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Friendly reminder of The Bump Community Rules!!

lisarenlisaren member
edited May 2014 in November 2014 Moms

Welcome to The Bump Community!

This is a great place to meet other moms in your area and in the same stage of pregnancy or parenting. In the community you can share great advice, your funny stories and vent about parenting life.

However there are a few rules we ask that you follow. Please read the following rules before joining in on the discussion. These rules were created to help keep the community an informative, fun and enjoyable environment.

We’re all on the same page here – whether you’re TTC, pregnant or a parent – we’re all in this together and these forums were created to help us support one another.

Below is the short version of the community rules. A full version can be found here.
(The rules for our member-created social groups can be found here.)

By creating an account on The Bump that will be actively posting in the community, you must commit to the following:

1. Remember the human: Malicious behavior is not acceptable here

When you communicate online, all you see is a computer screen – you are anonymously conversing with others behind a screen. This does not give you the right to maliciously criticize or attack others. Remember – there is a human on the other side of that screen. Adhere to the same standards of behavior online that you follow in real life.

The Bump encourages you to share your opinions while respecting others' thoughts and feelings as well. Feel free to share, but be ready to hear and accept other opinions that you may not always agree with. Because you do not agree with someone, does not mean this is the place to attack anyone else's beliefs.

Personal attacks are unacceptable. These posts include, but are not limited to: starting a thread with a user's name as the topic/title to "bash" them, linking to a thread to call out a user on their post, thoughts or beliefs (not a topic), calling a username out maliciously, starting a malicious or derogatory poll/question about a user, using images (memes, gifs, etc.) in a direct attack/vicious manner, etc. If you're thinking of using a specific term such as a racist or derogatory insult, think again about why that's a bad idea, and don't do it.

Not sure what would qualify as unacceptable? Make sure you can answer NO to these questions about your post:

• Does this post put down or attack another user? 
Any communication in the forums, even those expressing disagreement or opinions must be delivered in a manner that is respectful toward other users (ask for support, answer a question, further the discussion, etc).

• Is this post malicious in any way? 
Regardless of intent, posts that contain any mean-spirited content may be removed and the poster may be banned.

• Is this post inflammatory?
Posts that contain any hint of maliciousness or provocation of users to gain attention may be removed.

If you answered YES to one or more, the post is not appropriate for The Bump forums and should not be posted.

If for any reason you are suspected of being malicious towards a user or group, there will be consequences that may eventually, if not automatically, lead to banning from the community.
The Bump administrators and volunteer moderators reserve the right to remove anything or any user we deem inappropriate or malicious at our own discretion.

2. Its All Public.

We know you are excited to share all of your news, whether it's on our boards, by posting your blog or via other personal websites, but remember: this is a public place, so make sure you trust those you are giving personal info to.

It is important to also remember that your username will come up in a search engine if searched - so please, keep in mind anyone can read what you have to say if they have your username.
If you are questioning how much should be shared about something, you are probably better off not posting about it.

NSFW material: Not allowed. We reserve the right to remove any post we deem offensive. This goes for pornographic material (yes, even gifs), vile language, etc. Keep it PG-13.

3. No Soliciting.

There are some incredibly talented Bumpies within our community with great ideas, but our boards are here for members to share ideas and hold discussions without feeling like they are being bombarded by promotions and solicitations. This applies to all sorts of businesses - photographers, graphic designers, Etsy shops, etc.

What does that mean exactly? No posts about your business, at all.

If a member asks for a business recommendation, you cannot respond with yours.
In your signature, you cannot mention your business whatsoever, or link to it (ebay, etsy, etc.)
You can, however, link to your personal blog.

If you are unsure about what's allowed (this can be confusing), just follow one general rule: other members should not be able to guess that you are a vendor of any sort.
All “spam” will be removed.

4. Personal Information and/or Messages are Not to Be Shared on the Boards.

No collecting, storing or posting another members' personal information, under any circumstance.

Regardless of what was shared by another member, you may not repost any "real" names, photos or any other identifying information.

Private messages within the community are meant to stay private, between two users. If someone reaches out to you with a private message, this message is to stay private. There is a reason it was taken off the boards and into your inbox. Please, respect each other and keep private messages private.

If you suspect that you have received "hate mail" in a private message, please contact a board moderator or a Bump administrator. You can also email community@thebump.com
Any violations will not be tolerated. Invading the privacy of another member will result in an immediate termination of your account.

5. Moderators and Reporting

While we have teams here at The Bump watching the boards, we understand that not every post that violates the rules will be addressed.

Moderators are Bumpies who go above and beyond their membership. They realize that the time they spent on the boards can be used to make them better, so they volunteer their time to moderate specific boards in the community. These members are here to utilize the boards just as you, but are also around to help other members and address issues. Moderators also have the ability to warn/ban users when necessary, based on their own discretion after reading and understanding the community rules. Moderators don't speak for the site, but they are here to help make our community a better place.

If you have a question about moderation, we’re happy to discuss it with you in private. You can PM an administrator or email community@thebump.com

The Bump also relies on our members to report posts you may think are out of line or violate the rules. If you see something out of line, please report it and it will be addressed.

If your posts are reported by a large number of users, or a high percentage of your posts are reported, your account will be reviewed by an administrator. After an in-depth review, you may be banned for something small because your cumulative posting record has shown that you consistently contribute negatively within the community.
We appreciate snarky and fun, but do not support those who are constantly negative or malicious.

Flagging: The flag feature is there for you to report a malicious or inappropriate post as well as spam, trolling, etc. Do not flag a post just because you disagree with a poster or do not like a poster. If a member is abusing the flagging button, action will be taken that may or may not end in a banning from our community.

Respect and help the admins and moderators not by replying to bad comments, but by flagging bad comments. That is what the button is there for.

6. Be Real.

No impersonating other members or employees of The Bump. Actions such as these are subject to banning or termination of account.

This includes creating a username as an "attack" or impersonation of another member/username (alter egos/AEs included), under any circumstance. There will be no tolerance for this behavior.

All usernames and their uses are always subject to review by The Bump administrators and moderators.

The Bump doesn’t allow multiple accounts per user.

"Trolling" The Bump boards by posting inflammatory or off-topic messages with the intent of provoking members/disrupting normal discussion is not permitted and will lead to banning from the boards.

The Bottom Line:

The Bump, its administrators and volunteer moderators reserve the right to remove or edit any posts at their sole discretion.

Any posts that are contributing to a negative and/or threatening atmosphere on our forums will be removed and may result in a warning, suspension or termination of your posting rights in the community.

If you would like to change a username, report a bug or an issue on the forums, or to delete your account, please contact your board moderator or email the administrator atcommunity@thebump.com








                              
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  • strujillo84strujillo84 member
    I never said that it was bullying, I stated that to some it might considered bullying. Before you go off on me, please make sure you read what I have wrote. I only mentioned bullying in the beginning because many have called it "bullying". I know what bullying is, I deal with 5 days out of the week. 
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    @Maelara, I wish I could love tit 100 times, especially the part about this board being what you put into it.
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  • strujillo84strujillo84 member

    Maelara said:
    @lisaren posted this to clarify some 'issues' that we have been having. Most of what goes on here is people trying to be nice and point out that something might not be met with a standing ovation. We go to great lengths to explain why. However, we are then the ones being called names, bullied and attacked because the poster didnt like what we said. And sometimes, we are just blunt and point it out. It gets frustrating. Also, as I've said about 1 million times now, this board is what you put into it. It's not here for the support of random people who come here and demand it or guilt it out of us. When I was high risk and thought my baby was too, everyone here was amazing, they were so supportive. That's because I have also been supportive. You get what you put out there. Just like real life. This is @strujillo84‌
    This is me, what? 
    My post was about a few threads not the whole N14. I get on everyday and read what is going on. I just haven't been able to reply but a few times. I am not calling anyone out. I'm not trying to guilt anyone into anything. I'm not demanding anything from anyone. I'm not calling anyone a bully. It's not okay to mock someone or degrade them. It's also not right to attack someone for mentioning something to bring it to everyone's attention. There have been some down right mean things said about certain people that shouldn't have been said and were very personal attacks. I'm just saying we need to respect each other. 

    "• Does this post put down or attack another user? 
    Any communication in the forums, even those expressing disagreement or opinions must be delivered in a manner that is respectful toward other users (ask for support, answer a question, further the discussion, etc)."
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  • MaelaraMaelara member
    strujillo84 said:

    Maelara said:
    @lisaren posted this to clarify some 'issues' that we have been having. Most of what goes on here is people trying to be nice and point out that something might not be met with a standing ovation. We go to great lengths to explain why. However, we are then the ones being called names, bullied and attacked because the poster didnt like what we said. And sometimes, we are just blunt and point it out. It gets frustrating. Also, as I've said about 1 million times now, this board is what you put into it. It's not here for the support of random people who come here and demand it or guilt it out of us. When I was high risk and thought my baby was too, everyone here was amazing, they were so supportive. That's because I have also been supportive. You get what you put out there. Just like real life. This is @strujillo84‌
    This is me, what? 
    My post was about a few threads not the whole N14. I get on everyday and read what is going on. I just haven't been able to reply but a few times. I am not calling anyone out. I'm not trying to guilt anyone into anything. I'm not demanding anything from anyone. I'm not calling anyone a bully. It's not okay to mock someone or degrade them. It's also not right to attack someone for mentioning something to bring it to everyone's attention. There have been some down right mean things said about certain people that shouldn't have been said and were very personal attacks. I'm just saying we need to respect each other. 

    "• Does this post put down or attack another user? 
    Any communication in the forums, even those expressing disagreement or opinions must be delivered in a manner that is respectful toward other users (ask for support, answer a question, further the discussion, etc)."

    I didn't quote you, so I put your name in at the end so I didn't confuse anyone.

    I never said YOU guilt or demand support, I said some people do and this board is what you make it. I've seen one or two rude things on here, I'll admit that, but nothing that was a highly personal attack. We don't know each others personal info for that to happen. Well, @Kristy774 knows some stuff about me, but we cool ;) I have to say, this is the Internet yo, barring anything that violates the rules, everyone has the right to point out or bring up what they want.

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  • Ccalkins0301Ccalkins0301 member
    Mocking people and poking fun at them because they wanted a due date buddy? No where in the rules says you can't post a thread wanting a due date buddy does it? So if someone does make a thread about it let them don't go into their thread and make fun of it. To me that is rude and not needed. And whoever says grow thicker skin you must forget your on a pregnancy board we are hormonal and take things personally. To the person who said maybe this isn't the place for you? This is a pregnancy board and people come on here for different reasons maybe just to read what others are going through and don't want to post. Maybe to find a due date buddy, regardless they don't deserve to be out down. Obviously people are feeling that way and instead of defending your self and saying you didn't do it just change it and stop poking fun at people
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  • MaelaraMaelara member
    edited May 2014
    Ccalkins0301 said:
    Mocking people and poking fun at them because they wanted a due date buddy? No where in the rules says you can't post a thread wanting a due date buddy does it? So if someone does make a thread about it let them don't go into their thread and make fun of it. To me that is rude and not needed. And whoever says grow thicker skin you must forget your on a pregnancy board we are hormonal and take things personally. To the person who said maybe this isn't the place for you? This is a pregnancy board and people come on here for different reasons maybe just to read what others are going through and don't want to post. Maybe to find a due date buddy, regardless they don't deserve to be out down. Obviously people are feeling that way and instead of defending your self and saying you didn't do it just change it and stop poking fun at people

    I'm ignoring this because you have proved over and over there is no reasoning with you.
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  • MaelaraMaelara member
    lisaren said:
    Mocking people and poking fun at them because they wanted a due date buddy? No where in the rules says you can't post a thread wanting a due date buddy does it? So if someone does make a thread about it let them don't go into their thread and make fun of it. To me that is rude and not needed. And whoever says grow thicker skin you must forget your on a pregnancy board we are hormonal and take things personally. To the person who said maybe this isn't the place for you? This is a pregnancy board and people come on here for different reasons maybe just to read what others are going through and don't want to post. Maybe to find a due date buddy, regardless they don't deserve to be out down. Obviously people are feeling that way and instead of defending your self and saying you didn't do it just change it and stop poking fun at people
    I said maybe this isn't the place for you. There are a million other websites that may be better suited for you and your personality. That's all I was saying. I'm finding it strange that a bunch of people I've never seen post before are all of a sudden declaring what assholes we are. And at like 1:00 am. Wtf. :-w

    Iknowright? She can't be reasoned with, don't try.
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  • Ccalkins0301Ccalkins0301 member
    Maybe because we are the people who read posts and don't comment because we see how rude some are and make fun of others whether it be bullyingn or not. All I am saying is people obviously feel that way so instead of everyone getting defensive just try not to do it.
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  • MaelaraMaelara member
    Kllopez1221 said:
    Mocking people and poking fun at them because they wanted a due date buddy? No where in the rules says you can't post a thread wanting a due date buddy does it? So if someone does make a thread about it let them don't go into their thread and make fun of it. To me that is rude and not needed. And whoever says grow thicker skin you must forget your on a pregnancy board we are hormonal and take things personally. To the person who said maybe this isn't the place for you? This is a pregnancy board and people come on here for different reasons maybe just to read what others are going through and don't want to post. Maybe to find a due date buddy, regardless they don't deserve to be out down. Obviously people are feeling that way and instead of defending your self and saying you didn't do it just change it and stop poking fun at people
    If you want to interpret it that way, then that's on you. But in those posts, no one was mocking. We all just simply stated how redundant those posts were, since we are all due in November. You don't post here very often, so you can't judge the tone of the board. I'm getting really tired of all the white knighting done by lurkers and people who don't take the time to really get to know the board. Plain and simple as @Maelara‌ and all the others have said, you get out what you put in. So if all you do is go around and stir up drama by white knighting, then yea, you're gonna get push back. If you think we are harsh, seriously go spend some time on any of the tri boards. We are pretty damn soft and cuddly in comparison.

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