010 · May 2014

MermaidsMagic said:

If there's mutual picking, like with @ 23Melissa28 and I, they dont need to post. If they do it might clutter the people actually looking for someone to be assigned. We can be added to a master list later for bookkeeping purposes

Good call. If anyone is settled just let me know either in this thread or via pm.

bumpuser10199668 · May 2014

@Conradgallagher‌ id totally labor with you so hard

conradraging · May 2014

@carmalarm

julestony · May 2014

Awesome! @mrsdaniellem2010 thanks for taking the lead and organizing this!

mrsdanielleM2010 · May 2014

Conradgallagher said:
@carmalarm

I'm putting you two crazy love birds on my master list. Done. And @Conradgallagher‌ nice choice @CarmAlarm‌ is a total babe

conradraging · May 2014

mrsdanielleM2010 said:
I'm putting you two crazy love birds on my master list. Done. And @Conradgallagher‌ nice choice @CarmAlarm‌ is a total babe

I told you I was dating up!

mrsdanielleM2010 · May 2014

SingSoftKitty said:
@mrsdanielleM2010 You're mine biotch! But you already know that @justcricket can come too if she would like.

So I should go ahead with this sweet tat?

mrsdanielleM2010 · May 2014

SmileyGirl18 said:
Yay!!! I love this!!!! Maybe in the spread sheet we can put notes like RCS or PgAL to help @MrsDanielleM2010 match people up?

There are sooooo many people in the spreadsheet who haven't really been around - I wonder if they're still even reading?

I think I like the thread idea from @zoeygirl1105 and when I make the thread I'll put instructions saying to put due date and any other specifics the people want considered - like RCS or PGAL or anything else. Good suggestion @SmileyGirl18‌!

MrsLaLaBug · May 2014

mrsdanielleM2010 said:

SingSoftKitty said:
@mrsdanielleM2010 You're mine biotch! But you already know that @justcricket can come too if she would like.
So I should go ahead with this sweet tat?

You know, "LaLa" would be a sweet tat also. Just sayin'.

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