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95% sure I will unexpectedly become the sole parent

Scorpgirl444Scorpgirl444 member
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So...the soon to be ex did something *extremely* stupid.  There is a very good chance that he will never see his kids grow up.  We have 22 month old b/g twins.  Although we were getting divorced and I was already going to be a single parent, he had primary custody.  Because of what he did I am 95% sure that I will become their sole parent.  I am waiting for final paperwork with his signature to believe this will happen.
I'll be honest...I'm scared.  I have really good friends in San Antonio.  I am currently in Houston.  I am hoping with what happened I will be able to move to San Antonio.  All of my family is in NJ and I am certainly never moving back there.  lol
I don't know how I will handle being mom and dad.  I don't know how I will handle explaining to my babies why they can't see their dad.  

Hoping to get some good support here.  :-)
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Re: 95% sure I will unexpectedly become the sole parent

  • MinnesotaMomma91MinnesotaMomma91 member
    Welcome to the board.

    Youve peaked my interest. What stupidthing did he do. And really being mom and dad isnt all bad. I like not having to split time with my sons father amd hes facing some time for some really stupid shit(feliny arson and domestic violence)
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  • jellybean529jellybean529 member
    I'm a mostly sole parent going through a divorce. My ex lives 1000 miles away and comes to visit DD about once every six weeks for a couple of days. I strongly recommend moving to where you have support. It's always good to have someone who can step in for an hour/an afternoon/a day and give you a break when you're at wits end. Good luck to you!
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  • 20thirteen20thirteen member
    Welcome to our board!  I don't really have any advice though.  My mind is drained today...

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  • Scorpgirl444Scorpgirl444 member
    Well since his arrest record is public anyway...he got caught soliciting sex from a minor.  Looks like it was a police set up.  It's a felony 2 which means the person was 14 or under.  He's facing jail time.  If convicted...he will never see his kids again.  The twins have their own lawyer from the divorce.  She is involved.  I'm just waiting to hear the final say from her about being the sole parent.

    Thank you for all the welcomes.  This is certainly not where I thought I'd be right now.
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  • MinnesotaMomma91MinnesotaMomma91 member
    Im sorry to hear that is what he was arrested for. Im mostly sorry that your children will not get to have a relationshuo with him because of his actions.

    My sons father probably wont have a relationship ds for some poor choices hes made.

    I suggest finding a local support group, or moms group.
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  • radiantfateradiantfate member
    I'm so sorry to hear that. @beccaga16‌ can probably be a lot of help to you because she went through a very similar thing. xoxo
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  • radiantfateradiantfate member
    Dang it. Signed in under the wrong name...I'm jellybean529. Stupid mobile bump.
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  • MinnesotaMomma91MinnesotaMomma91 member
    Ummmm @jellybean529 how many names do you have
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  • jellybean529jellybean529 member
    edited May 2014
    @minnesotamomma91 I think I only have two? The one I posted under last night was my knot name back in 2001...LOL. I was mrs.tbc but I got that changed because the stupid dot kept people from being able to tag me.
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  • freeatlast2014freeatlast2014 member
    Welcome. I wish you the best of luck.
    Might I ask why do your kids have their own lawyer for the divorce?
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