I'm slightly pissed right now

missyishere · May 2014

Tomorrow is our school's track and field day for SD's age group. She loves it and looks forward to it every year. She was in flag football last year and quite likes throwing around a football with DH. She really wanted to participate in the football throw even tomorrow, but she was told by the school she wouldn't be allowed since she is a girl. I mean, it's just throwing a football, so why can't she participate?

jorkz821 · May 2014

That's some BS right there.

LaurelBee · May 2014

Make a scene. Get the rules changed. That's sexism and it's not cool to start it in elementary school

missyishere · May 2014

I kind of feel like I need to get the fuck out of this town.

Monkeybabe · May 2014

That is some bullshit. I wasn't allowed to play football because vagina and it was very upsetting to me.

PeanutButterFox · May 2014

I would raise some hell at the school because that is the very definition of bullshit.

jorkz821 · May 2014

What does your SD think?

klondikebar · May 2014

WTF I would be so pissed. That is not right.

RondackHiker · May 2014

Who said she can't participate? I'd be calling her teacher/the principal in the morning.

missyishere · May 2014

mbenit4 said:

Did y'all ask them about this?

Ask who? The school? She was just told today she can't participate tomorrow.

missyishere · May 2014

I doubt DH pushes it, but I'm curious to see if BM will.

virgin4lyfe · May 2014

I know at my school a girl wanted to play regular season tackle football and the coaches tried to strongly discourage her but couldn't legally say no she couldn't all together.
Of course that's NY and high school, I don't know about your state

but that's some bullshit.

RondackHiker · May 2014

missyishere said:

mbenit4 said:

Did y'all ask them about this?

Ask who? The school? She was just told today she can't participate tomorrow.

Who said that, though? Her teacher?

Could you call the principal?

Your poor sd.

missyishere · May 2014

#livinginthe50s

klondikebar · May 2014

Vaginas do not interfere with the throwing motion of the arm. I feel like we need to make posters and protest.

missyishere · May 2014

DH didn't get the specific person she spoke to, but I think maybe she was too upset to reiterate @rondackhiker. I am strongly encouraging him to look further into it.

missyishere · May 2014

I wanted to wrestle in HS but was told I couldn't either, but that was a different school.

missyishere · May 2014

TyrannosaurusLex said:

Forgive me if it's general knowledge or something you don't wish to disclose but may I ask where the fuck do you live? Pleasantville?

Pretty much.

missyishere · May 2014

Who wants to see me and hold up signs? PARENTING SMASH

LadyXaverian · May 2014

Major WTF. I hope your husband looks into it and finds out it was a misunderstanding.

jorkz821 · May 2014

TyrannosaurusLex said:
I am perturbed as heck.

^^ Canadian outrage

klondikebar · May 2014

I just told DD and she said it's bullshit. She said to make her a tshirt for tomorrow that reads, "My school says girls aren't allowed to play football." Amusing, but probably not the best route to go.

vandelay · May 2014

Is this a public school or a private school that receives federal funding? Because if so, there is a federal law called Title IX that makes sex discrimination in schools unlawful. You can file a complaint about it with the US Dept of Education Office for Civil Rights. Not that you'd have time to do that before the event tomorrow, but you'd have time to threaten the principal with it.

missyishere · May 2014

texted BM to get more of the story. DH isn't great about proper communication...

SD asked her teacher, who said she would ask the person in charge. That person told her no, because boys aren't allowed to throw in the softball event.

klondikebar · May 2014

Is there a baseball throw for the boys though? Everyone should be able to throw all balls.

missyishere · May 2014

That's what I'm trying to find out.

missyishere · May 2014

Still, she shouldn't be told she can't throw a football since she has an option to throw a softball. I don't feel it's a fair comparison.

Snapdragon750 · May 2014

If there were a girls' football throw, fine, if not then they should let her compete with the boys.

missyishere · May 2014

The person in charge of the event told SD's teacher, who told SD no. She even signed up ahead of time @mbenit4.

fintin · May 2014

I would be throwing a fit! Why exactly cant she throw a football!!!! Its not like they are tackling!

Ok im done being pissy haha

klondikebar · May 2014

missyishere said:

Still, she shouldn't be told she can't throw a football since she has an option to throw a softball. I don't feel it's a fair comparison.

ITA My line of thinking was that maybe the school was thought it would be ok as long as each sex had a ball to throw, but it's still not cool IMO. Football =/= softball

If the boys have the option of throwing a football AND a baseball, that's really fucked up.

edit: I'm just trying to assess the level of fuckery happening there.

missyishere · May 2014

I'm awaiting Kevin Bacon's arrival to shake up the town and open up the dance!

missyishere · May 2014

I mean, it's not like she's playing football-- she just wants to throw some pig skin, FFS.

RondackHiker · May 2014

I'll be there with signs and outrage.

I'm furious for her.

vandelay · May 2014

I've been doing a little online research because I'm a nerd for civil rights laws, and I really think you could make an argument that this is a Title IX violation. Title IX has an exception that allows separate boys' and girls' sports teams, but I couldn't find anything allowing exclusion from individual events. And even with teams, if there is no girls' team for a particular sport, girls have to be allowed to try out for the boys' team unless it is a contact sport.

Here's a link with information about Title IX: https://www2.ed.gov/policy/rights/guid/ocr/sex.html.

And a link with information about filing a complaint with the Office for Civil Rights, should you decide to go that route (or threaten that route). https://www2.ed.gov/about/offices/list/ocr/complaintprocess.html

LuckyDad · May 2014

That's total bullshit for so many reasons.

littlestjerry · May 2014

What a bunch of bullshit. I would be tempted to engage in an all out war with the school over this shit. Curious to see what ends up happening!

theimpossibleastronaut · May 2014

It's tossing a football. Why can't girls do that? There's no logical reason for this. It's BS.

RondackHiker · May 2014

I'm still furious this morning.

How does a vagina mean you can't throw a football?

Why isn't everyone competing in any event they want?

RondackHiker · May 2014

I keep thinking about your h and her mom.

My parents were good parents. I could talk to them about anything. They loved and supported me. They'd go out of their way to be there for me. They'd go out of their way to be there for my friends.

But when the school did something terribly unfair and really shitty to me? They kind of shrugged and said I'd leave soon and it wasn't worth the fight because the school wouldn't change. And they probably wouldn't have, and at the time it made sense... But it hurt. And it still hurts that it was so unfair and my parents didn't do anything.

Speshul · May 2014

Darbie914 said:

Dude, I am so pissed over this! I would be in the principal's office first thing this morning. I'd absolutely threaten to go up the ladder and possibly call your local news station.

Then I'd dial up all the moms attending the event, have them all meet up at the event, and stage your own football throw with the girls. Fuck that noise.

Make a scene, let them know you won't stand for their bullshit, and make sure that principal knows you mean business. What fucking era are we living in??

If the school doesn't change their mind then I second the news station. I would kindly inform them that the 1950s called and they want their stunted brains back.

Want a personalized experience?

I'm slightly pissed right now

Re: I'm slightly pissed right now

Choose Another Board

Search Boards