DH is really depressed lately. We are currently living in his parents house (separate basement apartment) till our house is ready to be moved into. Which is about 1 more month. We've been in TIGHT living quarters to say the least since July 13'.
Today seemed to be the breaking point.
My husband is saying some scary stuff like he's rethinking the choice of becoming a parent and nothing makes him happy anymore.
I am so drained and have no idea what to do. I need prayers and advice stat.
I haven't stopped crying all day.
Re: marriage help
Things will be much better when you're in your own house, but those problems won't disappear just because you moved out.
Thinking of you. Feel free to PM if you want to talk!
First I want to say I am so sorry. It is so hard to be married when one spouse is going through a hard time because it makes it harder on everyone.
Living in tight quarters is rough no matter how good the relationships. Does your DH voice why he is feeling depressed about being a parent? Is it just money/house related or just lack of space/freedom, etc? My DH basically had a depressive meltdown when DD was about 2-6 months old and I can completely relate. We had numerous issues with her from the start and basically being a parent was harder and more consuming than he thought it would be and he just did not know how to cope. It was so so hard. He acted out and was basically being a douche and the only thing that got us through it was me holding him accountable and yet staying with him through it. With time it slowly got better and while I don't think parenting will ever be easy on him we are in a much better place.
You say that you get to move in a month. Does your gut say that the move will be enough to make it better? If so I would just try to keep reassuring him and talking about how excited you are to have your own space, etc., and hope that he starts to come around. If it is deeper than that is there anyone he can talk to?
Lastly I would make sure you are taking care of your needs too. having a depressed spouse is awful and it kind of sucked me down there too for a while. I leaned on my mom for support and tried to take time to catch a break and it really helped. You are not alone. We have been together for nearly a decade and known each other almost twice that and having children still threw us completely off.
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