Weight comment from male friend

Re: Weight comment from male friend

• Helenahhandbasket member

  May 2014

  Oh.

  Sorry if anyone got offended. 

  My friend made the comment and it was something I han't considered.  It made me feel good.  Thought I would share and maybe lend the perspective to someone else (that women feel pressured to be thin by other women.)

  That's all really.

   

   

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• NeneCakies member

  May 2014

  Everybody likes to visit the validation station. The trick is remembering to buy your own ticket once in a while.

  

  
  

  
   

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• ShakeyJakey member

  May 2014

  MrsBadKat said:

  I can understand how being checked out or being considered "f-able" could make some women feel confident, and I think that's okay. I'm all for people feeling good about themselves.

  
  

  However, I don't understand a husband that would want to hear his work buddy say that about his wife. I'm relatively certain that if my husband had someone say something like that to him he would probably tell the person that he's a real a-hole. And he definitely wouldn't come home and tell me about it.

  If someone said that to SO Id be bailing him out of jail the next day. And it would be awkward as hell to see his work friend again, if he didn't smash their face in.
  
  I can see both sides though. It's nice to know others find you attractive when you don't feel it. Doesn't mean she's tying that in to her self worth more than anything else though.
  
  I work out because I like being in shape. I like being able to run and lift my son without hurting myself, and push myself farther than last time. It bothers me when anyone comments about anyone's body unless it's positive. You need to work out more/less, eat more/less, whatever. Ill admit Ive been snarky towards other women before and I'm making a huge effort to stop. I'm not proud of it but I don't think everyone realizes how hurtful a comment can be, especially if they don't say it in an especially negative way. "You're too skinny" is an extremely hurtful thing to hear if you have body issues.
  
  Hugs to everyone. You're all beautiful!!!

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• NarwhalBacon member

  May 2014 edited May 2014

  Dh and I tell each other most of the times someone comments on us, whether it is about physical appearance or personality. Yes, it feels good to be complemented. I have oodles of self confidence. I'm smart, funny and a good mother. I don't need anyone to tell me those things. DHs friends and my guy friends tell me how lucky he is to have a beautiful, faithful woman who is a great mom. Of course that feels 1000x better than being called fuckable, doesn't mean someone commenting on my sexual attractiveness doesn't feel good, too.
  Lol some of you guys take shit way too seriously. Calm down.

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• CinemaGoddess member

  May 2014

  I've only read the last page but I would feel super uncomfortable if one of DH's friends called me fuckable.  

  
  

  I mean, that would never happen, but if it did there would be a lot of awkward silences when that friend came around.  

   
  

  
  

  Unable to even.  

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  You don't understand the appeal of Benedict Cumberbatch / think he's fug / don't know who he is? WATCH SHERLOCK.  Until you do, your negative opinion of him will not be taken seriously.
  

  
  

  
  

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• ShakeyJakey member

  May 2014

  I do tell SO when I see people checking him out, or someone tells me he's handsome or something. He gets less jealous of my celebrity boyfriends that way

  Harry Styles = Life Ruiner

  
  

  There’s a lightning in your eyes I can't deny
  Then there’s me inside a sinking boat running out of time
  Without you I'll never make it out alive
  But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
  

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  J. 1.14.13 my reason for breathing 

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• ShakeyJakey member

  May 2014

  CTGirl30 said:

  I can't imagine saying to one of my girlfriends - "Hey, your husband is totally fuckable!"

  ::record screech::

  Honestly it would depend on the friend. I have one or two that would take it was a compliment on their taste and not as me being a rude home wrecker with mouth diarrhea.

  Harry Styles = Life Ruiner

  
  

  There’s a lightning in your eyes I can't deny
  Then there’s me inside a sinking boat running out of time
  Without you I'll never make it out alive
  But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
  

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  J. 1.14.13 my reason for breathing 

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• ShakeyJakey member

  May 2014

  Especially if it was like hey, isn't my new bf hot?! And not me just throwing it out there.

  Harry Styles = Life Ruiner

  
  

  There’s a lightning in your eyes I can't deny
  Then there’s me inside a sinking boat running out of time
  Without you I'll never make it out alive
  But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
  

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  J. 1.14.13 my reason for breathing 

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• NarwhalBacon member

  May 2014

  Lols

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• NarwhalBacon member

  May 2014 edited May 2014

  Yeah the comment made DH slightly uncomfortable. I don't care, I got a kick out of it. I like it when my friends call dh hot. I'm like yeah, I know he is!

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• ShakeyJakey member

  May 2014

  I get that the 5 lb comment wasn't meant that way, and I'm not trying to lose a certain number but be healthy. Some do focus too much on losing any amount of weight and take unhealthy steps to get the "rest of the way"-whatever number it is. Doesn't just have to be less than 25 lbs.
  
  Apparently my role today is to explain what everyone else means.

  Harry Styles = Life Ruiner

  
  

  There’s a lightning in your eyes I can't deny
  Then there’s me inside a sinking boat running out of time
  Without you I'll never make it out alive
  But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
  

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  J. 1.14.13 my reason for breathing 

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• PeanutButterFox member

  May 2014 edited May 2014

  Sterling13 said: But dude, don't assume every woman who wants to lose 5,10,20 pounds doesn't have a "fuck the haters" attitude as you put it. Me wanting to lose 10 pounds is as valid as you wanting to lose 100. That's the part of this thread that pissed me off the most.
  
  That's not how I took it at all. What I read it (and what I was agreeing with) is it makes me sad when someone is worried (i.e. stressed) over 5, 10, 15 lbs. Like, if you want to lose that great, do you, but don't beat yourself up over it. If you're that close to your goal, you're doing great. I don't know if I'm conveying what I'm trying to say well.

  
  

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• NarwhalBacon member

  May 2014

  I'm sorry if I offended anyone. I didn't mean for it to sound as if I think my desire to lose weight is more important than someone else's. I meant that it makes me sad when I see girls so engrossed by the idea of the perfect body that they think 5 or 10 pounds is make or breaking them and they have no self confidence because of a couple pounds. I wish people just wouldn't care about that last few pounds and worry about being overall healthy. If 5 or 10 pounds is what you need to lose to get to a healthy bod weight, that is different.

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• PeanutButterFox member

  May 2014 edited May 2014

  MrsBadKat said:

  PeanutButterFox said:

  Sterling13 said:

  But dude, don't assume every woman who wants to lose 5,10,20 pounds doesn't have a "fuck the haters" attitude as you put it. Me wanting to lose 10 pounds is as valid as you wanting to lose 100. That's the part of this thread that pissed me off the most.

  
  

  
  

  That's not how I took it at all. What I read it (and what I was agreeing with) is it makes me sad when someone is worried (i.e. stressed) over 5, 10, 15 lbs. Like, if you want to lose that great, do you, but don't beat yourself up over it. If you're that close to your goal, you're doing great. I don't know if I'm conveying what I'm trying to say well.

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    This is how I took it, too.

  
  

  But I can also see how those who want to lose 5, 10, 15 lbs feel like their desire to lose is just as valid as anyone else's

  
  

  I DON'T KNOW.

  
  

  We are all entitled to feel any way we want. 

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  Of course it is.

  
  

  ETA WTF is with the wonky quoting? I'm not even on mobile dammit.

  
  

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• [Deleted User] member

  May 2014

  Everything tastes better than skinny feels.

  
  

  Or that's how I feel.

  
  

  
  

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• PeanutButterFox member

  May 2014

  susanb887 said:

  Is my outfit ok? #whitepantsandimnotasizeone #haventspilledanythingyet ETA: ignore the toilet, I'm at work.

  Totally fuckable. What, too soon?

  
  

  j/k I think you look fantastic.

  
  

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• ShakeyJakey member

  May 2014 edited May 2014

  Also, I think it's great we can discuss this without it blowing up. A lot of the insight I've gotten over the last year on this topic has come from things we've discussed here. I'm very thankful for a place we can share stuff like this.
  
  /sappy.

  Harry Styles = Life Ruiner

  
  

  There’s a lightning in your eyes I can't deny
  Then there’s me inside a sinking boat running out of time
  Without you I'll never make it out alive
  But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
  

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  J. 1.14.13 my reason for breathing 

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• jesuisfatiguee member

  May 2014

  @MabelShesABiotch...
  
  I cry. Thank you.
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• [Deleted User] member

  May 2014 edited May 2014

  All joking aside, I am not going to judge someone who wants to lose however many lbs, as long as it's not getting into an unhealthy zone.

  
  

  I should drop a couple lbs, but I am just having way too much fun and I am very comfortable in my slightly larger than normal* body.  

  
  

  *my normal size is. Not a general normal.  

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• [Deleted User] member

  May 2014

  MrsBadKat said:

  You're perfect @dragonblood13. I love dat ass.

  You are so good to me.

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• jesuisfatiguee member

  May 2014

  twolittlewheels said:

  Excuse me while I clear my box.

  Unnecessary. They are self-cleaning. 
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• vandelay member

  May 2014

  I've been grabbing my own ass a lot lately. It's bigger than I'd like looks wise, but it feels so nice and squishy.
  
  #findsmyselffuckable

                                
  

  
    

                                 

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• colliebabe member

  May 2014

  @susanb887‌ I love your white pants! I wore similar ones this past weekend.

  
  

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• NarwhalBacon member

  May 2014

  vandelay said:

  I've been grabbing my own ass a lot lately. It's bigger than I'd like looks wise, but it feels so nice and squishy. #findsmyselffuckable

  I play with my tits all the time. Damn, they are nice.

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• jesuisfatiguee member

  May 2014

  I, too, feel myself up for funsies. Why the hell not?
  
  @susanb887 - You rock the white pants. I think you look great.
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• NarwhalBacon member

  May 2014

  @mbenit4 has great tits. I find them rather fuckable.

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