Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: monday bitchfest
Me personally I have anxiety over clutter so my family drives me crazy. I spend lots of time going behind them trying to keep their stuff organized and always telling them to put things up.
Rainbow Baby! BFP 02/20/2018 EDD 11/01/2018
BFP 10/31/2017 EDD 07/09/2018 Miscarriage 11/28/2017
DD # 1: BFP 5/22/2014 EDD 1/30/2015 Born 02/06/2015
Enough said.
Me: 28 H: 28 DS: 4
Trinitrotoluene: "My ears have been deflowered ....my mouth just hasn't been!"
Also, I'm on CD 46 with no O yet and last cycle was 43 days with no O at all. So frustrated.... I'm not sure if its because of the CP I had or if its all the stress from all the hours I'm working. I'd get it checked out but I have zero time off and I can't afford to call off work AND pay for a visit at the moment since, starting next month my income will be cut in half for two months while my work day will stay the same length.
(I have one salary paying job and one side job. The salary position goes to 55 hours a week for summer so I have to leave the second job and its pay for two months.)
what a cunt! You're better than I am, I would have said something really rude and sarcastic to her!!
@mackenziesmama - I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!! Sounds really rough
Together: 09.27.2007 / Engaged: 05.05.2008 / Home: 11.27.2012 / Married: 09.27.2013
RIP: Mya - Female Siberian Husky Angel
Osiris - Male Black ASH / Angel - Female Siberian Husky / Titan - Male Alaskan Malamute
Mirena Removed: 03.2014 / NTNP: 04.2014 / TTC: 07.2014
...old - but I'm not that old; young - but I'm not that bold...
DD: 10 (born August 2004)
Married 03/01/14
TTC#2
BFP: 05/17/2014 EDD: 1/25/15 MMC: 06/30/2014
DD: 10 (born August 2004)
Married 03/01/14
TTC#2
BFP: 05/17/2014 EDD: 1/25/15 MMC: 06/30/2014
Hugs to everyone who has Monday bitches. I'm adding another!
We had our A/C units tuned up this weekend and they found the downstairs unit is leaking. It's a bad coil... we had the upstairs unit coil replaced last year, under warranty (that I had to fight for because they claimed it wasn't covered even thought it was) and I asked them to replace the other coil because they were from the same batch and we knew it would fail. They wouldn't because it wasn't leaking... yet. Of course now it is leaking and it is a few weeks out of warranty. I tried going up the chain of crooks at the installing company before and the head guy basically told me to suck eggs so I called the manufacturer instead. They are going to see what they can do but told me I might as well just get it fixed a) so we have air - it's already 83 today and b) because they will probably just reimburse us the part (around $2k) if they are going to cover it.
I'm so aggravated by the installing company... we have had nothing but problems with our units and it's all on install - like the connectors that weren't properly hooked up and leaked coolant - they tried to tell us someone was huffing our coolant! Soooo pissed. I guess I should have had our A/C serviced in January so it was covered?!
Edit because spelling is hard when you're pissed
What Are Your Thoughts on Tap Dancing Penguins?
DH: 45
BFP #1 3/19/14 EDD 11/29/14 MMC D&C 4/24/14
BFP #2 12/4/14 Beta #1 218 at 12dpo Beta #2 1055 at 16dpo
Saw heartbeat 12/29. Please be a rainbow.
All welcome
I know what you mean about feeling like you don't know your body. I was on BC for a long time so it feels like we are getting to know each other again. I feel almost like a teenager again in that way.
I like to remind myself that going off BC means it will take several cycles for things to regulate and that I think it's too early to worry. Temping really helps.
@4RingCircus thank you for sharing that, it make me feel better too!
And city I live in, the pot holes on my road have ceased being potholes and are now sink holes. I will be sending you the bill for new tires when one blows.
Man in the cube next to me, I do not want to listen to you gargle your water every god forsaken day. What the hell.
BFP 6/15/14 EDD: 2/24/15
What Are Your Thoughts on Tap Dancing Penguins?
Ahh.
My bitch: Mortgage people why are you not responding to my emails when I send you documentation. I clearly asked in email as well as on the phone to confirm receipt and get squat out of you. Gmail doesn't have a 'return receipt' function from what I can tell so wtf?!
Other bitch: I really don't want to hear you chopping away on your chips coworker. It's disgusting and the people I speak to on the phone can hear you.
Rainbow Baby! BFP 02/20/2018 EDD 11/01/2018
BFP 10/31/2017 EDD 07/09/2018 Miscarriage 11/28/2017
DD # 1: BFP 5/22/2014 EDD 1/30/2015 Born 02/06/2015
Rainbow Baby! BFP 02/20/2018 EDD 11/01/2018
BFP 10/31/2017 EDD 07/09/2018 Miscarriage 11/28/2017
DD # 1: BFP 5/22/2014 EDD 1/30/2015 Born 02/06/2015
@mrslgoe I'm sorry you are dealing with that. Pressure is no fun.
@CrazyCornball I feel ya. Men suck!
@JNCPro3130 What a horrible thing to say! People suck!
My bitchfest: My head is pounding. DS is sick again! He sleeps awful, and charting is impossilbe with a toddler that doesn't sleep well.
DS - Born 6/17/12
DS#2 - Due 2/11/15
DS - Born 6/17/12
DS#2 - Due 2/11/15
We had to fill out a satisfaction survey today, you'd better believe the lack of kit kats was included in my response.
BFP 6/15/14 EDD: 2/24/15
BFP 12/9/14 EDD 8/18/15
BFP 6/15/14 EDD: 2/24/15