FFC

Andrewsgal

Make them good ladies

Andrewsgal

I really don't give a flying fuck that my kids get a bottle of water and package of goldfish or cliff bar every Saturday at 10:00 AM after their games. I mean seriously it doesn't hurt them at all and I have plenty of other things to be butt hurt over.

bhuffman

Andrewsgal said:

I really don't give a flying fuck that my kids get a bottle of water and package of goldfish or cliff bar every Saturday at 10:00 AM after their games. I mean seriously it doesn't hurt them at all and I have plenty of other things to be butt hurt over.

I agree with this SO MUCH. I think as far as things to upset me and worry me as a parent, snacks after games is the least of my problems. I also think that people who do get upset about such a minor issue (barring allergies), have control issues.

fivesecondrule

Not snacks again!

dmartin726

Andrewsgal said:

I really don't give a flying fuck that my kids get a bottle of water and package of goldfish or cliff bar every Saturday at 10:00 AM after their games. I mean seriously it doesn't hurt them at all and I have plenty of other things to be butt hurt over.

I don't get what could be flamed about that? Is it bc it's early? I'm confused... People would not do that?

Andrewsgal

Lol sorry to bring up snacks again, but I love them because my kids love them it's a freaking snack.

dmartin726

I have and will leave my kids to take vacations. I actually almost booked a 3 day getaway but then realized DS would only be 9 weeks haha and said that was too soon. But he will be staying with my mom when we take DD to Disney for her upcoming birthday. I think those times are really good for me and good for my kids as well.

bhuffman

dmartin726 said:

I have and will leave my kids to take vacations. I actually almost booked a 3 day getaway but then realized DS would only be 9 weeks haha and said that was too soon. But he will be staying with my mom when we take DD to Disney for her upcoming birthday. I think those times are really good for me and good for my kids as well.

Well, since DH and I leave tomorrow on vacation without the boys, I totally agree with this. Reconnecting is important to a relationship.

dizzycooks

DH put dd1 to sleep in her crib and the. Realized he had to bring my moms dog back to her house. he left her asleep in the crib and took the dog back. I was appalled, but now I'd probably do the same thing.

rosesandpetals

I intentionally send out "Happy Holidays!" cards because I know it annoys my family. I even found one I really liked last year but it said "Merry Christmas" so I didn't get it. Went with "Season's Greetings" instead.

I really don't know why I go out of my way to do it. I guess because their rants annoy me.

spring_time

dmartin726 said:

I have and will leave my kids to take vacations. I actually almost booked a 3 day getaway but then realized DS would only be 9 weeks haha and said that was too soon. But he will be staying with my mom when we take DD to Disney for her upcoming birthday. I think those times are really good for me and good for my kids as well.

Totally agree.

FFC: We haven't done this since before DS was born.  He is 4.  I am not opposed to it, and I feel like we are at a point where we need it, but when I was working, I felt guilty leaving for a few days.  Once I started SAH, vacations were the first cut to the budget. Our family vacations are at my friend's cottage she lets us use for free. We have sent the kids to our parent's houses for a few days, but since we are still at home, we get wrapped up in all the things that need to be done that are difficult to do with kids running around.

Andrewsgal

amy052006 said:

Andrewsgal said:

I really don't give a flying fuck that my kids get a bottle of water and package of goldfish or cliff bar every Saturday at 10:00 AM after their games. I mean seriously it doesn't hurt them at all and I have plenty of other things to be butt hurt over.

My bigger issue with snacks is that I just don't need another thing on my list to do! Ugh, I am snack mom and need peanut free prepackaged snacks for 15 kids besides the 26 other things I have going on. I'd do it of course, but I do think shit like this always starts because some mom has too much time on her hand and is trying to turn every soccer practice into a super special moment.

We had snacks after sports 30 years ago thus isn't new. Plus now you can buy pre packaged shit at any grocery store. I bitch about tons of mundane parenting stuff so I get it but snack just don't bother me.

Andrewsgal

DD is 7 and we have been out of the country without her 6 times. We already have a trio planned and paid for next June. If I wasn't nursing it would be sooner.

spring_time

amy052006 said:

I really don't give a flying fuck that my kids get a bottle of water and package of goldfish or cliff bar every Saturday at 10:00 AM after their games. I mean seriously it doesn't hurt them at all and I have plenty of other things to be butt hurt over.

My bigger issue with snacks is that I just don't need another thing on my list to do! Ugh, I am snack mom and need peanut free prepackaged snacks for 15 kids besides the 26 other things I have going on. I'd do it of course, but I do think shit like this always starts because some mom has too much time on her hand and is trying to turn every soccer practice into a super special moment.

Wait, are you saying people are bringing snacks to every practice?  If so, I am totally with you. Practices are not snack-worthy.  

After the games once a week on a rotating basis is not that big of a deal, though. As AG said, it has been done for at least 30 years.

Andrewsgal

spring_time said:

amy052006 said:

Andrewsgal said:

I really don't give a flying fuck that my kids get a bottle of water and package of goldfish or cliff bar every Saturday at 10:00 AM after their games. I mean seriously it doesn't hurt them at all and I have plenty of other things to be butt hurt over.

My bigger issue with snacks is that I just don't need another thing on my list to do! Ugh, I am snack mom and need peanut free prepackaged snacks for 15 kids besides the 26 other things I have going on. I'd do it of course, but I do think shit like this always starts because some mom has too much time on her hand and is trying to turn every soccer practice into a super special moment.

Wait, are you saying people are bringing snacks to every practice?  If so, I am totally with you. Practices are not snack-worthy.  

After the games once a week on a rotating basis is not that big of a deal, though. As AG said, it has been done for at least 30 years.

I have never seen snacks after practice.

Arnegard

bhuffman said:

I have and will leave my kids to take vacations. I actually almost booked a 3 day getaway but then realized DS would only be 9 weeks haha and said that was too soon. But he will be staying with my mom when we take DD to Disney for her upcoming birthday. I think those times are really good for me and good for my kids as well.

Well, since DH and I leave tomorrow on vacation without the boys, I totally agree with this. Reconnecting is important to a relationship.

Yep.  DH and I are leaving today on our annual marathon trip.  My run Saturday morning and celebrating Saturday night.  

Chapter79

Last night my DD left her homework on the chair, she forgot to stick it in her folder.  I noticed it at 8pm when I went to sit down and relax, and I just plopped it on the floor because I was lazy.  I left it there overnight and it was in shreds when I woke. 100 pieces.  The cat went to town. Um... oops.

caybeh

Arnegard said:

bhuffman said:

I have and will leave my kids to take vacations. I actually almost booked a 3 day getaway but then realized DS would only be 9 weeks haha and said that was too soon. But he will be staying with my mom when we take DD to Disney for her upcoming birthday. I think those times are really good for me and good for my kids as well.

Well, since DH and I leave tomorrow on vacation without the boys, I totally agree with this. Reconnecting is important to a relationship.

Yep.  DH and I are leaving today on our annual marathon trip.  My run Saturday morning and celebrating Saturday night.  

GL @arnegard! 

The only time I have been out of the country was on our honeymoon 6 years ago to the Bahamas. DH and I haven't taken a trip sans kids yet and probably won't for a few years. DS is 2, and I know he would be ok to leave for a weekend. However, our summer is filling in fast and our time being able to travel before the baby comes is rather short. I guess those are my confessions.

Chapter79

cjcouple said:

Chapter79 said:

Last night my DD left her homework on the chair, she forgot to stick it in her folder.  I noticed it at 8pm when I went to sit down and relax, and I just plopped it on the floor because I was lazy.  I left it there overnight and it was in shreds when I woke. 100 pieces.  The cat went to town. Um... oops.

OMG, "My cat ate my homework for realz"

Seriously, how real does that sound? Because I totally stuck a note in folder and said "I'm so sorry, but the cat ate Alexis' homework.. can you please give us a new copy, or have her do it during the day at some point? Thanks so much" hahaha.

Andrewsgal

WTF is opting out? I mean seriously. There are 10 games and 10 kids each family brings once. I would seriously judge anyone who opts out because their precious can't have a bag of goldfish. That is ridiculous, and of course not a thing in real life only on the bump. DD has been on 20 diffetents teams and nobody has opted out how freaking strange.

Andrewsgal

Gastro said:

If you opt out do you allow your kid to take snacks the times when others provide?

How does that even work? Your three year old is so well trained they wouldn't dare eat anything pre packaged and full of crap or you just pull them away while loudly saying you know we don't eat that crap.

Andrewsgal

amy052006 said:

If I wanted to make a point, I wouldn't opt out.  I'd bring something that is against the rules but makes more sense -- like bananas or something.

Although straight up what I would really bring is Go Go Squeeze pouches in order to piss off the largest number of people.

I have never ever seen the pre package rule people are talking about either only on the bump or in fantasy land whatever. We have no rules.

Chapter79

cjcouple said:

Chapter79 said:

cjcouple said:

Chapter79 said:

Last night my DD left her homework on the chair, she forgot to stick it in her folder.  I noticed it at 8pm when I went to sit down and relax, and I just plopped it on the floor because I was lazy.  I left it there overnight and it was in shreds when I woke. 100 pieces.  The cat went to town. Um... oops.

OMG, "My cat ate my homework for realz"

Seriously, how real does that sound? Because I totally stuck a note in folder and said "I'm so sorry, but the cat ate Alexis' homework.. can you please give us a new copy, or have her do it during the day at some point? Thanks so much" hahaha.

Well, if it was all shredded then pretty real.  lol  

It's just hilarious because I have never known a cat to shred a paper

Really? I've had two cats that shred paper! Typically, it's an overnight thing.. like when he's waiting for me to wake and give wet food. And he's running like a crazy dude back and forth from one part of the house to the other. It's his spastic thing.  He will shred any paper he can get to, we can leave nothing important on the floor.  Not that we make a habit of leaving paper on floor. But sometimes DD does homework on floor and leaves there, or colors and leaves the book open.. she's learned.  I haven't yet.

Andrewsgal

DH is getting a vasectomy next Friday. He is nervous about the pain. I don't give a flying fuck and he needs to get over it. I don't have time to baby him and a real baby. I have zero patience for his shit. I am the worst wife ever.

Andrewsgal

Kimbus22 said:

Andrewsgal said:

DH is getting a vasectomy next Friday. He is nervous about the pain. I don't give a flying fuck and he needs to get over it. I don't have time to baby him and a real baby. I have zero patience for his shit. I am the worst wife ever.

Tell him in your next lives, he can birth the babies and you can get the snip.

Then punch him in the crotch.

When he was talking about it last night I told him I was going to kick him in the balls so he could compare the pain if he doesn't shut up about it. It was so out of character for me he was shocked but I think he got the point.

notkateanymore

amy052006 said:

Andrewsgal said:

I really don't give a flying fuck that my kids get a bottle of water and package of goldfish or cliff bar every Saturday at 10:00 AM after their games. I mean seriously it doesn't hurt them at all and I have plenty of other things to be butt hurt over.

My bigger issue with snacks is that I just don't need another thing on my list to do! Ugh, I am snack mom and need peanut free prepackaged snacks for 15 kids besides the 26 other things I have going on. I'd do it of course, but I do think shit like this always starts because some mom has too much time on her hand and is trying to turn every soccer practice into a super special moment.

We had snacks after sports 30 years ago thus isn't new. Plus now you can buy pre packaged shit at any grocery store. I bitch about tons of mundane parenting stuff so I get it but snack just don't bother me.

Eh, I played soccer 30 years ago too, and there were no snacks.  But I also grew up pretty working class and I don't really remember any SAHMs around -- seriously everyone's parents were working in my neighborhood.  So I do sort of think all of this stuff is at least a little bit moms with time on their hands.

I mean whatever, it's a snack. It's really no big deal. I more feel like whoever is coordinating all this nonsense by choce could probably use a new hobby and a few drinks.

My mom was a single working parent with a child in daycare, before and after school...she still brought a snack.

MamaKct

amy052006 said:

Andrewsgal said:

I really don't give a flying fuck that my kids get a bottle of water and package of goldfish or cliff bar every Saturday at 10:00 AM after their games. I mean seriously it doesn't hurt them at all and I have plenty of other things to be butt hurt over.

My bigger issue with snacks is that I just don't need another thing on my list to do! Ugh, I am snack mom and need peanut free prepackaged snacks for 15 kids besides the 26 other things I have going on. I'd do it of course, but I do think shit like this always starts because some mom has too much time on her hand and is trying to turn every soccer practice into a super special moment.

We had snacks after sports 30 years ago thus isn't new. Plus now you can buy pre packaged shit at any grocery store. I bitch about tons of mundane parenting stuff so I get it but snack just don't bother me.

Eh, I played soccer 30 years ago too, and there were no snacks.  But I also grew up pretty working class and I don't really remember any SAHMs around -- seriously everyone's parents were working in my neighborhood.  So I do sort of think all of this stuff is at least a little bit moms with time on their hands.

I mean whatever, it's a snack. It's really no big deal. I more feel like whoever is coordinating all this nonsense by choce could probably use a new hobby and a few drinks.

Really?  I participate and work.  A lot.  I do not have too much time on my hands.  But it is not hard to pick up extra snacks when I shop weekly for my own family.  

I also grew up in a working class town and parents still managed to participate.  I think that is pretty shitty to say kids get snacks after games because moms have too much time on their hands and need a hobby.  I don't coordinate it, the leagues do that my kids participate in.  

My kids are a little older than yours so I probably have a different perspective than you but come on, it's a snack.  Also, at that age (3/4) it's about awarding behavior and participation, it's not that they are so drained from the actual sport. When they move up, and work really hard on the field, they actually do get hungry after a game that lasts at least 90 minutes.  

SallyAnneS

I didn't give my Ds a birthday present and we didn't do a big family meal and cake. And i only feel a tiny bit guilty about it. We had a big party on Sunday. Then on Wednesday (his birthday) we went to moms in the morning, Dh and i went to our iui appt over lunch and then i went to the hospital from then until bedtime to be with my mom. It was just a crazy busy day that needed focus on people other then him. I also didn't wish him a happy birthday on fb like i see so many other moms do. (which i don't understand because obviously he can't read my fb status). i have a present for him but he got so much stuff on Sunday that he doesn't really need anythig else right now. I figure i will pull it out one day when we are bored.
*at least i didn't send him an edible arrangement?*

lightgetsin

Andrewsgal said:

Kimbus22 said:

Andrewsgal said:

DH is getting a vasectomy next Friday. He is nervous about the pain. I don't give a flying fuck and he needs to get over it. I don't have time to baby him and a real baby. I have zero patience for his shit. I am the worst wife ever.

Tell him in your next lives, he can birth the babies and you can get the snip.

Then punch him in the crotch.

When he was talking about it last night I told him I was going to kick him in the balls so he could compare the pain if he doesn't shut up about it. It was so out of character for me he was shocked but I think he got the point.

FWIW DH had like no pain from his vasectomy.  I was expecting the worst because he is kind of a baby when he gets sick.  I was shocked he had no pain.  I kept asking and he kept saying no. Shocking.

Andrewsgal

KateMW said:

amy052006 said:

Andrewsgal said:

I really don't give a flying fuck that my kids get a bottle of water and package of goldfish or cliff bar every Saturday at 10:00 AM after their games. I mean seriously it doesn't hurt them at all and I have plenty of other things to be butt hurt over.

My bigger issue with snacks is that I just don't need another thing on my list to do! Ugh, I am snack mom and need peanut free prepackaged snacks for 15 kids besides the 26 other things I have going on. I'd do it of course, but I do think shit like this always starts because some mom has too much time on her hand and is trying to turn every soccer practice into a super special moment.

We had snacks after sports 30 years ago thus isn't new. Plus now you can buy pre packaged shit at any grocery store. I bitch about tons of mundane parenting stuff so I get it but snack just don't bother me.

Eh, I played soccer 30 years ago too, and there were no snacks.  But I also grew up pretty working class and I don't really remember any SAHMs around -- seriously everyone's parents were working in my neighborhood.  So I do sort of think all of this stuff is at least a little bit moms with time on their hands.

I mean whatever, it's a snack. It's really no big deal. I more feel like whoever is coordinating all this nonsense by choce could probably use a new hobby and a few drinks.

My mom was a single working parent with a child in daycare, before and after school...she still brought a snack.

My mom was a working mom too. In fact I am the only SAHM on Emma's volleyball team. We all go to the grocery store every week, and it takes an email to set it up I am missing how it takes someone with so much time on their hands. There is a good chance that starting next year I will be a full time working mom too and I bet I will still be able to find the time to buy a bag of goldfish and bottles of water.

Aussie45

I haven't gotten anything for MIL or made any plans. We're not really that close and every year it's been me hounding DH to figure out what to get her. This year I'm handing the reigns over to him even though it'll most likely mean we get something Sunday morning or not at all. I'd be more fine with the not at all.

CiderWench

I don't feel bad when 70-ish men get murdered by their 20-something model wives. It's not like I think they deserve it, I just can't muster enough give a shit for men who clearly let their pecker do all the thinking.

notkateanymore

Do you know a lot of old men who get killed by their young wives? 

CiderWench

KateMW said:

Do you know a lot of old men who get killed by their young wives? 

LOL! No, there was an article at People.com last week about some old fart getting murdered by his young, model wife and I felt bad that I didn't feel bad about someone dying.

id012

I just got a bfp that would make me due in January. Im so excited! But we have a wedding in Mexico in april and im the maid of honor and still plan on going..
eh maybe ill just end up on flying in and out with in 24 hours but im going.

Lindsay9911

Last night was my FIL wake and in my DHs home town they stay awake all night at the church with the body "to make sure nobody messes with it"!

We went home at 2:30am and some of his family was appalled. I think it's the craziest tradition ever and DH does too! How can you even make it through the entire funeral and reception when you haven't slept all night??
I will add that it was my DH's idea to leave not mine, I would have done whatever for him but I did think its insane!

Aussie45

@Lindsay9911‌ I have to say that is a weird tradition. I've never heard of that. I'm sorry for your loss.

ToastieSimons

DC2London said:

cjcouple said:

This is a thought off a post from yesterday: It never would have crossed my mind to think about the possible allergies of classmates invited to my kids BDay party.  Not because I am heartless, I just assume like my friends who have children with allergies that they take steps to make sure their kid is fine.  oops

 I don't expect other people to take my kids' allergies into consideration.  I take steps to minimize risk, and teach them not to put random shit in their mouths, and not to eat food without checking with me first.  My kid, my issue

Agreed, however, if my very close friend had a child with allergies I would offer to make something special for that kid.  I always go places with food packed for the kids in case there is nothing safe for them to eat.

Hollylb3

I felt like a bad mom at the library yesterday because I had the children's librarian helping me pick out DVDs about trucks for ds. Then we left with no books. I felt like I should've told her we have 8,000 books at home for him and no movies. I'm just trying to buy myself 10 minutes of peace and quiet every now and then and he's obsessed with trucks.

SallyAnneS

auroraloo said:

@sallyannes when do you POAS?

@auroraloo May 21

MamaKct

amy052006 said:

MamaKct said:

amy052006 said:

Andrewsgal said:

I really don't give a flying fuck that my kids get a bottle of water and package of goldfish or cliff bar every Saturday at 10:00 AM after their games. I mean seriously it doesn't hurt them at all and I have plenty of other things to be butt hurt over.

My bigger issue with snacks is that I just don't need another thing on my list to do! Ugh, I am snack mom and need peanut free prepackaged snacks for 15 kids besides the 26 other things I have going on. I'd do it of course, but I do think shit like this always starts because some mom has too much time on her hand and is trying to turn every soccer practice into a super special moment.

We had snacks after sports 30 years ago thus isn't new. Plus now you can buy pre packaged shit at any grocery store. I bitch about tons of mundane parenting stuff so I get it but snack just don't bother me.

Eh, I played soccer 30 years ago too, and there were no snacks.  But I also grew up pretty working class and I don't really remember any SAHMs around -- seriously everyone's parents were working in my neighborhood.  So I do sort of think all of this stuff is at least a little bit moms with time on their hands.

I mean whatever, it's a snack. It's really no big deal. I more feel like whoever is coordinating all this nonsense by choce could probably use a new hobby and a few drinks.

Really?  I participate and work.  A lot.  I do not have too much time on my hands.  But it is not hard to pick up extra snacks when I shop weekly for my own family.  

I also grew up in a working class town and parents still managed to participate.  I think that is pretty shitty to say kids get snacks after games because moms have too much time on their hands and need a hobby.  I don't coordinate it, the leagues do that my kids participate in.  

My kids are a little older than yours so I probably have a different perspective than you but come on, it's a snack.  Also, at that age (3/4) it's about awarding behavior and participation, it's not that they are so drained from the actual sport. When they move up, and work really hard on the field, they actually do get hungry after a game that lasts at least 90 minutes.  

Devil's advocate here --- rewarding behavior and participation in a physical activity with a snack probably isn't the best way to go about it and not the best association to set up.

But it's also probably not as thought out as you think -- it's just an effing snack.  I mean, I would really LOL in the face of someone trying to tell me the group snack was a pivotal part of rewarding my three year old for participation.

No one said it was pivotal.  But a team of young kids should have an opportunity to spend time with the team not playing whatever sport so they get to know each other and actually want to play with each other.  The (10 minute) "time suck" as you called it gives the kids a chance to do that instead of being rushed onto the field and rushed back off to go home and eat whatever meal the snack is interfering with or whatever other destination mom and/or dad need to be.  

And I have been involved with kids team sports for the last 5 years so hearing the coaches and presidents of the leagues talk about this being an important time and seeing it first hand, I will disagree with you.  I don't think handing a kid a slice of watermelon to eat with his/her friends and hang out after a game is going to do any damage.