FFC

penguingrrl · May 2014

MamaKct said:

amy052006 said:

MamaKct said:

amy052006 said:

Andrewsgal said:

I really don't give a flying fuck that my kids get a bottle of water and package of goldfish or cliff bar every Saturday at 10:00 AM after their games. I mean seriously it doesn't hurt them at all and I have plenty of other things to be butt hurt over.
My bigger issue with snacks is that I just don't need another thing on my list to do! Ugh, I am snack mom and need peanut free prepackaged snacks for 15 kids besides the 26 other things I have going on. I'd do it of course, but I do think shit like this always starts because some mom has too much time on her hand and is trying to turn every soccer practice into a super special moment.
We had snacks after sports 30 years ago thus isn't new. Plus now you can buy pre packaged shit at any grocery store. I bitch about tons of mundane parenting stuff so I get it but snack just don't bother me.

Eh, I played soccer 30 years ago too, and there were no snacks. But I also grew up pretty working class and I don't really remember any SAHMs around -- seriously everyone's parents were working in my neighborhood. So I do sort of think all of this stuff is at least a little bit moms with time on their hands.

I mean whatever, it's a snack. It's really no big deal. I more feel like whoever is coordinating all this nonsense by choce could probably use a new hobby and a few drinks.

Really? I participate and work. A lot. I do not have too much time on my hands. But it is not hard to pick up extra snacks when I shop weekly for my own family.
I also grew up in a working class town and parents still managed to participate. I think that is pretty shitty to say kids get snacks after games because moms have too much time on their hands and need a hobby. I don't coordinate it, the leagues do that my kids participate in.
My kids are a little older than yours so I probably have a different perspective than you but come on, it's a snack. Also, at that age (3/4) it's about awarding behavior and participation, it's not that they are so drained from the actual sport. When they move up, and work really hard on the field, they actually do get hungry after a game that lasts at least 90 minutes.

Devil's advocate here --- rewarding behavior and participation in a physical activity with a snack probably isn't the best way to go about it and not the best association to set up.

But it's also probably not as thought out as you think -- it's just an effing snack. I mean, I would really LOL in the face of someone trying to tell me the group snack was a pivotal part of rewarding my three year old for participation.

No one said it was pivotal. But a team of young kids should have an opportunity to spend time with the team not playing whatever sport so they get to know each other and actually want to play with each other. The (10 minute) "time suck" as you called it gives the kids a chance to do that instead of being rushed onto the field and rushed back off to go home and eat whatever meal the snack is interfering with or whatever other destination mom and/or dad need to be.
And I have been involved with kids team sports for the last 5 years so hearing the coaches and presidents of the leagues talk about this being an important time and seeing it first hand, I will disagree with you. I don't think handing a kid a slice of watermelon to eat with his/her friends and hang out after a game is going to do any damage.

Eh, I have a huge issue with the "food as a reward" mentality. I've struggled with my weight for years and have always had to be very careful about my eating habits and every time I turn around there's food for a reward, food to celebrate, food for this, food for that. No, one extra snack a week isn't going to hurt. But it's one at softball and one for Susie's birthday and one for another thing. And that does add up quickly.

And at our team sports it isn't one snack, it's two. It's one at half time/"7th Inning Stretch" of fruit, which we bring when it's our turn and my kids are part of. Then another, non fruit (usually cookies or chips), after the game. And our games aren't at 10 am on a Saturday, they end at 6:30-7 on a weeknight or at noon on a Saturday, both exactly at meal times. And it's handed out as everyone is leaving to get into their cars, not eaten together as a group. That's the one I do object to. And I'm definitely not alone as only about half the team accepts usually, everyone else either politely declines or leaves before it's handed out (which is usually what I do).

MamaKct · May 2014

amy052006 said:

Although I would totally be annoyed if I was assigned to carry a damn watermelon. I'm not Baby.

What?

ETA - do you mean you wouldn't want to carry a whole watermelon? Because around here we cut it up before and bring slices in a bowl or something.

notkateanymore · May 2014

amy052006 said:

No, the time suck I was talking about was the me having 15 balls in the air and realizing I'm the damn snack mom that week.

Also, this is where I cringe that adult take youth sports so damn seriously. I mean, the snack is not so important. It's not like these four year olds need to bond before the World Cup. Sure, it doesn't hurt, but come on.

Again, I wouldn't not do the snack, but I kind of surprised people put so much stock in the snack. That's what I side eye. Like, god help the frazzled parent that forgets they are snack duty!

I really think you're the one making a big deal about it...not the snack mom of the week.

notkateanymore · May 2014

penguingrrl said:

MamaKct said:

amy052006 said:

MamaKct said:

amy052006 said:

Andrewsgal said:

I really don't give a flying fuck that my kids get a bottle of water and package of goldfish or cliff bar every Saturday at 10:00 AM after their games. I mean seriously it doesn't hurt them at all and I have plenty of other things to be butt hurt over.
My bigger issue with snacks is that I just don't need another thing on my list to do! Ugh, I am snack mom and need peanut free prepackaged snacks for 15 kids besides the 26 other things I have going on. I'd do it of course, but I do think shit like this always starts because some mom has too much time on her hand and is trying to turn every soccer practice into a super special moment.
We had snacks after sports 30 years ago thus isn't new. Plus now you can buy pre packaged shit at any grocery store. I bitch about tons of mundane parenting stuff so I get it but snack just don't bother me.

Eh, I played soccer 30 years ago too, and there were no snacks. But I also grew up pretty working class and I don't really remember any SAHMs around -- seriously everyone's parents were working in my neighborhood. So I do sort of think all of this stuff is at least a little bit moms with time on their hands.

I mean whatever, it's a snack. It's really no big deal. I more feel like whoever is coordinating all this nonsense by choce could probably use a new hobby and a few drinks.

Really? I participate and work. A lot. I do not have too much time on my hands. But it is not hard to pick up extra snacks when I shop weekly for my own family.
I also grew up in a working class town and parents still managed to participate. I think that is pretty shitty to say kids get snacks after games because moms have too much time on their hands and need a hobby. I don't coordinate it, the leagues do that my kids participate in.
My kids are a little older than yours so I probably have a different perspective than you but come on, it's a snack. Also, at that age (3/4) it's about awarding behavior and participation, it's not that they are so drained from the actual sport. When they move up, and work really hard on the field, they actually do get hungry after a game that lasts at least 90 minutes.

Devil's advocate here --- rewarding behavior and participation in a physical activity with a snack probably isn't the best way to go about it and not the best association to set up.

But it's also probably not as thought out as you think -- it's just an effing snack. I mean, I would really LOL in the face of someone trying to tell me the group snack was a pivotal part of rewarding my three year old for participation.

No one said it was pivotal. But a team of young kids should have an opportunity to spend time with the team not playing whatever sport so they get to know each other and actually want to play with each other. The (10 minute) "time suck" as you called it gives the kids a chance to do that instead of being rushed onto the field and rushed back off to go home and eat whatever meal the snack is interfering with or whatever other destination mom and/or dad need to be.
And I have been involved with kids team sports for the last 5 years so hearing the coaches and presidents of the leagues talk about this being an important time and seeing it first hand, I will disagree with you. I don't think handing a kid a slice of watermelon to eat with his/her friends and hang out after a game is going to do any damage.

Eh, I have a huge issue with the "food as a reward" mentality. I've struggled with my weight for years and have always had to be very careful about my eating habits and every time I turn around there's food for a reward, food to celebrate, food for this, food for that. No, one extra snack a week isn't going to hurt. But it's one at softball and one for Susie's birthday and one for another thing. And that does add up quickly.

And at our team sports it isn't one snack, it's two. It's one at half time/"7th Inning Stretch" of fruit, which we bring when it's our turn and my kids are part of. Then another, non fruit (usually cookies or chips), after the game. And our games aren't at 10 am on a Saturday, they end at 6:30-7 on a weeknight or at noon on a Saturday, both exactly at meal times. And it's handed out as everyone is leaving to get into their cars, not eaten together as a group. That's the one I do object to. And I'm definitely not alone as only about half the team accepts usually, everyone else either politely declines or leaves before it's handed out (which is usually what I do).

You have a huge issue with everything snack related as we found out yesterday. But no worries, bc your kids don't participate and you don't either right?

Aussie45 · May 2014

FFFC: I don't like DH watching porn.

magentawarped · May 2014

Kimbus22 said:

Aussie45 said:

FFFC: I don't like DH watching porn.

I wish mine would watch more and leave me alone.

I sometimes tell mine to go watch it so I can sleep.

Aussie45 · May 2014

magentawarped said:

Aussie45 said:

FFFC: I don't like DH watching porn.

I wish mine would watch more and leave me alone.
I sometimes tell mine to go watch it so I can sleep.

I do this except with D3. The first hour of having the bed to myself is heavenly.

Aussie45 · May 2014

Kimbus22 said:

Aussie45 said:

I do this except with D3. The first hour of having the bed to myself is heavenly.

Huh? Wait, what is D3? I'm assuming you don't tell your 3 year old daughter to go watch porn so you can sleep. I'm so confused lol

It's a game

Dochas · May 2014

KateMW said:

amy052006 said:

No, the time suck I was talking about was the me having 15 balls in the air and realizing I'm the damn snack mom that week.

Also, this is where I cringe that adult take youth sports so damn seriously. I mean, the snack is not so important. It's not like these four year olds need to bond before the World Cup. Sure, it doesn't hurt, but come on.

Again, I wouldn't not do the snack, but I kind of surprised people put so much stock in the snack. That's what I side eye. Like, god help the frazzled parent that forgets they are snack duty!

I really think you're the one making a big deal about it...not the snack mom of the week.

Haha. She is certainly not the one making a big deal out of it here.

Aussie45 · May 2014

I am contemplating ripping up all the stupid whale shaped mats for the bathtub and if A falls then that's just too bad. They don't stay in place and I'm sick of trying to arrange them and push them back down every time we use the tub for anything just because they suck.

thechickencoop · May 2014

Aussie45 said:

I am contemplating ripping up all the stupid whale shaped mats for the bathtub and if A falls then that's just too bad. They don't stay in place and I'm sick of trying to arrange them and push them back down every time we use the tub for anything just because they suck.

Um...I never used the non-slip things in the tub. Ever. DS is fine.

thechickencoop · May 2014

My sister and her fiance sent me some chocolate covered strawberries and a small box of salted caramels for morther's day. I totally ate the entire box of salted caramels (there were 6), and 2 chocolate covered strawberries for lunch. After DS went to sleep (cuz I'm not freakin sharing with him). I am saving the rest of the strawberries for DH when he gets home tonight because he's been OOT all week and it's the one sweet thing he actually likes

bumpuser8448316 · May 2014

penguingrrl said:

MamaKct said:

amy052006 said:

MamaKct said:

amy052006 said:

Andrewsgal said:

I really don't give a flying fuck that my kids get a bottle of water and package of goldfish or cliff bar every Saturday at 10:00 AM after their games. I mean seriously it doesn't hurt them at all and I have plenty of other things to be butt hurt over.
My bigger issue with snacks is that I just don't need another thing on my list to do! Ugh, I am snack mom and need peanut free prepackaged snacks for 15 kids besides the 26 other things I have going on. I'd do it of course, but I do think shit like this always starts because some mom has too much time on her hand and is trying to turn every soccer practice into a super special moment.
We had snacks after sports 30 years ago thus isn't new. Plus now you can buy pre packaged shit at any grocery store. I bitch about tons of mundane parenting stuff so I get it but snack just don't bother me.

Eh, I played soccer 30 years ago too, and there were no snacks. But I also grew up pretty working class and I don't really remember any SAHMs around -- seriously everyone's parents were working in my neighborhood. So I do sort of think all of this stuff is at least a little bit moms with time on their hands.

I mean whatever, it's a snack. It's really no big deal. I more feel like whoever is coordinating all this nonsense by choce could probably use a new hobby and a few drinks.

Really? I participate and work. A lot. I do not have too much time on my hands. But it is not hard to pick up extra snacks when I shop weekly for my own family.
I also grew up in a working class town and parents still managed to participate. I think that is pretty shitty to say kids get snacks after games because moms have too much time on their hands and need a hobby. I don't coordinate it, the leagues do that my kids participate in.
My kids are a little older than yours so I probably have a different perspective than you but come on, it's a snack. Also, at that age (3/4) it's about awarding behavior and participation, it's not that they are so drained from the actual sport. When they move up, and work really hard on the field, they actually do get hungry after a game that lasts at least 90 minutes.

Devil's advocate here --- rewarding behavior and participation in a physical activity with a snack probably isn't the best way to go about it and not the best association to set up.

But it's also probably not as thought out as you think -- it's just an effing snack. I mean, I would really LOL in the face of someone trying to tell me the group snack was a pivotal part of rewarding my three year old for participation.

No one said it was pivotal. But a team of young kids should have an opportunity to spend time with the team not playing whatever sport so they get to know each other and actually want to play with each other. The (10 minute) "time suck" as you called it gives the kids a chance to do that instead of being rushed onto the field and rushed back off to go home and eat whatever meal the snack is interfering with or whatever other destination mom and/or dad need to be.
And I have been involved with kids team sports for the last 5 years so hearing the coaches and presidents of the leagues talk about this being an important time and seeing it first hand, I will disagree with you. I don't think handing a kid a slice of watermelon to eat with his/her friends and hang out after a game is going to do any damage.

Eh, I have a huge issue with the "food as a reward" mentality. I've struggled with my weight for years and have always had to be very careful about my eating habits and every time I turn around there's food for a reward, food to celebrate, food for this, food for that. No, one extra snack a week isn't going to hurt. But it's one at softball and one for Susie's birthday and one for another thing. And that does add up quickly.

And at our team sports it isn't one snack, it's two. It's one at half time/"7th Inning Stretch" of fruit, which we bring when it's our turn and my kids are part of. Then another, non fruit (usually cookies or chips), after the game. And our games aren't at 10 am on a Saturday, they end at 6:30-7 on a weeknight or at noon on a Saturday, both exactly at meal times. And it's handed out as everyone is leaving to get into their cars, not eaten together as a group. That's the one I do object to. And I'm definitely not alone as only about half the team accepts usually, everyone else either politely declines or leaves before it's handed out (which is usually what I do).

Do you live next door to the field and eat dinner the second you walk in the door? Even if DS played at the closest fields to our house, by the time we've packed up, gotten everyone in the car, driven home, gotten everyone inside, made dinner and sat down it's been at least 1-2 hours since the snacks

scubagirl81 · May 2014

DS is 6 months, and I already have baby rabies. My PCP said no go until he's around 18 months, so I feel like I have to wait forever! Although we are probably going to start trying at 14 months because the timing will be better. We wanted the 2 we're planning on to be close in age, so I was super sad when she told me we had to wait for a while.

Aussie45 · May 2014

aliebno said:

Aussie45 said:

I am contemplating ripping up all the stupid whale shaped mats for the bathtub and if A falls then that's just too bad. They don't stay in place and I'm sick of trying to arrange them and push them back down every time we use the tub for anything just because they suck.

Um...I never used the non-slip things in the tub. Ever. DS is fine.

I got them for when she was younger because I would be sitting right there with her, but she would start to get up and halfway up, down she would fall. They just aren't working how I wanted and lo and behold now that I've gotten them, even though they do jack shit on the floor she's not falling. Damnit kid.

magentawarped · May 2014

Please don't take this as an AW, even though it will kind of sound like I'm begging for love or something.

I confess that I seriously can never tell if people actually like me or not, and even though I love the Bump, I somehow have major social anxiety on here and I think people just secretly hate me. I know it's silly, especially since I'm pretty sure I'd be told to fuck off if I was hated, but that's what anxiety does to me. And yet, even with that fear, I still post constantly.

Andrewsgal · May 2014

My kids must be weird they can eat a bag of goldfish and still be hungry for dinner 30 minutes later.

eaglesfan700 · May 2014

Fucking snacks

penguingrrl · May 2014

QueSyrah said:

penguingrrl said:

MamaKct said:

amy052006 said:

MamaKct said:

amy052006 said:

Andrewsgal said:

I really don't give a flying fuck that my kids get a bottle of water and package of goldfish or cliff bar every Saturday at 10:00 AM after their games. I mean seriously it doesn't hurt them at all and I have plenty of other things to be butt hurt over.
My bigger issue with snacks is that I just don't need another thing on my list to do! Ugh, I am snack mom and need peanut free prepackaged snacks for 15 kids besides the 26 other things I have going on. I'd do it of course, but I do think shit like this always starts because some mom has too much time on her hand and is trying to turn every soccer practice into a super special moment.
We had snacks after sports 30 years ago thus isn't new. Plus now you can buy pre packaged shit at any grocery store. I bitch about tons of mundane parenting stuff so I get it but snack just don't bother me.

Eh, I played soccer 30 years ago too, and there were no snacks. But I also grew up pretty working class and I don't really remember any SAHMs around -- seriously everyone's parents were working in my neighborhood. So I do sort of think all of this stuff is at least a little bit moms with time on their hands.

I mean whatever, it's a snack. It's really no big deal. I more feel like whoever is coordinating all this nonsense by choce could probably use a new hobby and a few drinks.

Really? I participate and work. A lot. I do not have too much time on my hands. But it is not hard to pick up extra snacks when I shop weekly for my own family.
I also grew up in a working class town and parents still managed to participate. I think that is pretty shitty to say kids get snacks after games because moms have too much time on their hands and need a hobby. I don't coordinate it, the leagues do that my kids participate in.
My kids are a little older than yours so I probably have a different perspective than you but come on, it's a snack. Also, at that age (3/4) it's about awarding behavior and participation, it's not that they are so drained from the actual sport. When they move up, and work really hard on the field, they actually do get hungry after a game that lasts at least 90 minutes.

Devil's advocate here --- rewarding behavior and participation in a physical activity with a snack probably isn't the best way to go about it and not the best association to set up.

But it's also probably not as thought out as you think -- it's just an effing snack. I mean, I would really LOL in the face of someone trying to tell me the group snack was a pivotal part of rewarding my three year old for participation.

No one said it was pivotal. But a team of young kids should have an opportunity to spend time with the team not playing whatever sport so they get to know each other and actually want to play with each other. The (10 minute) "time suck" as you called it gives the kids a chance to do that instead of being rushed onto the field and rushed back off to go home and eat whatever meal the snack is interfering with or whatever other destination mom and/or dad need to be.
And I have been involved with kids team sports for the last 5 years so hearing the coaches and presidents of the leagues talk about this being an important time and seeing it first hand, I will disagree with you. I don't think handing a kid a slice of watermelon to eat with his/her friends and hang out after a game is going to do any damage.

Eh, I have a huge issue with the "food as a reward" mentality. I've struggled with my weight for years and have always had to be very careful about my eating habits and every time I turn around there's food for a reward, food to celebrate, food for this, food for that. No, one extra snack a week isn't going to hurt. But it's one at softball and one for Susie's birthday and one for another thing. And that does add up quickly.

And at our team sports it isn't one snack, it's two. It's one at half time/"7th Inning Stretch" of fruit, which we bring when it's our turn and my kids are part of. Then another, non fruit (usually cookies or chips), after the game. And our games aren't at 10 am on a Saturday, they end at 6:30-7 on a weeknight or at noon on a Saturday, both exactly at meal times. And it's handed out as everyone is leaving to get into their cars, not eaten together as a group. That's the one I do object to. And I'm definitely not alone as only about half the team accepts usually, everyone else either politely declines or leaves before it's handed out (which is usually what I do).

Do you live next door to the field and eat dinner the second you walk in the door? Even if DS played at the closest fields to our house, by the time we've packed up, gotten everyone in the car, driven home, gotten everyone inside, made dinner and sat down it's been at least 1-2 hours since the snacks

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Our home field is a three minute walk to our house. We make sure to have dinner ready before we leave when we're ending close to bedtime. So it's maybe 15 minutes from end of game to dinner on the table.

I guess this is one of those things where if you haven't battled weight issues your entire life seems like a small thing or no big deal. But I've battled weight my whole life. I know that being 40 lbs overweight when I got pregnant with my son led to hypertension and bedrest. I always ate healthfully (lots of fruits and veggies, lean proteins, low salt, very little red meat, etc) but always ate way too much of it. I'm terrified of my kids going through the difficulties I have, so I am very strict about food. I'm finally only 15 lbs above a healthy BMI, the smallest I've been since college and I can't risk sliding backwards and don't want my kids to end up there the way I did.

notkateanymore · May 2014

Our home field is a three minute walk to our house. We make sure to have dinner ready before we leave when we're ending close to bedtime. So it's maybe 15 minutes from end of game to dinner on the table.

I guess this is one of those things where if you haven't battled weight issues your entire life seems like a small thing or no big deal. But I've battled weight my whole life. I know that being 40 lbs overweight when I got pregnant with my son led to hypertension and bedrest. I always ate healthfully (lots of fruits and veggies, lean proteins, low salt, very little red meat, etc) but always ate way too much of it. I'm terrified of my kids going through the difficulties I have, so I am very strict about food. I'm finally only 15 lbs above a healthy BMI, the smallest I've been since college and I can't risk sliding backwards and don't want my kids to end up there the way I did.

Being super strict with food and obsessed with it is going to give your kids just as many issues, just ask my husband. His mother's food and diet obsession is what he remembers most about her.

penguingrrl · May 2014

KateMW said:

Our home field is a three minute walk to our house. We make sure to have dinner ready before we leave when we're ending close to bedtime. So it's maybe 15 minutes from end of game to dinner on the table.

I guess this is one of those things where if you haven't battled weight issues your entire life seems like a small thing or no big deal. But I've battled weight my whole life. I know that being 40 lbs overweight when I got pregnant with my son led to hypertension and bedrest. I always ate healthfully (lots of fruits and veggies, lean proteins, low salt, very little red meat, etc) but always ate way too much of it. I'm terrified of my kids going through the difficulties I have, so I am very strict about food. I'm finally only 15 lbs above a healthy BMI, the smallest I've been since college and I can't risk sliding backwards and don't want my kids to end up there the way I did.

Being super strict with food and obsessed with it is going to give your kids just as many issues, just ask my husband. His mother's food and diet obsession is what he remembers most about her.

It's not that they don't get treats. They get a small dessert every night. They get treats on holidays (in fact, they ate M&Ms for breakfast on Easter), we get take out weekly. If the team goes for ice cream (tradition after the last game) we go and enjoy. I wouldn't be able to function without occasional treats either.

But it seems like between all our activities and doing it after twice a week practices in addition to games what used to be occasional treats have crossed into daily food. And that's the part I'm trying to fight back against.

Andrewsgal · May 2014

I have always battled my weight as did my mom. My moms mom was like you way obsessive it backfired.

eaglesfan700 · May 2014

penguingrrl - I totally get what you are saying and I don't think you are being ridiculous. I care so little about this argument that I can't even decide how I would handle it, so take my opinion for what it's worth!

penguingrrl · May 2014

Leftie22 said:

I think helping kids understand when something is a treat makes a lot of sense. I liked hearing someone describe things as "sometimes" foods and "everyday" foods. (Like a cookie is a "sometimes" food, fruit is an everyday food.) And if the sometimes foods are becoming everyday foods, it makes sense to try to rein it in before it goes crazy. We're all trying to figure out where that line is.

Thanks! That's exactly it. They do get treats and not infrequently. But I am trying to stem the tide of cookies as every day food that I see increasingly.

notkateanymore · May 2014

amy052006 said:

Leftie22 said:

I think helping kids understand when something is a treat makes a lot of sense. I liked hearing someone describe things as "sometimes" foods and "everyday" foods. (Like a cookie is a "sometimes" food, fruit is an everyday food.) And if the sometimes foods are becoming everyday foods, it makes sense to try to rein it in before it goes crazy. We're all trying to figure out where that line is.

Yup -- which is why I throw major side eye at someone saying a post soccer practice treat is very important and a reward for participation.

"Snowflake it is very important for young people to get out and exercise! Now that you did it, here are some cookies and gatrorade!"

I agree that it shouldn't be a reward nor is it very very important. When we brought snacks it was like cuties and water...not sure how that is horrible.

bhuffman · May 2014

But I don't think every time you get out and exercise, you get a treat. You get one when you play the game. That's not saying exercise = treat. It is saying game day = treat. There is a difference. It's like people who celebrate running a marathon with a beer or margarita or doughnut. They don't drink a margarita every time they train. Just at the culmination of the training.

penguingrrl · May 2014

bhuffman said:

But I don't think every time you get out and exercise, you get a treat. You get one when you play the game. That's not saying exercise = treat. It is saying game day = treat. There is a difference. It's like people who celebrate running a marathon with a beer or margarita or doughnut. They don't drink a margarita every time they train. Just at the culmination of the training.

But an occasional marathon =/= a twice weekly game (which from 3rd grade on up is the minimum number of games a week). And many are seeing it at practices too, not just games. So 2-3 games a week plus 2-3 practices a week meaning 5-6 times a week.

notkateanymore · May 2014

It's a fucking orange Penguin, not a deep fried Twinkie. Unclench.

penguingrrl · May 2014

KateMW said:

It's a fucking orange Penguin, not a deep fried Twinkie. Unclench.

I have said multiple times that the oranges during the game are great with me. I bring them, my kids love them. It's perfect. It's the treats after that are my issue. The cookies and chips after.

notkateanymore · May 2014

penguingrrl said:

KateMW said:

It's a fucking orange Penguin, not a deep fried Twinkie. Unclench.

I have said multiple times that the oranges during the game are great with me. I bring them, my kids love them. It's perfect. It's the treats after that are my issue. The cookies and chips after.

Have you actually seen these chips and cookies?? Or is this an Urban Bump Legend? I've seen cupcakes at the end of the years and birthdays maybe. That's it and I'm older than all of y'all with older kids.

penguingrrl · May 2014

KateMW said:

penguingrrl said:

KateMW said:

It's a fucking orange Penguin, not a deep fried Twinkie. Unclench.

I have said multiple times that the oranges during the game are great with me. I bring them, my kids love them. It's perfect. It's the treats after that are my issue. The cookies and chips after.

Have you actually seen these chips and cookies?? Or is this an Urban Bump Legend? I've seen cupcakes at the end of the years and birthdays maybe. That's it and I'm older than all of y'all with older kids.

Yes, at my daughter's games all year this year. Halftime oranges have been a thing since I was a kid and makes perfect sense to help rehydrate, especially in hot weather. We don't limit fruits and veggies ever for our kids (if that spoils their dinner that's great). But then another parent inevitably passes out chips or cookies as we head to the cars. It's not a team bonding thing as we're all leaving. It's "oh, they worked so hard at the practice/game, they deserve a treat!" At both practices and the game every single week. And they send out an email list to sign up to bring them with the note that "they get fruit during the game, but they should have a nice treat after. Please bring individual packages." That's the part I'm opposed to. It's not a bump myth, it's what I see several times a week. Out of 8 on our softball team 5 signed up and do it, three quietly sneak away or politely refuse. In soccer it was 16 kids and we were like 10 and 6 for do it, not.

Mrs.Greg · May 2014

It's 3:15 and I just poured my first glass of wine. And no, my kids aren't making me crazy today - haha

DH is home from work early, it's Friday and we're having leftovers for dinner so minimal cooking. So I figured - why not!

notkateanymore · May 2014

Hmmm...

penguingrrl · May 2014

Mrs.Greg said:

It's 3:15 and I just poured my first glass of wine. And no, my kids aren't making me crazy today - haha DH is home from work early, it's Friday and we're having leftovers for dinner so minimal cooking. So I figured - why not!

That sounds like fun!

notkateanymore · May 2014

I need wine. Instead I'm sitting in front of DD's new acting coach's house waiting to send her in for a lesson. Maybe I'll go to the bar down the street while I wait.

penguingrrl · May 2014

KateMW said:

I need wine. Instead I'm sitting in front of DD's new acting coach's house waiting to send her in for a lesson. Maybe I'll go to the bar down the street while I wait.

Do it!

notkateanymore · May 2014

penguingrrl said:

KateMW said:

I need wine. Instead I'm sitting in front of DD's new acting coach's house waiting to send her in for a lesson. Maybe I'll go to the bar down the street while I wait.

Do it!

I went to Office Depot instead. Lame.

penguingrrl · May 2014

KateMW said:

penguingrrl said:

KateMW said:

I need wine. Instead I'm sitting in front of DD's new acting coach's house waiting to send her in for a lesson. Maybe I'll go to the bar down the street while I wait.

Do it!

I went to Office Depot instead. Lame.

LOL! And I got Drew to bed and opened a bottle of wine while you looked at lame-o office supplies

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vlagrl29 · May 2014

I witnessed a helicopter mom today for the first time. she literally was following her son everywhere. He was walking fast around the fountain in circles and she was less than a foot behind him talking on her phone. It was crazy. Yep I judged it for sure!

bumpuser8448316 · May 2014

penguingrrl said:

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I really don't give a flying fuck that my kids get a bottle of water and package of goldfish or cliff bar every Saturday at 10:00 AM after their games. I mean seriously it doesn't hurt them at all and I have plenty of other things to be butt hurt over.
My bigger issue with snacks is that I just don't need another thing on my list to do! Ugh, I am snack mom and need peanut free prepackaged snacks for 15 kids besides the 26 other things I have going on. I'd do it of course, but I do think shit like this always starts because some mom has too much time on her hand and is trying to turn every soccer practice into a super special moment.
We had snacks after sports 30 years ago thus isn't new. Plus now you can buy pre packaged shit at any grocery store. I bitch about tons of mundane parenting stuff so I get it but snack just don't bother me.

Eh, I played soccer 30 years ago too, and there were no snacks. But I also grew up pretty working class and I don't really remember any SAHMs around -- seriously everyone's parents were working in my neighborhood. So I do sort of think all of this stuff is at least a little bit moms with time on their hands.

I mean whatever, it's a snack. It's really no big deal. I more feel like whoever is coordinating all this nonsense by choce could probably use a new hobby and a few drinks.

Really? I participate and work. A lot. I do not have too much time on my hands. But it is not hard to pick up extra snacks when I shop weekly for my own family.
I also grew up in a working class town and parents still managed to participate. I think that is pretty shitty to say kids get snacks after games because moms have too much time on their hands and need a hobby. I don't coordinate it, the leagues do that my kids participate in.
My kids are a little older than yours so I probably have a different perspective than you but come on, it's a snack. Also, at that age (3/4) it's about awarding behavior and participation, it's not that they are so drained from the actual sport. When they move up, and work really hard on the field, they actually do get hungry after a game that lasts at least 90 minutes.

Devil's advocate here --- rewarding behavior and participation in a physical activity with a snack probably isn't the best way to go about it and not the best association to set up.

But it's also probably not as thought out as you think -- it's just an effing snack. I mean, I would really LOL in the face of someone trying to tell me the group snack was a pivotal part of rewarding my three year old for participation.

No one said it was pivotal. But a team of young kids should have an opportunity to spend time with the team not playing whatever sport so they get to know each other and actually want to play with each other. The (10 minute) "time suck" as you called it gives the kids a chance to do that instead of being rushed onto the field and rushed back off to go home and eat whatever meal the snack is interfering with or whatever other destination mom and/or dad need to be.
And I have been involved with kids team sports for the last 5 years so hearing the coaches and presidents of the leagues talk about this being an important time and seeing it first hand, I will disagree with you. I don't think handing a kid a slice of watermelon to eat with his/her friends and hang out after a game is going to do any damage.

Eh, I have a huge issue with the "food as a reward" mentality. I've struggled with my weight for years and have always had to be very careful about my eating habits and every time I turn around there's food for a reward, food to celebrate, food for this, food for that. No, one extra snack a week isn't going to hurt. But it's one at softball and one for Susie's birthday and one for another thing. And that does add up quickly.

And at our team sports it isn't one snack, it's two. It's one at half time/"7th Inning Stretch" of fruit, which we bring when it's our turn and my kids are part of. Then another, non fruit (usually cookies or chips), after the game. And our games aren't at 10 am on a Saturday, they end at 6:30-7 on a weeknight or at noon on a Saturday, both exactly at meal times. And it's handed out as everyone is leaving to get into their cars, not eaten together as a group. That's the one I do object to. And I'm definitely not alone as only about half the team accepts usually, everyone else either politely declines or leaves before it's handed out (which is usually what I do).

Do you live next door to the field and eat dinner the second you walk in the door? Even if DS played at the closest fields to our house, by the time we've packed up, gotten everyone in the car, driven home, gotten everyone inside, made dinner and sat down it's been at least 1-2 hours since the snacks

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Our home field is a three minute walk to our house. We make sure to have dinner ready before we leave when we're ending close to bedtime. So it's maybe 15 minutes from end of game to dinner on the table.

I guess this is one of those things where if you haven't battled weight issues your entire life seems like a small thing or no big deal. But I've battled weight my whole life. I know that being 40 lbs overweight when I got pregnant with my son led to hypertension and bedrest. I always ate healthfully (lots of fruits and veggies, lean proteins, low salt, very little red meat, etc) but always ate way too much of it. I'm terrified of my kids going through the difficulties I have, so I am very strict about food. I'm finally only 15 lbs above a healthy BMI, the smallest I've been since college and I can't risk sliding backwards and don't want my kids to end up there the way I did.

Well, I ended up in treatment for an eating disorder so I get food/weight related struggles. Buti think not allowing snacks after a sportscast is worrisome knowing you've battled food issues. You're setting your kids up for potential eating issues of their own if you are too strict or controlling with food

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