Ok- I cannot bitch one thing about my parents' visit this weekend GASP. That NEVER happens.
But SIL, she took the prize. She and MIL hosted the baby shower sat. I know they've always had a little competition but usually it stays within DH's siblings. ...Until the shower. MIL left pretty quickly after it was "over" and was the first to leave. As soon as she was gone SIL started telling us all (DH's Step-mother, step-grandmother and half-sister, my family and my BF) about how selfish MIL was and to prove her point proceeded to tell everyone "what kind of mother tries to commit suicide on the birthday of her youngest son." *crickets* We all just sat there in silence not knowing what to say which apparently gave her the impression she should continue on. WTF?!
MBF#2 I cannot stop obsessing about Sonic's Lemon-berry slushed ...and now doughnuts but I'm STUCK ON FUCKING BED REST! Errrrrr
I'm so pissed at DH. He is such a procrastinating, lazy, excuse maker that I can't even stand it anymore. As I mentioned before, he broke his foot on Friday so our five year anniversary plans were cancelled. What was supposed to be a fun weekend turned out to be boring. I can't blame a broken foot, but even without that, our anniversary plans wouldn't have happened since he didn't make any. We decided what to do and he said he would make reservations and make appointments. As of Friday morning (before foot) he didn't.
I've been on him for months now to paint DS's new room. He hasn't. Now with his foot, that's on hold. It should have been done ages ago. Same with doing some landscaping. The worst is that our pool is not yet opened. I'm only going to have a short time to swim anyway and I wanted it ready some time in May. This is a twice yearly fight because it takes two people to get the cover off. Two summers now I've been pregnant, so I'm not the best candidate for the job. The other times I'm told its too heavy for me, which pisses me off. DH tries to get his brothers to help, but 1. its not their responsibility, 2. they're unreliable, and 3. I've never seen three people so incapable of communicating and nailing down plans. I grew up with a pool in my yard so I'm not under any delusions that its easy, but DH really knows how to turn an unpleasant chore into a completely horrible situation. Instead of figuring out a plan that works (not only for now, but every year), all DH wants to do is argue with me and make excuses.
With a broken foot, he doesn't need someone to help him. He needs people do to it for him. Right now I'm faced with either not opening the pool at all, which I hate to do because DS would have so much fun. Or paying a pool service to do it for several hundred bucks that we really need to put toward other things. I hate that DH screws around and we have to pay money for the chores he doesn't want to do. When do I get to pay someone to do the things I don't want to do? We really wanted a pool when house shopping and finally found one and its been awful because DH makes it that way. I guess since we're not doing for our anniversary plans (couples massage and dinner), we'll have the extra money. I'm also considering skipping my 10 year college reunion that I was going to go to because it would cost me $50 to attend a stupid picnic. So that's extra money.
I know it seems like I'm whining over a pool (FWP), but its honestly a lot more than just this. I am just so aggravated with this whole situation and so disappointed and angry that DH just doesn't care about taking care of our home or being a responsible adult.
5 hours of sleep. It's taking everything i have not to fall asleep at my desk right now. My eyes keep closing and i keep having to shake myself awake.
Also..why the fuck am i at work? The boss totally forgot today was a holiday and wanted to schedule a meeting. And since we haven't heard from him, my co-worker just left since he has an appointment.
So i'm sitting around working on a spreadsheet that is about as interesting as mud. There is no reason for me to be here.
My shower was yesterday. My family embarrassed me horribly in front of people. It was once again a reminder if how awful my family is when compared to other people.
My mom said I looked like the hulk the day before the shower. Her gift was a hideous blanket she stole from her blanket making club. (They make blankets for kids w cancer) and she told everyone this. She was nasty about all the clothes we received. My 10 yr old niece was horrible. Locked herself in the guest bathroom crying for 30 minutes.
Oh and my mom complained about my dad in front of everybody. Afterwards telling me she's suing him for back child support of me. I'm 35 years old. They've been separated since I was 12, divorced since I was 16.
I cried myself to sleep last night. I just can't cope w the crazy at this point.
Ugh, sorry to hear all that. That is a rough situation, I would have reacted the same way.
Side quesiton though: can one even sue someone else for child support after that amount of time?
According to google, she has until 4 years after I turn 18 in tx. He just inherited monies from his mom that passed away. He was a shit parent, too. He could voluntarily give her money if he wanted.
I was in foster care and a homeless shelter in HS bc of their crazy, so I'm just not very sympathetic to either one of them.
Ugh, so shitty all around. Sorry you have that in your life but I like what PP said about how you gave mister and little man on the way. I know it doesn't make up for not having supportive parents but it sounds like you've really worked hard and gotten yourself in a good place and position in life. Nobody can take that away!,
I hate FB and pregnancy hormones. I just saw a bunch of pics from a "Luau Party" that some of my casual friends were at and cried because I wasn't invited. Honestly I don't even know whose party it was, the host could have been someone I don't even know. But now I'm convinced that since I'm not going out they've all forgotten about me. Wah :-(
I'm so pissed at DH. He is such a procrastinating, lazy, excuse maker that I can't even stand it anymore. As I mentioned before, he broke his foot on Friday so our five year anniversary plans were cancelled. What was supposed to be a fun weekend turned out to be boring. I can't blame a broken foot, but even without that, our anniversary plans wouldn't have happened since he didn't make any. We decided what to do and he said he would make reservations and make appointments. As of Friday morning (before foot) he didn't.
I've been on him for months now to paint DS's new room. He hasn't. Now with his foot, that's on hold. It should have been done ages ago. Same with doing some landscaping. The worst is that our pool is not yet opened. I'm only going to have a short time to swim anyway and I wanted it ready some time in May. This is a twice yearly fight because it takes two people to get the cover off. Two summers now I've been pregnant, so I'm not the best candidate for the job. The other times I'm told its too heavy for me, which pisses me off. DH tries to get his brothers to help, but 1. its not their responsibility, 2. they're unreliable, and 3. I've never seen three people so incapable of communicating and nailing down plans. I grew up with a pool in my yard so I'm not under any delusions that its easy, but DH really knows how to turn an unpleasant chore into a completely horrible situation. Instead of figuring out a plan that works (not only for now, but every year), all DH wants to do is argue with me and make excuses.
With a broken foot, he doesn't need someone to help him. He needs people do to it for him. Right now I'm faced with either not opening the pool at all, which I hate to do because DS would have so much fun. Or paying a pool service to do it for several hundred bucks that we really need to put toward other things. I hate that DH screws around and we have to pay money for the chores he doesn't want to do. When do I get to pay someone to do the things I don't want to do? We really wanted a pool when house shopping and finally found one and its been awful because DH makes it that way. I guess since we're not doing for our anniversary plans (couples massage and dinner), we'll have the extra money. I'm also considering skipping my 10 year college reunion that I was going to go to because it would cost me $50 to attend a stupid picnic. So that's extra money.
I know it seems like I'm whining over a pool (FWP), but its honestly a lot more than just this. I am just so aggravated with this whole situation and so disappointed and angry that DH just doesn't care about taking care of our home or being a responsible adult.
Have you guys looked into couples counseling? You do seem to have a LOT to say every week about how he is coming up short, maybe you two would benefit from talking to a professional to help sort out some of your problems? Especially before throwing a baby into the mix.
I was up all night throwing up off and on. I guess the homemade peach cobbler I made last night was funky or something. I feel so weak and useless today. Thank goodness my husband's off work today and helping with the kids.
My hands are so swollen and they hurt. Its just my hands and my feet look okay but I feel like Ive gained a lot since last appointment so im afraid of bad news tomorrow. :-(
I'm so pissed at DH. He is such a procrastinating, lazy, excuse maker that I can't even stand it anymore. As I mentioned before, he broke his foot on Friday so our five year anniversary plans were cancelled. What was supposed to be a fun weekend turned out to be boring. I can't blame a broken foot, but even without that, our anniversary plans wouldn't have happened since he didn't make any. We decided what to do and he said he would make reservations and make appointments. As of Friday morning (before foot) he didn't.
I've been on him for months now to paint DS's new room. He hasn't. Now with his foot, that's on hold. It should have been done ages ago. Same with doing some landscaping. The worst is that our pool is not yet opened. I'm only going to have a short time to swim anyway and I wanted it ready some time in May. This is a twice yearly fight because it takes two people to get the cover off. Two summers now I've been pregnant, so I'm not the best candidate for the job. The other times I'm told its too heavy for me, which pisses me off. DH tries to get his brothers to help, but 1. its not their responsibility, 2. they're unreliable, and 3. I've never seen three people so incapable of communicating and nailing down plans. I grew up with a pool in my yard so I'm not under any delusions that its easy, but DH really knows how to turn an unpleasant chore into a completely horrible situation. Instead of figuring out a plan that works (not only for now, but every year), all DH wants to do is argue with me and make excuses.
With a broken foot, he doesn't need someone to help him. He needs people do to it for him. Right now I'm faced with either not opening the pool at all, which I hate to do because DS would have so much fun. Or paying a pool service to do it for several hundred bucks that we really need to put toward other things. I hate that DH screws around and we have to pay money for the chores he doesn't want to do. When do I get to pay someone to do the things I don't want to do? We really wanted a pool when house shopping and finally found one and its been awful because DH makes it that way. I guess since we're not doing for our anniversary plans (couples massage and dinner), we'll have the extra money. I'm also considering skipping my 10 year college reunion that I was going to go to because it would cost me $50 to attend a stupid picnic. So that's extra money.
I know it seems like I'm whining over a pool (FWP), but its honestly a lot more than just this. I am just so aggravated with this whole situation and so disappointed and angry that DH just doesn't care about taking care of our home or being a responsible adult.
I get that you are frustrated, been there. But....
Did you have plans made for your anniversary? It shouldn't fall on him just to set it up because he's the guy.
Were you going to help him paint? With landscaping?
I'm not saying he's in the right. But what I'm saying is it sounds like he has a laundry list of things to do. I don't keep up enough with every poster on here to know if there is a reason you can't help him, but if not --- these are all things I'm sure he would appreciate some assistance with. He probably feels overwhelmed and exhausted, getting to why that is will probably help you figure out to fix this.
I hope you also take time to appreciate him for any of the good/helpful things he does. Then he may be more apt to hop on other projects. People like to be appreciated for the things they do well vs hear what they are doing wrong.
Not trying to make it seem like I'm on his side but I don't have a lot of information to go on here. Since he out of commission with his ankle for a while seems like it would be a good time to have some serious conversations to get to the root of anything that is bothering you or him for that matter. I just think if you can understand him better it will help.
My husband and I have a hard time communicating lately, so I'm off to go follow my own advice.
Have you guys looked into couples counseling? You do seem to have a LOT to say every week about how he is coming up short, maybe you two would benefit from talking to a professional to help sort out some of your problems? Especially before throwing a baby into the mix.
I have actually thought about this in the past before DS was born and I wish I would have done it then. Right now, we have no one to watch DS (or another baby). Our closest family is about 40 minutes away and I wouldn't really want family involved in this anyway. We don't really trust a stranger (babysitter) to watch our children and we don't really have the money to pay someone anyway. So I don't know. I think we would benefit from individual counseling, but its so difficult to find the time with working full time and taking care of one child, not that DH would go for it anyway.
Pay a pool service to open the pool. Pick your battles. This sounds like one that wasn't worth fighting from the start. If it takes 2 people to open it and you can't now because you're pregnant/it was too heavy for you to help pre - pregnancy/ there is no real, reliable help to do it, just pay the money and save your sanity. It sucks because the money of course could be used for something else, but if you want to use the pool on a regular schedule each year, this is likely the route you'll have to take.
As far as painting, try working on it a little bit at a time yourself. Invite some friends over to help/keep you company. I painted DD'S bedroom while pretty pregnant due to DR'S traveling for work and yea it was slower going, but it got done.
Only thing I can bitch about is the fact my donut is gone. Hugs to you ladies with MIL problems. Just remember, YOU are in the power position here and they ultimately know that.
Thus them being giant whiny cunts
Mmmhhhhmmm donuts.
I bought my friend some crodos/doissants/cronuts from a local bakery on Friday as a gift. She ended up with 5 instead of 6. It was a processing charge.
DD woke up every hour last night then was awake at 7:30. I was hoping to take a nap with her this afternoon but she is refusing to nap. Grrrr..... So tired.
Read: pulling out.
Immediate reaction: why, that will do no good right now in your current state.
I thought the same thing. Then I re-read it, correctly, and second that. He says it's a "mental block" because the baby is big enough for him to feel, so it creeps him out. He needs to get over it.
I love how big men's egos are.
DH is in the same mental state.
Thank goodness DH doesn't have this problem, or at least keeps,it to himself. After not getting any because of pelvic bedrest, then getting cleared only to have DH hurt himself in the tough mudder the next day, mama has been missing it. Finally got some yesterday morning and this morning!
My MBF? This would have been the perfect weekend to get DS moved into his new room but the spare bed is still in that room. DH is planning on moving it out today, but I don't know when DS's crib and dresser will get moved in since DH is having a guy's weekend next weekend and leaving me home with DS.
DH and I have Scarlett as a front runner for this baby. I've always loved the name, but I never wanted to push him into liking it just because I did. Well, he's slowly come to like it a lot and it's now in our top spot.
When we found out we were having a girl DH's family said they liked one of our boy name choices, Parker, for a girl. DH loved it as well. Slowly everyone keeps saying how much they love that name, to the point where it's now making me second guess our top choice, because I'm wondering how I can be the only person in our family and friends that doesn't just automatically want to use that name. I just don't want her having to have people assume she's a boy when they first see her name. So, now I don't know what to do, but it's making me second guess everything.
DH and I have Scarlett as a front runner for this baby. I've always loved the name, but I never wanted to push him into liking it just because I did. Well, he's slowly come to like it a lot and it's now in our top spot.
When we found out we were having a girl DH's family said they liked one of our boy name choices, Parker, for a girl. DH loved it as well. Slowly everyone keeps saying how much they love that name, to the point where it's now making me second guess our top choice, because I'm wondering how I can be the only person in our family and friends that doesn't just automatically want to use that name. I just don't want her having to have people assume she's a boy when they first see her name. So, now I don't know what to do, but it's making me second guess everything.
Everyone will think she is a boy, because it is a boys name. They are all nuts. Scarlett is a million times better.
DH and I have Scarlett as a front runner for this baby. I've always loved the name, but I never wanted to push him into liking it just because I did. Well, he's slowly come to like it a lot and it's now in our top spot.
When we found out we were having a girl DH's family said they liked one of our boy name choices, Parker, for a girl. DH loved it as well. Slowly everyone keeps saying how much they love that name, to the point where it's now making me second guess our top choice, because I'm wondering how I can be the only person in our family and friends that doesn't just automatically want to use that name. I just don't want her having to have people assume she's a boy when they first see her name. So, now I don't know what to do, but it's making me second guess everything.
Scarlett's a beautiful name, I should know because my name is Scarlett. Johansson, duh
@AutumnBonfire
Pay a pool service to open the pool. Pick your battles. This sounds like one that wasn't worth fighting from the start. If it takes 2 people to open it and you can't now because you're pregnant/it was too heavy for you to help pre - pregnancy/ there is no real, reliable help to do it, just pay the money and save your sanity. It sucks because the money of course could be used for something else, but if you want to use the pool on a regular schedule each year, this is likely the route you'll have to take.
As far as painting, try working on it a little bit at a time yourself. Invite some friends over to help/keep you company. I painted DD'S bedroom while pretty pregnant due to DR'S traveling for work and yea it was slower going, but it got done.
The pool was a battle to fight back in March when the fight started. Its aggravating that this got dragged out until the end of May and now DH is injured. All he needs help with is lifting the cover, this takes maybe an hour tops. Everything else (chemicals, filter, etc.) is not that difficult. It kills me to have to pay probably $350 for someone else to do this. I think that's exactly what we're going to have to do. All this is doing is reinforcing DH's procrastination and he'll expect this every year.
As for the painting, I don't even know. This battle started when it was still winter.
So we had lunch before my mom left and we took sister and niece to airport. As we were leaving my mom says to me "ok fatty". I completely lost my shit. Told her that was never fucking ok and walked off. I've been crying all day. I feel like shit.
I hate when people volunteer to do something and then do it halfway. If you're going to do it, do it right. I had to go back and redo nearly everything she did. -_-
So we had lunch before my mom left and we took sister and niece to airport. As we were leaving my mom says to me "ok fatty". I completely lost my shit. Told her that was never fucking ok and walked off. I've been crying all day. I feel like shit.
I don't even know how to respond to that without using every curse word in the book. It's too hot for ppl to be effin with ppl and their emotions today. I know if my mom said that I'd be on my way to jail.
You are pregnant and beautiful! Never mind that nonsense. *hugs*
So we had lunch before my mom left and we took sister and niece to airport. As we were leaving my mom says to me "ok fatty". I completely lost my shit. Told her that was never fucking ok and walked off. I've been crying all day. I feel like shit.
I think she is jealous of you. Sad to say, but it just may be the truth!
DH and I have Scarlett as a front runner for this baby. I've always loved the name, but I never wanted to push him into liking it just because I did. Well, he's slowly come to like it a lot and it's now in our top spot.
When we found out we were having a girl DH's family said they liked one of our boy name choices, Parker, for a girl. DH loved it as well. Slowly everyone keeps saying how much they love that name, to the point where it's now making me second guess our top choice, because I'm wondering how I can be the only person in our family and friends that doesn't just automatically want to use that name. I just don't want her having to have people assume she's a boy when they first see her name. So, now I don't know what to do, but it's making me second guess everything.
Everyone will think she is a boy, because it is a boys name. They are all nuts. Scarlett is a million times better.
Agree 100% with this - that's why we're naming this baby Scarlett.
Parker was my best friends last name, so I wouldn't name a child that in general, but I can't envision a girl named that (sorry for being a name sexist).
So we had lunch before my mom left and we took sister and niece to airport. As we were leaving my mom says to me "ok fatty". I completely lost my shit. Told her that was never fucking ok and walked off. I've been crying all day. I feel like shit.
Fuck her! Do not let her ruin your day! Sending you strength and happiness!
“When the first baby laughed for the first time, its laugh broke into a
thousand pieces, and they all went skipping about, and that was the
beginning of fairies.” - J.M. Barrie Peter Pan
I have died every day waiting for you. Darling, don't be afraid, I have loved you for a thousand years. And all along I believed I would find you, time has brought your heart to me. I have loved you for a thousand years. I'll love you a thousand more.
I forgot to add my bitching... if the guy next door doesn't stop chainsawing, I swear I'm going to lose my shit. I know I've bitched about this before, but every time I think it's over, it's not.
There was the week that they were chopping down all the trees for 3 days (starting at 7:05am, because the noise ordinance ends at 7am). Then the following week, he was there each afternoon/evening chainsawing the trees they had cut down into smaller pieces. So FINALLY I thought it was done. Now two weeks later, there's fucking chainsawing again today.
I swear, I want to scream... I get that the guy was a hoarder but there can't possibly be anything left for him to be sawing over there!!
@Supertinkerham - how horrible of your mother! From the stories you've mentioned about her, I would be tempted to distance myself from her. She sounds completely toxic.
FU ticks in our backyard. I found one on DD yesterday. It seemed to have just jumped on because I put her down for a minute, she wandered off, came back, and there it was just hanging out on her neck. It hadn't started to burrow yet, but we still had to use tweezers to get it off. Ugh. I wouldn't be so annoyed if ticks carrying lyme disease weren't the norm around here, but they are.
I just want to be able to sick in my backyard while DD plays and not worry about this. We have a spray that can be applied to clothes and go through several washes that is supposed to help, but I'm going to look into an actual yard spraying service too.
My boss called the office and asked why i was at work today...um...for the meeting that you asked to have?!?!
Apparently he's in the bay area, 2 hours away, and completely forgot about it.
Most ridiculous shit ever. You had me come to work today so that you could have a meeting with me and the other 2 employees. One had to leave by 10 and he told you this on Thursday. The other hasn't been seen or heard from today.
ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME? What kind of boss decides to have a meeting on a fucking holiday and then forgets about it?!?
So we had lunch before my mom left and we took sister and niece to airport. As we were leaving my mom says to me "ok fatty". I completely lost my shit. Told her that was never fucking ok and walked off. I've been crying all day. I feel like shit.
Oh honey, big hugs!!
No one should ever say that. Ever. But especially to someone who is pregnant. I think it may be time to cut her out. If she can't be supportive then she doesn't deserve to be a part of you or your babies life. Remember - if they are dragging you down it's only because you are above them.
I understand what it feels like to have a MC then try to get pregnant for2 years. Just because I am preggers now doesn't mean we didn't have issues. Don't be a b!?&$ to me. And DONT sarcastically ask me if I am having twins. I am 147 and 5'3" at 32 weeks preg with a healthy 20ish# weight gain. You need sucker punched in the throat.
Have you guys looked into couples counseling? You do seem to have a LOT to say every week about how he is coming up short, maybe you two would benefit from talking to a professional to help sort out some of your problems? Especially before throwing a baby into the mix.
I have actually thought about this in the past before DS was born and I wish I would have done it then. Right now, we have no one to watch DS (or another baby). Our closest family is about 40 minutes away and I wouldn't really want family involved in this anyway. We don't really trust a stranger (babysitter) to watch our children and we don't really have the money to pay someone anyway. So I don't know. I think we would benefit from individual counseling, but its so difficult to find the time with working full time and taking care of one child, not that DH would go for it anyway.
Now you sound like a lazy excuse maker. Suck it up, princess. Marriages take work, and it doesn't sound like you're bringing anything to the table.
Re: the putting out comment. Last night while DH and I were DTD, he put his hand on my belly and got all uncomfortable cuz this LO moved at the top of my belly as if saying "get me as far away from this as possible!"
My MBF: our house is SO FREAKING HOT. like 80 degrees indoors already. So I went and bought a window ac for our bedroom (finally after 3 summers here). DH went to put it in, but our ladder isn't tall enough to take the window off outside. So we need to wait a week till MIL comes with hers. My eyeballs are sweating.
My husband made me get rid of my cleaning woman last August when he lost his job. Fine. Totally understand cutting back on bills.
While he was out of work, he did the things that really needed to be cleaned on a weekly basis - vacuum/mop floors, half bath mostly.
For some reason, he was under the impression that he could/would continue to help me clean after he got a new job, even though I tried to tell him that the three things he was doing wasn't even the half of what needed to be done (I.e. kitchen, full bath, dusting..The list goes on).
He's had this job for SEVEN MONTHS NOW, and hasn't lifted a finger. My pregnant, "I work 70 hours a week plus travel" ass is getting really sick and tired of waiting on him hand and foot, taking care of EVERYTHING having to do with our lives, my job, and this baby on a daily basis.
Last week, I made a chore list with names as a last resort before I start outsourcing - hasn't done a thing on it except load the dishwasher when I bitch at him to. I'm about to go remind him that he has a bathroom to clean and a dining/living room to vacuum - if he gives me attitude, I won't be responsible for my actions...
DH apparently mentioned to a couple of friends that we were just hanging out on the patio if they wanted to stop by. He "says" he did it just to be nice and didn't think anyone would actually come by. They are now on my patio ruining my wonderfully relaxing evening that DH and I were having and also staying for dinner. NOT cool, DH, to do all of this without even asking me if I'm up for company. I'm now confined to my house instead of enjoying the beautiful weather outside because I don't want to deal with entertaining.
DH and I went with a couple of friends to a baseball game today. DH took advantage of my auto-DD status and got piss drunk. He's been sleeping on and off since 6:00 and just puked his face off. I wasn't really annoyed about any of this until I went to McDs for impromptu dinner and just got home to find COLD FRIES.
Re: ***MBF***
But SIL, she took the prize. She and MIL hosted the baby shower sat. I know they've always had a little competition but usually it stays within DH's siblings. ...Until the shower. MIL left pretty quickly after it was "over" and was the first to leave. As soon as she was gone SIL started telling us all (DH's Step-mother, step-grandmother and half-sister, my family and my BF) about how selfish MIL was and to prove her point proceeded to tell everyone "what kind of mother tries to commit suicide on the birthday of her youngest son." *crickets* We all just sat there in silence not knowing what to say which apparently gave her the impression she should continue on. WTF?!
MBF#2 I cannot stop obsessing about Sonic's Lemon-berry slushed ...and now doughnuts but I'm STUCK ON FUCKING BED REST! Errrrrr
According to google, she has until 4 years after I turn 18 in tx. He just inherited monies from his mom that passed away. He was a shit parent, too. He could voluntarily give her money if he wanted.
I was in foster care and a homeless shelter in HS bc of their crazy, so I'm just not very sympathetic to either one of them.
Ugh, so shitty all around. Sorry you have that in your life but I like what PP said about how you gave mister and little man on the way. I know it doesn't make up for not having supportive parents but it sounds like you've really worked hard and gotten yourself in a good place and position in life. Nobody can take that away!,
I get that you are frustrated, been there. But.... Did you have plans made for your anniversary? It shouldn't fall on him just to set it up because he's the guy. Were you going to help him paint? With landscaping? I'm not saying he's in the right. But what I'm saying is it sounds like he has a laundry list of things to do. I don't keep up enough with every poster on here to know if there is a reason you can't help him, but if not --- these are all things I'm sure he would appreciate some assistance with. He probably feels overwhelmed and exhausted, getting to why that is will probably help you figure out to fix this. I hope you also take time to appreciate him for any of the good/helpful things he does. Then he may be more apt to hop on other projects. People like to be appreciated for the things they do well vs hear what they are doing wrong. Not trying to make it seem like I'm on his side but I don't have a lot of information to go on here. Since he out of commission with his ankle for a while seems like it would be a good time to have some serious conversations to get to the root of anything that is bothering you or him for that matter. I just think if you can understand him better it will help. My husband and I have a hard time communicating lately, so I'm off to go follow my own advice.
Pay a pool service to open the pool. Pick your battles. This sounds like one that wasn't worth fighting from the start. If it takes 2 people to open it and you can't now because you're pregnant/it was too heavy for you to help pre - pregnancy/ there is no real, reliable help to do it, just pay the money and save your sanity. It sucks because the money of course could be used for something else, but if you want to use the pool on a regular schedule each year, this is likely the route you'll have to take.
As far as painting, try working on it a little bit at a time yourself. Invite some friends over to help/keep you company. I painted DD'S bedroom while pretty pregnant due to DR'S traveling for work and yea it was slower going, but it got done.
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I bought my friend some crodos/doissants/cronuts from a local bakery on Friday as a gift. She ended up with 5 instead of 6. It was a processing charge.
DH:34 - Me: 33
Emmaline Winifred - 1.25.2013
Wesley Daniel - 7.24.2014
#3 EDD - 6.24.2018
Thank goodness DH doesn't have this problem, or at least keeps,it to himself. After not getting any because of pelvic bedrest, then getting cleared only to have DH hurt himself in the tough mudder the next day, mama has been missing it. Finally got some yesterday morning and this morning!
My MBF? This would have been the perfect weekend to get DS moved into his new room but the spare bed is still in that room. DH is planning on moving it out today, but I don't know when DS's crib and dresser will get moved in since DH is having a guy's weekend next weekend and leaving me home with DS.
When we found out we were having a girl DH's family said they liked one of our boy name choices, Parker, for a girl. DH loved it as well. Slowly everyone keeps saying how much they love that name, to the point where it's now making me second guess our top choice, because I'm wondering how I can be the only person in our family and friends that doesn't just automatically want to use that name. I just don't want her having to have people assume she's a boy when they first see her name. So, now I don't know what to do, but it's making me second guess everything.
Scarlett's a beautiful name, I should know because my name is Scarlett. Johansson, duh
I hate when people volunteer to do something and then do it halfway. If you're going to do it, do it right. I had to go back and redo nearly everything she did. -_-
You are pregnant and beautiful! Never mind that nonsense. *hugs*
We have our "Irish Twins"
DD born 8/7/2013
DS born 7/28/14
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Parker was my best friends last name, so I wouldn't name a child that in general, but I can't envision a girl named that (sorry for being a name sexist).
“When the first baby laughed for the first time, its laugh broke into a thousand pieces, and they all went skipping about, and that was the beginning of fairies.”
- J.M. Barrie Peter Pan
married on the sweetest day 10.20.12
Chicken - 07.08.06 | Bubsy - 02.24.09 | Sunshine - 07.16.14
There was the week that they were chopping down all the trees for 3 days (starting at 7:05am, because the noise ordinance ends at 7am). Then the following week, he was there each afternoon/evening chainsawing the trees they had cut down into smaller pieces. So FINALLY I thought it was done. Now two weeks later, there's fucking chainsawing again today.
I swear, I want to scream... I get that the guy was a hoarder but there can't possibly be anything left for him to be sawing over there!!
DH:34 - Me: 33
Emmaline Winifred - 1.25.2013
Wesley Daniel - 7.24.2014
#3 EDD - 6.24.2018
FU ticks in our backyard. I found one on DD yesterday. It seemed to have just jumped on because I put her down for a minute, she wandered off, came back, and there it was just hanging out on her neck. It hadn't started to burrow yet, but we still had to use tweezers to get it off. Ugh. I wouldn't be so annoyed if ticks carrying lyme disease weren't the norm around here, but they are.
I just want to be able to sick in my backyard while DD plays and not worry about this. We have a spray that can be applied to clothes and go through several washes that is supposed to help, but I'm going to look into an actual yard spraying service too.
DH:34 - Me: 33
Emmaline Winifred - 1.25.2013
Wesley Daniel - 7.24.2014
#3 EDD - 6.24.2018
I understand what it feels like to have a MC then try to get pregnant for2 years. Just because I am preggers now doesn't mean we didn't have issues. Don't be a b!?&$ to me. And DONT sarcastically ask me if I am having twins. I am 147 and 5'3" at 32 weeks preg with a healthy 20ish# weight gain. You need sucker punched in the throat.
Now you sound like a lazy excuse maker. Suck it up, princess. Marriages take work, and it doesn't sound like you're bringing anything to the table.
Last night while DH and I were DTD, he put his hand on my belly and got all uncomfortable cuz this LO moved at the top of my belly as if saying "get me as far away from this as possible!"
My MBF: our house is SO FREAKING HOT. like 80 degrees indoors already. So I went and bought a window ac for our bedroom (finally after 3 summers here). DH went to put it in, but our ladder isn't tall enough to take the window off outside. So we need to wait a week till MIL comes with hers. My eyeballs are sweating.
While he was out of work, he did the things that really needed to be cleaned on a weekly basis - vacuum/mop floors, half bath mostly.
For some reason, he was under the impression that he could/would continue to help me clean after he got a new job, even though I tried to tell him that the three things he was doing wasn't even the half of what needed to be done (I.e. kitchen, full bath, dusting..The list goes on).
He's had this job for SEVEN MONTHS NOW, and hasn't lifted a finger. My pregnant, "I work 70 hours a week plus travel" ass is getting really sick and tired of waiting on him hand and foot, taking care of EVERYTHING having to do with our lives, my job, and this baby on a daily basis.
Last week, I made a chore list with names as a last resort before I start outsourcing - hasn't done a thing on it except load the dishwasher when I bitch at him to. I'm about to go remind him that he has a bathroom to clean and a dining/living room to vacuum - if he gives me attitude, I won't be responsible for my actions...