Who in your delivery room?

EricaG1014 · May 2014

Just like with DD, it will just be DH and I.

AnnieRoo13 · May 2014

I just found out this weekend from my SIL that my MIL is dying to be in the delivery room. I'm really wanting it to be just DH and I so I think I'll say no. My mom passed away 5 years ago so I think MIL tries to make up for that, but honestly I wouldn't have wanted my own mom in there let alone someone else's.

After reading this thread I am actually considering telling everyone that we need a few hours after the birth to get to know our baby and spend time as a family. I know MIL will be wanting to be in there like a shot, but I don't like the idea of other people hogging my baby, I think we will need some time with LO alone.

absolutelymaybe · May 2014

I always wanted it to be just me and DH. Thankfully, the whole delivering twins thing happens in the OR and I'm 99% sure I'm going to get my wish with absolutely no drama. (Not that I think anyone is dying to be in there with me, but it gives me peace of mind knowing I have an easy excuse.)

*ETA* - I was just talking about non-medical staff present. I'm totally cool with the hospital entourage that it will take to deliver twins.

tugglek23 · May 2014

We're just having me and hubby in the room. I think it's going to be a special time for the two of us and want to keep it that way. We've made a rule too that only our parents will be able to come see the baby day of. Everyone else can wait till the next day. :-)

mussalynn · May 2014

AnnieRoo13 said:

I just found out this weekend from my SIL that my MIL is dying to be in the delivery room. I'm really wanting it to be just DH and I so I think I'll say no. My mom passed away 5 years ago so I think MIL tries to make up for that, but honestly I wouldn't have wanted my own mom in there let alone someone else's. After reading this thread I am actually considering telling everyone that we need a few hours after the birth to get to know our baby and spend time as a family. I know MIL will be wanting to be in there like a shot, but I don't like the idea of other people hogging my baby, I think we will need some time with LO alone.

I highly recommend doing this - as much as everyone wants to meet the baby as soon as humanly possible, he/she will be around for a long time!! Those first few hours are SO important for you and your DH to bond with the baby, as well as it's a crucial time for establishing bf'ing if you are planning to.

missnacholover · May 2014

mussalynn said:

AnnieRoo13 said:

I just found out this weekend from my SIL that my MIL is dying to be in the delivery room. I'm really wanting it to be just DH and I so I think I'll say no. My mom passed away 5 years ago so I think MIL tries to make up for that, but honestly I wouldn't have wanted my own mom in there let alone someone else's. After reading this thread I am actually considering telling everyone that we need a few hours after the birth to get to know our baby and spend time as a family. I know MIL will be wanting to be in there like a shot, but I don't like the idea of other people hogging my baby, I think we will need some time with LO alone.

I highly recommend doing this - as much as everyone wants to meet the baby as soon as humanly possible, he/she will be around for a long time!! Those first few hours are SO important for you and your DH to bond with the baby, as well as it's a crucial time for establishing bf'ing if you are planning to.

I agree. AND it's important to remember that this is your and DH's experience. Yes, becoming a grandparent is an exciting time, but the 3 VIPs in this whole thing are mommy, daddy, and baby. Everyone else can chill.

crizz13 · May 2014

I agree with previous posters - I'm just going to have my husband there. We will tell the grandparents on either side when I go in to labor, but will ask them not to come to the hospital until they hear from us. We want some time with just the three of us and I personally don't want to feel like people are waiting for me to give birth during labor. Picturing people in the waiting room for what could be hours will just stress me out more!

kaimee27 · May 2014

Mostly I just want DH and my mom to be there the whole time. My MIL and I are close and she's super awesome, so I would be okay with it if she wanted to be there, or if my older sister wanted to pop in at some point (I don't think my younger sister would want to be there until afterwards anyways), but really, I just want DH and my mom. They both already know that I want them there.

xiaopeapod · May 2014

I just want my DH with me, no one else. Having anybody else around would make me very uncomfortable. Having my mom around will probably makes things worst since she doesn't speak English and she doesn't understand any of the modern technologies. I would end up having to translate and provide support for her and that would be insane!

KTgator · May 2014

We told our families early that we wanted it to just be us. I also told them I'd rather not have them in the waiting room (i have anxiety and didn't want to feel rushed to have people come in). Because they knew so early and had so much time to adjust to the idea it really went over well. They knew me well enough to know that me not wanting them there was nothing against them- just a way to keep myself from being anxious. I would suggest making your wishes known as early as possible

that way they know and it's no surprise with hurt feelings

runningmama14 · May 2014

crizz13 said:

I agree with previous posters - I'm just going to have my husband there. We will tell the grandparents on either side when I go in to labor, but will ask them not to come to the hospital until they hear from us. We want some time with just the three of us and I personally don't want to feel like people are waiting for me to give birth during labor. Picturing people in the waiting room for what could be hours will just stress me out more!

No kidding! One of the local hospitals has individual waiting rooms right outside each birthing suite. Umm, no thank you!

jaminjeff · May 2014

I will add to mine that if I did want other people in there and asked my mom to be in there, I'd also insist on having MIL. We're not the best of friends, but my kids are equally her grandchildren as they are my mom's and if I end up only having boys (I have a 20 y/o stepson, a 2 y/o son and this is our last LO that is unknown), I'd like my future DILs to extend the courtesy to me.

CPM13 · May 2014

@runningmama14 I went through the same thing with DH. At first he thought all 4 of our parents would be there... (Um, No, thank you) He just had no idea. But once I explained my thoughts he was totally on board and we also waited until we got to the recovery room to allow visitors. (Which for us was about 6 hours after she was born)

We're hoping for a similar experience this time although a part of me wishes there were a way for DD to be there with us...

crystaldh · May 2014

@runningmama14 Beautiful work! And I'm sure it's not easy to get such great shots in that sort of environment, with body fluids, screams, grimacing and everything happening so fast! I'm amazed!

udenbyjj · May 2014

Before I had my first son last year, I thought about this a lot. I was scared of people seeing my vagina, seeing me possibly poop, etc. When the time came, my mom and my boyfriend held my legs. There was so much going on, I had been in labor 36 hours, and I pushed for 3 hours. I honestly didn't care who saw what, its a natural process. Its a beautiful and spiritual process. I think back on it now, the NICU had to come into my room twice, so I had 2 nurses, the OB, mom, boyfriend, and 6 NICU nurses x2.
About how many people you can have in your room, it depends on the hospital. As long as its not an enormous amount and you are comfortable with who is in your room, that's all that matters.

alysonmh · May 2014

My hospital only allows 3 people in the room. I am only having my husband and 11 year old daughter in the room. When I had my daughter there were too many people there and it made the experience too chaotic. I couldn't focus on myself or my daughter. This time we aren't even having visitors after the baby is born, we are waiting to go home to have people come say hi to our little one.

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